Magic dust for 2021 5month+ crew continued

[AKcheer]

Hey continued our thread! So sorry if I’ve forgot to tag anyone please feel free to tag anyone I’ve missed but hopefully they find us ❤️ Hope you guys have had a good day and here’s lots of baby dust for you still waiting to see if your pregnant this month and here’s a massive good luck to us who have just had AF for next year!

@Lynne425
@8LPS
@Kirby173
@Plm28
@Rose2108
@Molsy
@NatMoz
@Birchybirch
@Leavingitlate
@Louisa199
@JLP256
@Jamill87
@Loladoodle

[Plm28]

How is everyone doing ? :)

I’m 5dpo. No symptoms yet other than I feel absolutely exhausted. Having some nausea on and off too but I had that last cycle so wondering if it’s just a symptom of ovulation/pms for me.

[Lynne425]

Hey!!

Thanks for the add @AKcheer ❤️❤️

I've had the strangest AF this time - heavy for the first 12 hours but then like nothing?! Ive definitely got normal AF symptoms (cramps breakout etc) but it's just been over so quickly!

TMI coming up (like I'm def bleeding when I go to the toilet & wipe but my pads dry). So no idea what to think?!

Hope everyone's ok xx

[JLP256]

Thanks @AKcheer :)

Hope you are all ok. I’m 12DPO today but moving house this week so that’s at least taking my mind off symptom spotting (sort of!).

[AKcheer]

Hey @Plm28 all good thanks on day 3 of AF. Ooh feeling exhausted and nausea that’s a good sign? How strange you had it last cycle too. Do you think it’s just a symptom you’ve developed recently?

No problem @Lynne425! Ok that’s strange have you had this before? I have heard some people get periods just for a couple of days. Are you also sure this isn’t implantation bleeding or a break through bleed? Would you test?

[Rose2108]

I just posted on the other one but excited to be in a new thread with you all now! x

[Plm28]

@AKcheer possibly, I’ve been on the pill for nearly 10 years and came off in June. Maybe it’s coming out of my system and it’s a symptom of ovulation for me 🤷‍♀️ I’ve work up this morning to cramps. Which is making me nervous as last cycle af came at 10dpo xx

[Lynne425]

@AKcheer
No never had as short of AF before! It's strange as my pad is dry but I'm def still bleeding when I go to the toilet 🤷🏻‍♀️ who knows

I might test tomorrow but I don't think it'll be positive - just a strange short AF I think xx

[Kirby173]

Morning all!

I’m here thanks @AKcheer for setting this up.

First I will give an update... I started bleeding but I have noticed a pattern every month where I bleed bright red blood for a couple days and then AF comes after this stops. TMI but I usually am super constipated about this time of them month and when I try to go that’s when I noticed the bright red blood but defo from vagina. It’s happened the past few month now and looking into this online I’m going to contact my doctor as this means there might be something up internally. Last night was scary there was a lot of blood. Test done today and a BFN but I’m fine as when I saw the blood I assumed AF and accepted it back then.

@AKcheer just going between tabs on my phone to reply so apologies if I don’t answer everything but with the OPKs they detect a surge in LH and this is the hormone that tells your body to ovulate. When you reach peak I think you ovulate within 12-36 hours after getting that peak from what I understand so I think it is good at confirming your body is doing what it should be? I think that’s how the CB ones work too and the LH surge is shown by a smiley blinking and then a full smiley when the test detects your LH has dipped after peaking? Don’t quote me on that though! The tests are working for me as far as seeing a peak but with the CB ones I think it gives you a window and is a bit more visual compared to squinting at a line and using a phone app to scan them as I’ve found sometimes depending on lighting and whatnot it can read differently.

@Rose2108 aww bless you don’t worry I’m waiting for AF after having a bleed anyway! As I mentioned above I think something is actually wrong so I’m going to see if I can get a referral to my doctor today. Keep us posted on that CB test!!!

How is everyone else getting on?! Xx

[AKcheer]

Hey guys! @Plm28 yah possibly. Who knows what happens to our body while we’re on the pill. I think it hides what our body is supposed to go through so we don’t actually even know our body!

Hey @Lynne425 did you end up testing and how are you?

Hey @Kirby173 I’ve not heard of that before. So is it a 2 day periods which you have? Although I have seen 2 day period is normal? It might be a good idea to see the docs, you’re right. It’s worthwhile getting checked out to be honest. Hopefully all is ok and it’s just our bodies being weird again!!! Thanks for the info re the Lh surge. I do use OPKS but I just sometimes think is this right, is this what’s supposed to happen!! But I do get the line getting darker and then I get a peak and it’s usually around the same time every month.

So I’m on day 4 of AF. Spoke to docs today because I think I’ve got a UTI as it was burning to wee which is fine and they’ve gave me 3 days antibiotics but the doctor I had was so nice and she was asking if everything else is ok and I just said I’ve been trying for 6 months and not been successful I know it might be too soon to worry, I know I’m 31 but yeah I thought I’d tell you as you asked LOL. She asked normal questions about periods which seemed regular and she said I’ve got no problem sending you for the day 3/day 21 blood test if you want? I was like ok il go with that then just to check everything’s ok. So I’m on day 4 and couldn’t get in for bloods today, so next month il go for day 3 and day 21. Don’t know if it will help but I thought if she’s said yeah let’s do them I thought why not lol

[JLP256]

That is promising @AKcheer, sounds like you have a great GP! Will be good to hopefully put your mind at rest. Let us know how you get on!

Oh no @Kirby173 that does sound scary yesterday. How are you today, have you had more bleeding?

@Lynne425 how are you, did you decide to test today?

[Lynne425]

Evening @AKcheer @JLP256

I did test today but as thought it was negative and AF has completely gone! Must have just been a very light period!!

I'm not gonna test for opk this month and just let happen what happens!!

I might however book in a gp appointment and explain to them im on the same boat as you @AKcheer and maybe see if I can get blood tests too. As you say doesn't hurt to ask xx

[Plm28]

How is everyone doing?

[JLP256]

Hey, AF has arrived for me, right on schedule! Onto cycle 7. Pretty gutted because for some reason I had sort of made peace with it taking up to 6 months to TTC and didn’t really think about after that haha...I know that’s probably ridiculous! I’m glad it at least came on time though and wasn’t late for no reason like last month.

Like some others have said, I might avoid the OPKs this month and just try to DTD every few days.

Bring on 2021 for all of us 💗

[Plm28]

@JLP256 sorry af came, but glad it’s at least regular and doesn’t keep you waiting and wondering!

[Rose2108]

@JLP256 I'm sorry this wasn't your lucky month... I'm starting to think this is just luck you know! I feel the same, I thought it would be six months for us (or less), I'm in the sixth cycle now!

I"m leading up to ovulation... Not feeling particularly positive but the CB OPK's have actually shown me a flashy face 2 days already, I'm expecting a static one tomorrow! Fingers crossed! If not I'll be binning them like you are! Don't blame you sometimes I think the longer it goes on the more we overthink it. I tried the femometer cheap strips for last 2 months and never got a peak, but seems like these CB tests are detecting something at least. Trying to feel greatful that my cycle is regular(ish) and we have DTD every other day which has been quite fun! My husband has struggled some months with all the pressure but this month has been fun for some reason! Must be the Christmas vibes lol.

@Lynne425 keep us posted on the drs and good luck, and @AKcheer that's amazing your Dr was so nice about it and suggested the tests! Round here I know people who even after a year had to beg for the blood tests! I think I'll ask in the new year. Hope your uti has gone they are the worst.

@Kirby173 hope you're doing okay, keep us posted on that Dr appointment if you decide to do it.

I wonder if any of us will get lucky this year we still have a few weeks lol! For now I'm gunna enjoy a gin tonight whilst I wrap some presents. Is anyone else about to ovulate? X

[AKcheer]

Morning guys were nearly at Xmas!
@Lynne425 have you had a light period like that before? Yeah man speak to your GP see what they say. Can’t be any harm!

@Plm28 all good here how are you? Looking forward to time off work next week!!

Hey @JLP256 I’m sorry to hear AF came. I know exactly what you mean, I was ok and content with 6 months and now I feel bleh and shit but what can we do! Just feel a bit deflated but hopefully 2021 will be a very positive year for all of us!

@Rose2108 I know right!! My doctor was so nice I was like ok. I was quite overwhelmed to be honest. Maybe she heard the panic in my voice I don’t know! How are you feeling? Looks like you’re getting some positive OPKs! Good to hear your hubby is enjoying and you have a good vibe going on!!

My husband seems so preoccupied with work and other stuff at the moment so I actually don’t know how this month is going to plan out. Wanted to go for it yesterday but he was just so pre occ so feel a bit down. Maybe he’s just so over it, but he’s making me feel like bloody crap!!!

[Kirby173]

Morning everyone!

Sorry I’ve not been on I’ve had a really weird time just feeling sorry for myself.

It’s hard to explain but basically I have a normal cycle of 5 days but about 11 DPO with no pain or anything I get really bad constipation and when I try and go to the toilet I always get bright red blood that isn’t like a period for about 1-2 days and then it stops completely. Then I get a regular AF. I started googling and it said there might be some cell growth so I thought I would contact my GP as they know we are TTC. I’m booked in for a phone appointment on 23rd December but I really would prefer to get examined which I’m hoping they send me for. I’ve had something similar in the past and had a colposcopy a few years ago to check some cells and everything was fine so I am thinking I will have something like that done again? I saw a lady online said as soon as she got seen to and had a procedure though she fell pregnant that month so I don’t know if there is something wrong and that’s why we have been struggling when TTC? Weird... anyway!

AF came and I’m on day 3 now. Probably my worst one so far to be honest! Ovulation is due around Xmas time so I will keep you all updated. Going to carry on with OPKs that I have only because I’ve got loads left. I wouldn’t have if I didn’t have them in.

@AKcheer assuming AF has left you now?! So good you got a good doctor and yeah I definitely agree about getting bloods done if you can! It’s good she listened to you and hopefully the bloods might shed some light on things or give you the confirmation that everything is okay. How you feeling?!

@JLP256 I have got the ball rolling for any potential referrals I need so there’s that. Annoyingly I will be 2 days into my new job when the doctors call so hoping I don’t have to explain all of this. I’m having issues trying to explain it to my current manager because I’m like no it’s not AF I’m actually worried about this please take me seriously and don’t think I’m faking 😂 just seen about your arrival of AF I’m so sorry. I know loads of people have said this but the stats are super low for people TTC in the first year so maybe try and aim for 12 months rather than 6? Easier said than done though isn’t it? I think giving OPKs a miss is a good shout. When’s ovulation predicted for you?

@Rose2108 did you get your static smiley?! Aww I’m so glad you guys are having fun when TTC I think the pressure sometimes gets too much for the guys doesn’t it? Must be difficult been in a schedule!

How is everyone else today?! Xx

[Rose2108]

Morning Ladies. It;s amazing how much this all can affect our moods isn't it. We can all feel sorry for ourselves together!!

@AKcheer I'm okay, I think I spoke too soon as I mentioned about needing to DTD today and my husband seemed a bit deflated and said haven't we done enough! Lol. I do actually feel for them, it is alot of pressure. Sorry you feel rubbish, hopefully you'll get to DTD asap!

@Kirby173 I relate so much to this, I completely understand the confusion and frustration. That sounds so uncomfortable, I defo think push for the exam and I really hope they take it seriously. I have come to realise that I do not start my AF on the day I think, and it is actually classed as spotting because I am so light. So I should be counting AF from the day I properly bleed which throws all my logic out the window.

Ugh well as an update for me. I have now had 4 flashing smileys (Fri, Sat, Sun, Mon). According to my app and my CM, I ovulated Sunday. But according to my temp and the CB OPK's, I haven't yet (today is Monday, for anyone catching up!). My CM is now like thick and white, but the OPK should have shown the peak, static smiley on Saturday or Sunday :( I am now so confused. Hoping we can DTD today, although have plans after work so it will be a rush job which never seems to work for us.

I have been doing a bit of investigation and I think I have a short luteal phase issue. Some months my cycle is so short, AF starts about 8 or 9 days after ovulation. As I am learning a lot more about this process, I am convinced that in September (for a number of reasons) I had a chemical pregnancy due to the short luteal phase issue.

So feeling a bit bleurgh and emotional today. Things that do not help:

1. It's Monday!
   
2. My group of friends - who all have babies except me - sending over 200 whatsapps last night about all things baby. F*ing relentless.
   
3. CB OPK confusion making me feel like I am back to square one
   
4. That awkward feeling of knowing we need to have a scheduled DTD sesh in between work and going out. Dread these ones.
   
   It's okay to feel sorry for ourselves every now and then x

[AKcheer]

Morning everyone how are you??

Hey @Kirby173 ahh good that you’ve got booked in fairly quickly. I wonder what the timeframe is for them to do the exam. At least your booked in and get get it sorted if there is something wrong. I’m guessing hopefully it’s a minor procedure too. There’s no point leaving things like this because like you said it might be the reason stopping you at the moment and then fingers crossed all ok after!! I know it’s hard...AF becomes a few tough days doesn’t it to be honest but we will get through this!! Yes do keep us updated. I’ve sacked the OPKs off this month just going for it every other day! Yah I’m glad my doc suggested it tbh. I’m ok but won’t be able to go until January because I missed my day 3 which I’m fine with!!

@Rose2108 maybe it was a weird day for males haha!! Hubby is back to normal so yes we are BAU too now LOL. Let’s see where this month takes us now. Positivity!! Did you guys manage to DTD? Sounds like your having positive OPKs - but don’t solely rely on them. Some people say it puts a lot of pressure on them these OPKS. Oh really? I’m not too clued up about the luteul phase but Have your cycles become shorter since you started to TTC?
Uh hate a Monday and why are all friends pregnant for!? Oh man awkward schedule is the worst but you and hubby just need to embrace it hopefully it won’t be for too much longer!!!

So one day closer to time off!! Felt a bit blergh yday evening, my SIL (younger than me - been married for a year and a half, opposed to my 5 years lol) announced to everyone that she’s off the pill and they are going to start trying for kids. Firstly I don’t know why anyone feels the need to announce (like I’m so private I don’t tell anyone not even my best friends or my mom) so I just feel a bit paranoid and stressed. I know it’s not a race but she’s the type of person that will probably have sex once and get pregnant!!! And everyone looks at me like wtf is wrong with you but I just don’t like broadcasting my life. I’m such a private person that I like to keep emotions and thoughts to myself and my husband. But yeah she made me feel a bit shit yday and also was quite patronising

[Kirby173]

Hi everyone!

@AKcheer I really don’t get why people feel a need to announce stuff like this. It just makes it more uncomfortable if they have issues TTC! I completely understand why you feel the way you do like this should be your time not hers. People with babies around me are on about baby number 2 now and I am like NO LET ME HAVE ONE FIRST AND THEN YOU GO 😂 totally not unreasonable though it almost feels like someone is pushing in front of you in a line which sounds like such a stupid comparison but it’s how it feels! I am mad for you haha! You doing okay today?

Yeah I mean to be honest I am unsure what else I can say over the phone to them that I haven’t explained in the referral so this feels like a waste of time but I equally understand they don’t want to see people unless they have to with the pandemic. I just want to be seen, something to be found and it be fixed right away and BAM pregnant but that’s not how it works haha.

@Rose2108 hey! Please don’t get me started on WhatsApp groups just mute them 😂 I genuinely don’t understand why people get into a frenzy about trying to outdo each other by sending pics of their kids. Absolute madness like I’ve said to DH we absolutely aren’t posting pics of our kid on social media or sending multiple pics to family and friends apart from announcement he/she has arrived and that’s it! It drives me insane when people send 5,000,000 photos of their kids 😂 muting is the best way forward honestly.

I bet you are so confused! Everything giving mixed signals about ovulation it sounds horrible. Did you manage to get around to DTD? Also what does your CB test show today?

I hope you’re all feeling alright xx

[Lynne425]

Hey All

So I tried to get a gp appointment but basically got it thrown in my face as it's not an 'emergency' so bang goes that!

Also just found out two friends are expecting! I really should be happy for them but is it bad I'm kinda gutted! 🙈

That's me on CD 7 so really should think about DTD every other night but will see. Tbh I'm not in the mood at all at the moment!!

Hope everyone else is ok xxx

[AKcheer]

Hey @Kirby173 the thing is the people that announce it end up getting pregnant in one second!! Haha it’s just so frustrating. I was just so annoyed and she was being a bit patronising but I need to get over it!! Hahaha oh god, how are people on baby number 2 when we just trying to get baby 1 on the go hahaha! Thanks for being in my team haha glad you know how I feel and I’m not just being selfish!! I’m ok today thank you for asking. Had a good day at work, done some yoga and went to the gym so feel good today lol. It’s so hard in this pandemic isn’t it, everything is so slow. But stay positive. Have they sent you for these bloods before? I forgot if you mentioned that?

Evening @Lynne425 how you doing? That’s so rude. GPS aren’t just taking emergency appointments only. That’s so rude - at the end of the day they aren’t thinking about your welfare acting like that. Oh god it’s the worst, I mean it’s so nice your friends are expecting, but I get it...you want it so bad so feel bleh. We all feel like this, and pretending to be happy is just so hard.
How come your not in the mood what’s going on? You going to give this month a miss? X

[AKcheer]

@Lynne425 have you tried yoga to relax and chill. Should have said that up there ^

[Rose2108]

Hi gang

OMG @AKcheer I hate it when people do that! But you know what, goes to show how naïve she is! I would not wish TTC problems on anyone but she probably thinks it is sooo easy and she may well find that it isn't. It is super patronising, and also no consideration for the fact you might be TTC... but she may regret it ALOT! I am the same, super private, only told a v small amount of people and that was more for advice/out of desperation. I don't want to tell my parents because they will get so excited and I just can't handle that pressure.

I don't wanna sound mean but most of my friends... all they wanted to do was have kids. So as soon as they got married they started trying, age 23 - 26. I wanted a career and a nice house and to travel the world. A lot of them did struggle, took some of them years so it wasn't plain sailing for them. Only one of them knows I am, so I can't me mad, I just think it's a bit ignorant to go on about it in a group I am in; they must notice I literally never reply or comment when they are off on one. But I don't actually think they care. I don't regret the way we chose to do this though :) as long as it happens in the next year or so I'm happy.

So we did manage to DTD on Monday (lunch break, perks to the pandemic lol), and we need to get one more in today to completely cover all basis... that will be every other day for 9 days over the follicular phase. I can't lie, I want to finish work and put on my most disgusting pyjamas I've had from peacocks since 2007 and eat a whole bag of Doritos, but I will channel my inner nympho and get it done!! Then I will know we have done all we can !! I've now had 9 days of that fcking flashing smiley I wanted to throw it out the window this morning lol. I must have ovulated by now!!

@Kirby173 hahaha, exactly! One of my best friends is trying for her second and I am like nooooo let me go first please!! I totally agree I hate that by age 31 my whole instagram is babies, so boring.... I also don't agree with posting pics of babies all over social media, it's weird. I feel the same re Dr's; I assume if we need some help we will get it and boop, pregnant! A girl can hope...

So with my luteul phase after my ovulation... I guess I never noticed before because I was on the pill... but it is really short some months. I tend to start "spotting" on CD 26/27 and then full AF begins day 28. So this makes my luteul phase only about 9 days. I am sure it isn't a disaster but I have read this can make implantation more challenging.

Oh @Lynne425 that is awful! I'm so sorry. It seems like you are quite chill this month so I guess just DTD if the mood takes you! I can't see us doing this "schedule" every month, it's exhausting! Lol. And no, totally okay to be gutted, you're only human.

We want out walking for an hour last night, visiting people on doorsteps and I am going to do some yoga this evening :) Thanks for the idea @AKcheer* I get stuck in such bad habits at home xx

[Rose2108]

Omg guys so today I felt a bit sick around 10am - 1pm, then I had like a mild but sharp pain in my lower left side so I just thought hmmm could this be ovulation... (Had flashing smiley CB this morning)... So I stopped drinking water and then did a POAS on the cheapie femometer strips and I can't believe it!!! It's a positive LH test!! I've NEVER had the second line as dark as the first I felt like I could cry! So I guess it's today or tomorrow, will do another lot of tests tomorrow. We DTD today aswell. Yay!! Xx