Tits out, chin up and ❤️ yourself - TTC Bus 19

[Juno231]

Come join us on our TTC journeys - all you need is a sense of humour!

Bus history:
June - 24 BFPs
July - 11 BFPs
August - 18 BFPs
September - 4 BFPs

October BFPs so far:
@blackcurrantqueen - Oct 5th
@mrsbear1122 - Oct 12th
@savethechubbyunicorns - Oct 13th

Testing dates:
@adogisforlife - October 17th
@pebblesinthesand - October 17th
@mosherchick - October 18th
@Vil10 - October 21st
@ladybird345 - October 22nd
@lucyrp - October 22nd
@Franklydear - October 25th
@Kay00 - October 25th
@Juno231 - October 26th
@dsr87 - October 28th
@clairey844 - October 30th
@notyetamumbuttrying - October 31st
@katao - November 1st
@2020mission - November 2nd
@nestinginNL - November 18th
@Hopeful110 - November 22nd

Random Q. For those of you who have dogs and kids (existing in that order) how did you find the transition of bringing a baby around the dog?

@Hrps I was meant to welcome you in my previous post but got you confused with @Dsr87 - such a crappy bus driver I am . In my defence I had a lot to catch up on this morning as I couldn't access MN all of last night! Was that just me? I kept getting an error message and was too lazy to clear my cache until this morning.

@NestinginNL where did you find a snow covered mountain?!

@dsr87 I'm glad you got rid of the abusive husband - want @Minster2012 to find him with that rifle of hers? We seem to have about a dozen dogs here as well that we could send after him!

@Runnergirl1 did you manage to DTD last night?

@blackcurrantqueen I'm so sorry huni. Unfortunately I know too well how ur feeling 😭 I'm gutted for you. It's a horrible thing to have to go through. It does get easier but take the time to grieve. How far along where you. I was 9+2 and alone getting the news, here, no partners are allowed in. Look after urself, it will hit you very unexpectedly over the coming wks. Your hormones will play havoc too. Here if you need a chat xx
@juno231 that's reassuring. Thanks. Fingers crossed I did.

@minster2012 ur question above for the girls. Do u mean still shagging after bfp.
We did, but that's where my bleeding started on each pregnancy. Which I know 2 went on to be nearly teens now but the lady didnt and I was actually just talking to my friend about it yesterday. I think I'll be too afraid next time, Esp between 6 and 12 wks as then when it happened on all pregnancies.

Thanks ladies for the support, AF has started fully now so I was a week early 🙄 helpful! Temp has only dropped 0.1 bit guessing it will keep going down now.
@LBee2020 we had three dogs when first LO was born and had no issues at all. We never excluded the dogs from the baby and included them from the start. They all absolute adore each other now. Same with our second, no issues. Let them have a sniff and a look at baby when you first come home and then give them lots of attention 😊

@Minster2012 our sex life is dire 🤣 I can count on my hands how many time we have had sex since the bfp 🙈 its been OH shift at work, and me going to bed early, or just too constipated/belly in pain 😆 but its so good when you do! My belly is better these days just a few stabby pains every now and again, but also a bit more energy as Im taking lots of iron on board, so will hit double digits this weekend 🤣🤣 Im 14+4 now, but no bump at all, so kinda forget Im pregnant once you're into it 🤭

Also need a dog shower. Mine also gets the cold hose in the garden bless him.
Todays 7:30am walk...

@blackcurrantqueen oh no hun do sorry. I've been there and it's so hard. Sending so much love and hugs to you, it's ok to feel the shittiest of the shit. ❤️😘

@Catherinettc totally get that, especially with a bit of blood there I would be terrified

@Franklydear I was going to ask you how you were feeling with work & school & everything now that infections are back up & more lock downs happening?

@Juno231 im about to make scrambled eggs at work too, mmmmmmm

@LBee2020 we had both of our dogs when we had DS but the young pointer was only 8 months old, so not ideal timing but was fine, we put Moses basket in a playpen so she didn't go careering around & knock it over onto tiled floor & as she could also reach up into basket (we know someone who's dog got put down after randomly grabbing their 7 month old off his lap & scarring her face but was an akita though 🤷‍♀️) we had a higher pram with basket higher for same reason & never left alone but they are inseparable now. The cockapoo isn't really fussed but he's got the patience, he will walk away if he's not in the mood for an annoying child. As soon as there is a growl (usually DS running around chasing them pulling a tail) we know dogs go in separate room even 2 years later now. There's no problem long as you are sensible

Ooo @Dsr87 yes I can go find him??

@2alreadywantanother yes it was on shagging after BFP and pregnancy. We did before (for MMC one) and know it's ok but I would be shit scared now so just wondering others thoughts/experience now we are all a bit wary!

Hi @Minster2012 what a morning! Managed to get him into school in the end, with the headteacher promising he can have light work and stay inside today, we will also pick up a bit early....
I am feeling more nervous, but we are in the lowest level and still low infection but raising, school is really good, the bubbles are really small, and they are constantly cleaning and making the kids wash, so far they have no cases, as it is getting cold and my asthma is starting to play up, in a normal non worrying way, I need to be inside more, but I have screens and washing facilities and a small team in site, so distancing is easy, we also had no cases, the bus is my biggest worry, but I don’t catch it at peak times and I change my route so I can use the less popular stops, so it’s not that busy, I don’t go anywhere else really and I only see a couple of friends, one is practically still shielding and the other one hcp, so gets tested every week, so all in all, coping, I don’t want to shield again, that was horrible, but I am not doing much either

@LBee2020 I grew up with dogs, @Minster2012 is right, you just need to watch what the dogs are telling you and letting them get to the point that they think they need to bite, until the child is old enough to know when to leave the dog alone

@Vil10 ah thanks lovely, I think I was just so relieved that the pressure had gone and we didn't have any performance issues I was happy enough with that, I didn't think we'd actually be in for a shot of a BFP. Definitely give the relaxed try a go, I found it nice not to obsess although I'm sure it wouldnt have taken me long to get back to it 😂 Oh can it not? Maybe my calculations were a little out x

@LBee2020 I've also been wondering this, my dog is like our actual child so I'm not sure how well he'll cope with a baby around 😬

@Minster2012 I am currently wayyy too scared for shagging, poor DH!! I also feel constantly sick which doesn't help but every little twinge makes me anxious currently 😩 x

100% @minster2012 dh will he getting hand jobs for a while if we get another bfp 🙈 I'm also afraid I wont enjoy or get excited for a bfp. As much as we want it I'll be shit scared it will happen again. But sure we have to get a bfp 1st before worrying about it

@Minster2012 family pumpkin picking and carving sounds like the perfect day! 🥰 enjoy lovely x

Lancashire is apparently moving to Tier 3 sooo that's my weekend plans out 👋🏻 x

@KateColx bet it was a lovely surprise though!! We manage to DTD every 2/3 days usually anyway so I think we'd be covered if I didn't track!! So sorry I meant "can" not can't!! Sorry!!x

@Vil10 oh yeah you're more than covered, ours needed to be a littleeee more planned 😂 haha with you! Yes I think so, I had spotting from what I think was 7DPO until just before AF was due. So definitely possible 🥰 I've got everything crossed for you! X

To those of you lovelies who already have children, did you get spotting in the first few weeks at all? The last few days I've had brown CM, only when wiping and not every time but it's making me anxious (I'm an over thinker at the best of times), I had the private scan on Wednesday and all was fine but I've had more since and wondering if I should be doing something about it? Google and MN searches aren't helping the anxiety 😂😩 x

does anyone have any opinions on the seven seas ttc supplements ? someone's recommended them to me to shorten my cycles but not too keen on taking anything so just wondered if anyone's used them. thanks 😙

@katecolx I had on all 3 pregnancies. Its not always bad and is 100% very common. Contact the epu for reassurance and get a scan. Hopefully its nothing to worry about x

@Juno231 yes thank you managed to do it last night. He knows the routine of every other day and was in a better mood due to him getting a new work pick up, fuel card and new pension as well as more paternity leave so he was very happy 😁. Although it says ovulation today I think it was def yesterday so hopefully, hopefully it’s enough x

@blackcurrantqueen so sorry to hear that, sending lots of love

@Minster2012 we haven't DTD since but we also have t discussed it so I don't know if he thinks 'whats the point now' or if he's worried about it. I haven't felt horny at all so haven't instigated. I might ask.him.later as I'm curious now! Will I just get no sex for.months?

Hi I'm new here. Month 2 of TTC. Can I be added? I'm due to test on 5th November 😊

@2alreadywantanother thanks lovely 💕 I paid for a private scan on weds and all was okay then but because it's still happening it's playing on my mind. Can I ring EPU even though I haven't had a midwife apt yet? X

Welcome on board @joanna1009

@katecolx 100% yes. I know here I just rang hospital and asked to be put through to epu

Brazil nuts question.
Do you just eat during the tww. Do I stop when af arrives or continue. Started today. Only eating 1-2 a day. They are actually nice. So munching on them won't be a problem. Should have got some ass juice too. Might try and pick some up tomorrow

@2alreadywantanother just tww as meant to help with implantation. Although if you enjoy them I don't see the harm in carrying on if just 1-2 a day x

@2alreadywantanother I dont think theres a specific time to eat them - just throughout your cycle!

@Joanna1009 Welcome! I've added you to the list :) Will this be your first?

@notyetamumbuttrying thanks so much xx

@blodyn91 @SarahTTC2020 @KateColx
really interesting on the sex question, thank you just intrigued that's all as I would have been up for it, & was totally after BFP before but then MMC & I think would be terrified now but DH was sex starved after no sex during 10 day TWW abstinence 🙄!

@KateColx I also phoned straight to EPU hadn't had midwife appointment at that stage, do it lovely

Another likely highly insensitive question. Sorry & sorry newbies if it's tone down straight away. It's baby loss awareness week & many of us have been touched by this & not spoken about it much IRL & said we wished we had. I'm tempted to put a pic of a lit candle (the wave of light 2020) which is the thing currently on my Facebook & insta. I could do this & not day anything as many ppl do it in support of others or actually say "breaking the lockdown silence, still believing in our rainbow". We have a candle I sent out to a few ppl to announce DS pregnancy so could link to that but do you think it's a good thing? Not asking for sympathy just acknowledging I guess that it happens & it happens a lot & ppl don't realise it. Like we've said before Facebook is littered with baby announcements I feel like I'm at a bit more peace now with being a bit more open & saying "look sometimes it ain't that easy for us all"

Thoughts?