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Magic dust for 2021 5month+ crew continued

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AKcheer · 09/12/2020 22:33

Hey continued our thread! So sorry if I’ve forgot to tag anyone please feel free to tag anyone I’ve missed but hopefully they find us ❤️ Hope you guys have had a good day and here’s lots of baby dust for you still waiting to see if your pregnant this month and here’s a massive good luck to us who have just had AF for next year!

@Lynne425
@8LPS
@Kirby173
@Plm28
@Rose2108
@Molsy
@NatMoz
@Birchybirch
@Leavingitlate
@Louisa199
@JLP256
@Jamill87
@Loladoodle

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AKcheer · 01/02/2021 12:08

How are you @Rose2108

Aww it’s ok @RedLippyK8
Ahhh I’m sorry AF started. Worst thing ever right!! You’re just a few days behind me then.
Aww I’m 31 and TTC no 1 too and boys it’s a long journey or feels it haha! Are you using any vitamins or anything exciting?
I live in the midlands! A place called Stourbridge! How about you?

So guys I’ve also got this raspberry leaf tea and maca powder to try this cycle!!!

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AKcheer · 01/02/2021 12:08

When do I need to create a new thread guys!?

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jules5232 · 01/02/2021 12:11

@Rose2108 Thanks hun!! As soon as I saw spotting I started getting really down about our chances overall, since it is officially over a year since we started TTC and I know my day 21 tests last month were kinda low. I'm still shocked and keep POAS to make sure! We didnt do too much different this month but I do think our timing was better than other months, even though we only DTD 2x in the window. 2 days before O (high OPK) and once the day before (peak). I don't temp but get really naseous on O day so I usually know when it is. Besides that I took a lot of baths, made some veggies juices with the new year, and I dont know if it had anything to do with it, but my doctor put me on a low dose antibiotic that I take right after DTD to keep from getting a UTI since I get them often. Might not have helped but the UTI couldnt derail our chances again.
I'm a worrier so just trying to stay positive and in our little bubble as long as possible.

@RedLippyK8 Welcome!! Im so sorry about what your family is going through, that can't be easy. This board has been so great to have each month and I hope you like it here. We can all relate to how hard it is to see another month pass, but at the same time I can't count the number of times I have been having a really crappy day and this group's positivity has turned my whole mood around. Have you talked to anyone about your LP to make check to see if your levels are staying high enough? I would imagine some blood work might help sort out if it is a one off thing or they could help sort it out..

JLP256 · 01/02/2021 13:29

@RedLippyK8 welcome! Hope this is your month :) I’m 31, also TTC #1 and live in SW England.

@AKcheer thread doesn’t run out until 1000 posts I think :) let us know how you get on with the maca powder and tea!

AKcheer · 02/02/2021 09:39

Happy Tuesday everyone!!
@JLP256 oh that’s ok then!! Yup will let you guys know! Maca tastes a bit funky!

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Rose2108 · 02/02/2021 16:51

@KerryW87 - That could well be it then, I wouldn't worry especially as it was bright red as this means it is new/not likely to be a problem further up! Assume it has stopped now?

@jules5232 Wow I am honestly just so happy for you and it gives me real hope that it will happen in time! Sounds like you just looked after yourself this month too.

@RedLippyK8 I am exactly the same, have ovulated anytime between day 17 - 23 and always get AF on day 28/29. My avg luteal phase seems to be 10 days. I think stress adds to this problem! But from what I have read online it is a progesterone deficiency. I have my 21 day bloods this month so will see what they say about it, but in the meantime there is a forum on here called "short luteal phase" and I got quite good info from that (think it is inactive now).

I have started taking Vitex (Agnus Castus) and I am now thinking my relaxed approach might not work, because if this does actually bring my ovulation forward it will throw my cycle off! Ugh I just wish I knew when I was going to ovulate! I am going to use the cheap sticks every day at the same time from Saturday which is CD 11 and track the progression of it.

@AKcheer I am okay thanks girl just same old confusion and anticipation of the fertile window... At least AF was short this month. You ok? You probably nearly in your fertile window aren't you?

8LPS · 02/02/2021 17:19

Hey all! I have a mass reply! Hope you lovely ladies are all doing ok xxxx

@AKCheer – I'm ok thank you, how are you doing? I'm in the TWW at the mo. No wonder we always feel like we're pg – our PMS is so different to how it was! It's just annoying though because now I am feeling like garbage mentally and physically for two weeks every month, rather than just the one week prior to AF! Have you been managing to exercise at home in place of going to the gym?
Totally agree, it's really hard for the guys. They don't like to open up (I'm actually surprised that my DH said he'd be open to chatting with other guys like we do on here!). It's a shame there's way less support for them.
Ooh thanks so much for letting me know about the Doctors. I'm sorry if you have already mentioned this in another message, but what did they test your blood for? I think I remember you mention that everything was ok in your results?
I'll be staying away from the Maca lol! I like to drink Teapigs drinks because they have a 'caffeine free' section of herbal teas – they don't help with conceiving, but they're nice! I might search for some teas that help hormones/conception etc though and report back!

@jules5232 – OMG congratulations!!!!!! It's so nice to see some good news :) How are you feeling? Do you know when you'll be able to get an appointment with the Dr? Good luck, I hope all goes well!

@KerryW87 – sorry, I've not experienced that before! How are you feeling in yourself? Has the pink/brown CM stopped now?

@Louisa199 – hey thanks for telling me about this! Without checking the app right now, I think it might possibly have happened because my temp spiked! It totally threw me off, so kind of wish it didn't do that! Hope you're well :)

@RedLippyK8 – Welcome to the crew! You're definitely in the right place for the mental support, we all know how you feel! Get ready for all the acronyms, rants and tips/support haha! I'm 32 and DH is 36, we live in the Cambridgeshire, and been trying since April 2020 for baby #1. I thought it'd happen by now – I feel like me and DH have been doing everything we can to help ourselves conceive, but sadly nothing at all has happened. We lost weight and have been eating really healthily (with the occasional treats obvs), been avoiding alcohol a lot (v difficult!), taking vitamins, exercising, never taken the pill...feel like I don't know what else we can do to help ourselves, so I just remind myself that we only have a 20% (or 25%?) chance of conceiving each month...and leave the rest to luck or whatever it is! Feel like age isn't on my side, but I just tell myself that there are people much older than me having more than one baby!
I am so sorry about your fiance's Mum. Life is so cruel sometimes, but I hope that you are all coping as well as you can. No wonder you're stressed. Is there anything you like to do for stress relief?

@Rose2108 – Hi, how are you? I totally understand you. As well as people close to me, it feels like every time I open up Instagram, so many celebrities are either pg or have just had babies. I'm like – I just wanted to come on to look at cute dog videos lol leave me alooone!
Exactly – as much as we are the ones doing all the science around TTC, calculating cycles, symptom spotting etc, they are probably just as anxious! I wonder if our men could infiltrate MumsNet and start a group of their own HAHA!
Ah so your PMS is more noticeable as well! It's so weird isn't it?! I pee a lot as well – and here I am thinking I'm pg, but really it's AF tricking me! This month in particular, my boobs are so so achy. Just trying not to get my hopes up and I'm just waiting..I don't think this month is our month again but I'll be straight on the phone to the GP if AF comes!

RedLippyK8 · 02/02/2021 20:02

Hi ladies - I am sorry for my late reply. Thank you for your support re. J’s mother. Yesterday wasn’t a good day... My fiancé’s mum has deteriorated a lot, I’ve not seen her yet but my fiancé J has, he saw her yesterday and today and due to her not eating (she’s been in a lot of pain) her speech, taste, eye sight and memory are going :( apparently she looks v tiny and looks 100, instead of her 67... It’s sooo sad! I am a bit worried about how it will affect mine and J’s relationship so yeah it is stressful :(

Anyway, sorry TTC... ladies I don’t know how you keep up with everyone’s comments and remember everything - I just went through the last page of thread and made some notes of your posts... Maybe my dyslexia doesn’t help me here... Sorry if I miss responding to anyone in this post.

So I am from just outside Bristol so SW England :) are we all from the U.K here? :)

@jules5232 - Again congratulations! Please keep us updated on your journey!

RedLippyK8 · 02/02/2021 20:09

Oh I forgot to add that I take supplements every night with my main meal or afterwards if I forget... I also take extra folic acid due to my coeliac Disease (eating no gluten)...

JLP256 · 02/02/2021 20:22

@RedLippyK8 ah I’m in Chippenham so quite near Bristol! Normally live just outside London but actually moved back in with my parents in early December while we buy a house...not great timing for TTC haha but hopefully should be moving in a couple of weeks!

So sorry to hear about your fiancé’s mum, that must be so hard. I hope you can both take some time for yourselves to relax. Well done on going for runs, I’ve been so lazy the last few weeks!!

RedLippyK8 · 02/02/2021 21:12

@JLP256 - Oh yeah I’ve heard of Chippenham :) are you buying a house near London..? Oh yeah, not good timing for TTC ;)

Thanks - it is so hard, I’ll be seeing her on Friday and am a little nervous about her seeing different to usual... I’ll try to remember to give myself more relaxing baths and word searches - they also weirdly help me to relax! Lol

What exercise do you like to do? Do you run? X

AKcheer · 02/02/2021 22:11

Hey @Rose2108! Oh man. Are you still going to track? Did you get the cheapy Amazon opks? (Premom). So ovulation window starts tomorrow apparently but last month ovulation was around day 13 and it’s usually been around day 11. So just going to try take it easy and go with the flow lol. Deffo not going to do it as much as last time it was too tiring!!

@8LPS I know exactly how you feel! It’s like we only have 1-1.5 happy week per month and even that week we’re exhausting ourselves haha! Yeah so I’ve just been exercising at home! We have weights and stuff so I just do that. Definitely not the same as going to the gym but it’s something. I’m
so used to going to the gym that I can’t just not do anything. I can’t wait to get back to the gym though...I just don’t feel myself!
That’s really nice that he opened up to you about it though. I hope he does find a forum or something where he can chat to guys. It is difficult!!
Yeah so day 3 was my hormones and lsh and then day 21 was progesterone!
Yeah this maca is weird but apparently it’s worked for people! I just pop it in my granola now!! Ooh how about raspberry leaf tea??

Omg @RedLippyK8 that’s so sad about your MIL. I’m so sorry she has deteriorated. All you can do is be there for your fiancé. I bet it’s so hard on him seeing his mom like that but be there for him and support him ❤️ And your relationship will be fine. Sometimes in an odd way, things like this bring you closer together.
Also Stourbridge is like Black Country so West Midlands!! Staffordshire! So it tastes funky but I put it in my granola. I just have read a few people saying it helped them so I thought I’d give it a go lol
Just saw your coeliac. My MIL is too! I’m forever baking gluten free cakes and deserts for her!!

Guys you know I’ve been doing yoga...there’s a good one on YouTube called BrettLarkin. She does loads of beginner ones and like a conception one which I found quite relaxing lol
youtube.com/playlist?list=PLPJTnhnYa-pPzcNpdz4QEl7sHnLeIQI9b

I’ve added the link if anyone wants a nose!

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Rose2108 · 04/02/2021 12:19

Hi Ladies,

@8LPS I am doing okay thanks, how are you? Haha, that is so funny, because I always click on "not interested" on all the baby / pregnancy pages on insta, and seem to follow more and more "cute dog" accounts! I love the dodo videos on youtube, so heart-warming! I find it so annoying when these algorithms just put you a "box" and send you a load of suggestions that are just not timed well!!

@RedLippyK8 weirdly I felt like I was ovulating yesterday! I had bad cramps and felt a bit sick! But only on CD8... I took an opk (ovulation predictor test/kit) and it said no so I assume it was just something else causing it. Sending positive vibes for your family!

@AKcheer thanks for the yoga channel, I use yoga with Adrienne but will try this to mix it up. Hoping I will ovulate earlier too! We are so in sync it's funny! Yeah I have the cheapie strips.

I woke up this morning and put my active wear straight on, aiming to do some kind of exercise on my lunch break now! I feel like I have got my diet sorted and lost some of the xmas weight (still working on it though...) but need to work on exercise. I am walking a lot and doing yoga but need to up the game! Got some new undies for valentines week... Trying to be relaxed this month, it never lasts though...

Hope you are all doing okay. Feeling like this lockdown will never end at the moment, is this the new normal?! I'm over it xxx

JLP256 · 05/02/2021 18:19

Yes sooo over lockdown @Rose2108! This one has definitely been the hardest, I think the weather being so awful doesn’t help.

Had a weird day today, AF is due tomorrow and today I’ve had spotting (I think) which I’ve never had before. I’m really hoping it’s not just a really light period but going to wait and see what happens tomorrow. So hard just sitting around and waiting!

I started tracking BBT this month. If this isn’t my month I’m not sure I’ll carry on with it because I think the emotional rollercoaster of watching the chart over the TWW is too much for me haha. Does anyone else track BBT? 💗

AKcheer · 05/02/2021 18:49

Hey how is everyone! Happy Friday!
So I’ve had a nightmare! Wisdom teeth coming out so on antibiotics! Perfect timing!? 😂😂

@Rose2108 no problem!! I sometimes flick onto her as well! I like her!! Haha yes we are! Haven’t had a peak yet though! I’m on CD9 so let’s see when it comes!! But I mean I don’t know if antibiotics will cause me issues this month and i don’t think we’re going to be able to do it as much as last month. Although I’m trying to take this whole relaxed approach this month so let’s see!!
Ooh did you manage to get any exercise done? Even going for a walk is just so helpful!
Ooh hubby is in for a good Valentine’s weekend then right!! ;)
So I go to USA every year and Victoria’s Secret is so cheap out there. I have so many bras and knickers. I think I have about 140 pairs of knickers (you can never have too many) so I’ve been wacking out some new ones recently and hubby’s noticing them haha. Think it works!
God I know - I wonder when we will get back to something. I’m really missing a Saturday date night. Getting dressed up, food and drinks. It’s just becoming same old same old now.

Hey @JLP256 do you usually spot? I’ve read spotting can also be a good sign sometimes!
I don’t track BBT...I think il just forget and keep messing it up lol

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KerryW87 · 05/02/2021 19:35

@AKcheer Hiya! Happy Friday!

Yeah I'm ok, thanks. Plodding along...think I'm about 2DPO so back to munching pineapples, haha. Aww tell me about it - I am absolutely dying to get dressed up; nice hair, full makeup, eyelashes THE LOT 😂 and go out for a wee date night! Definitely harder TTC when you don't have plans to look forward to and distract you!

Good shout on the new underwear, haha. Maybe that will have done the trick! 😂🤞

Ahh no what a nightmare! How you feeling? Oh not sure if antibiotics cause issues, have never heard that? Hopefully not! ❤️

Oh @JLP256 I really hope the spotting is a good sign! 🤞 Oh I can imagine, charting temps is the one thing I've never done for that exact reason! Seems like it would stress me out more! When are you going to test? xx

JLP256 · 05/02/2021 20:46

@AKcheer I would love a Saturday night out so much. Ahh sorry to hear about your wisdom teeth - hope you feel better soon and that the antibiotics are ok!

@KerryW87 thanks, I never spot but I do sometimes get lighter periods so not sure what’s going on. Have a feeling AF will come full force tomorrow but if not I will test on Sunday 🤞 hope your two week wait goes quickly!

Not sure I’d recommend the BBT tracking to be honest 😂 I’m a bit of a data nerd so I wanted to give it a go but because my cycles/ovulation are quite regular (normally) I might go back to just OPKs!

JLP256 · 06/02/2021 10:12

Soooo AF came in full force this morning 🤦‍♀️ so that’s me out. Not sure what the early/light period was about but I got my hopes up for a little while, seems silly now! Feeling ok mostly though, a bit fed up that I have to start the cycle all over again and put in yet another order of OPKs haha.

Hope you all have a good weekend xx

KerryW87 · 06/02/2021 13:10

@JLP256 Aww I'm sorry :( It's not silly at all! I've come to learn the hard way that our bodies play tricks on us and new symptoms appear out of nowhere that raise your hopes up and then it's so rough when AF appears :( I hope you're going to have a nice relaxing weekend and try to be extra nice to yourself - whether that be a wee wine or a takeaway or whatever! One month closer to the month that WILL be the one 💕

Lynne425 · 06/02/2021 15:01

Hey All
I've taken a week off social media and just focused on myself and I actually feel a bit better for it!

The miscarriage hasn't officially started yet as I put off medical management but booked in for Thursday to start the process if it doesn't start naturally before that.

Need to have something organised for when it happens to take my mind off it - anyone any good Netflix/Prime series or a good book recommendations to watch/read.

Hope your all doing well!!xxx

KerryW87 · 06/02/2021 16:57

@Lynne425 I'm so glad you feel a bit better for it - when I lost my wee boy last year I took a break from social media for a good couple of months and I'm so glad I did, gives you more control over what you see every day.

I'm so sorry you're going through this ❤️ I hope you're doing as well as you can be and we're all here for a chat or a vent whenever!

Heard a lot of people hyping up Bridgerton but haven't watched it myself! Although this month we've just been watching repeats of Modern Family on Netflix hoping to laugh my TTC worries away 😂 xx

Lynne425 · 06/02/2021 17:16

Thanks @KerryW87

I think it still hasn't properly sunk in yet as it's not happened yet!

However I also think the fact that it was an empty sac (Blighted Ovum) that I kind of now think there wasn't a baby there to begin with and it's making it a tad easier but who knows?! It all just sucks really!!

I followed a lot of famous people on Instagram etc that were expecting and I've unfollowed them now which has helped too!!

I think I just need to keep myself entertained and busy until this is over and my next AF arrives then I'm just gonna go with the flow and have no pressure (saying that now) and see what happens!! Everything happens for a reason and it was just not our time this time 💕 xx

AKcheer · 06/02/2021 18:30

Hey everyone how are you!
@KerryW87 that’s literally what I’m waiting for! To get glammed up and feel normal again! I just want to do a full face of make up and eyelashes and the full works!! I wonder how long it will take me to get ready these days! Ooh I just love makeup!
I’m feeling a lot better today thanks! In my fertile week woo lol.

Thanks @JLP256 me too!! Oh man I’m sorry AF came this morning. It just sucks. Why oh why does our body play so many tricks on us guys?? Especially during this stage...but hopefully it will be gone quick and onto next month...bring it on!

Hi @Lynne425 it’s so nice to hear from you. I was thinking about you the other day.
Going off social media helps so much. It lets you just reset and makes sure you don’t see things you don’t want to. I’ve had an Instagram limit of 10 mins since jan and I try not to go on too much it really does help.
I’m really sorry you’re going through ❤️❤️ We’re always here so please chat to us, we can help try and take your mind of things even though it’s so hard.
Bridgerton is really good. I got bored yesterday so I started watching greys anatomy (I’ve never watched it before) but it started in 2005 so there’s loads to watch!
I know this is a stupid question but how are you and your OH?

So guys I’ve just been adding into a baby shower group. It’s family but so distant and this side of the family I genuinely don’t really like or get on with. So this is going to suck and I’m sure there will be so many questions coming my way. Jeez help me!! It’s on zoom so maybe I can use the bad network and just exit LOL

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KerryW87 · 06/02/2021 18:44

@AKcheer Ahh glad you're feeling better 💕 and excited for you that you're in your fertile week now! Get the Victoria's Secret busted out! 😂🤞

Ah me too! My partner is so used to seeing me just kicking about the house in chill-out clothes or jammies and no makeup, I want to have an excuse to go all out! Might just do it one day for the sake of it...take a wee selfie to remember the one day of 2021 I was done up! 😂 You should plan a wee romantic night during your window - get a nice dinner ordered, get the eyelashes on and make the most of it!

Aww no, I totally get why you're not keen on it! :( A few months after I lost wee J, I went to the baby shower that was originally my joint baby shower but obviously was no longer mine since I had lost my baby. I wanted to try and be supportive since it was family and I love them, so I went and made the cake for it etc, but it honestly was a real test to be able to go and it broke my heart. Definitely support your idea of using the bad connection excuse...just start making glitchy noises and freezing every few seconds and then sneakily hit "Leave" 😂😂 xx

Lynne425 · 07/02/2021 10:11

Hey @AKcheer

We just don't know how to feel to be honest!! Went from talking about life changing in a few months to trying not to mention it!!

I think it's next weekend it will hit us the hardest but will just need to take it one step at a time 💗

We haven't told anyone (well except you guys) as I don't really want to talk about it but again that might change once it does happen!!

Just going to get lots of comfort food in and comfy lounge wear all washed and ready for when it does and chill xx