TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

[VP91x]

Evening all 💕

BFP list

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@Pugprincess
@IWM20
@Lollol86

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@VP91x
@MrsK21
@MichT4
@Hayley19835
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Northernsoul90
@Firevie
@chloedancer897
@Happyvibes
@Bl0ndi3
@eclipsechips
@Will867
@Jazper
@susiebluebell
@Cici89
@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
@ladysamee
@Sully84
@LAcain
@gizmo167

If anyone else would like to join please do.

Xx

Used 2 tests for FMU this morning and both are negative 👎🏻

How did the other ladies get on with testing this morning? Fingers crossed! Xx

Morning all. How were any tests this morning??

@RichmondLady1981 hello! Lovely to hear from you, and thank you - still no sign! Exciting you are close to ovulation now, and good luck for some spiced up DTD later 🍆.
I think some do use the CB OPK twice a day at this stage as your surge could come later. Do you have any cheapies you can do alongside? If it was dark you could test again maybe using the CB?

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@VP91x hurray for ovulation so are you officially in your tww now? Sorry been busy and didn’t reply yeah bump is getting pleasantly plump lol it’s all going smoothly upto now and had it confirmed twice it’s a little girl 💕💕💕 so no more piss on my bathroom floors from stinky boys 🤣🤣🤣 xx

Sorry @MinnieMouse4. How are you feeling? When is AF due? x

@RichmondLady1981 I used cb in a morning then bought cheap tests for the afternoon/evening to keep an eye on levels it was my lucky last cb stick I got my static after 11 days of flashes xx

@MichT4 how’s that cute dog of yours still keeping you on your toes? 🤣🤣 xx

Hello ladies,

It’s been a while. Tried to have some time out for a bit. It’s been very difficult atm, was in a really low place last week. Feeling a bit better now.

@MichT4 sorry to hear everything you’ve been going through. Hoping your finding time for you and are recouping. Sending lots of love 💕

@VP91x yay to ovulation! 😉 buzzing for that!

@Sully84 I’m in the same position. According to CB ovulation tests I ovulated on CD11, I’m now CD35, no AF and negative tests. It feels like it’s on its way at times and doesn’t come. May ring dr at the end of next week if it hasn’t arrived. Just adds to our anxiety doesn’t it? Hopefully they both come soon or we get delayed BFP.

@MichT4 I feel ok about it although I was a bit gutted as I had dreamt I had a BFP. According to normal cycle length, AF was due Thursday/Friday but having had some information from @VP91x about luteal phase, it could be that AF isn’t actually due until tomorrow at the earliest. I do think I’m having AF pains now thinking about it. I won’t be too disheartened about AF arriving this time but I just don’t want to have an extra long cycle xx

@MinnieMouse4 sorry it was a BFN this morning but glad to hear you're not too down about it. Next month is our month!

@RichmondLady1981 I used the CB digi sticks in the morning and supplemented with cheapies at 2pm and 6pm to catch my surge. I got a peak on my evening cheapie the morning I got my static smiley on CB. I think some use the CB twice a day in case they get lots of flashies every morning but you may be ok using once a day.

@VP91x hoping this TWW flies by for you 💞

@Rb486 and @MichT4 hoping AF turns up for you sooner or later. @Rb486 definitely worthwhile getting your GP in the loop sooner rather than later

@Northernsoul90 thanks hun. I'm feeling fine about AF, I think this cycle would've been a long shot anyways with the Provera bleeding at the beginning as well and spotting through the whole of it. It must've affected my lining so I would have been really worried if a bean did implant with all that spotting. How are you feeling? Are your temps still high? Back to school sounds really tough but hoping you settle into the swing of things soon. Does make the thread harder to catch up with though when working in the day!!

@HappyVibes are you testing again this morning or waiting till Sunday? I'm dying to know how you got on! Xxx

@MrsK21 yay! For your static 😊 yeah I know, I just feel like they won’t do much? They’ll probably just say wait it out. Just feel like it’s so cruel... our bodies doing this after all we’ve been through. Why can’t it just be straight forward? Lol!

@Rb486 I'm in a similar boat with waiting for AF. The GP wasn't keen at all to give me anything to bring on a bleed, but because I haven't bled since a MC I am at least possibly going to get some help from EPU if it doesn't arrive in a week. I'm just worried they'll suggest a procedure to clear everything out when all I want is some Provera to bring on a bleed. It's so tough, and definitely adds to already high anxiety!

And thank you for your lovely message. I'm being kept busy with the pup and have distanced myself a bit from family who I used to talk to about it all more. But I actually feel better just dealing with it in my own way, rather than have people think they can judge how I feel

So sorry you had a low week - I've had some of those too. I hope you're feeling better this week and are looking after yourself

@Tink20058 keeping on our toes is an understatement. He's so naughty sometimes. But he's good more than he's naughty, just counting the days until we can take him out because I think he's just bored and needs stimulation/exercise.
How are you getting on? Must be getting bigger now?

@MinnieMouse4 I'm glad you're feeling ok about it. I'm totally with you though - once you know it's probably not your month, you just want AF to show. Hopefully won't be long, especially with some possible cramps. Sometimes I wonder if it's the power of the mind with us willing it to stay away. Once you know and accept it, AF kicks in. The same happened with me and both MC bleeding, where it was light until I had the MC confirmed, and that night it was full flow both times. Not sure why the same hasn't happened this time.

To be honest, after some advice from some of the ladies here, I am wondering whether this last one was still the previous pregnancy that hadn't stopped producing a tiny amount of hcg. I can't believe I wouldn't have bled when it was pretty much a chemical. Who knows.

@chloedancer897 what was your temp last night?

@MinnieMouse4 sorry it was BFN for you this month, I hope you're ok xo

@MichT4 I really hope you get answers soon, you're in limbo at the minute really 😞

Temp is down today but it's still high? So still higher than my pre ovulation temps by loads, I haven't a clue what to make. I did sit for hours last night and read all about BBT for predicting pregnancy and apparently it's awful for that so I'm not reading much into it 😂

@chloedancer897 yeah I think temps aren't great for trying to confirm pregnancy etc, unless you have a picture perfect cycle. What does your chart look like? Sounds like it's still nice and high though which is good

@chloedancer897 Your chart is looking really good with you temps still being so high! 🤞🏼 xx

@RichmondLady1981 Yes I'm teaching, this week has been really chaotic and I'm not happy in my current school (soooo much pressure from SLT) so feeling a little stressed 😰. How have you found it? I really hope you get your static soon!! I just use clear blue opks and have always just used them once a day with fmu and got a static that way - you can use them more than once a day though I think once they are flashing. I am the same during FW I feel that DH gets a bit sulky as he knows I only really want to dtd for ttc purposes 🙈 needs must! Xx

@MinnieMouse4 Sorry that it wasn't a bfp, I hope you are feeling okay 💖 xx

@MrsK21 Thank you lovely, I haven't been temping I stopped a few days ago because they can fluctuate so much I didn't want it to stress me out! Xx

Hello - I disappeared for most of August as it was a tough month, we lost 2 pets and I struggled with the thiught if going back to work when I should have been starting maternity. I’m trying to go back and catch up, but I have missed a few threads lol!

I’m currently 12dpo (cd26) but cracked for the first time in months and did a test that was bfn - so although I haven’t had my normal pre-af spotting this month that started post mc - I think I’m out this month :( which will make it cycle 9 since mc. On a plus if it’s that my hormones are finally back to normal and my af goes back to what it did before mc, it might mean I’m a step closer to being a mummy!!

@MichT4 I have tried to catch up as much as possible, but may have missed some bits - I’m sorry to see things have been pretty tough recently! I have always admired you positivity and that will always be there even on the days you might not feel it, and I really believe our time will come (although I hate it when people say stay positive and it will happen when it happens - we all know that, but I swear people who aren’t on the ttc journey should be banned from saying it to those that are!!) Is your little collie boy keeping you busy? xx

@VP91x How are you getting on with the scans etc - have they been happening quite quickly for you? I’ve been putting off ringing the Dr’s, but if af arrives in the next couple of days then I will, I know I fell pregnant in Jan, but to have then had 9cycles at my age I think they might let me start the process of investigating 🤞🏻Xx

I think I'm out ladies - 12dpo today and I'm cramping and starting with some a brown spotting. LP is normally 12, 13 days for me so it would line up for my cycle being back to normal at least as I ovulated when I normally would as well. Oh well onto the next cycle it is... 🤞🏼🌈

@Bellabubble Sorry that you had had a tough time recently and that it was bfn this morning. I'm 12dpo as well so we may end up being cycle buddies next time. It's still early though if af hasn't appeared you could be in with a chance! Xx

Hey @Bellabubble. Lovely to hear from you and thank you for your message. It has been a tough time, but I think mainly for the fact that once you know it's not a pregnancy, you just want to be able to move on. So this missing AF is just the bad icing on a shit cake 😂. I've no doubt it'll happen (well, I have some!) but at least if I could feel in the game then I'd feel like I was moving forward.
You're right, I hate when people that don't understand the journey say it, even though I know they mean well. But I do appreciate it when it's from someone here, and I know what you mean.

Yes he's keeping us busy. He's currently going mental with a bag that some bath toys came in, while occasionally eating the soil out of my plant when he thinks I'm not looking. He'll crash in 5 mins 😂

@Northernsoul90 sorry you are cramping and spotting. Might not come to anything but if it does, a nice regulated cycle as you say. How are you feeling? xx

@Bellabubble so lovely to hear from you again and sounds like you did the right thing taking a step back from here for a while with everything going on. I think giving our bodies time to heal if we are ready for that is really important and sounds like you are ready now for the next cycle. Fx for you xo

@MichT4 here is my chart so temps still high but not as high as yesterday (although I think they're all off from being on night shift). I am really enjoying the Ava. It's been keeping my mind occupied!

@Northernsoul90 sorry you think AF is coming, sounds like your cycles are very regular which is really good x

Still looks good @chloedancer897. And actually if you had a reason to discard yesterday's temp, they'd be pretty stable up there.
Glad you like the Ava. It's very simple isn't it. I know I'd forget to temp with an oral one

Good morning lovely ladies,

AF has literally just arrived for me today. So I’m having a little woe is me day & allowing myself all the feels. I have my appointment Monday which is timely as they probably need CD2/3 bloods - so will be perfect timing for that. I think I maybe needed this to take my head out the clouds a little& back into reality. &to also have a healthier balance with life & TTC...feel likes it fully consumed me the past month which isn’t healthy.

Anyway...a fresh new cycle, a nice hot bath, some munchies of bad food today, maybe a couple of sunbed sessions (lol) over the next week or so, a really intense gym session & maybe a few gins tonight.

Good luck to all you beautiful souls, you truly truly deserve it. Sending you all so much luck.

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Sorry to all you ladies that have had bfn and af has showed xx

@HappyVibes sorry AF has shown her face. It sounds like you have dealt with it well though, and I have to say your plans for the week ahead sound fabulous.

It's definitely good to keep living life as normal and TTC come alongside it. Every time I feel myself getting consumed I do need to have a word with myself.
You truly are a wonderful soul and your positivity to life oozes from you. It won't be long until you'll have to say goodbye to those lovely hot baths, I'm sure of it.

Sending lots of love xx

Thanks @MichT4 Being honest, neither of us have taken it too well. But we probably just need today to have a cry and feel sorry for ourselves before we can look at things stoically & snap back into it.

Yes, they’re all my little silver linings with the AF arrival & things that ordinarily make me feel good so it’s the little wins about AF arriving.

Off for a nice long walk and maybe look at booking a last minute holiday away to truly relax and recoup away from TTC. Xx