TTC after MC - Aug/Sept 2020 (Thread 12)

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Evening all 💕

BFP list

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@Niisa
@fafi
@2020wish
@Rebecca1992
@Beesy90
@Pugprincess
@IWM20
@Lollol86

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@VP91x
@MrsK21
@MichT4
@Hayley19835
@HE88
@Rainbowhope11
@Diorissimo1985
@Rb486
@Northernsoul90
@Firevie
@chloedancer897
@Happyvibes
@Bl0ndi3
@eclipsechips
@Will867
@Jazper
@susiebluebell
@Cici89
@Fingerscrossedfor2021HK
@ladysamee
@Sully84
@LAcain
@gizmo167

If anyone else would like to join please do.

Xx

@MichT4 I really don’t know what to do. I think I ovulated towards the end of dtd (which was 9 days ago now and 10 days dpo according to Flo) so I’m not sure a BFP would even show up now? I’m trying my best to keep it out of my mind and test when AF is late but the days are feeling so much longer when I do that!

I’m also confused about symptoms. I’m having lower back and side pains due to UTI which could be masking AF pains.

When would you ladies recommend I test? Xxxx

@MinnieMouse4 I keep getting UTI symptoms too. (I keep thinking it's because of all the DTD 😂). It's up to you. An early response test can show at 10-11DPO but then sometimes they don't work for some people like @2020wish and @MichT4 Also depends whether you want to test or just wait for AF. It's hard to know what's the best thing to do.

@MichT4 let yourself be sad sometimes. You need to process the grief too. It's worse to hold it all in. I had a moment too buying baby clothes for my friend. I had a sinking feeling I'd never be buying them for myself. It was such a horrible feeling. We will get those BFPs. I know you will! Xo

AF is due on Thursday and I’m expecting a longer cycle than usual so I may just wait and if AF hasn’t arrived by Saturday morning then I will test then xx

@MinnieMouse4 I got my BFP at 7dpo on a clear blue ultra early. And positive digital 10dpo. Frer never work for me always stark white like @chloedancer897 said x

@2020wish what is a frer? Xx

@MinnieMouse4 sorry, first response early response that many people recommend but they don’t show early for a few people myself included x

@2020wish I don’t think I’ve ever used one of those but it’s good to keep an eye out for them. I usually use the supermarkets own brands or the dip ones and then confirm with a CB xx

Just catching up on PST day of thread. @HappyVibes loving your positivity...hopefully some will rub off on me!

I woke up with period cramps this morning and had a good cry...some months I can just feel not so bad and pick myself up, other months it feels worse. Period hasn’t arrived yet but feeling it is inevitable now (whilst also holding on to that tiny hope until AF actually arrives).

I will WILL WILL finally get my act together to start losing weight and be the healthiest I can.

Reading what some of you have gone through feels me with awe at all your strength....can’t wait to hear of some BFP for you all x

@HappyVibes @Northernsoul90
Thank you both- am just currently on CD13. Im on cycle 3 and temping. Just started testing for ov as I don’t usually ovulate until day 19. Did LH test today and is a very faint line so I guess I just keep on testing until I suspect close to peak? I’ll do twice a day as things change quickly.

I’m using natural cycles app... anyone use this or recommend a better app?

Can I ask you all a question please? I’ve noticed EWCM today (I think!) but according to LH strips and previous cycles, am a few days off ovulation. How close do you all notice EWCM before getting your LH peak? Is it normal to get EWCM approx a week before predicted ovulation? Would be very interested to know your thoughts. You’re a very knowledgable bunch!

@MichT4
Thank you! Agreed it is much easier with ladies who have experienced the same and understand how I feel. Unless you’ve been through it, it’s impossible to understand.

@MinnieMouse4 I would always say to wait as long as possible (easier said than done I know! ) But I’d rather have the excitement and anticipation of a possible pregnancy than the disappointment of a test taken too soon.

@2020wish
I agree clear blue ultra early are a good choice. Got mine at 9DPO and was a good line.

So nice to chat to you. If anyone has any advise for a newbie (anything at all) I’d be very grateful.

Ps there are nowhere near enough emojis on here for my liking! X

@Sully84

By the way, I had sensations similar to period cramps before both of my BFP!! So hang in there!

@Sully84 bless you. Sometimes we need a good cry, we are all humans & we do need that release and to feel all the emotions is healthy. Your cramp like feelings could be PG, not AF?

@RichmondLady1981 sorry lovely I’m not the best with LH strips, I need the CBD just to ensure I’m on the right track. But with CM, it sounds like you are very much in your FW now? Are you DTD? Xxx

@RichmondLady1981 I've just checked Ovia and I recorded ewcm 2 days before I got a positive test on my last cycle which was the one I caught on xx

@RichmondLady1981 i got my EWCM the day before my LH surge, EWCM was cycle day 12 and Surge was cycle day 13 xx

Hi ladies, sorry I was AWOL this last week. Despite trying to be positive my first AF hit us so hard. Me and the OH have had a fair few tears coming to terms with it not happening despite being “extra fertile”. He was sure we were on for a winner and convinced it was going to be twins with all the positive post mc stories so we’ve been struggling with being officially back In the ttc club.
Anyone else had the crazy optimistic hopes first cycle post mmc?

Anyway, quick update, we’re about to start FW (based on pre mmc cycles) so here we go again!

Going to have a good read of all the missed posts now but hope everyone is doing okay.

@RichmondLady1981 welcome to the thread, sorry for what you've gone through but we're all hopeful that we will get our BFPs and 🌈 babies soon ☺️ you're absolutely right that this group is so knowledgeable and I've learnt so much from the fab ladies on here!

In answer to your questions I noticed EWCM the day prior and day of ovulation.
In terms of apps I really like Glow (paid for premium to get rid of the ads) and Fertility Friend was recommended by a few ladies on here. It's quite basic looking but it's really great for if you're temping.
Are you using Clearblue digital ovulation tests at all? Myself and a few of the others have found it's quite useful to do alongside the cheapie OPKs to help pinpoint peak days xxx

@LAcain I’m with you there. I am crazy optimistic at the moment but I have a feeling that AF is on her way and this is my first one since MC.

Please don’t be too down about it, you are still super fertile even after the first cycle. I spoke to my gp at length about being more fertile after MC and she told me that there is no difference in the hormones it is just that the lining of the womb becomes much thicker so that it is easier for a fertilised egg to latch on. I hope this gives you some peace in that you haven’t missed out because AF has arrived but I do understand and think I will feel the same when AF arrives for me. Xx

Hi girls, just popping in to say I'm currently cd2! A bit of a strange one too, was heavy and painful yesterday cd1 but today not really at all, I would be heavy first 2 days then taped off cd3 and 4 and then have another slight bleed before she disappears cd5 or so, I'm prob reckoning I didn't violate this cycle but then I think it's normally longer cycles with anovulation?? Aw who knows!

So there were a group of 6 of us in my work who were all TTC at the same time. 4 have had babies now and the 5th just told me she's pregnant. So I'm the only one left now. She kept telling me how sorry she was for me but I am actually really happy for her. I just feel like it's never really going to happen for me or it would have happened by now. My MC in May seems like it didn't even really happen. I'm finding it hard to keep going 😞

Morning everyone. Hope you are all ok this morning?

@chloedancer897 please don't feel like that. It's happened for the others and it will happen for you too. And because they've all bad their time, you'll know no one is going to steal your moment - that's the backwards way I looked at my sister being pregnant - I'd rather her have told me then, than her have taken my 'moment' and declared hers a couple of weeks after me. Have to search for the silver linings!
It will happen, there's no pressure to be in line with them, it'll happen in your time. And you're in your TWW now so you never know! xx

Morning everyone, hope you are all okay. First day back at work in a long time for me - not looking forward to it! I'm 8dpo today nothing much to report, temped this morning for the first time in a few days and it was still up (36.56 from 36.44 previous temp).

@gizmo167 What makes you think no ovulation? How many cycles is it for you post mc? Xx

@chloedancer897 Please don't feel down, I know it's so hard seeing others pregnant. I'm back at work today and am seeing someone for the first time who is pregnant and due around the same time I would have been. I just keep thinking just because others are pregnant doesn't mean that my chance has gone. You are still in tww so this month could be your time! 💖 xx

@chloedancer897 I know exactly how you feel, I always tried to think well someone has to go last 😩 it’s really hard though. Especially when there’s a big chunk of time it just makes you feel rubbish. In my 5 years I watched one of my best friends have 3 babies, another 2, my sister in law one, my other two friends 2 each. It was a lot. Not to mention someone at work that popped 4 out in a row. I used to joke that we must be doing it wrong. Hard to joke when actually deep down it feels awful. The tww is torture, one day at a time ❤️

@Northernsoul90 good luck with your first day back 🤞🏻👍🏻

Today is the first day we have some kids back. Half the class today and tomorrow then the other half thurs and fri. Will be interesting I think!

Love reading your positive responses @Northernsoul90 and @MichT4 I fully agree with both of your responses to @chloedancer897.

Some things are well worth the wait & it makes our journeys that bit extra special for that extra love and emotion we truly put into it. I’m a big believer in everything happening for a reason...& as Mich mentioned, we have to look for the silver linings sometimes to try & keep us afloat. It’s hard not to compare with others when we are at similar stages in life, but it’s not a race, it’s not a competition and it makes no difference whether someone has a baby in January or in October - they are all beautiful and precious. 💓💓💓

@HappyVibes totally agree. It's really hard sometimes, but the reality is that once it does happen, it'll be amazing. And as a lot of you said to me last week, somehow this will all become worth it.
I think it's so hard a lot of the time to think that it'll happen when the time is right etc but it's comforting to think that things to happen at the perfect time.

How are you today?

@Pugprincess good luck with the first day of kids. Hope you are feeling ok?

@Northernsoul90 great that your temps are still high. Good luck with your first day back. How are you doing?

xx

Morning lovely ladies. First day back at work for me too! Nice to have a distraction.

Thanks @HappyVibes
So after lots of recommendations- and from you started using a CB ovulation kit yesterday alongside cheapies. Yesterday was a circle, and today is a flashing face. So I guess I’m in my FW?

I have had flashing Smiles in the past that last a few days so don’t want to commit to DTD every day (I’ll be knackered!). Do you guys usually do every other day and then every day once you’ve reached peak? My cheapie is a tiny bit darker today but not much. I’m now CD14 and usually ovulate day 19/20.

@chloedancer897
Try to stay positive lovely. It will happen for you x

@gizmo167
Are you tracking temps? What makes you think you’re not?

@Northernsoul90
Good luck for first day back! I’ll need it too!!

Thank you @MrsK21 and @KatiePlus3 for the advice. I never used to keep a close eye on the smaller details but I’ll definitely be making more notes this time. It can’t hurt. I’ll try NC app this month and if I’m not happy I’ll look into your recommendations. Thank you so much!!

@Pugprincess Thank you! Hope all goes well with having some children back in... it's inset day for us today and then staggered start from tomorrow. How are you getting on? xx

@HappyVibes Your positivity is rubbing off on me! 🥰 how are you today? Xx

@MichT4 Thank you! I'm doing okay, trying not to symptom spot or look too much into anything. I had a lot of cm for a couple of days but that seems to have levelled off now - still getting some but not as much. Whether that means anything who knows. How are you? Xx