Advice and just a general rant!!

[Firsttry132]

Hello!
I’ll try and keep this as short as possible lol.
Me and my partner have only been TTC for a couple of months, we had a CP in October and we’ve not fallen pregnant yet...this month I was convinced I was pregnant, sore boobs which I never have (let’s just say I wasn’t blessed in this department), feeling sick, abdo cramps and all round feeling meh.
AF is due today I’ve taken a few pregnancy tests over the last few days all BFN, I’ve had some brown discharge today (sorry TMI) not sure if this is AF on its way or there’s still a chance?
It’s been really rubbish as all of my friends and some people at work are pregnant so there’s no escape! One of which is actually in Labour today, I sat and cried (although I’d never tell her that!!)

So I guess my 2 questions are, has anyone had an experience like me with all the symptoms, discharge but turning into a BFP?
And how the hell did you cope with family,friends and colleagues being pregnant?

Thanks! Sorry for the long thread!

@Firsttry132 I’m having the same. Spotting but not due AF until Friday. Taken quite a few test and not even a hint of a line 🙈 I’m hoping it’s implantation bleeding and will turn into a BFP. But it is quite common for me to have spotting before AF so I’m not holding my breath

This is our first month TTC (but have spoken about it for a long time and holding off for the right time etc...! Only decided to start TTC as our wedding has been postponed!) so Haven’t been at it very long at all but it really does feel like all of a sudden everyone is pregnant!? I’m all ears of you need to rant, it’s good to get off your chest sometimes! Xx

Yes exact same as me! I’ve been squinting so much to try and see something but still nothing😂
I normally have spotting for 2 days before AF so I feel the same, trying desperately to not get my hopes up!
It’s so exciting TTC until this stage and then I hate it! Xx

I didn’t cope well with others being pregnant and I never ttc for ages (less than a year). I fully take my hat off to people ttc for years or going through ivf who can be happy for other people or they are definitely better at hiding it than me.

A friend put it in a really good way: it’s not that you aren’t happy for them, you are happy they are pregnant, you are just sad for yourself. It’s completely normal to be a be jealous or sad of other pregnancies. Don’t be too hard in yourself.

I hope af doesn’t appear, sounds slightly promising 🤞🤞🤞

@Firsttry132 exactly the same as me, spotting 2 days before!! I’m trying not to get my hopes up either and trying to mentally prepare myself with being completely fine if AF turns up when in reality I’ll be like this... 😭😭😭. 😂

@Astormofswords I completely get that! As a couple we’ve spoken about TTC for years! But held off and been so careful until we’ve been in a good and stable position with our house, financially, jobs etc. Then multiple friends get pregnant by accident with uncertain situations and it all works out and makes me feel like “what’s the point of waiting all this time if it all works out in the end anyway!” 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Firsttry132 - you never know you could be on of those who test positive a few days after AF due date. I wouldn’t get too upset tho or let TTC consume you so early into your journey, you just never know what month you’ll fall in and you don’t want to spend each waking moment feeling down about it.

Try and enjoy the process, it’ll happen only when it’s meant to x

@Firsttry132 @acupofteamakeseverythingbetter one thing I did do it makes it slightly more bearable (not great in Covid times) but have a period present. Book something in the diary each month when your period is due, like a champagne evening (obv at home), baked cheeses, massages, hair colouring...think of all the things you can’t do when pregnant. So it was something to look forward too, mentally it helped me x

@Astormofswords that’s such a lovely idea, I think a couple of glasses of wine always go down nicely when AF arrives 😂🍷 x

@Astormofswords that’s a very good quote and speaks so much truth! I’m so happy for them all just so sad it’s not me! Especially cause one of them has had 3 abortions and just finds it so easy to get pregnant like “hey I might keep this one?!”

@acupofteamakeseverythingbetter Yes that’s the same as me I dramatically stormed into the bedroom last night and flung myself onto the bed saying “it’s the start!!!😭” but then today there’s hardly anything so now I’m like .......

@BriocheBuns yes I’m really trying to enjoy it, I’ve always been the one to say to other people not to worry and it can take ages, I need to start taking my own advice!!

@Astormofswords yesss love that idea!! After my CP I booked me and my partner a trip to Alton Towers 😂 he wasn’t best pleased but I loved it!

😂 sounds exactly like me this morning but now there isn’t anything at all... could this be our month @Firsttry132 ...? 🙊

@acupofteamakeseverythingbetter Oh I really hope so! My partner doesn’t know whether he’s coming or going bless him, it’s a good job he’s chilled out and takes it all in his stride (unlike me!!) xx

@Firsttry132 My partner is exactly the same. The other day I told him it’s not happened this month 😣 then today I’ve said we’re still in with a chance! He just lets me get on with it 😂

Yes same here 😂 keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻 @acupofteamakeseverythingbetter

You too @Firsttry132 sending you lots of baby dust! Xx

Same to you ✨✨✨✨

It's not over until AF shows!

Also try to think of a regular period as the most positive outward sign of fertility (besides being pregnant but..pfttt.) that a woman can have. That always gave me hope.

I had some right stinkers whilst TTC. I had a chemical, fell immediately next cycle, but miscarried at 6 weeks. Very close work colleague then started portraying signs of early pregnancy. I just knew. I counted her weeks and surprise surprise, week 12 we get a big announcement in the office! "work colleague is pregnant, congratulations!" I actually felt numb. We would have literally been week for week the same! I didn't understand, at the time, why she managed to keep her baby and I didn't.

6 months after that...I still hadn't conceived and DP's brother announces him and wife (married 3 months prior) were expecting. First grandchild for DP's parents so of course it's all they talked about.

Sorry if that was longwinded! You do learn to just cope - with lots of tears.

I eventually got a sticky BFP 14 months into TTC and have an amazing 13 month old daughter!

Thank you for sharing @mamaatthegym that must have been so tough for you finding out your colleague was pregnant and watching her bump grow when your should have been too! Then your DP’s brother and wife announcing so soon after getting married.

We are the last of all our siblings to have a baby so by the time we have a baby it’ll be old news for the grandparents probably 😂

I’m so pleased you finally had your baby girl, what a blessing she must be. I take my hat off to you, 14 months must have been tough. I’m so pleased you got your happy ending ❤️ Xx

Thank you ❤️ aaaaand I’m about to do it all again for baby #2

Sorry about your chemical

Aw good luck @mamaatthegym sending you lots of baby dust your way!! ❤️

Oh bless you @mamaatthegym it’s so rubbish isn’t it! Watching her rub her tummy at work is torture 😭 and then both my friends having babies/ in Labour I’m just the odd one out!
I’m sure it’ll be my time at some point though x

@acupofteamakeseverythingbetter Any updates?! I’m still spotting but no AF 😣 BFN this afternoon when I took one.
Just either want AF to come now or a BFP (ideally the latter) hate this waiting!!
Let me know how you get on! Xx

Hi @Firsttry132 I caved and took a test this morning at 14dpo and still bfn. I’m the same just want to know either way. I’ve had terrible back ache today. Spotting has pretty much stopped for me which I have to say is unusual as once it starts it just gets gradually heavier over the two days then I start my period properly. I’m due af tomorrow so will wait and see.

The suspense is killing me 😆 just went for a symptom-free COVID test as they are offering them in my area and the guy said my temp was highest of everyone today at 37.1. Instantly wondered if a raised temp is a sign of early pregnancy 😂 loosing my mind 🥴 when are you die AF again?? Xx

Due again not die! Sorry for the typo!! Xx

Yes that’s the same as me really, I’ve got the lightest spotting ever and normally mine gets darker as well! Ive been going to the toilet every 30 minutes at work today which I’m hoping is a good sign!!
Well one app says I was due yesterday and one says tomorrow so god knows😂 I might try test in the morning and see what it says although I’m pretty certain I know the answer already 😭 xxx

I think I’ll get a bfn tomorrow too 🙈 but we both know I’m still going to test! 😂 xx