10th cycle - AF appeared, fed up!

[Anothercycle]

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Just to rant really if anyone else fancies a moan! I know people try for so much longer but I’m on my 10th TTC cycle, AF was a few days late so had my hopes up but now she has appeared and I feel so deflated.. everyone around me seems to fall pregnant on the first try or by accident. Trying to be casual about it is failing miserably.
Any tips on how to keep up the momentum when you feel low about this crappy journey?
Going to drown my sorrows and have a wine tonight!!

Hello @Anothercycle 🙂
I'm afraid I don't have any wisdom to impart here, it's only my 2nd cycle trying but I can already feel hints of what's (potentially) to come: the frustration, the disappointment, the false hope. The only thing I can say to you is in relation to this: I know it seems as though everyone around you is getting pregnant on the first try or even without really thinking about it. I thought that was the case too. But my best friend, who is due in a few weeks, reminded me something the other day that gave me some comfort. You NEVER know with 100% certainty the truth about how a pregnancy came to be. Women don't often talk about trying for a baby, it is still sort of taboo. Also, whether it's due to shame or embarrassment or a need to show-off sometimes (not in any malicious way necessarily), women tend to under-report their efforts behind conceiving. As for accidents, yes, they happen but very often the whole story would paint a different picture. An example of this is another one of my friends. She says she conceived her daughter by accident even though she has PCOS and is obese -her words not mine. However, when we talked more about it, turns out she was having unprotected sex with her husband for 7 years before falling pregnant! That's hardly an accident, is it?
I don't know if any of this makes you feel any better! I suspect you feel like nothing other than a BFP will make you feel better. That's perfectly normal! Enjoy a wine, maybe some chocolate, hold on to the good things you have in your life now and find in them comfort and strength to continue pursuing your dream. Friendly virtual hug and lots of baby dust to you! 🧚🏼‍♀️

@eloiseislost ah thanks so much for your reply! I know all of that is true it just feels like everyone else drops on, but of course it takes time for a lot of people as well the threads on here show that many people have had much more struggle than just 10 cycles! Feel better after I had a little moan 😊 wishing you lots of baby dust too best of luck on your TTC journey! Xx