TTC after MC - August 2020 (Thread 11)

[VP91x]

Hi ladies 🥰

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@VP91x morning yes had a look online and most things look open and you can prebook the day before you go so it’s a bonus my boys love the swimming and not particularly bothered with the shows etc it’s great for Bell as age so much to do she will be shattered xx

@Tink20058 oh amazing, can't wait to go now! Definitely need to get her swimming booked in etc she will love that. Hope you all have a brilliant time 🥳 xx

@HopeForRainbowbaby @VP91x Thank you 🥰 it's weird it just sometimes dawns on me all of a sudden, I actually didn't have a bad day yesterday just felt sadness come over me at once. It's nice to know we all have similar experiences though - makes you feel less alone.

@MinnieMouse4 Welcome, I'm really sorry for your loss. I didn't get a negative hpt for 6 weeks after my mc and then ovulated a few days after that but it sounds like your hormones have returned to normal quite quickly which is good. Hopefully you will see a flashy tomorrow 🤞🏼 xx

Cd14 and 4th flashy for me this morning. I'm off to get my hair done for the first time since before lockdown so can't wait! 🤩 hope everyone has a good day!

@Northernsoul90 ah you'll feel amazing after getting your hair done.

Yes definitely, you are not alone in how you feel. It's just really sad that we have all haf to endure these experiences. One day soon we will be celebrating everyone's pregnancies I'm sure of it xx

@chloedancer897 so are we wasting our money then? xx

@HE88 I actually took about 6 a day because I liked them and the box said you can take up to 24 so don't think it can do any harm 😂

@VP91x yeah all good, had my one outing of the week last night with my two friends and their 6week old and 20month old (only to one of their houses) but I was standardly tired when I got back in 😴 working Saturday this week aswell so just feels like a long one. Why have you moved your appt back? And what did the Dr say about the blood results (sorry think I missed this) x

@MinnieMouse4 welcome and sorry for your loss, as the other ladies have said you will always get a blank circle on the first day of CBD and if ovulation is close you may have already had your oestrogen surge so it may not pick it up and then you'll go straight from blank circle to static smile. In regards to ovulation, I didn't track before I fell pregnant but my cycle length was about the same length, 1st cycle was a couple days longer than 'normal' but generally got my static on CD13/CD14 after that, but I had surgery and don't know if that completely cleared me out compared to a natural MC 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Northernsoul90 totally get that sadness, it may sound a bit silly from me now I've been so lucky to catch again but even last night with my friend and their babies I thought I should've been talking about getting close to the birth not worrying about my 12week scan and whether it will all happen again 😩 enjoy getting your hair done ☺️

@VP91x no we didn't do the steam train, that sounds fun though. We went on one before and Olivia loved it xx

@VP91x there's an American diner on site and they do the best milkshakes. Definitely worth a visit xx

So I’m on my third flashy this morning which is fabulous ofc. However, last month I had ten flashies before my peak, so I am mindful that we exhausted ourselves way too early & they didn’t even count as the sperm won’t have been swimming away happily and merrily at the time of ovulation.

@I’ve done a cheapie alongside CBD yesterday & today (attached pic). With the cheapies in mind, I am inclined to DTD every other day, seen as though there are no dark lines on them? Any thoughts ladies? Xxx

@VP91x I'm doing ok. I'm actually going through chemical quite ok as I know I would have not even known about it if not early testing and egg just didn't implant successfully. But I'm glad to know that i am able to get pregnant relatively fast so I hope a healthy bean will be there soon. But I'm more relaxed about it. I just say to myself I will be a mom in 2021, it is a matter of time. I'm CD 3 now and I can't wait ttc next week.
What is your typical cycle ? 28 is still within a norm.

Morning ladies

@MinnieMouse4 sorry for your loss and welcome to the group. I also didn't track ovulation beforehand but I think my cycles have gotten slightly longer since MC. Mine are irregular though so probably not a good indicator. I agree, hopefully today you might get something other than a blank circle.

@Northernsoul90 totally have days like that all the time. I just find myself not quite with it and my kind wanders. It sometimes feels so unfair how we are all here, it shouldn't be like this.
But I do believe we will all be celebrating our rainbow babies soon.

xx

@MichT4 how is it going ? How do you feel ? 😘

@HappyVibes that's really strange that you don't have any lines with a flashy CB. I'm no expert on these so I'm not sure why that could be. They do say not to use FMU with cheapies, so maybe a later in the day one will show

@HopeForRainbowbaby glad you are feeling positive. You definitely will have your baby soon 🤞🏼🥰
What CD are you now? My thought is that I'm having a chemical too but I haven't started bleeding yet so I'm worried it's going to really mess with everything. Seems weird I can have a normal MC and pass it quickly and with a possible chemical I'm not bleeding 🙄

@Northernsoul90 all the time, even though I am an pregnant I still get moments of thinking about what I should have been. Sending lots of love xx

@MinnieMouse4 so sorry for you loss, you will find lots of support here xx

@HappyVibes I would dtd every other for now until your get your static. Xx

@SmileyT 6 a day love it lol.

@Northernsoul90 totally get the sadness I feel sad quite a lot. My due date is next month and I'm really just not looking forward to it wish I could just skip next month. I also have 2 family members who are pregnant and due in October and all I can think about is that should have been me my baby would have been born before their baby. I'm really not sure how I'm going to handle when the babies are here and it scares me a bit. This group is fab though with everyone understanding what we are all going through! Xx

@HopeForRainbowbaby I'm fine thanks Hun, just in the limbo-est of limbos. I just want to know what's happening. I'm the same as you that I know it will happen, though I'm sad this could be my third now - doesn't give me great hope - but it would help if AF would come so I can reset
So glad you are feeling positive about things, it makes such a difference xx

Update for me... used CBD ovulation test with actual FMU for a change and still low 🙄 did a cheapie OPK and it's negative and the line isn't get any darker. It's CD16 for me so I reckon I'm in for a long one as last cycle I got first peak on cd17. Think I'll try the CBD again tomorrow and if it's still low I'm putting it away as I've wasted so many sticks already only have about 7/8 left! I'll just use the cheapie sticks this cycle after that and try and DTD regularly.

I'm coming to terms with the fact that it may not happen again super quickly for me. At first I felt desperate for it to happen again straight away but now the thought of it taking a few months at least feels okay I'd love to be pregnant again by Christmas at the latest though ☹️ .

I've been having weird cramps on and off since jt happened still even though zero bleeding for a while now. I am wondering if my body just isn't quite over it yet and it's gonna take a while to get back to normal.

Did anybody track their CM Their first cycle after MC before first period?

I seem to have loads more than usual. It was watery but now it's thickening ever so slightly and dunno what that means as I recall last cycle when I caught it was watery before peak and then we DTD a lot so didn't check it after that.

@SmileyT That sounds lovely! Oh, 6 day week 😩 - can you not get out of the Saturday?

I booked the holiday thinking it was from 18th for some reason but its from 14th 😕 my fault so had to push it back and next avail was 6th Oct. Blood tests still aren't back which is annoying, last time they were back within 24hrs but maybe it was a fluke xx

@Lollol86 I'll have to look into booking the train, ooh will definitely have to go there. Are the restaurants fairly well priced in general? I'm assuming you can just pay when you eat there if you don't get a dining plan?xx

@HappyVibes yeah definitely I would go for DTD every other day until peak where you can do two/three days in a row. Keep testing a few times a day with the cheapies as it can change fairly quickly xx

@HopeForRainbowbaby I love your positivity with it all and you're tight, you will be a mum in 2021 ❤️ I hope this is a lucky cycle for you. Yeah, it can come at anytime really I just hope it is not too long a cycle so I can move on xx

@MichT4 @Lollol86 Of course! I completely forgot about FMU not being recommended with cheapies. That may well be it! Lord, I will have to have no brew with brekkie and try again just out of curiosity. This is why I prefer CBD so much easier to trust and follow them ha. Just cba with the ten day flash situ again haha so thought I’d try out the cheapies out of curiosity.

@Mich you haven’t tested again for a while have you? You are way past AF window now aren’t you? You may still very well have your BFP next time you test, and may just have been later ovulation than expected. We’re you 100% confident on your ovulation dates?

Xxxx

@HopeForRainbowbaby @Northernsoul90 @MinnieMouse4 I relate so much to what you've written and honestly it does make it easier to cope with knowing that others have gone through it. And how common it is - I told my upcoming new landlady about my MC as she was finalising details with me on the day of the MC itself and I just had to tell her that I might not be as attentive etc and she was like 'Oh I've been there too, look after yourself', really sweet. It's the only thing that makes it bearable to deal with and hopeful for future baby beans isn't it

@Bl0ndi3 Also, where you haven't done them everyday then it might be finding it more difficult to give you your flashy smiley. Stick to your cheapies this month just so you don't feel like you're wasting the sticks, do a couple a day - early afternoon & evening. You'll catch any changes that way ☺️ xx

@Bl0ndi3 apparently you can get a lot more cm after a mc as you are supposed to be very fertile xx

@VP91x yes they were reasonably priced and you can pay whilst you are there. I would imagine you would need to book in advance especially because of Covid xx

@HappyVibes I've always used cb, my last cycle I used cheapies too but I definitely prefer fb so much easier and I find no guess work xx

@HappyVibes no I'm not confident of ovulation date. If my temps weren't showing ovulation as early as they are I'd say I could have ovulated later. I had so many positive OPKs, days apart, and I stopped checking once my temps went up. So I could have had another, but as I said, temps don't indicate that.
Based on when I thought I ovulated, AF was due Friday or Saturday but not here yet. Or any sign. I have loads of creamy CM still, and I think this morning I can feel stabby aches on my boobs but they come and go.
I haven't tested since Monday and I'll wait now til I'm home. I'm not hopeful, worried a half implanted bean is just stuck xx

@Lollol86 ah yes, that would make sense! Thank you ☺️xx

@MichT4 I really hope you are okay, bet you can't wait for Monday to find out what's going on xx

@VP91x ah yeah I'm fine! I'm looking forward to knowing but also feel so switched off here, so it's quite nice in a way - ignorance is bliss and all that. Will be good to get back, test again and try and get something lined up with the docs. Unless something unexpected happened with ovulation, which would be lovely, I kind of hope AF arrives before I get back or I'm wondering what on earth is going on!
How are you doing? How is OH doing re the pup? Xx