Our first month ttc our first

[rosiej95]

As soon as AF disappears, which will be soon 🤞 me & my partner will be ttc :)
I've been keeping an eye on my cycles for a little while using the flo app & have been taking pregnacare.
Is there anything else we should know or do to help prepare ourselves? :)
Exited to go on this roller coaster of a journey & as no one knows of our plans would be lovely to hear off people ttc too :) xx

@meganlea that’s super interesting! I would love for it to shorten without shortening my luteal phase - ovulating around day 14 would be a bloody dream 😂 I take pregnacare which has vit D3 and vit C in it which is good, but only 400 of folic acid and I recently read you should be taking 800.
I added in an omega 3 supplement this month because I don’t eat fish, and (potentially tmi here!!) have had ewcm last night and today which I never really get - not sure if there’s a link there but I’m not complaining as it did always concern me that I never saw any. Think I’m due to ovulate somewhere around Thursday-Sat this week x

@Amy259 ohh that’s good that is has all that in there already!! I’ve just checked the seven seas and it doesn’t have any vit c, it has vit d prep (whatever that means) but only a small amount! So I need to take them still then, I feel like a little old lady every morning taking my pills haha. And I don’t each fish either which is probs making me vit d deficient!

Ooo yeah the omega seems like it had made a bit of a difference this month then! At least you’re regular and know round about when O day is! Best get busy this week 😜 haha xx

@meganlea I’m veggie and kept reading how important fish oil (because of the omega 3) is for literally everything - your own health, fertility and baby’s development, so I figured I best start taking supplements haha.
I’m hopeful it’s nearer Friday/Sat because DH has a lot on at work this week and next and is travelling lots, so my best chance for fun dtd is definitely the weekend! Is af away for you yet?

@Amy259 it’s amazing what you learn about your own body isn’t it when TTC? I think I’ll probably continue taking these vitamins after having a baby if it makes me healthier ha! Yeah I’m definitely going to get some of that too then for the next cycle.
Fingers crossed it holds off a day or 2 then so it can be less stressful trying to fit it in alongside long days!! And yeah AF has pretty much gone this morning by the looks on things, CD 4 now so hopefully be in my fertile week back end of this week early next week fingers crossed. Knowing my luck the short cycle will be a one off and I’ll be testing 3 times a day for weeks 😫....hopefully not though but I’m determined to not miss the surge this time. Xx

That's really interesting @meganlea hope everyone is ok! I'm 9/10dpos and keeping 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

Xx

@beckyBP that’s exciting! How’s the tww treating you? X

@Amy259 driving myself crazy, as to be expected I guess 😂

How are you doing hun? X

@beckyBP bless ya, it’s the worst time isn’t it?! When is your plan test?

I’m okay thanks! Waiting to ov but DH just phoned to say he’s leaving work (3 hrs late) and has a hellish few days ahead so who knows if we’ll manage this month 😂 there’s always something... x

@Amy259 totally! I don't plan on. I have no tests here so hopefully I won't be tempted to go and get any.

Nightmare.. that ALWAYS seems to happen around ov doesn't it! I think I ov'd on the Saturday or Sunday and we did it both nights but Monday my fiancé had the most stressful few days (genuinely haven't seen him that stressed ever) so we didn't do it all that week. So let's hope my apps were pretty close with ovulation xx

@beckyBP they say before is better anyway! So even if you didn’t ov until the Monday or even Tuesday you’ll be definitely covered.

I just finished that book I mentioned and it’s written by a doctor and only has legit studies as it’s sources, and it talks about how most experiments show that when couples were told to only have sex once in the fw, only about 15% of successful pregnancies happen on the day of ov - the remaining 85% are all 2 days before or the day before. And not one scientific study has shown a single pregnancy conceived the day after ovualtion! The reason for the day of ov not being as successful is that the egg is probably older (6-12 hrs) before it’s fertilised as no sperm were waiting for it, and so unlikely to be healthy enough to implant and most that manage to fertilise end in chemicals. Here’s me always worrying about catching o day each month when really there’s no need to stress! X

@Amy259 wow that's so interesting! I'm definitely going to check that book out. Really good to know. Thanks for that doll xxx

@beckyBP how are you getting on?? Xx

@Amy259 hey doll.. I know I said I definitely wasn't going to test but.,

I took a CB early detection test yesterday morning. BFN.

I opened I afterwards just because I never have and was interested and it genuinely changes the result. To look at now you'd think it was a BFP. You have to be so careful with these things don't you not to get your hopes up.

disclaimer - genuinely only opened as was curious and know the 'new' result is invalid

I also had a streak of blood when I wiped yesterday but nothing since but I fully have the feeling of AF arriving any second (due tomorrow).

How are you getting on?

How is everyone else? Xx

@beckyBP did you use the digital early detection one or the line one? That’s so annoying about the bfn then opening it and it going to bfp... I say every month I won’t test early but always do, then go through this 3-4 day stage of bfns but still holding onto hope it might change - soul destroying!

Weird with the random streak of blood though? Could you have ovulated late and it be implantation or too far on for that?

I’m okay - CD20 today and still no positive opk, which is very weird for me. Normally I peak somewhere between 17-19 and have always ovulated by 20... so still waiting 🤷🏼‍♀️ BD this morning and I’ll try my luck tomorrow morning too 😂 hopeful I peak tomorrow because from from about 1:30pm tomorrow afternoon DH has a crazy work schedule (inc. nights) until Thursday, so I definitely won’t get another chance xx

@Amy259 it was the one line one. I wanted a FRER but they only had CB or cheapies!
I know, I guess that's why they say not to open them, maybe it's something to do with the air getting to it. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I think it's so much easier said than done isn't it. The TWW is torture!

Yeah literally a tiny amount and nothing since, not even like spotting. Think it was too late for implantation. AF is defo on its way! I've got that 'feeling' you know?

How frustrating for you! Good idea to get the BD going anyway though for sure! Yeah fingers crossed it's tomorrow for you!!

Eurgh this process is RIDICULOUS! I'm thinking I may try temping next cycle x

@beckyBP after my pink indent line last month I’m def not using FRER this month! The Tesco next to me has a pack of 3 early detection CB so I think I’ll get them. Yeah I know that af feeling, once I get that I just want her to hurry up.

It’s so frustrating because the longer i take to ov the less likely I am to know by Christmas Day - and either way I’d rather know by then so I can relax and enjoy the festivities.

I wish I had temped this cycle but didn’t bother, then I’d definitely know if I was still waiting to ov or just somehow totally missed it.

Yeah the whole thing is bloody torture!!! Xx

I’ve literally just spent hours reading the whole thread. I hope you don’t mind me joining in 🙈 it’s so lovely to find such a supportive thread.

I’ve been with my partner for 11 years (I’m nearly 27, he’s 27 already) and I have been wanting to start a family for about a year, I found out I have endometriosis last year which made me want to try sooner too. He on the other hand would have preferred to wait a few more years but understood how much it meant to me so we are now trying.

I promised myself I wouldn’t get obsessive over the journey but oh my gosh, it’s so hard isn’t it! 🙈

Currently in the TWW stage and I feel like I’m going crazy and can’t switch off or think of anything else.

I’m so glad I’m not alone.

Sending everyone lots of love and positivity 💛

Hey girls.
How are you all doing? ☺️
I needed a bit of a break from the ttc malarkey. I Really thought we had done it this month but then crashed back down to reality when AF showed up.
Was so nieve in thinking if you have sex loads you'll Time it... but turns out that's not the case for me at all 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 This ttc journey is pretty shit 😂 But... onto a new cycle now :)

Hey @Amyc94 it's so hard not to become obsessive 🙈 is this your first cycle?
Hopefully the 2ww goes pretty quick for you ☺️

@rosiej95

yes it's our first cycle and I promised myself I would keep calm, looks like that went out the window pretty quickly 🙈

I can imagine it's such a crazy journey and consumes your every thought

Is anyone else based in Essex/ Herts?

@Amy259 that's so interesting! I thought FRER were the best but clearly not!

Totally know what you mean about knowing and just being able to enjoy Christmas.

@Amyc94 welcome doll! It's so much easier said than done not to get stressed and wrapped up in it all isn't it. Is this your first TWW?

Hey @rosiej95 nice to see your name pop up and TOTALLY understand the need for a break. It's SO SO hard and just much more than we ever knew it would be.. I expected to be over half way through a pregnancy by now 🤯

AF came for me today and amongst other stuff (wedding/new job/house sale) I just feel totally overwhelmed. I had a little cry about an hour ago, had a shower and now I'm getting my shit together 😂

Being a girl is so hard 🤦🏼‍♀️

And the AUDACITY for AF to bring cramps when you already feel crap enough!

Hi girls! Sorry I missed some chat, it seems to only email me now when I’m tagged.

@rosiej95 welcome back! I hear ya with needing a break, well done for managing to take some time ♥️ I’ve tried before and just can’t switch off from it all.

@Amyc94 welcome! Seems like it’s already starting to send you loopy - you’re in good company here 😂😂 best of luck with your ttc!

@beckyBP ugh, af and cramps?! Just rude tbh. I hope you’re spoiling yourself today.

I’m now cd21 and still no sign of a pos opk.. so either it was super early and I missed it or it’s super late! So frustrating with DH’s horrible work week ahead, really hoped o day would be this weekend x

Hey girls can I join? I came off the pill in sept and we weren't really trying sept/Oct I just tracked my periods on Flo app to see as was on the pill for 10 years. Kinda more started trying nov and dec I bought opks and started trying to use them and now I am just desperate to be a mum and get that BFP. I'm due AF Christmas Eve/Xmas day and would just be the best Christmas present ever. My cycles have been fairly regular 28/29 days so far but don't really know if I even ov, used opks this month and did get 2 days with second lines but don't know if it was a peak or what. Did not realise there was so much to TTC and still feel clueless! Currently I think about 3dpo if I did ov, and on CD19. 🤞🏻

Hi girls x just to let you know I'm constantly watching this thread and praying for each and everyone of you to conceive very soon ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@beckyBP it is! I'm due AF on Christmas Day so we will see, would be such an amazing gift if I got a positive but I know it's only the first cycle so we will see!

@Amy259 yep! 🙈 it doesn't help that my partner has been away last night so I've just been sat thinking and wishing🙈
I have all fingers crossed that you get the pos opk soon🤞🏻 today I got out for a long walk, sat in the coffee shop, and then cleaned the kitchen top to bottom to take my mind off it, it actually really worked so I think I'm going to do a deep clean of a room each day this week. It's so hard to not think about it isn't it!

@justwanttobemum this sounds exactly like me too. I'm due AF on the same days. Wouldn't that be amazing. I used opks too this month but only on a whim when I thought I was ovulating according to my app, I had two days of positive too, I promised myself I wouldn't track the first month just to keep calm but nope. It's crazy how much there is to it isn't it! All the best with your journey 💛

Happy Monday!

@justwanttobemum welcome 💐 here’s hoping you get your Christmas present!!

@Amyc94 my biggest challenge every month is not driving myself mental overthinking. I lost my business during Covid so I’m at home all day whilst DH is at work and there’s only so much you can do to keep busy!! Start a new job on 5th jan so at least if it doesn’t happen this month I’ll be distracted from now on.

@RLou3 ♥️ Hope you’re keeping well!

CD22 and still no peak. It’s never been this late in the cycle! I wish there was a way of knowing if I’ve ov super early on like day 13 before I started checking (started OPKs on day 14 because every month I normally peak between cd17-19) or it’s not happened yet. Why is it never straightforward?!