Spunk me up! - Bus 18

[Juno231]

Come join us on our TTC journeys - all you need is a sense of humour!

Bus history:
June - 24 BFPs
July - 11 BFPs
August - 18 BFPs
September - 4 BFPs

Testing dates:
@2020mission - October 6th
@notyetamumbuttrying - October 6th
@Katao - October 9th
@minster2012 - October 12th
@nestinginNL - October 14th
@Vil10 - October 16th
@Franklydear - October 25th
@Juno231 - October 26th
@clairey844 - October 30th

@KateColx I really think is very cruel not to allow the father in the scans, my dh says the pregnancy didn’t feel real to him up to that point, when he actually saw it, as a woman you feel the changes straight away, but it is harder as a man in the first few weeks to make the emotional connection

@blodyn91 yeah I am angry at DH coz on weds after I tested he then went shooting, left me in tears & didn't even text /WhatsApp me or anything throughout the day to see how I was, then totally forgot about me testing yesterday. It's like I'm invisible but doing everything, struggling with 2 dogs & a toddler who doesn't want to move let alone another baby. He only has the mental capacity for work & his social life. I always whinge about it but it never changes, yet I have to remember the pills, the scans, the appointments & obviously us women obsess about it. 😑😩anyway. He's forgotten my CR scans before so Leopards/spots, etc.

I've booked myself into a spa tomorrow night & Tuesday night. I need time away to process things. I might as well be miserable elsewhere, he can look after his son & dogs same as he complains his employees "phone up with no childcare" (though my parents have him tomorrow).

But I love him & somehow we've just had angry sex. Biting and everything.🤭🤫

We've just had the first vague conversation of "what do we do, do we push for ASAP for another cycle or what, we did say we would try twice then use the last one with my friend again 😥 but can we afford that?" and I said "it's ok for you we are talking over Xmas here & it's not like you'll change anything"
God I hate this.

@Franklydear I'm soooo hopeful for you & not recommended at random but still ok
Right??

@KateColx tmwiuld totally do the same as you, and it's soooo hard for OH not to let in so absolutely xxx

@Franklydear it's so toxic isn't it social media!! I think I need to come off it for a while!

@notyetamumbuttrying isn't it frustrating!!

@lucyrp urghhhh I hate that!! Why are these adverts a thing!!

@KateColx yeah I think that's what we'll do! We DTD roughly every 2-3 days on a standard week anyway so I think we'd deffo cover it if I weren't tracking anyway!

@Newbie0818 we were the same!! Came off the pill and had sex constantly presuming we'd catch straight away, now I feel so naive to think that!!

@Minster2012 definitely, I'm not getting stressed about it yet not for another 5/6 months I won't be anyway! Still plenty of time!

@Minster2012 love the spa detox, we’ll see you Wednesday then, one saying on the autism parents : you can’t pour from an empty cup, so look after yourself, I am sure dh will cope

@Minster2012 weeeel, ok ish, thing is to get pregnant I should allegedly be 12-18 months without any flare ups, as most of my medication would be off limits, as it will stop baby growing, at the moment I am 3 months flare up free, but... (uncross your brows), in the last 8 years there hasn’t been a single year that would be ok, I am 43 so it’s not like I have time... the worst that come happen is that I get really ill and my condition has to be managed in hospital for long periods of time, on the other hand the best that can happen (it did with ds) is that the placenta produces more than enough oxygen for baby, so it also benefits me and I don’t need the medication I cannot have

@Vil10 I left social media, except for maybe 5 minutes twice a week about 3 weeks ago and I feel much better, I cannot delete it all together cos I have some groups than only give information that way, but much liberating

@Franklydear my saying is life is too short so mehhhhhhhh you go girl. Get some 🍆🍆🍆

@Minster2012 even though you have a good moan about him its pretty obvious here that you two are very well suited! Going shooting was probably his way of dealing with it, which is crappy because you wanted him there with you.
Such a tough decision about the last egg 😩 one for you an OH to decide on xx

@KateColx ive not even met my midwife yet and our first appointment is on the phone at 16 weeks! I was lucky that OH could come to 12 week and 20 week scan. So strange how every trust is different! I don't get why some haven't changed when the government has told them to

@Minster2012 we had the conversation the summer before last about do we want to gamble? there never is going to be a perfect time and we do want another and for ds to have a sibling, so we decided to go for it, pregnant with ds was the healthiest I’ve ever been, so hopefully we get a repeat of that, if not, it will be a few month suffering to get a very desired baby, it’s not like it could kill me... not in a country with good health care anyway

@blodyn91 yes you are absolutely right about us being well suited (though he is very numb to my emotional needs but like I say, leopard, spots) & I just chose to test on shooting day as that meant he was around for an extra hour in the morning not rushing off, I never expected him to stay at home, especially that particular day, he had been invited by his cousin to one of the most prestigious shoots in the country which happens to be just down the road from us owned by his cousins mate...he's never been, & he's always wanted to go, we were discussing today with our friend how ridiculous it is. So my DH was effectively loading for his cousin, he let him shoot one drive, oh man you don't even want to know how much it should have cost if it weren't a mates day. I spat my drink out. Anyway. Yeah we are well suited, he will cope!

@Franklydear totally agree with you, it's the same as put weighed up decision with all my medical problems it's scary but worth it. ❤️🤞🏻

Thank you for filling me in, @Katecolx and @Minster2012. That makes a lot of sense, as twelve weeks is indeed a long time to go without knowing how things are progressing. I can see myself doing the same, when the time comes, especially as OH will want that same experience.

@Minster2012 your OH sounds like my OH, they don't mean it but just can't cope with the emotional side of things. I always feel quite alone emotionally 🥺I'm sorry you feel like that during this time though that's not easy. We are all here for you though, you don't know how much I'm rooting for you to get pregnant. You take that time away to detox and bloody enjoy it xxxx

@Juno231 @blodyn91 you girls are actually magic with this temping! How did you know 🙈 took my temp this morning... 36.93 and as soon as I entered it fermometer changed my ov day to CD32! Praying ibe ovulated 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@KateColx im sure it will 🥰 have the nhs gone back to not letting OH in with you for your scans now ?? I remember someone telling me they were allowed again but maybe it's changed. Umm I'm not really sure to be honest but I guess it's more tests to check if there is anything wrong in there such as scans etc ? I presume theyd check for cysts and all that. Of course! Although this month the sex has been like two days in a row and then nothing for two days then two again then nothing which isn't ideal when trying to cover all bases but if I have ovulated on CD32 that would be great as we did it on the 4 says surrounding that date 🤞🏼🤣xx

@Vil10 rubbish aren't they!

@Minster2012 on another note I really hope you're ok I actually think about you a lot ( without sounding weird) which reminds me to check the thread 😂🙈 spa break sounds like a good idea, does OH know yet?🤭 yess to angry sex, that's always good. I remember OH and I having really angry sex one day and he spanked me so hard over and over again my bum cheeks were sore for ages after and I actually enjoyed it 😂 I know you'll get your baby somehow 💗🤞🏼

@lucyrp yeeeeees!!! And you are crazy covered DTD wise for CD32 👏👏

@minster2012 my OH is an emotionally dead lump and I know it very well yet still am surprised every time it lets me down. So I feel you! I'm glad you had angry sex though, I've never had that I don't think!

CD11 here btw - had EWCM yesterday so am pleased to know FW is here as planned :)

Why are men so rubbish!! It's ridiculous how like you say @Juno231 we still get surprised??!! Glad that you are on course with ewcm 🙌🏻though so into 🍆and it's sucks so much @Missgoldilocks the men are rubbish, I think I've actually got through to DH this time that I'm genuinely so upset with his lack of engagement with it. I can't stop crying, prob coz I thought it was real & I don't want to have to go through it again knowing it's the last we've got done. It scares me, & thinking I'm facing it alone.

@lucyrp whoop whoop I've got everything crossed it's ovulation 🤞🏻🙌🏻and it's your time

Morning ladies, so I've whipped out the frer and got my first ever bfp 🥳 took pic at 3min mark (IC was only about 2min) getting excited now, although I know it is early days, need the line to get darker! Hoping the wee bean sticks!

Waiting for DH to go to the bathroom to see it now 😁

Dh still looks surprised when I get sad for af coming, he thinks it will happen eventually, surely, I am not really sure what he’ll think if/when I say I want to stop trying.... and COVID is making it still less real as this year feels like a blur and Xmas is still ages away, when by now, we would be full on preparing for travel.

@Mrsbear1122 that looks great, congrats

@Mrsbear1122 Congrats! Fingers crossed for a sticky bean. How many days past ov are you?

@lucyrp that sounds like my kinda sex!! Though we've never had angry sex whenever he's angry he completely shuts down and can't event talk to me let alone fuck 😩😂😂

@Minster2012 good I'm glad you got through to him. This is a very emotional time I would be in pieces and would expect my partner to be as well! Xx

@mrsbear1122 Congrats!! Details please lol how long trying did you do anything different is there a secret to it hahaha