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Third baby anyone?

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 20:25

TTC third child. Decision thats taken a while to get my head around. Anyone trying for third? Was it wasy decision for you?

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NannyPear · 29/12/2020 20:30

No but I think about it all the time. What ages are your 2?

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 20:37

4 and 20month.

Im 37 so thats maybe pushing me on a bit more to try and see how it goes.

I always wanted more than 2 but my second has been a handful so i started to think 2 was a nice round number!

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beggingforsleep · 29/12/2020 20:41

I'm still in the consideration stage. Would love a third but also life is getting much easier with the two I have. I have a 3.5 years and an 18 month old. I'm 39 soon so it's really now or never.

Well done for getting the decision made! I hope you conceive soon.

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 20:47

Its taken a while to get here, moreso for my other half. Its big decision to make. In someways im trying not to think too much into it because i could talk myself out of it when i think about adding another one to our family unit.

I hope you come to decision too x

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Tealchoc · 29/12/2020 20:48

Yes! My two are 7 and 5 so it has taken me a while but I could never close the door on only having two so have decided to come off the pill and see if it happens.

OverTheRainbow88 · 29/12/2020 20:50

Also sat in the fence with a 4 and 2 year old, my youngest is really really hard work which puts me off but I would love another!

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 20:53

Teal> thats exciting. Wishing you all the best with ttc.

Overtherainbow> ive been exact same. If my second was as good as my first i would have been more open to trying but seconds been hard, not brilliant sleeper and tries daily to kill herself Grin

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LaTomatina · 29/12/2020 20:55

I had my 3rd at 37. Took a while to make the decision. Wanted another, but was worried I was being selfish. But went for it because dh was also happy with the idea, and I knew I would always regret it if I didn't. And never looked back. Older DC were 4, nearly 5 and 2, nearly 3 when DC3 was born. They are now nearly 9, nearly 7, DC3 just turned 4 (and DC4 is nearly 2... We are definitely finished now!!) Lots of work, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

Tealchoc · 29/12/2020 21:06

Thank you @rosegold33, good luck with the ttc too!

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 21:09

Latomlatine> ah brilliant thanks for posting. Its funny because dh and i chatted and went though pros and cons but came to decision if we are lucky to have another any cons wouldnt factor in because you just get on with it.

Well done with 4 though!

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NannyPear · 29/12/2020 21:10

Mine are 4 and 20 months! And echoing others, number 2 is the typical feral, wild second born and is one of the biggest reasons I'm put off. He was a wonderful baby (unlike my eldest) but I'm just not sure if I want another toddler like him haha, as much as I love the kid! Also looking forward to the days of much lower childcare costs and them being able to entertain themselves/each other while I got on with things. Head tells me to wait until DS2 is at least 3 to even start seriously contemplating TTC but my heart wants a baby NOW!

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 21:22

What is it wih second babies being wild Grin

Its funny because after my second i have been very broody but its probably down to not being sure if we would try for a third. Hormones have alot to answer for!

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Welshy11 · 29/12/2020 21:30

Me! Well sort of Grin. Decided last month that if we wanted a third we better get on with it as our eldest is nearly 4 and youngest nearly 2. Gave ourselves 2 months of trying and if it doesn't happen we are gonna call it quits. We don't want a big age gap and didn't really think about it until now so not really left ourselves much time!
Such a hard decision, our 2nd is also wild and feral!

polkadotpixie · 29/12/2020 21:38

I'm scared that everyone says 2nd born children are wild and feral. My first born is an actual demon child, surely the second cannot be worse?! 😱

I'm actually scared to have another in case it's like my DS, if it's worse I might actually end up in a loony bin!

Ladybird345 · 29/12/2020 21:46

We are TTC our third, I genuinely want a huge family but I know third will be our last (if it happens at all). I knew as soon as DC2 was born I wanted to try for another 😊

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 21:46

Polkadotpixie> if your first was hard going then hopefully your second will be an angel. Everyone told me babies are all different. I honestly didnt believe this until my second, polar opposites. Who needs sleep anyway!

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 21:48

@ladybird345 how long have you been ttc?
Wishing you all the best.

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Equimum · 29/12/2020 21:51

We are! Bigger ones and 5 & 7, and I’m approaching 39, so it all feels a bit crazy, and potentially unlikely to happen, but we have decided to try until April, which would mean a successful pregnancy completing just before I turn 40.

We have talked about another ever since we had DC2, but DH used to travel lots. We had little support and money was more of an issue. DH is unlikely to ever trace as much going forwards and we are much more comfortable financially now. I wish we could have been in the position 3-4 years ago, but we weren’t my and this is our last possible hope.

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rosegold33 · 29/12/2020 21:55

@equimum best of luck with trying. I always wish i had started trying for kids earlier but firm believer in things happening for a reason.

Still have lots of worries in head surrounding finance, childcare, having time and energy but sometimes its best not to overthink.

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Mishmased · 29/12/2020 22:05

I did go ahead and conceive a third. Mine are 7.5 and 5 so they will be 8 and 5 when baby is born in May. I had them aged 26 and 29, I'm 34 now. Always knew I wanted 3 and the age gaps we will have works well for us with regards to work and childcare. Best of luck ttc 😁

Mishmased · 29/12/2020 22:06

@Tealchoc I have the same age gaps too 😁

ndo4000 · 29/12/2020 22:12

Also spent a long time debating the third. Other dc were 10 & 8 when our youngest arrived! Now they are 13, 11 & 3 and we love it!

I won't lie, it's hard work and I sometimes look at my friends with dc the same ages as my older 2 and think how much calmer their households are!!!! Still don't regret it for a second!

Braxos · 29/12/2020 22:46

Hey ladies! I have a 7yo, & a 6yo (irish twins!), and we decided last year we would like another after saying for so long absolutely not. My 6yo has complex medical needs and is autistic so we thought we were done because jesus its hard already, but i think the world ending made us realise we have room in our hearts for another. He has an op due in May and will be in for a few weeks, so we said we would wait til after that was done buttt its looking more and more likely its going to get postponed (see above world ending comment 😂), so i am getting super itchy... feet.. ovaries.. idk? This month weve sort of been not very careful although not actively trying, so today is 1DPO and we will see what happens!

Tealchoc · 30/12/2020 07:37

@Mishmased congratulations on your pregnancy, super exciting! Smile
I love the 7 and 5 ages and feel I could now cope with another little one so will see what happens, I am 37.
How are you finding pregnancy third time round? x

Highheels87 · 30/12/2020 07:42

I did and its taken me many years to decide. We have a 12 and 10 year old and I was adamant my baby days were over until earlier this year when I had an overwhelming feeling that I would regret it if I didn’t try for a third, much to OH’s delight who has been asking for years. Age played a role as he’s in his early 40’s so it was a case of now or never for us and we are now excitedly expecting our third in the New Year. We have been very lucky with our two children being easy and well behaved so we are bracing ourselves for our third to be the complete opposite Grin

Good luck with coming to a decision.