The Full Cupboard of Pregnacare, Brazil Nuts, Grapefruit Juice...(No1 Babies Detective Agency pt4)

[nomoremagnolia]

new thread...again!!

We had to cancel. We took the decision today because we had only sold 10 tickets. I have not been able to work on it because I have not been in and it would appear that the good old bp did nothing either. But people were saying that the venue was a little to far out of Sheffield.

I am truely gutted. I really thought is was a brilliant idea.

Hiya BB good to see you Glad baby's still 'on board' Sorry about your ball - it is fab idea, hopefully you'll be able to revive it again sometime.

is a fab idea

I think it is a fab idea. Sorry that it didn't work out this time. Let me know if anyone feels like doing anything else that evening - I may be able to help!

Main thing is all is OK with you.

Toomuch - Oh sweets, big hugs. Never feel that you have to keep your head down just because others have been trying for x amount. Your pain is relative to you and you alone. There is no timeframe that dictates when you can get upset.
All I will say is do try to relax about it, the average time is 12 months - and without wanting to sound too bawdy - enjoy plenty of sex!!!
It's so hard waiting and not knowing. I hear you! There is no harm in going to see your GP, I was lucky with mine, she was a total star. Even if they don't start tests, sometimes it is good to talk to someone. Hang in there, flower, and we are here for you - rant away as much as you want. We understand ((hugs))

MT - It's amazing how long you tried and what you went through, I always think though (and I am sorry if I sound a bit mental) but if all those things didn't happen, you wouldn't have the same DS that you have. If you understand what I mean. A different egg and different sperm would have made a totally different baby, so the DS you have makes all that bearable I would imagine, as he is perfect.

BabyBratt - nice to see you, sorry you have had some bad things going on

Hello everyone else... how are you all

Ready - I agree totally. We have the most amazing ds - and he was really worth waiting for - even though it was 6 years (and lots of bad times). I also think that I might value him more than I would do if he'd turned up more quickly. Please note value, not love - I'd have loved him whatever, and can't suggest that I'd have loved any child less - but I really appreciate him and how special he is to me.

And I'm sitting here in tears, worrying about the pressure that we're putting on him, being an only child - and worrying about what might happen to him and how or what I can do to prevent anything - but not possible....

Oh no, don't MT - the way I am feeling at the moment, I will be howling with you Don't feel bad, even if your DS was an only child, that is not a bad thing. Please don't beat yourself up for things you cannot control. ((hugs)) All you should do is your best, and I just know you are anyway!! Sob.

Sorry Ready, didn't want to get you down as well...

... that's not to say that your DS will be an only child forever, just that it wouldn't be terrible if he was... I am rubbish at explaining what I mean... but honestly, please don't torture yourself.

I'm low enough on my own MT - you don't need to apologise. You are a wonderful mother - just reading the way you talk about your DS and the pride and pleasure you have in him shows us all how much you love/cherish/value him and he couldn't need for anything else.

(((ready/MT/toomuch/BB/nomore))) sounds like we need a big group hug (that's why I added myself in!) Sorry you're all down at the moment.

I could just do with getting rid of this awful cough. Basically been off work all week - although doing some bits and a meeting on Tuesday so not exactly totally off. Mostly at home though.

Went to accupunturist yesterday and as well as accupuncture have some chinese herbs to boil up. Will no doubt taste disgusting, but hope it will help to clear it.

((hugs to all of us)). Perhaps we should try starting a new thread and seeing if we can all be a bit more upbeat?!

Morning all - thanks for all the hugs and sympathy.. I think I'm starting to pull myself out of my depressive state.. I'm getting AF like symptoms already so although I'm gutted it means that no BFP - it almost resets the clock to a new cycle of hope - IYSWIM

Ready thanks for being so nice - I was just feeling sorry for myself I think..

MT big hugs - hope you're feeling better this morning - your DS sounds wonderful and you sound like a fab mam!! so never feel guilty!

BB hi - sorry to hear about your ball - I thought it was a really good idea too maybe with a different venue it will fly..

nomore morning and thanks for the group hug

everyone else.. hello

Dear all, you are so sweet! Thank you so much for your kind words, hugs, support and email (thanks Nomore!). You all have your own worries and yet you came to rescue my sanity when I needed you . That?s what I call friendship .

MT thanks for the link to the Jellycat range. I do like it! I got my god daughter (Jack?s sister) an upside down doll from it for her first birthday and it confused the life out of her! I definitely want to get the blue blanket with a star which Ready suggested and some stuff from Gap (if I can manage it without fainting at the cuteness of it all) and the elephant may be thrown in too .
Please don?t feel down about DS being an only child. We had this conversation in the TTC after MC thread as a few people on it were very down at the inability of giving their children siblings. I posted the point of view as an only child and I don?t know if this will help ? look for 12th Oct at 17:11.

I have also started on the Chinese herbs but I have them in capsule form so much easier but I?ve had to get a pill box from Muji just to make sure I?m taking the right ones at the right time .

BB I?m so pleased to hear from you and that your pg is going well. We need good news like that! But I?m sorry to hear about the ball being cancelled. Don?t feel too down about it though, learn from the experience, evaluate it and write it down for next time. With my fundraising hat on I can say it is a good idea and one you should not let go

Ready yes I am very pleased for my BF and I have yet to see any pics of the little man so no doubt I?ll cry some more. But my BF is a very matter of fact and at times formidable woman who I will volunteer to shut up about the baby/baby things if I?m feeling down. She knows she is very lucky. As for work I really hope it picks up. ?Cause I have lost all motivation to do anything other than think about TTC I don?t seem to be initiating any new projects and I am very bored! The conference in Glasgow was dull but a year to the hour of my mc I spent it discussing Persia and Alexander the Great with an Iranian academic. How surreal is that?

On a positive note I?ve signed up for a knitting course . Its three evenings at a local knitting shop to learn the basics. This is the first time I have done a practical evening class (formally I?ve done Italian x2; GCSE Archaeology, MA in Museum Management and a weekend course in photography with a lot of theory). Here's to an exciting world of knitting

I love these !

CD1

Still not convinced personally, but thought you might be interested in this as we discussed it recently

I thought of you all this morning over breakfast when I was sniffing all over this. In the interests of objectivity I thought I would share. Still think it is easy to pin the blame on something

B**r Ready, I'm so sorry to hear this

I fully support the article by the way. They should have dual entry in Nursery/Reception - Sept and Jan.

Have I made this up, but I am sure that some children started school at Easter when I was little

(((Ready))).

Re article - that's why (together with last year's 2 - 3 month worry post mc re poss mp) we won't be trying now until the new year. Ds born April - as he seems quite a bright spark, don't think that he'll feel 'young' - but if he was an August birthday and you were comparing him to September children the previous year, there would be a huge difference - that amount of time makes such a difference. I know the difference gets less as they get older, but its still likely to be significant at primary school - and that's where they learn how to learn which sets them up (or not) for secondary...

Sorry AF arrived Ready (hugs)

Good to have you back Gilly!

That article is very interesting.. makes me wonder whether to let myself have the next few months off TTC and try again in the new year.. mmm

I seem to have killed the conversation

p.s. loving the halloweed faces

p.p.s Gilly - very jealous of you signing up for the knitting course!! I wonder if there are any near me..

How was the photography course? I've always wanted to do one of those!