Entering 2021 in a Bum flap onesie for lockdown lovin, squinty lines & foul words - TTC Bus 27

[Minster2012]

It’s a New Year TTC bitches and of course it’s time for a new bus...

2020 was a bit of a TWATFACE for us
2021...is surely EXACTLY the number of babies we are owed by now.

We’ve read up on what we need to do to get pregnant, if you haven’t, see last bus or read my hotly anticipated blog and join us.

We are here, we are ready, so get your tickets for the bus, grab your seat, your roadie & your snacks cos I’ve sent out the memo to the stalks- bring us our babies!

Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
2 sneaky ones just before New Year!

2 BFP already for jan!

So what’s everyone’s New Years resolutions then? Who is gonna get the first BFP of 2021?
And what should be the title of my new blog?🤔

@Franklydear so mean isn't it! Or he could take her considering it's his mum and not hers. I don't know, I do despair at humanity sometimes!
And your boss sounds like such hard work, feel for you!

@Minster2012 too late I've already been on your blog 😆 I'm only there to read don't worry my developer mode is switched off when I'm out of work haha. Can't be missing out in your story 🙌 keep the blogs coming

@Sausage1990 I've been trying since January 2020. BFPs in January and July but both were chemicals and ended just reaching 5 weeks. I think you've got a much better chance than me! Crossing my fingers for you!

@Franklydear I think bossboy would like being on his knees for you. I think he secretly fantasises bout it. He has big issues this boy.

@Minster2012 @notyetamumbuttrying I went back to the aibu to find your replies
Today I did something out of character 😳 I went to make coffee at work, and you know how you just meet people by the kettle and always have the same stupid conversation, how are you, fine, you, fine, we didn’t need to bother,.... well, today I didn’t say fine, I said I am just about coping with as much as I can, he froze, turn around and just went, tell me, what’s happened? The virus, the lockdown, the school, the childcare, the many plates something will fall down!, I think it’s the first time he actually saw me and I wasn’t just a casual how are you....

@Franklydear that's great!!
I love that. Who did you say it to?? What did they say?? Seeee we need to be more honest. That's my attitude too. I've asked MIL to look after DS on Thursday so she kinda knows we have an appointment too. It's progress.

[quote Minster2012]@Franklydear I think bossboy would like being on his knees for you. I think he secretly fantasises bout it. He has big issues this boy. [/quote]
Urgg nope, and his latest behaviour? just nope, if I was single and didn’t have ds to think about? Still nope

@Franklydear this was to boss boy? Wow wee! He is a real boy and human then 😱

@Minster2012 just a coworker, we normally have polite conversations just in passing, but I thought no, I see you everyday and I am not ok, he was very sympathetic, knows I have a lot on my plate, but never really realised how much it takes to keep going, but it felt like a conversation, not just a polite formality, iykwim....

[quote notyetamumbuttrying]@Franklydear this was to boss boy? Wow wee! He is a real boy and human then 😱[/quote]
?
He can be human, he can swipe of my feet with grand gestures, when I came back to work after shielding he built me a mini office American cubicle style with some tall shelves, but it’s just that a gesture to get praised and, when I get mad, say but I did x for you.... it is a very toxic relationship, sad thing I can’t leave him, it is not up to me to fire him or move him

@Franklydear ah I see. Thought it might've been him showing some humanity or something 😂

I am also having nicer out of the way work, he chooses who does what, so maybe he is not so crossed after all

@Minster2012 thanks lovely, I know, I'm not out until AF shows up but with me, honestly that could be months away with nothing to show for it 😂 have you decided which blog post to go with yet? If in doubt go with whatever one is most exciting to write first 😄

@Franklydear that standard "you ok?" "Yeah, you?" "Yeah" is such a nothing exchange. I'm glad you were able to reply honestly, sometimes it helps so much just to have someone listen.

@notyetamumbuttrying the coffee? no, his humanity is always calculated for maximum reward, and as he senses he might get riped, he is actually avoiding asking how I am , at all

@notyetamumbuttrying thinking about it, he’s been extra nice to bestieboy, last time I rip him a new one was the cake gate

@Franklydear always fun in your work place then 😅

Oh god Brentford are losing to spurs, Dh is not happy! Any football fans amongst us? It's the cup game so I don't think too important but Dh is beside himself 🤪

Hello everyone! Not sure if this is the right chat to join and/or if there's a more specific one...I'm 9 weeks postpartum with baby 1 and TTC baby 2 ASAP :) Haven't had a period yet, using ovulation tests but 2 months so far of flashing smiles no solid smile...Any advice/anyone in similar situation?

@notyetamumbuttrying I'm a footie fan but don't really watch it much atm as DH hates it. All rugby.

@InkyPaper yes writing about current IVF as will need to update that this week, trying to do one upto date one and an older to balance but also trying to do the install too to learn more, little things like I learnt like to put music on a story the other day!! I'm pleased anyway!

@Franklydear that's good I really like that!

@Minster2012 who do you support? Interesting that Dh hates it! Wonder what your DS will be in to?! Both I bet!
Very interested to read your ivf blog. I've signed up now but hidden my profile, should still get notifications I hope/think!

Hi @MissTTC2020 wow 9 weeks!! in answer to your question there's def noone here in a similar situation...some of us have been TTC a fair while, some of us going down the infertility testing IVF route, a number have children but not that brave young so not postpartum 😁it might be that your hormones haven't settled yet and though it's likely a myth that breastfeeding (if you are) is a contraceptive (I know 2 people who have gotten pregnant) by thinking that, it might be worth trying to create a specific thread to see if there is anyone who has TTC early postpartum or is to help? To be able to answer more specifically if OPKs could help?

My SIL got pregnant when her 1st was 7 months

Girls, I need a hand hold. Our friends have just told us they're pregnant by popping a baby scan on the Zoom screen. Long story short I just always had this ridiculous fear of them doing it before us. Irrational I know. And stupid. But it took me by surprise and I had to leave to cry and then it was just really awkward :/ once I'd composed myself I was really trying to act happy and ask about it but I really couldn't handle it.
Am I a complete bitch? I feel bad but it hurts a lot right now :( basically reminding me of what I can't have.

@notyetamumbuttrying I support Leicester, before they won the league 🤪and yes it will be interesting what DS does, I've taught him to kick a ball, DH has not taught him to catch. That's good on the blog, I was hoping ppl could do that 🥳

@Justanothercyster sorry darlin, that sounds really hard to handle! Do they know your ttc as well? Defo not a complete bitch at all! It's bloody emotional!

@Minster2012 ahh that must've been amazing for you when they did then! Ah DS will defo be into football then! U should get him a goal 🥅 really embed it in him 😝

@Justanothercyster STOP IT. STOP IT. It's not irrational and you are not a bitch. We NEED to stop this ppl. We are fine to have our own emotions AND WE DON'T HAVE TO HIDE THEM. This is what needs to change ladies. With society. Why should you hide it?? Why can't you say "sorry I'm so happy for you but just a bit sad cos I'd love to share similar news?"

@notyetamumbuttrying @Minster2012 no one knows apart from our parents now as we just want to keep it secret. I think they have a hint that we may be though from a conversation we had ages ago, but we haven't said anything.
One thing that really got me was the guy said "sorry we got in there before you" and then laughed.
GAH. Why do our bodies have to be such twatfaces :( over it.