Newbie TTC 2021 club!

[Wondergirl1111]

Hi girls - looking for a little crew to share the ttc journey with - we are newbies this year - decided on Jan 31st to start trying after 12 years together! but had literally just missed my ovulation day for that cycle, so even though we had some fun over NY we are properly starting next cycle around the end of the month - just have to wait to finish this cycle now, and I've never wanted a period to come so quickly haha!

So - any cycle sisters out there who will be trying with me on or around end of Jan? I'm Cd21 right now.

And feel free to share stories and ages!

I'm 34 and have been off the pill for about 2 years now - we don't really use protection just pull out lol and never had a scare so I'm a little worried we could have a bit of a long journey. Although my mum conceived me first time trying so I'm praying it's in the genetics lol!

Not sure about you but I'm already getting obsessed which seems to be pretty normal lol but it would be good to have some pals to talk to rather than my cat or my husband, who I think I could quite quickly freak out if he knew just how many mum'snet threads I've read!

Also... What are you most looking forward to being pregnant?
Xx

Hey ladies!

Update 100% Pregnant!

Have called the midwife today and I’m registered!

Good luck to you all! Xxx

@Wondergirl1111 I'm so pleased for you, didn't take long at all for you both. Have you told you DH?
What opks had you been using?

Oh @Wondergirl1111 and @Ze123 I am so happy for you! What wonderful news. Really hope the job stuff doesn't overshadow too much longer @Wondergirl1111 - totally understandable but you really deserve to feel happy about your lovely BPF news. Maybe when you tell your other half it will sink in like you say 💕 best of luck to you both and keep letting us know how you're getting on! X

God knows why that last post all went into bold 😂

@ElizabethP141 I've ovulated today I think, CD16, got a strong peak OPK yesterday which has tapered off to high by this evening. Will temp tomorrow morning and see if I get a spike. Then starts the dreaded TWW 😦 we were going to try DTD this eve but I'm just so emotionally and mentally shattered, started a new job a week and a half ago (not my choice really, part of a merger) and it's great but full on and I'm totally winging it so feeling the stress a bit. Which in turn is making me stressed about being stressed as that can cause issues with conception 😂

Does anyone have a chill pill please lol. Going for a walk tomorrow to try to unwind a bit I reckon. How does everyone else manage the anxiety around TTC?

I'm out, AF showed up this morning. Exactly the same as last month with 3 days of spotting before and then appears as soon as I stand up in the morning. At least she's predictable 🙈 longer cycle for me this month too which makes me feel my body might be ready now 🤞
It's crazy, even though I was 99% sure AF was on her way I'm still a little deflated. I know it's unlikely to happen on first cycle but it still feels awful doesn't it? Next cycle here I come (after a much needed glass of wine tonight). Have a lovely weekend and valentines day ladies 😁

Hi, First time of posting on here. Hope I’ve been this right.

Just wanted to reach out to others in similar situation and get thoughts and advice really.

So our story is I am very overweight weighing 27 stone, 5.8 aged 40 my health is generally well and trying to get pregnant, I swear my GP is shocked when my bloods and blood pressure etc all come back good as I am overweight, I am eating a lot healthier then ever taking vitamins etc.

I am worried I am being selfish ( I have this feeling inside that I really want to be parents with my husband) but scared that I putting my health and if lucky my baby’s health at risk.

My GP has told me if we want to get pregnant we need to do it now due to my age, so waiting and losing a lot more weight isn’t an option.

What do you think.......

Hi @MrsIndependent13 👋 I think if your GP says try now due to age, and you want to....then I would. But I'd focus on the weight loss at the same time. I have a friend who was quite overweight getting pregnant and lost 5 stone during her pregnancy, she made it top priority to get as healthy as she could 👌 you can do both 💯 Best of luck!

@KM11 I'm on my first TWW now and I swear Iv already convinced myself I'm pregnant 🙈😂 I so understand you feeling deflated about AF this morning. I have a horrible feeling I'll be devastated if I get mine this month.....which I know is utterly ridiculous given it's cycle 1 trying 😂🙈 I find myself scrolling through the posts seeing who got the earliest positive because I'm just dying to test 🙈

Thank you so much, that’s really nice to hear, i think I needed that.

So turns out those very faint lines were a BFP! AF not due until Monday so not getting too excited until then but eeeeeek!! So much baby dust this month! 💕💕

@HaresHoping welcome to the TWW! Did you DTD before last night? If so then that’s still great!!! I thought I’d ov but didn’t so only dtd ov-3 and ov-2 this month! Totally get what you’re staying about being stressed, it’s totally stressful but a walk and maybe a few days “off” so to speak as nothing will happen in the next few days anyway.

@KM11 sorry to hear about AF but hello wine!!

@MrsIndependent13 this makes my heart break. As not the slimmest lady i understand it can completely play on your mind and be a scary time. BUT, your doc said go for it so go for it!! Millions or larger ladies have perfectly healthy pregnancies and babies all the time! Your health is more than your weight. Obviously it plays a role but I think as a society we’re in the habit of thinking it’s the biggest factor and it isn’t. I know bigger woman who’ve had a breeze through pregnancy and fit, athletic women have problem after problem. It’s about your personal health and a green light from the doctor is so positive 💕

Congrats @ElizabethP141 🥳🥳🥳 loads getting positives in this group! What day did you get your first hint of a positive? I'm already counting down lol. I'm only 1 day post ovulation 😂🙈

@MrsIndependent13 WELCOME! You are so welcome here - lovely to have you! As @sack83 says - if your doc says best to try now then you have the green light - and see it as an opportunity to really put your body first in order to put your baby first!

I had some counseling before ttc to help me with some emotional stuff I'd been carrying around for ages - getting bullied as a kid and growing up around a mum who didn't value herself - I really wanted to not pass my emotional baggage onto my own child, as it's happened to me. To be honest ive been trying to overcome it my whole life, but i realised in therapy that if I couldn't do it for myself, then I would do it for my baby. I think it's the same for physical health too. I just found out im pregnant this week and lost my job the same day - I was devastated, but I'm already feeling like I have to look after myself for this little ball of cells - even if I don't feel hungry, I need to get those nutrients in anyway - You know?
I guess im saying even after a few days I've already started to treat myself better because it's not just me in my body now! You can totally do this and you deserve it too.

To everyone who has congratulated me thank you! I LITERALLY can't believe it happened our first month. I'm keeping my feet on the ground - I know anything could happen at this point from CP to MC so I'm trying to stay balanced. DH has been at work like 14 hour shifts so I haven't told him yet - saving it for the weekend or tonight although I've run out of FRER and it's not quite showing up on internet cheapies yet - I've only got Clear blue tests left and I'm not sure they will be sensitive enough to show on an evening pee!

i really need to tell him though as all this job stuff left me totally crazy emotional and scared yesterday and it's making it worse as no. 1 I'm thinking how on earth am I going to get another job pregnant!? No. 2 - man pregnancy hormones are CRAZEEEEYYYY. It been like PMS x 1000 and I get bad bad pms, and no.3 I'm daling with it all on my own right now which is alot.
Another crazy symptom - I stink. I've literally never had BO in my life - I use natural deodorant and I swear I smell like an animal right now and all i've done is sit on the sofa!
Plus I'm feeling dizzy and a weird empty sick feeling. let the games begin i guess!
I'm afraid to leave this thread until way past my af is due (meant to start today) so I hope you guys don't mind me sticking around - this has been a pretty lucky thread so far so I think a lot of you will be getting BFP's very soon!

Girlies who have had AF arrive - I'm sorry for your disappointment - I really really do hope it's your month next month - eat lots of blueberries, - and grapefruit juice to help ewcm! @Aims1991 especially rooting for you darling. I used clear blue digital OPK and they worked great for me with a 26-28 day cycle.

Girls DTD now good luck and stay positive! we will be here with you in the dreaded tww!

xxx

@ElizabethP141 Thank you for your advice. Will defo be going for it 😁

@Wondergirl1111 Thank you for your kind words defo going to do it. 😁 congratulations and I wish you best of luck x

@sack83 had a really faint line 8 or 9 dpo (apps say differently) on an internet cheapie with bog standard afternoon wee. Went to get in the shower and noticed as my DH calls them “burger nips” 😂 so thought what’s the harm expecting a BFN. Really faint almost not there lines. Then did a clearblue and another cheapie that evening (didn’t drink between) and got a stronger line on cheapie but still v.faint and decent line on CB. Internet cheapie next day was stronger but still faint and clearblue roughly the same. FRER in the pic I did just now but I haven’t drunk that much today to be fair. Am not either 10 or 11dpo. I’m thinking maybe I ov’ed earlier though as my temps took a few days to rise last cycle and were straight away from when app calculated this month...either that or there’s raging hormones 😂

Omg @ElizabethP141 CONGRATULATIONS this is amazing news!!! 🥳 how are you feeling? I'm so pleased for you 💕 thanks for your kind words too, we DTD today as apps said I'm still in fertile phase but we also DTD o-1, o-2, o-4 and o-5 so hopefully we've covered it in some fashion! 😂

@Wondergirl1111 bless you there's a lot for you to cope with on your own! When is your other half back from shifts, do you think you'll tell him in the morning or tonight? I'm sure he'll be able to reassure you and help you feel calmer about everything. You deserve to feel excited about all this 💕

@MrsIndependent13 welcome to you lovely and I feel your worries - I'm in the obese category according to BMI and it stressed me out a lot. I've lost a stone already but planning to be healthier with diet (good nutrition - not a fad thing or 'diet' per se) and exercise more if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant. My doctor said that it was absolutely fine to lose weight while pregnant. However we're also in the middle of a pandemic and if you're anything like me then food is the first thing I turn to when I'm feeling down or stressed... think it's a case of trying to be sensible without being too hard on ourselves or being unrealistic! You will be fabulous my love, you're not being selfish in the slightest x

@HaresHoping Thank you for your reply it’s nice to be able to speak to others in similar boat, my friends are ace but not in obese category so it’s hard to talk to them about some stuff.
We are generally eating a lot healthier now and hoping to be able to lose the weight also.

I am just going to go with it and see what happens, thanks again for everyone’s advice and support.

@Wondergirl1111 I'm so pleased for you. I hope you find another job but if not Atleast you have time to spend enjoying your pregnancy and time with the baby, let us know how your DH reacts. I can't wait until I can tell my OH when it's our time. Good luck x

Hi ladies!

Sorry for the late replies!

Omg congratulations @Wondergirl1111 and @HaresHoping I hope I haven’t missed any other BFP?! Apologies if I have!

I have so much positivity for this group! That’s a good few in a week or so!

I had to do a digital today because unless I saw pregnant I wouldn’t believe it! As we can see very early but PREGNANT!

I just wanted to share my TTC tips in case it helps anyone else, I’m 27 I haven’t been on the pill for a long time as it didn’t suit me, we have always just been very careful! Since I was 21 I have had a pain in my right lower side, I was investigated for endo/ PCOS luckily this never came back as anything but I convinced myself I was infertile for many years! Hence why I’m so shocked it happened first month, I still think I’m dreaming!

I used the digital clearblue ovulation tests, they are quite £ probably about £17 a month, but they pick up 4 fertile days and I honestly think that really helped me! I also (probably a myth) put my legs above my head after doing the deed every time! Sorry for the TMI!

I just wanted to share the above incase it can help anyone else trying, I also started taking folic acid when we were trying!

I send all my positivity to each and every one of you! Also never give up! Because it WILL happen! Lots of love and stay safe x

Hey @Ze123 ahhh congratulations lovely this is so fab! Thanks for the tips too 💕 it wasn't me with the BFP, it was @ElizabethP141 ☺️ I've just started the TWW so 🤞🏻 I get lucky like you ladies! So happy for you all, this is def a lucky thread! X

Hi gals!

Thanks so much @Aims1991 for your well wishes - I really do wish for a BFP for you next month - you deserve it and your baby will come to you soon I'm sure!

And thanks everyone else too! It's been so lovely to see some BFP's come through on this thread - and especially so many for first timers! Crazy!

So, I have had a few days to get over my 'job' news - I think it hit me so hard because of the pregnancy hormones to be honest. I feel much more positive now - and my DH and I took a test together this morning, those faint lines have become DARK! It was a real confirmation of a BFP for me and a lovely way for him to find out. He was so funny - you know the line is always fainter/doesn't appear at first, Well he took a first glance and obviously didn't see it, and let out this cute little disappointed 'oh', and then double took and saw the line and started saying OMG! with a huge smile on his face! It was magical.

I loved reading other peoples TTC tips and loved yours @ze123 so thought I'd add mine!
I've been doing lots of yoga and meditation - I actually did lots of meditation especially during the tww - visualising implantation etc and just generally chilling out as I was surprised how mentally challenging it was even the first time round. I think that really helped me stay grounded and positive.
I eat really healthily anyway, but had been trying to drink 2L of water a day since deciding to ttc. I also drank grapefruit juice before and during ovulation to help ewcm production. I used clear blue digital OPKs same as @ze123 - which also really helped me pinpoint my most fertile days. and we went for it everyday! hah! I kept my body moving - working out and doing yoga. I also ate loads of blueberries as my friend said they are good for fertility. Half of this is probably nothing to do with it, but I think feeling healthy in my body and mind was important.

Really looking forward to seeing some more bfp's come in for the girls dtd now!

xxx

Morning ladies. Hope every one had a lovely valentines 💞

So good to see so many BFP for you ladies @Wondergirl1111 @Ze123 @ElizabethP141 and thanks for sharing your tips. Be lovely to hear how your getting on, early pregnancy signs etc. Hopefully some more of us will be right behind you 🤞

Where's everyone at with their cycle? I'm on C#2 CD4, AF has just about done and we've started as we mean to go on and dtd this morning. Not using opks just tracking CM so gonna try and dtd every other day for the whole cycle and see what happens. If that doesn't do the trick I'll give opks a go next month. DH seems more excited/invested this month, asking lots of questions etc... Obviously he's not complaining about the dtd situation 🤣

Be lovely to get a fresh feel for where everyone is at... Got a good feeling for everyone this month 💞

Thank you! @KM11

I felt like I was coming on my period 100% I had a really aching uterus! And my boobs are currently very sore! But I didn’t think I was pregnant at all! Xx

Hi @KM11 👋 fingers crossed for you this cycle. DTD every other day - I like that strategy! I'd say he's delighted 😂 Im on my first cycle still. Day 21. So just playing the waiting game now 🤞🤞🤞 I won't be tempted to test early as it's only my first cycle and I'm really not too pushed yet, within the next 6 months I'd be happy! Feeling relaxed about it all ☺️

@sack83 it's good to be relaxed about it and be realistic. It's hard not to get carried away though 🙈 I didn't test at all, just waited for AF. I'm gonna try some meditation/yoga to keep myself chilled like @Wondergirl1111 suggested, and gonna give the grapefruit juice a go. Its probably really niave of me to think we can dtd every other day but can't hurt to try 🤣 good luck with the waiting and 🤞 AF doesn't arrive