My first 2WW - anyone else?

[Paigey92]

Hello lovelies!
I’m in the middle of my very first 2ww, 8/9 dpo. It’s slowly driving me crazy and in my head I’ve told myself that I won’t test until 12dpo. I’ve had sore boobs and cramps for the last couple of days but that’s very normal for me in the week leading up to AF. Today my BBT seemed to rise again substantially, over a week into having my usual raised luteal phase temps. It’s the highest it’s ever been in three years of keeping track of my BBT. I know one temp doesn’t mean anything and I’m clutching at straws - like I said it’s slowly driving me crazy! Anyone else in the 2ww and want to pointlessly symptom spot with me? 🤣

Hello! Same boat 😊 First TTC, not sure how many DPO as didn't do strip tests etc and been irregular in the past. But 2WW now. Super nervous as has MMC a few years ago.
Been a bit crampy today which is unusual for me. But trying not to over think! (Of course, over thinking like mad anyway!)

Hi @Alala! Sorry to hear about your MMC 😢 It must make this wait even more difficult than it already is. And it’s so hard not to overthink every little twinge! Have you put any thought into when you might test?

Going to try and push it until a week after my missed period, so maybe first week of September, maybe around the 10th. Think my other half would be raging if I spent more money on top many tests, haha, so want to make sure the one will cut it.
When you thinking? (BTW new to this whole forum chat if I'm not doing it properly, haha)
And thanks. It took a while and sometimes still hurts and it's made us both over cautious now xx

Don’t worry I’m new to this whole forum chat thing too! I’ve been reading them but never get involved usually. It’s just nice to talk to someone other than DH as we’ve not told anyone at all that we are trying and sometimes you need that outlet to be able to get it all off your chest.

I need some of your patience!! I’m thinking of testing this Sunday - I will be 12DPO but that’s still a couple of days before my missed AF. I just don’t know if I can wait another full week! Although my DH will be the same as yours, I’ve already spent a fortune on vitamins, OPKs, preseed and tests! If it takes us a year to conceive we’re going to be bankrupt 🤣

Sending you lots of good luck wishes xx

Hello, okay if I join too? This is also my first tww, trying for first baby! I’m 6/7 dpo I think, but could be a bit out as wasn’t that exact. Have had cramps yesterday and today and a really heavy feeling in my lower abdomen, feels like a full bladder but is there all the time. Today I have a headache too. I don’t know what to make of any symptoms I’m spotting - I feel like I could just be driving myself mad and obviously have no idea what it feels like to be pregnant! Fingers crossed we all get lucky first time

@Paigey92

Oh don't get me wrong, I think in a week or so I'll be dying to. Think the 'being burned' thing before has knocked some patience into me, so wouldn't wish that on anyone!
Haha, we are the same. Not telling anyone. A few know we want to, so I'm sure they may guess, but even if all smooth it'll be keeping schtum until 12 weeks and the all clear!
Yup, we've got all the vitamins, even he's on the oul folic acid (Doctor told him to).
Count me as your waiting buddy then. Any symptoms or anything that's making you think it could be a BFP when you test?
I wish you all the luck. X

@MrsBmaybeBaby

Hello! Yes! Think we need a mini support group here. I'm sure all out heads will be carried away.
I'm the same as you, heavy feeling, few mild cramps too. Felt super light headed this morning. Also (tmi) but keep getting the feeling I've slightly wet myself but appears just alot of clear watery discharge, which is a new thing for me!

@Alala a mini support group would be good. Hubby thinks I’ve lost the plot that sounds positive for you, fingers crossed! I’m not getting much signals CM wise, which does make me think I may be reading into ‘symptoms’ too much. But also wouldn’t usually have heavy feeling/cramps. It’s so hard not to be constantly ruminating on what else this means

@MrsBmaybeBaby

Oh god, you should see my Google search history, what does this mean, what does that mean, could this mean that, could this mean that. The other half has already said I'm starting to obsess. He's not wrong. Just hope I'm not overthinking otherwise this is gonna be a very long period of my life until we do concieve. Think other half is glad to get a rest, he's convinced he's more tired from all the trying 😂😂 like I've stolen all his energy.
Have you been doing ovulation tests etc?

@Alala oh same here, obviously they have such a hard time of it making the baby and we play a minor role in the whole affair

Yeah I think we may have a similar google search history I have sort of done ovulation tests, I started out trying to ‘be cool’ this first month of trying and then ended out doing some, but it was a bit patchy compared to what I’ve seen others do on here. How about you?

@MrsBmaybeBaby No tests, just been keeping track of stuff on that app Flo. Would never have the money to keep buying them all, so thought it would keep me more relaxed if I didn't check that on top of everything else.
Trying to keep my cool. Near impossible. Don't want to get my hopes up for it to hit me hard at end of the month if oul Flo arrives.
Thought being on this app might help with venting thoughts so I don't irritate other half with the constant wondering. Bad habit of obsessing.
Didn't realise how unromantic and how quickly baby making becomes. Think by third day it was, okay, get yourself ready, let's get it done, haha. How about you?

@Paigey92 good luck with your test soon and hopefully you won’t need to spend any more money (well other than all the baby stuff ha ha )

@Alala I’m with you I’m trying really hard to tell myself it’s not happening. But then the annoying voice says ahhh but you don’t usually experience cramps etc like this, so what if? Talk about devil on your shoulder!

We DTD for 6/7 days in a row, roughly- before ovulation and during and maybe once after because I was feeling a bit uncertain. I tried really hard not to think about baby stuff during so it was still quite good, but it’s also quite surreal thinking of potentially making another human! It does become a bit purposeful and regimented, but I also thought the more you do it the more you kind of want to?

TMI doesn’t exist here ladies ha ha!

Welcome @MrsBmaybebaby! Of course you can join - the more the merrier! @Alala you are right, mini-support group all the way 😃
I’m so paranoid it’s going to take us aaaages to conceive. Don’t know why, always had a little fear about it at the back of my mind and as a result every 2WW is going to be torturous. Here’s hoping it happens quickly for the three of us!!
I used OPKs this month although got a positive on the first day of using - so clearly I’m ovulating much earlier than I thought. Luckily we had been getting on with it in the 2 days before if you know what I mean 🤣 And it was very unromantic - bloody blistering heatwave!!

Hi ladies, hoping I can join!

Now I’m typing on an actual chat it feels so real!
Hope you’re all well, and I hope it’s okay that this isn’t my 1st baby!

I already have a 18 month old little boy, but I never did the 2WW (for background, I have some cysts on my ovaries and other issues, so I was told I needed to crack on as in a few years I’ll probably be infertile) so we did just that and I fell pregnant within 2 weeks!

However I’ve got a feeling this time round won’t be as straight forward. I’m 6 DPO if I’ve worked it out correctly, the apps and everything are so new to me! And it wasn’t until we started TTC late July that I realised how much I want to be pregnant.

I was planning on testing on Sunday but having read your posts it seems that would be far too early (10dpo) shall I wait?

Hi @icouldwriteabook! Welcome to the club!
I feel exactly the same as you... it was a bit of a spur of the moment decision to start trying - we were supposed to be getting married this year but COVID made sure that didn’t happen! Plan was always to get married and start trying right away but we just thought ‘sod it, let’s not let it hold us back!’. Now I realise how much I actually want it!

From what I’ve seen on here people can get positives at 10dpo. But I’ve also seen lots of these people that get positives this early then go on to have a chemical pregnancy. I read that something like 2 thirds of pregnancies can end in chemical but most people don’t know because they miscarry before they even knew they were pregnant. Anyway; my theory was that if I test at 12dpo, that’s less likely to happen and hopefully it’d be late enough that an early response test picks it up! What do you think?

The more the merrier ladies! It feels nice to have a little safe space for this!
I know it's hard, but waiting until at least the day your period should arrive would be a bit more calming for your head. Getting pale lines etc make it worse. Then you start thinking is it, is it not, getting excited etc. Its alot easier if it can be a bit stronger but whatever feels right for you guys obviously.
Last year we tested early, got a few pale lines, got excited, (super nausea all the time), ended up telling people and then boom, nothing. Took ages to bleed. Noone could give me answers.
We've been doing the trying, not trying this for 2 years since a MMC, with no luck. We've been referred for tests etc now since it's been a while.
But close friends recently miscarried which made us realise we wanted to get our shit together and go for it properly. So both on a health kick, recording everything down, and going at it like rabbits (10 times in 12 days too much? 😅)
I can't talk to anyone else about it cause they either don't have kids and don't want them yet, or haven't been through it etc. Plus OH wants us to keep it to ourselves until we get it confirmed with a 12 week scan when we are lucky enough.
Looking forward to getting to know you all!

Wow @Paigey92 and @Alala you guys seem very cool headed about testing etc, well done you both! Teach me your ways @Paigey92 I didn’t know that about chemical pregnancies, gah, you spend so long trying not to get pregnant only to find out it’s an absolute nightmare to get pregnant !

@Alala sorry to hear that you’ve been trying for a while, it must be so tough to keep going and put a brave face on. I’m glad you’ve got your friend now to do these things with, the support must be helpful and needed ! Also you sound like you’re going for some sort of record with your 12 days ha ha good on you!

@icouldwriteabook nice to have you on board too! I’m not sure I will be able to stop myself testing either, but I’m going to try and take inspiration from these two ladies here!!! The not knowing is very tough. I hope your 2WW ends in another wee one!

@Alala I’m going to try and take your advice and hang on for as long as possible before testing! Sorry you’ve had such a hard time of it 😢 It doesn’t seem fair when it’s wanted so much and so hard to get! Fingers crossed for you this month. I’d really recommend BBT tracking too if you don’t do that already!

@MrsBmaybebaby I’m trying to be cool headed and sensible but the reality is I’m thinking about it every minute of every day haha! Have you got any symptoms?

I know I’m symptom spotting and all of these things could so easily be PMS symptoms but today I’ve had a really heavy feeling in my lower tummy, boobs seem to be getting more sore as the hours go by, back ache, and I just overall feel really warm! Felt pangs of nausea this afternoon but could well be down to pre-natal vitamins not agreeing with me...

@Paigey92 yes definitely got symptoms, hopefully not just of post ovulation progesterone! I have a really heavy feeling in my lower abdomen all the time too, feels like a full bladder feeling but definitely isn’t (it’s there even after the loo and it’s not right place). I’ve been getting cramps today and yesterday, felt like I was hot earlier today although hubby said I wasn’t, and have had a headache all day. One half of me is like no way can you have been so lucky first time/you’re just imagining it, and the other half of me is like this really does feel like a new feeling! I’ll try to be sensible with you too, I keep stepping away from the tests as I know it’s too soon, but it’s hard to keep strong eh!

Sounds identical! Also thinking, first time is surely not going to be a hit. Keep talking to myself to say, its okay, first month, of it doesn't work, keep trying.
But same, heavy feeling, few cramps, dizzy this morning. Tired.
I've agreed with myself, 5th of September. Can test then. Two weeks on Saturday. Have tests waiting in the bathroom, but got to resist. I need to keep reminding myself that finding out early doesn't guarantee anuthing, so it can wait. Urgh. Hard.
Anyone cut anything out of their diet in preparation? Everything I have is decaf now. Not a big drinker, never have been, but that's off the cards big time too.

@Paigey92 sorry about your wedding! But exactly, don’t let a bloody pandemic stop your family expanding!
And I think reading the other posts I’m going to try my hardest and wait Atleast a week now! Argh

I am so much more aware and worried and MC this time around too, I was much more chilled last time for some reason. I’m just constantly hearing stories of people having secondary infertility or miscarrying second time around. I’m not even ‘looking’ for it, but I’m trying to remain optimistic as I’m very early on with TTC.

I’ve had some symptoms but I’m not sure whether my mind is playing tricks on me as like I said I’m only 6dpo, I’ve definitely suffered with insomnia the past 4 nights (could just be shift work), along with bloating/heavy lower abdomen like you girls and also frequently going to the loo. Again all could just be normal, although my work pants are struggling to zip up with the bloating!

Fingers crossed for all of us!

**worried about MC

This can be like our AA but call it ETA (Early Testers Anonymous), if we get the urge to do it too early, come on here and we can support each other to wait 😂
I can't believe they never teach you properly in schools how difficult it can be to be pregnant, that miscarriages are normal etc. All they do is warn you not to get pregnant like you'll look at a boy and it'll happen. Think that makes it worse when we get to this stage cause we've only just be bombarded with statistics that it can fail, so it's alot to take in. Our expectations would be better levelled if we knew.

I do wish all the luck for you girls. We are in this together on this mental journey now!