CSG (Thread 4)

[candycrush2298]

Continuation of previous 6 threads 😊

Thank you @candycrush2298 I really and truly feel so rubbish :(

@Boc86 I know but remember your emotions are not your own and the positive thing about feeling so rubbish means the progesterone is really working. You haven't had such high progesterone for however long meaning you haven't had strong progesterone symptoms for so long. And as any women will tell you progesterone has this lovely way of making us feel like total shit.

Hubby spoke to the doctor its low sperm count (12 million instead of 15 million) and low motility

@candycrush2298 glad you've finally had an answer. What can they do for him to help?

@Kaybobx gp can't say all she said was go for the second test in December and then they can refer us to the fertility clinic in the new year. Guess a gp can't do anything about it

@candycrush2298 there will be treatments for it im sure. How are you feeling about it?

@Kaybobx I am glad something is wrong just feel bad for hubby must be a definite knock to the ego. I truly hoped it was me that had problems. And I it just annoys me that the gp will only refer us to the fertility clinic after the second round of tests like if she had referred us now we could have been on the waiting list so long but now we will only be referred in the new year so our first appointment will be in about August / September next year. I just wish I never promised hubby to keep trying you know. Even if I am not really trying it or giving a toss if we conceive or not I have this cloud over my head knowing that we gotta keep at this and I have to keep testing opks for another year doesnt really fill me with joy you know.

@candycrush2298 could you give opks a rest while you wait for your appointment? At least you'd get a bit of a breather that way? Maybe won't see so daunting then? You have your ava so you'll still get your temps etc without any effort?

Ahh @candycrush2298 glad you’re getting answers
I’d also stop the opks for a few months and have a little break from them

I’m Already dreading doing them next cycle but I need to to know when to time bd

@candycrush2298 don't beat yourself up about it. You are both in this together. Your hubby sounds absolutely lovely so I'm sure we will be fine. I agree with the other girls, take abit of a break and just do some research together. It can't be easy for both of you but look on the postive side, the ball is rolling now and you've taken the first steps

@Welliedays @Boc86 because I suspected low count i already dropped BD down to twice in my fertile window I need to know when I hit peak so I can BD on the right day. Ava will become accurate with predicting ovulation in a few cycles so I am still using my clearblue monitor for now and opks until the opks run out. But I will continue using the cb monitor because I spent money on it. If we just have sex whenever hubby will know I am not trying anymore.

Temping is good to confirm ovulation after the fact so by the time my temps confirm ovulation its too late to BD so I cant rely solely on that.

@Kaybobx thanks hun, there are definitely positives and I am glad that we are starting to get answers. It just annoys me that it takes so long as if we haven't waited long enough already you know.
And yes hubby is a big softy and beats himself up really badly so I can only imagine how bad he is feeling and I already know he is going to say he is a failure and he can't give me kids I just feel so heartbroken for him because I dont blame him at all.
I am going to make a romantic dinner tonight and just spend some time with him. He might be annoyed that he isn't getting game time with the boys lol but think he needs a pick me up

@candycrush2298 awe what a lovely idea ❤ if it was the other way around we know how we'd feel. You may not have to wait as long as think, i know its hard but just try and stay positive.

Aww yes makes total sense carrying on then @candycrush2298 x

@Kaybobx yeah true it might be less time but just knowing it won't be this year and we would be well over the 3 year mark of trying by the time we get help annoys me. But honestly I am not feeling negative or down or anything its just how freaken long everything takes thats annoying but otherwise I actually feel kinda relieved because its like well OK now I know I really can take a back seat on TTC because I know we need intervention. So BD twice a fertile window is good enough to be classed as still ttc in my books when they ask us hahahaha.

@Boc86 yeah its just so we do it on the right days as we know now every other day or everyday is too often for him so I think twice in my fertile window is good enough hopefully for the doctors to consider us still trying haha

@candycrush2298 you are having sex, you aren't using protection and you want a family. It doesn't matter how many times you have sex each month, you are ttc as far as the doctors are concerned. You're even tracking your cycles so there's really no debate

@Welliedays thanks hun, that's true didnt think of it like that.

I’ve had such a horrid down day
I know this is only cycle 5 but ugh I conceived cycle ONE both times with my girls I just never expected problems

@Boc86 ugh sorry hun, it must be tough when you conceived the first two so easily. (Extremely jealous of you I might add) remember that anything can change our fertility, age, weight, partner and such. And if you think about it you did conceive quickly you just developed low progesterone which lucky for you got attended to and sorted quickly because you know what the issue is.

Yeah definitely think it’s aging 10 years that’s caused it x

@Boc86 the positives are that you now have the "cure" and as soon as you do conceive (still hoping for this cycle) it will equal a beautiful healthy baby 💜💜💜💜 when do you plan to take a pg test?

@Elakiya how are you??? How's exams going? You alright?

@candycrush2298 I am good thanks. Exams have now finished work is super busy at the moment though 😭.

Just saw your post about your husbands SA. I thought low sperm count and motility wasn’t too worrying. You were more worried about shape and shape is all good. I had a read of the nhs website. Here’s what they say

@Elakiya yay for exams being over. Awww know what you mean about work being super busy!!! Its mental for some reason. Hope you're okay though

If anything I was hoping it was morphology because that will fast track us to IVF. With this I already know its going to be exactly like in the pic you just posted try naturally a while longer with some supplements and then try this and then do that and then do this and each time its like do this for 6 months and we will see or do this for 6 months and come back and we will see like I said months ago its going to be years before we even see the list for IVF. If it was morphology next year this time we would be meeting with the fertility clinic to discuss ivf options.