Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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Good Morning Ladies

Hope you are all well. Stillll no sign of ovulation for me. All my CB digital tests are blank circles and IC's are still showing the same levels as they have done for the last week (most likely my baseline) and dont even get me started on my BBT, its all over the place!! But on the plus side, managed to DTD Saturday and Sunday. Going to give OH a break now and get at it again on Wednesday. My aim is to make sure that theres sperm in me all the time (just incase ovulation comes out of nowhere!) but not wear OH out either, so every Sat and Sun and Weds for the forseeable future. He seems happy with this as well as he prefers weekends and this way he only needs to do it once during the week lol. Of course, he also knows as soon as we get a peak then its all systems go!

@mackjm20 your temps look a lot like mine at the moment, very up and down! In regards to confirming your ovulation, I would probably go by your LH strips because of your sleeping, so I wouldnt rely too much on your BBT as your temps are very rocky. How is your TWW going?

@clouless how are you feeling today! When is your AF expected? Are you going to be testing soon?

@bells3032 lovely to hear from you! glad to hear your cycles have been a bit more settled recently. Congrats on your house move as well. Not long till IVF starts, which is exiting! You will have to let us know how you get on

@olderthanyouthink ahhh lovely not long till your scan!! You will have to show up a pic of little peanut! I had to leave the Aug group, didnt mention my loss but did see there were quite a few sadly. I feel I kind of jinxed myself for joining so soon so wont be doing that again!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 You defo have some symptoms that sound very pregnanty!! You are very strong not testing this weekend! I would have caved! Any sign of AF today? Nope.... still no positive OPK for me! Driving me insane a little bit. Had bit of a meltdown this weekend because its taking so long, lucky my OH has been amazing and so supportive.

Ah that's good @mackjm20, I need to jeep myself busy too. I so easily fall into a TTC rabbit hole. Last night I was reading loads of threads and made a list of things to buy. If helpful to anybody

• pomegranate juice
• Brazil nuts
• Pre seed
• Fluffy socks
• CV Ovulation tests (I'm just using cheapies atm and think I'll use these for when we're actually TTC).

@CookieMonster3001 I am sooooo tempted to go get one on my lunch break, I'm feeling ok today, my boobs were sore last night but I usually get that before AF anyway. The problem is the symptoms are the same for pregnancy and AF. I think I'll wait until I'm late if I am.... I will be sooooo surprised if I am, I remember the night well, my OH was like I need to pull out and I said no (lol) because I didn't want him to stop (TMI) and then he managed to hold it in for a bit longer so some pre cum could've easily slipped through.

@CookieMonster3001 I should use notes again because I forget the message I've received.
I think the sat, sun and weds plan is good! Always having some sperm in you...genius idea! Sounds so silly but I hadn't actually thought of it that way!
We've stupidly let our dog sleep in our room now (we have a dressing room which the old owners knocked the wall down for so it's like he has his own room) but anyhow OH is like we can't DTD with him in the room it's weird .. which I get so I've just cockblocked myself!!! OH says he prefers morning sex anyway but yeah I need to sort that out. 20 days to go!!!!!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 fluffy socks are a must!!! The cycle I fell, I wore socks all day all night during my TWW as I read that keeping your feet warm helps your circulation and therefore implantation. No idea if its a pile of toss but I am not gonna argue!! The first cycle I also used conceive plus lube is also the cycle I fell so would recommend that! I also eat an entire pineapple in my TWW (not in one day but over a week) as apparently that helps with implantation too lol.
You will have to keep us up to date and let us know if AF shows up!! So funny about cockblocking yourself! It kinda reminds me of when I was at Uni and I had a wall of photos opposite my bed with pictures of my family and friends, and I refused to have sex in my room with my at-the-time boyfriend because I felt like my family were watching me!!! LOL so I am inclined to agree with your OH, don't think I would want to do it with a dog in the room too! lol

@CookieMonster3001 sorry to hear no ovulation signs I really hope it comes soon! That is such a good idea about Saturday Sunday and weds I may actually try that approach next cycle :) yea my temp went down again this morning so I feel like yesterday 2DPO I was like all nervous etc today I’m thinking it’s unlikely buttttt if it happens great if it doesn’t another month to lose weight which is a huge positive :)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I think keeping busy is defo key as otherwise I obsess like yesterday I was obsessing! That’s such a good list :) I have had socks on all weekend and eating pineapple everyday just incase after @cookie’s advice :) you have so much willpower holding off on the testing I am so awful at that! Fingers crossed! Know exactly what you mean about the dog cockblocking ours is the same lol! I have to get him out the room first haha!

So this morning dh was acting super suspicious and he was like going to tell me something then was like oh no don’t worry etc. So after about half an hour he said that I said I had a secret in my sleep lol! I have assured him I’m not pregnant even though that’s what he had assumed the secret was and I would love to know what the secret is dreams are weird lol... anyway he said ah okay well I’ve got a little secret and he scurried away and came back with a new born Harry Potter baby-grow. Honestly I nearly cried he was like I just want to show you I’m all in and really hope it happens for us this year- I genuinely had been thinking he was kind of just going along with it for me rather than super excited and omgoodness my heart actually melted. He said he got it before Christmas thinking we would conceive before then but now he just wanted to show his commitment to ttc but has been waiting as didn’t want to upset me around a BFN or to like put too much pressure on. Honestly speechless my day is made :)

@mackjm20 love your positive thinking!! And I thought the same, while I am waiting for ovulation, I can carry on fasting to help with weight loss until I do. I worry about fasting effecting implantation, so will stop once its been confirmed and just stick with healthy eating. I have managed to clock up over 10K steps every day since the new year so far which is really good for me as I am sat on my fat arse all day long working! I picked up my pineapple on Friday as I was hoping I would have ovulated this weekend but I haven't so no idea what to do with my pineapple! Lol... wondering if I cut it up and freeze it until I do ovulate, whether that would still be OK?!
OMG that's the cutest!! how sweet is your DH! This weekend my OH kept telling me to stay in bed in the morning, then he wakes up and makes me my coffee and was like make the most of lying in now because when we have our baby we are going to be up early all the time! That's about as sweet as he gets lol.

@CookieMonster3001 yea exactly I’m feeling super motivated on the weight loss as I know that it’ll help with ttc and give a healthier pregnancy so although I would LOVE it to be this month if it’s not it will just spur me on more to lose. That’s such a good idea re the fasting :) I’m having my pineapple each day with strawberry alpro yoghurt and it’s actually so yummy feels really naughty even though it’s super healthy :) I’m sure freezing it would be okay :) equally if you waited a few days I think pineapple lasts quite well in the fridge :) that’s so good on the steps!! I’ve been doing 10k a day since weds for my 10 weeks until my 30th and my goodness I really have to walk a lot to get them in as just sit all day at home for work lol!

I know he NEVER does stuff like that and I could tell he was so out of his comfort zone even giving it to me but honestly meant the world :) aw that’s so sweet of him :) so true as well lol! Xxx

@CookieMonster3001 and @mackjm20 Aww, you guys 🥰🥰🥰

Wishing you (and your OHs) both all the luck in the world for this cycle!

@Curiosity101 thank you :) how are you feeling? Xxx

@mackjm20 Still quite stressed and anxious. Other than that I can't complain 😊.

@Curiosity101 bless you I can only imagine I’m sure I will be exactly the same! Do you enjoy reading? I find reading and listening to podcasts really helps when I feel stressed and anxious as re focuses your attention xxx

@Curiosity101 thank you lovely!!! big hugs, I would say try and stay calm and relaxed as possible but its easier said than done! Any new symptoms yet?

@mackjm20 Unfortunately when I'm stressed I struggle to focus on anything that isn't all consuming.

I'll be ok in a week or two though. My therapist will get me back on the right track 😄 (figures I'd find out I was pregnant while she was on holiday 🙈🙉).

Also I'm planning an early scan for 2 weeks today (daren't book it yet). Assuming it's good news that'll be a huge relief for me. 🤞 Trying not to wish the days away though. 😄

@CookieMonster3001 No new symptoms no. Morning sickness is creeping in day by day but at the moment is fine. It's starting just like it did with my son though 🥺 I was really hoping for an easier time this time. Other than that I'm just bloated and my boobs are a bit sore.

How is everyone? I have a lot of posts to catch up on! 🤣 good luck to everyone this cycle!

I rang the community midwifes today and I my 8 week booking appointment booked for when I'm 11 weeks- which seems such a long time away! Currently 5+4 @Curiosity101 have you rang yet?

@wrensandrobins I did. I've self referred and my appointment letters are in the post 🤷. No idea when they'll be for but I'll find out tomorrow or Wednesday I reckon. Our local trust are doing most of the paper work bit over the phone (which tbh is much more convenient for me), then they're doing a much shorter face to face appointment where they just do blood pressure, CO test, weight, bloods etc.

How're you feeling?

Morning ladies

How are you all? According to the Flo app, AF is due today but I don't have any symptoms of anything anymore which is weird? I'm hoping AF arrives soon, with Feb being shorter I'm worried I'll end up not ovulating in Feb at all?!
I'd be adding all of my symptoms into Flo, nausea, cramps, CM, dizziness etc and it's now changed all of my peak ovulation days to CD18?! I'm not sure why, has anybody else had this?!
At this point I'm just confused and hope AF arrives later on this week and pushes my fertile week to first week of Feb.

@Curiosity101 I'm ok, I have been tired and sore boobs but very little nausea, I'm a bit worried I have uti as I keep needing to pee and I have a pain quite low down, debating whether to bother the doctor because I know you can't take over the counter stuff when you are pregnant, it's ok now, but i don't want it to get worse!

My bf is away this week so I'm all on my own and feeling a bit sad and sorry for myself! Meeting my mum for a walk later hopefully that will help!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I haven't used flo so can't help I'm afraid. Fingers crossed for you that af does arrive soon and you have the feb ovulation you want! Are your cycles quite long?

I hope so @wrensandrobins my cycle is usually 29/30 days and I get a peak on OPKs on CD15. Hopefully it all works out

@wrensandrobins Funny you should mention a UTI. Yesterday it felt like I needed to wee every 2 minutes and I got a weird pulling/uncomfortable pain every now and then when I stood up. It's not progressed into anything yet so I'm putting it down to stretching and things moving about but I've not rules out a UTI either.

It's good you don't have nausea yet. It tends to come on 6weeks+, but some people don't get morning sickness at all! So fingers crossed for you! 🤞

I took another IC this morning 5+1 today, I think I'm going to have to stop testing now 🙉🙈. But I am starting to feel a little calmer ☺️.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I don't know how you have such willpower, I'd have caved and tested if I were you. Fingers crossed AF is late, cause it sounds like it'd be good news either way! ☺️

Oh and my IC from today at 5+2 ~23DPO

@Curiosity101 bless you it’s just the worst when it’s all consuming isn’t it! I really hope you are feeling better soon :) oh no! Typical she goes on holiday now! How are people even still going on holiday lol. Ah that will be nice and hopefully offer some reassurance having the early scan :)

@wrensandrobins thank you :) we have had Atleast 1 BFP each month in the group so hoping Atleast one of us is lucky this month :) so is your first appointment at 11 weeks? Bless you I feel like the tww is slow so can only imagine it feels like time is slow waiting for the appointment! How are you feeling?

@sunflowersaremyfav93 oh bless you are you going to test or just wait for af? My flo did this a couple of times which has meant that out of 5 cycles I only ended up DTD on the right days on 1 other than this month. I think the good thing is you are doing opks etc so flo is just a guide and you will know better when you ovulate :) I hope you are feeling better soon fingers crossed for bfp or af in time for early feb!

I am now on 4dpo and because I am convinced due to bbt that it hasn’t happened I just want the tww over and to be onto the next cycle lol! I swear I just wish away half of every month now lol! Anyone else feel like this? X

@Curiosity101 your line looks so so strong on that one :) xxx

@Curiosity101 yes that's exactly the feeling! Maybe it's normal I'm only a few days ahead of you. I stopped testing a week ago because they weren't getting any darker and it was giving me anxiety, that's a super dark test though!