TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 11)

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Hi ladies 🥰

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@DBTJ
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@Niisa
@fafi
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I feel like threatening to take pics and post on social media next time he does it! My fricking username takes on a whole new meaning 😑 FML

@Pugprincess sometimes things like that are just a step too far. I get wound up when OH does stuff like put his dirty stuff in the sink when the dishwasher is directly next to it, or doesn't clean the loo after using it. Makes me mad! I totally get why it bothers you, and you don't want to have to keep asking - surely not wiping your bogeys on the bed should just be something you don't do??

@Lollol86 yeah I feel like I needed to say it. Just sad as she was someone I thought I could talk to and it just shows what she's been wanting to say the whole time. Oh well, she's seen my message and not replied so I'll leave it with her xx

@MichT4 I know, I can’t believe I’m having to deal with these problems at 32. I’m out the bath and hiding in spare room. I’m going to get dressed and get lunch on at some point (just for me I’m not cooking him anything). I’ve left his clean clothes in a pile on his bed (I usually fold and put away but he can sort it himself-taken my stuff into spare room)

[quote 2020wish]@Pugprincess like actual snatters wiped on the bed an table? Get away. I’d expect that from a toddler not a man child. No way I would be livid at a grown ass man doing that[/quote]
😂😂 this message made me laugh. Not at the situation, but I could hear the disgust. 'Snatters' 🤣

@2020wish snatters, love it!😂

I’ve just been cooking lunch and he’s not even trying to say sorry. Just doing the awkward silence thing. I’ve had enough. Feel like walking out.

So I don't think I'll waste a test tomorrow. I saved SMU (hadn't drunk since FMU) and dipped one of the Clearblue early. I think there's a major squinter but it's questionable. Think I'll wait it out til Monday and just let the doctors advise. I don't want to keep kidding myself.

Come on AF, show yourself please!!

@Pugprincess I couldn’t be dealing with that either at all. I get it’s not divorce material but it isn’t right or fair on you in the same respect. Ask him
Out he like it if u wiped ur snatters (sorry lol) on the bed for him to sleep in. Flip I can barely deal with children’s snatters never mind a mans. Maybe he’s embarrassed and hasn’t wanted to bring it back up?

@MichT4 pic?? I still think u should test tomorrow waiting til Monday would melt ur head

@MichT4 I'm so sorry it wasnt a definite for you! How did the clear blue turn out?? I can only imagine how confused you must be ❤

He asked me why I was taking my lunch up stairs to eat and I said cause I’m not ok with you and I won’t be until you own up to what you have done, change the bedsheets and apologise!! Balls in his court now. Il be staying in the spare room until further notice. Nice weekend for me before I go back to work. Wonderful. I was going to dry my hair and take myself off to the park and just sit somewhere and read for a bit but it’s just chucked it down 😩 I could go see my mum for a bit though. Just been watching some episodes of younger in my new bed lol x

@2020wish feel a bit silly posting this as you can barely see it I think. But here is the one today. Given how light it is compared to the others I've had, I think it's a given what's happened. I'm just so worried now because I'm here thinking at least I get tests now I've had 3, but then I think how much more likely another must be. I just can't get them past any real progress 😢

@Rebecca1992 @DBTJ thank you both. I think it's not my time again, sadly. I just hope the doctors do something quickly as it's starting to take its toll I think. I wish I'd not tested because then I'd just assume it hadn't happened this month, and that AF was just taking her sweet time. On the whole I'm positive about everything but every now and again the weight of it is just immense. I'm annoyed I've come back from pure relaxation to this xx

@Pugprincess has he said anything after u told him that? Yes go get urself out of the house and see ur mum

@MichT4 I can see but it is faint, although wasn’t fmu. Look if was case scenario and it’s another chemical then hopefully It will help u get answers. I had three loses and not thankfully this fourth tome is sticking so don’t be thinking it won’t happen for you xx

@2020wish hes been up to apologise but still insisting he doesn’t know he’s done it?! I just don’t buy it and I told him that. He sulked off again so I’ve packed a bag with some snacks and driven to the local park for now. I doubt he even knows I’ve gone yet.

Whilst we are on the subject of annoying men!!! Top this one from last week!! He had to actually walk past the cupboard that the new rolls are kept in to get one from another bathroom then realised I had put a new one on the windowsill ready so he created some sort of tower 😡😡 my pet hate him not changing the toilet roll xx

@Tink20058 my OH does the exact same thing! Other annoying things he will do include dumping his dirty clothes next to the laundry basket, not inside. Leave toothpaste all over the sink, used tissues on his bedside table and dirty crockery on the side rather than in the dishwasher.
I wish there was some sort of house training school we could send them too 🤷🏽‍♀️

@MichT4 I can see the line too, didn't even really have to squint or anything. Really hoping your GP is helpful on Monday and your body does a quick reset xxx

@MichT4 there is definitely a line there, you have done so many different tests and I can see a line on the blue dye ones. Did you definitely get a negative after your last mc? Also the opk tests are really dark too which I can't get my around xx

@Lollol86 @MrsK21 @2020wish glad it's not just me. I know it's super faint but I'm just glad it's not my eyes playing tricks. I'll call the GP Monday morning and see what's what. I definitely got a negative after MC so it can't be that 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Tink20058 😂😂😂😂 my OH is so bad with loo rolls. And leaving the old tube just on the side instead of in the bin next to the loo. @MrsK21 yes to the dishwasher thing. I do not understand it. Then he tells me it's because he didn't know if it was clean or not - the dirty plates and dishwasher usually gives it away.
Then when it's clean he will ask where something is, take it out of the dishwasher but leave the rest of the stuff in there.

@MichT4 I literally have no idea, definitely speak to your doctor Monday. I'd imagine they would get you in for bloods ASAP? Xx

@Lollol86 I hope so! 🤞🏼

Afternoon everyone :)

Just been catching up on the thread!

@MichT4 Can't believe how different all the tests can be, that Tesco one is 100% positive and definitely a line on the CB early albeit faint, definitely get your bloods done from the GP for something definitive. Especially with that positive OPK too! It can't be a coincidence?

It's crappy that your sister wasn't honest with you from the beginning if she really felt like expressing how she felt, but it isn't anyones place to tell you when to TTC or anything. I hope you are ok xx

@HappyVibes Brilliant news about your static, that's a fab to get 3 flashies and then your static. Are you going to do 3 days in a row in a SMEP-like fashion? xx

@MrsK21 Fab that you also got your peak! Better get on it now ;) haha. Got everything crossed you this cycle hun xx

@chloedancer897 I'm loving your excitement over the AVA!x

@2020wish I also heard the digust in your message 'snatters' haha!! How have you been feeling?xx

@Pugprincess I'm not surprised you're annoyed that is so bloody gross. Men can be a bit like that a bit though I think, although obviously not acceptable. Hope he changes the bed and makes it up to you soon! x

@Tink20058 @MrsK21 omg, my partner does that too!! It is infuriating, he does the most ridiculous things sometimes, I don't get it at all. The dishes by the sink not in the sink (or washing them) is probably the most maddening thing. xx

Hope everyone else is all okay?

@Mommybear05 @Renna @Rainbowhope11 haven't heard from you all in a while, hope all okay?xx

Thanks @VP91x. How are you feeling today?

I’m buzzing for it, really weird why I’m so buzzing ha. Just excited cos I feel like this is ‘the one’.

So we’ve DTD every day for the past 5 flashies. Now we have the static we will probably do tonight, tomorrow day & tomorrow night? I feel like 3 days after the static would be a deffo no? Cos it’d be 72 hours after the static, but technically could have got the peak much sooner than when I did the test. If that makes sense?

What about you @Northernsoul90 @MrsK21 what are your plans?

Xx

@VP91x I know, it's weird isn't it. I can't believe they can all say different things. Ones getting darker (slightly), ones getting lighter and ones negative 😂😂. And of course a blazing OPK
I'll make a call on testing tomorrow morning but I might just wait. I'll get a definitive answer then I hope!

My sister really annoyed me. She's text me since but totally ignored my message. I just don't think TTC is something you can judge people on, especially after experiencing a loss. It's harsh and unnecessary. It's a shame the holiday fell when it did and I couldn't just be quiet about it. I'm fine though, just hate the fact people think they can say stuff like that, or that they are thinking it even if they don't say it. As you said, it's no ones place to say! Grrrr!!

@HappyVibes we wanted to do SMEP but I had some god awful spotting earlier in the week that put me right off lol Unfortunately means we missed the earlier part of FW and the peak sort of caught me off guard, was expecting like 6 flashies instead of 3.

So we did late last night (before I saw this mornings peak so hope it counts as one of our 3 in a row) then this morning, will do tomorrow at some point, skip Monday and one for luck on Tuesday is the plan. Hopefully OH and I remain friends after the regimented nature of SMEP 😆 it's been a bit hard on him and he said this morning he feels pressure to perform and called himself my sperm bank! If this isn't our month, next cycle will try a more relaxed but targeted approach I think but 🤞🏽 for now x