Top tips for not obsessing over TTC

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I don't have the tips, I need the tips!

How to genuinely let go and not obsess and let the TTC process take over???

Xx

Hello! I wouldn't say I have stopped obsessing, I am still on Mumsnet and symptom spotting but the thing which has made me the most relaxed is having a cycle off temping now that I know I ovulate. It not being the first thing I think about in the morning and predicting what my temp will be has made SUCH a difference to me mentally..

Good luck! And I am following as would love to hear some tips from others! It really does take over my life.

I'm currently buying "bargains" on eBay to take my mind off things...not sure that helps you sorry!

Hobbies, work, projects... Anything that you can do that occupies your time. Ideally you want something that's all consuming and that you're unlikely to be able to do once pregnant and/or looking after a baby.

What hobbies do you have? Is there anything you've been wanting to do for awhile?

OP I personally stopped peeing on ovulation sticks & using a tracker on my phone
So we DTD every couple of days or so & up it on the fertility window

Waiting & debating lines started taking the romance out of things - my OH said having sex on a schedule made it less enjoyable for him

The last month we did that , we both agreed it was less stressful. A month later , we got our BFP

So my top tip to anyone is - don't forget to have fun otherwise it becomes a "chore"

Good luck !!

I’m going to be THAT person that has the cliche story but here it goes...

I had 2 early MCs in 3 months and then NOTHING for a whole year. Not even a whiff of another BFP.

So one month I confessed to my mum how obsessed I had become and how it was taking over my life. I told her about the app, the tests, DTDing on the right days etc (very close with my mum! Ha) she said, you have to delete that app, put those tests away! Give it a rest for a bit. So I did, after all DP was working overseas on suspected O day so what was the point anyway. We DTD once before he left.

What do you know, 2 weeks later a sticky BFP.

So my advice would be to ditch anything that’s aiding your obsession and trust the process. Easier said than done I know, took me a year but I felt so much better that month. And one month was all it took!

Baby dust to you xx

It's such a horrible place to be!
My top tips would be to stop temperature charting (if you're doing this), and stop using the CB digital ovulation tests (if you're using them) as they get you to start testing so early in the month and it makes the wait for ovulation drag... Try to focus on the things you do have versus what you don't have (ie a pregnancy, a baby). Sounds cheesy but try a gratitude journal.
Keep busy, stay active. Focus on health and getting your body in a great place to nourish a baby. Whilst also enjoying a few of things you can't have/can't do when pregnant. Avoid symptom spotting and any sort of symptom tracking. Avoid Facebook groups, forums etc. Hide anything like that from your social media. Resist the urge to google...
I'm speaking from experience and it worked for me and I finally have my sticky BFP (after temporarily losing my mind for the past year or so... ) it's a horrible place to be and I finally had to snap myself out of it, and just as I finally found some peace and happiness, I eventually got my BFP!
I tried to go back go basics, kept an eye on CM so I knew when to do the deed and used basic cheap OPK, only on the day I highly suspected it would be positive (or heading that way). Oh and try resist any early testing. No earlier than 10dpo, later if you can resist . I hope you get your BFP soon!!

For me it's been online shopping (quite bad lol but it takes my mind off it!), exercising/taking walks every day, making sure to stay in touch with friends (single ones thankfully so no baby discussion!), taking long baths, watching films, reading books, making new recipes...just things I can focus on that I enjoy and remind me that I'm a human as well as a potential vessel haha. Hope this helps x