Faint bfp or frer indent?

[Moominmiss]

11dpo. Not fmu.

Came up within time frame. Vvv faint line. Am aware of the notorious indents frer can give so very reluctant to think anything of it yet.

One pic unedited, other has contrast up slightly.

Thoughts?

@AMS19 😊🤞🏻🤞🏻❤️

@Moominmiss how are you keeping this from Dh?!!!?!! I'd be so so distracted! X

@AnxiousAnnie86 I’m struggling!!!!
Thankfully he was busy last night, he went for a run, then was fixing his bike and just doing stuff, then I was reading with my dc and doing their homework etc, then after tea I started watched one born every minute and he played on Xbox for a bit. Then by the time I went to bed I was exhausted so there wasn’t anytime to think, but today will be harder, my kids are with their dad til the weekend now so it’ll just be us. I’m bursting to tell him. But I know I at least need to wait until I can be fairly sure it’s not a chemical. I know that doesn’t meant I won’t lose it further along, but no need to upset him over a chemical at this point.

@Moominmiss how old are your children? It's not a chemical! Remember we are speaking this into existence x

@AnxiousAnnie86 yes on talking this into existence!!!!

They’re 10, 8 and 6. So will be a fairly whopping age gap lol!

@Moominmiss aww you'll have to hands full! I have a daughter, she will be 14 when baby comes!! X

@Moominmiss you're doing amazing keeping it a secret. But....even if it turns into a CP (which it isnt now) maybe protecting him isn't what is best for you and you as a couple. I think your idea is lovely and if it works then amazing, but I also think you need all the support you can get even jus telling with the worrying. So if you need to tell him tell him. Deal with it as a couple. Honestly though, everything looks lovely. Lets see what Friday brings! Maybe me, you and @anxiousannie86 need to have the nosecco ready and we can celebrate Friday xx

@AMS19 I had some nosecco last week it was delish!!! Might just do that!

@Moominmiss I agree, I think you should tell him, you are in this together and you can't put all this in yourself, if it did become a chemical which it won't! Then you need to take comfort in each other! Have a cry allow yourself to be sad, don't keep it all in, but it won't come to that anyway! Xxx

@AnxiousAnnie86 a 14 year old will be a fab help to have around. I’m sure she’ll be the perfect doting big sister (and future babysitter!!)

@AMS19 I would dearly love to be able to surprise him, but with how much I’m struggling already I may very well cave. Plus I know I couldn’t hide my emotions if I did have a chemical, and then he’d be more upset I kept it from him. So I might wait until next week and where I feel a little safer, sort of when it would cross the boundary from being a chemical to a mc. Then I might tell him, or just surprise him with a private scan being booked instead.

That way I only need to keep it in for another week or so.

But yes! Friday will (hopefully) celebrate with a takeaway, chocolate and some alcohol free Prosecco (I actually have some in the fridge from last time)! To celebrate with you guys would be just amazing! ❤️

@Moominmiss I really think you should. My husband would be so upset if I kept it from him and knowing I was struggling alone. Lets see what Friday brings and maybe a decent FRER might be something to show him. If you've had eveb more line progression by then it will be lovely to show him.

I've ordered some nosecco from asda but not tried it yet. Glad to hear it is nice @AnxiousAnnie86 I'm ready for Friday then ladies!! Then all 3 of us can celebrate together ❤

@AMS19 @Moominmiss I keep getting intermittent cramps today and it's freaking me out!!

@AnxiousAnnie86 I get the a lot. Even at your stage 100% normal! Your body is adapting and growing to fit your growing baby, if anything it is a good sign!!

@AMS19 I think if I get a good line Friday I might tell him. I agree he’d be upset if he thought I was going through an upsetting time alone.

@AnxiousAnnie86 everything’s still stretching so much, cramps are totally totally to be expected! I remember a midwife telling me once I should feel reassured by the cramps that baby is getting super comfy!

Let’s get to Friday girls!! We got this!!!! ❤️

@Moominmiss @AMS19 I know it's normal I guess but I'm just so scared of something happening x

10000%, totally understandable @anxiousannie86 but you're little bean is just getting comfortable as it sounds like they are in for the long run ❤❤

@AnxiousAnnie86 TOTALLY get being scared, and I’m a fine one to talk and give advice, but there is absolutely nothing at all, no reason whatsoever to think anything negative. You are growing a perfect little bean and he/she is burrowing in and like @AMS19 said just getting comfy because they’re there for the long haul!

@Moominmiss @AMS19 I just want to relax!!!! It's soooo annoying! I think had I never had a Mc I wouldn't be living in this fear x

@AnxiousAnnie86 I hear you on the mc causing this huge fear.

My children were all conceived easily and in all honesty (and naivety) mc just didn’t really ever even cross my mind. I got a positive test, took that as me being pregnant, and then went onto have text book pregnancies!

Then since ttc this time around I conceived quickly first time but then the mc at 9 weeks totally threw me. And now since the chemicals, it’s just become normal to expect it not to progress. It’s totally taken the fun and excitement out of early pregnancy. Even after 12 weeks I won’t feel relaxed until I have paid for private harmony blood tests to check for chromosome issues (due to my age).
It will just be me constantly wishing my time (and pregnancy) away!

Also now having some cramping!

@Moominmiss I had quite bad cramps at 4 weeks! I'm on a ttc thread with some lovely ladies that I've been speaking to over six months now, and I kept saying AF Is def coming, then I was sure I was Mc as the cramps got quite painful, then after about four days they seemed to stop for the most part! Now every single time I go loo I'm checking expecting blood! This can't be healthy!

I'm so so worried about a MMC as I seem to keep seeing them on these boards!!

Yes @AnxiousAnnie86 my cramps definitely feel like af is coming.

I just went to loo as I felt wet (sorry for tmi) and thought af had arrived, but no, just cm. also did 2 more tests for good measure 😂 peeing without poas just feels like a wasted pee 🙈

If I make it past next week I will 100% be booking in for at least one early scan. Ideally at 8 and then 10 weeks. I know that no amount of scans can stop a mmc and you could see things looking great one day and it be gone the next day, but to keep any hope of sanity I feel I’m going to need to do it.

Sending tons of hugs though, it’s hard when you see so many upsetting stories here, we all know it’s the sad and harsh reality of a ttc journey but being on these boards definitely doesn’t do much for already sky high anxiety. ❤️

@Moominmiss how do the tests look?? X

Big love OP, I've been where you are so many times and as we both know it's just about getting the time in until you know. Easier said than done but I've got everything crossed for you

😂 I forgot to attach them.

Here you go. Blue one step still pretty rubbish. Green 20miu Poundland one maybe slightly better.

Just read the Amazon reviews for the one step ones I bought, they’re all terrible. Most women saying there’s never showed positive, or only showed a slight faint line even when getting 2-3 on a digital. So I feel slightly better in that respect.

My old one steps were always from eBay and like I said earlier looked slightly different to these.

@DressingGownofDoom 🤗 how are you doing?

I know we’ve both been here before. I’m definitely protecting myself by trying to keep my expectations low.

I hope you’re doing ok xx

@Moominmiss can see them straight away! My line on 14dpo was absolutely no darker! X