TTC Baby no1. The crazy lot. Thread 2!!

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New thread!!

Please tag anyone else I've missed as I have a terrible memory

@stabal
@mia1985x
@lt103
@lma27
@pippy20
@leobaby
@faith82
@butterfly5291
@stepmumsw5
@lozz22
@beckyBP
@crayon7
@jadeb1995
@nellyk84

Hi everyone, I'm brand new to MumsNet but my DH and I are going to start TTC for our first baby this month. The plan was for us to start TTC this September but then with Covid, we weren't sure whether to press pause. We've decided to start trying now anyway, and I feel excited but also nervous! Most of our friends already have babies and pretty much all of them conceived on their first cycle! I've always felt we might have to try for a while as my hormones seem a bit odd, but I might be overthinking it as I've always just wanted to be a mum and I guess I'm trying to protect myself from disappointment. I'm currently on day 7 of my cycle. Just wondered if I can jump in on this group? :)

@stepmumSW5 I would have reflexology for sure. I've read about it being helpful for implantation. But I think some reflexologists are wishy washy about doing it so I would maybe speak to them. As far as I'm aware they're more reluctant if you're an IVF or IUI client so you should be okay!

@CharlieD2020 welcome! I'm glad you've decided to go ahead. It's totally normal for conception to take months even up to a year so I would personally start regardless of what's going on in the world. Fingers crossed it will be a short simple journey for you 🤞

@Stabal thank you. The information out there is so conflicting about it. But I will def let the therapist know. Xx

@stabal thanks! I feel good about the decision, now we just wait and see how the journey goes. Glad to be able to join in with this community and hopefully celebrating with lots of you on your bfps soon x

Really really teary tonight. Wish my OH was at home. I just feel so useless and damaged. I hate this journey.

@Stabal sorry to hear you feel so low. Is there anyone you can call to have a proper chat with? When is OH home?

@CharlieD2020 welcome! Are you clued up on all the TTC lingo? What are you planning to do to track?

@butterfly5291 probably not until midnight or so. My best friend is in a little happy new relationship bubble so I try to not bring her down lol. Just one of those nights I guess.

@Stabal I'm.sure she wouldn't meant you to be sat at home tearful though. Could you have an early night?

Hey all, I'm new to Mumsnet and sorry don't really know many acronyms yet (so please bare with lol). Me and DH started TTC with first baby last month. I'm 32, he's 34. I was sure I'd caught, but no...that two week wait it horrendous isn't it! This month been tracking for fertile window, using pre-seed lube and the ovulation kit. It's my fertile window ATM so going mad baby making!

@butterfly5291 OH was able to call me so I feel a bit better. Enough to settle me and hopefully get to sleep!

@Livvi2021 welcome! Best of luck 🤞🤞

@Stabal oh good I'm glad you are feeling a bit better..he'll be home in an hour and you can have a good cuddle and cry if need be.

@Livvi2021 welcome! I spent ages reading all the acronyms...still get confused sometimes! Happy BD (baby dancing...aka sex! )

Hi All
Sorry found u all on a random Google search while symptom spotting and have been stalking this group past few days.
Hope u all r well and hanging in there. I m having a hard time dealing with tww. I'm 31, hubby 32, ttc since Early this year. I've been feeling weird this month, had a tiny bit of spotting earlier, vivid weird dreams past few days, mild cramping, but no changes in boobs at all (sorry tmi). Af expected Thursday so just trying to get through this week somehow...this post has been immensely helpful and feels like family strangely so couldn't resist jumping in. Lots of luck and smiles to all.

@Manasvi welcome!! I love this page. It keeps me sane when I can’t speak to any of my friends about this stuff!! Yours signs all sound good so far!! Fingers crossed for you!

Hi, @Manasvi! You're right about that tww. I'm due AT tomorrow and currently have no symptoms and no bleeding. Yesterday I thought I was out, as I started to spot. But today nothing so far. Frustrating!! Just give me my period already so I can drink again 😂😂

@mosherchick seriously! I think I'm suffering from too much information..life was easier when I hadn't googled every possible symptom sigh! Fingers crossed AF doesn't appear! Else it's a here we go again cycle 😋

@LT103 I hope so too..it's crazy I think sometimes my brain just makes up symptoms of its own. Truly can't share this anxiousness with friends especially not DH...he would think he married a weirdo😂

Hi and welcome to @CharlieD2020 @Livvi2021 and @Manasvi so nice to have you all join the group and really hope some of us get our BPFs soon.

@Stabal so sorry to hear how down you were feeling last night 😔 you have been through so much and the recent news wont have helped. Are you feeling better today?

My temp jumped up then back down then up again today so the app moved my ovulation day by 3 days. I put them into fertility friend too so now between 3 apps I have 3 different ovulation dates Haha. Who knows what my body is doing this month. I really feel like it's not our month again anyways and I have that fertility consultation in a couple of weeks too.

Is it bad that I am slightly dreading my mini break this weekend. It's with my OH family for 3 nights but 2 of his sisters are pregnant right now and his brother and sister in law have a 3 month old. It will be too early for me to POAS and I dont want to drink but really dont know if I can face the ooooo you must be pregnant comments. Along with the it will be you 2 next that we always get. Obviously I am happy for all of them but the 1 that is pregnant started TTC at the start of this year and happened quite quickly and the other says it just happened and they weren't actively trying. Whereas this is coming on to our 20th cycle TTC and I'm just feeling a bit fed up with it and like it is never going to happen. Sorry rant over from me!

@Mia1985x thank you and It's entirely ok to feel this way...I too dread meeting any of my family coz of their constant ur biological clock is ticking comments. To add to it, my hubby is a twin so everyone is like u r gonna have twins too why aren't you expecting yet! Crazy world I know😋 I guess it will happen when it has to, we just make ourselves miserable waiting

Thanks for the welcome all! 😊 Bit of a frustrating one for me this month. Started using ovulation kit (OPK?) but think I started too late this month. Used the fertility window on my tracker, but I think I ovulated a good few days before this (noticed bodily symptoms, cramping, ewcm etc) so missed the window. Grrrr. We did BD (lol thanks @butterfly5291) day before, on and after I think I ovulated but missed the few days before, so a bit sad about that! We'd planned is so well too lol. Can I ask what's a bpf? Lol x

Thanks all. Still feeling a bit iffy this morning but not like last night. Probably the good old post ovulation progesterone making me emotional! I do tend to have crazy PMS and convinced I have PMDD but have yet to find a doctor that believes it's a thing.

@Mia1985x I hate this so much. I eventually just got fed up and was blunt and truthful when people started commenting. It makes them feel super awkward but they've made you feel awkward and upset so they can deal with it. My OH used to walk away when I did it but since the miscarriage he finally gets where I'm coming from with the anger when I'm (why is it always directed at the woman?) asked this shit. Try and have a good time though!

@Livvi2021 once you've been doing the OPKs for a few cycles you'll soon figure out when you personally need to be testing from. You've still covered yourself well so 🤞 BFP is big fat positive and BFN is big fat negative (pregnancy test)

@Manasvi omg the tww nearly killed me last month, we started TTC last month and I was so excited but didn't think about the tww. Worst. Time.ever.

@Mia1985x I'm so sorry that sounds so hard. I struggle lots too being around pregnant people and couples with babies etc. We only started TTC last month but I've been desperate for years. DH only just agreed to start trying last month though. I had last af literally the same day I was due to meet my brother and his one year old and prior to that I'd been so sure I was pregnant, it was so hard...also because I'm not drinking and they automatically think I'm pregnant and I just want to scream at them! DH has now suggested I'm not around babies when af is due just on case I'm triggered (I have to agree lol). X

@Stabal ahhh thank you! I was just hoping it would all happen straight away. I know life's not like that, but until you try you always hope don't you lol. Yeah never used an OPK before so guess it will take a while. A month is just just a long time lol.
So sorry you've been feeling crappy, I'm with you, it can be such a hard journey and can feel like a lonely one too xxx

@Livvi2021 I first started using OPKs about 4 years ago and it took a while for me to get the hang of it! That plus I have pcos so some months I had the same reading for weeks, it was frustrating! Thank you, I get so frustrated sometimes like what was different about March that I fell pregnant.. What did I do different.. Did we DTD on correct day.. What position were we in 🤦‍♀️ I drive myself insane! Then it's how can a dye stealer test that was so strong lead to a miscarriage. This forum, this thread in particular, has been so helpful and supportive!

Thanks everyone. I am actually considering just sending a wee message in our family chat ahead of the weekend. Just saying I wont be drinking this weekend but to avoid any awkward questions I would love it to be that happy news you all would assume but unfortunately hasnt happened yet. Leave it at that and surely they will all take from that we are TTC, obviously struggling to an extent and finally lay off the questioning/assuming/judging. None of them know we have been TTC. It's not that I'm really against telling people especially my close family but I just feel it would almost be an added stress/disappointment each month that it doesn't happen. He has such a big family too - 8 brothers and sisters! I mean I would happily have the odd glass this weekend or beer as I dont think that's harmful in TWW but you know what these things can be like and just feel like if I even only have a couple it will be picked up and commented on. Also why should we feel we have to have a drink to keep up appearances kind of thing, anyone else feel like this?

@Stabal how frustrating is it when doctors wont listen or take you serious. PMDD is very much a thing and definitely needs to be taken more seriously/more awareness and understanding.