TTC after MC - July/August 2020 (Thread 8)

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Hey ladies,

Sorry if I still don't have your testing/AF date on here xx

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@2020wish
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@HE88- 19th July
@Rainbowhope11- 20th July
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@MichT4
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@Hayley19835 thank you for sharing your experience that’s really helpful to learn that the second gp helped you. I absolutely cried when I was told to wait. I don’t want to generalise but the go I spoke to today runs the practice and I have a feeling she was thinking of overheads for referrals?? I could be wrong. But looking forward to hearing what the other go has to say xx

@Jazper thank you ❤️ You girls really cheer me up. I feel much better now. I think sometimes you just have to get it out of your system and I’ve been crying most of the day with af coming this month it’s a real bummer! But I can’t wallow. Don’t know if anyone else finds this but when I speak to hubby he’s so much more patient and optimistic than I am. He’s just like oh we will get there we have nothing to worry about. He is so chilled and it makes me feel my emotions aren’t justified xx

@Jazper by the way your dog is so adorable!!! 😍😍😍😍

@calimommy I remember the vomiting well! Hope you are ok. I am not breastfeeding now. I tried weaning with my son not so longer after my mc- it seemed like the right time for us as my mc made my supply drop and he seemed to be losing interest anyway. It took like one day and then it was as if he couldn’t remember ever breastfeeding (broke my heart but made thing easier). So I think it’s been around 4 months since I’ve stopped. This is my 5th cycle since mc and af is coming so I know what you’re saying- 17 months of
Breastfeeding and a miscarriage mean my body is all over the place. I did ttc while breastfeeding. Tandem feeding was the dream but it hasn’t worked out for me this time. You’ve inspired me to take my vitex out of the cupboard. I’ve popped one this evening haha. And maybe if I do conceive then like you I can take just the one a day xxx

Oh @Mommybear05 , my OH is EXACTLY the same!! He has no concerns. He is adamant it will happen. Equally though, he is sympathetic to my sadness. Sometimes I feel encouraged by his optimism and other times I just want to say 'how can you be so sure?!' It's almost like he's being blasé but I know that's not how he intends to come across.
You're right though, you do have to get it out of your system. My last two periods were a devastation for me. I cried uncontrollably on and off for days leading up to it. Strangely though, once it arrived, I felt relieved, the sadness went away and the optimism for the following month came through. I am due af next week and dreading the emotional turmoil 😢
I do hope your cycles regulate soon for you and the spotting stops xx

@Jazper no more breastfeeding for my son now. I’m 5th cycle post mc but af is coming so going into 6th cycle. And I stopped breastfeeding around four months ago. It stopped my periods until he was 13 months so I think I was one of those whose hormones are really affected by breastfeeding. You think you will conceive easily once you wean and that the breastfeeding is all that’s stopping you but alas it’s never that simple xx

@Jazper yes I think it’s good that they can be like that though(the men) as I think if my hubby cried and got emotional like I do we would both be emotional wrecks all the time haha. Today I said to him I don’t want optimism I just don’t want a hug. And that was the best thing he did for me. Aw you’re in the 2ww? Fingers crossed for you xx yes I’d keep saying it’s true every single cycle it gets harder and harder to wait and the spotting/ af is more and more of a kick in the nuts. But then you’re right it’s shortly followed by that strange feeling of optimism again thinking this is another cycle, another egg, another chance. My hubby says when we conceive again all this will be forgotten but I don’t think I’ll ever forget these feelings xx

@Mommybear05 wow no periods till 13 months is amazing. Even with round the clock feeding my periods come back a few weeks after.

@2020wish your cat is gorgeous! Those eyes!!

Thank you all for your help on the dog decision. I had my eye on a couple of potential pups. I might look into it a little more. @Pugprincess I think like you, id enjoy the reason to walk. I always want to go out walking more but find reasons not to, and it would force me to and probably do me good.
I think my biggest concern is the restriction and whether now it feels like it wouldn't be that bad because we haven't been anywhere. But once life gets back to normal (if it does!) will I change my mind. That said, we are planning for a baby so that's a pretty big commitment too 😂

@Jazper really useful things to consider - thank you!

@Mommybear05 yeah I've seen a couple. Same breeder/litter but different colours. They are gorgeous. I know it'll be comfort and great company, it's just a decision I could make so easily without thinking too much. Maybe that's the best way.

Also, with you on the OH thing. Mine is super positive and chilled which is great, I think it's best that way. It keeps me more positive. I think the same, if he was worrying I'd be worse. He broke down once when I was pg the last time, saying he was so scared it would happen again, then when I started spotting more, I was scared to tell him. I feel like one has to be strong and it made it harder when I felt like we were both struggling. Sounds selfish as I also don't want him to hide how he feels, but I think if we were both worried we would find it harder

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@MichT4 thank you :) I have two of them, plus a tabby and a long haired chihuahua lol

@MichT4 we got a TTC puppy nearly 2 years ago now after my OH found me sobbing in the kitchen. Never looked back. She's amazing

Oh my gosh @chloedancer897, so adorable! What's her name?

Ooh you lot have filled me with so much joy with all your furry friends this evening xx

@MichT4 we are lucky in that we have our in laws that love to have him any chance they get 😅 so he spends his days there when we are both working and if we went away we would leave him with them. We haven’t been away since our honeymoon in 2017 though. Had holidays here though and take him with us lol. It definitely gives you somebody else to care for and give love and cuddles to which I think helps when you feel like you have empty arms from all the ttc, mc and fertility issues. Xx

@MichT4 she's called Luna. We have 2 Harry Potter mad kids so we also have a cat called Lupin. She's a great addition to the family and the kids love her x

I know it’s super early guys but I am getting a faint second line. I just hope it’s something from a new pregnancy and not the old one but I was pretty sure there was no faint lines when I last took preg tests before ovulation cause I wanted to make sure I didn’t get this confusion between old and new. Just praying it gets darker. Me and DH can see it. I’m probably just going insane in the tww.

@MichT4 hope you have a fab break, hopefully some time just enjoying eachother and not thinking about ttc. I'll definitely get on MAFS this weekend 👌🏾

@Mommybear05 yeah definitely makes sense to see what the other GP says before you go private, I feel like it's just pot luck as to whether the Dr has sympathy for ttc if not I feel like the standard line is 'it's fine it's not been that long' ironically hungover feeling has completely gone now 😩

@Pugprincess ahh 🤞 it turns into a strong line for you in a few days xx

I'm really confused just done a cb and it's gone straight to static I didn't get a flashy face. What's going on?

@Lollol86 so the EWCM was a sign, it's peak time! It's great it's all lined up! So
If you can DTD today and the next two 🤞🏼

@SmileyT yeah I'm looking forward to that. It'll be lovely. My temp has shot up again, but as usual, not taking any chances, so will keep DTD. Can't not in a nice new setting!
Enjoy your nice chilled weekend. Your scan is next week now! Yay!!

@Pugprincess how many DPO are you? Fingers crossed it gets darker for you

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@MichT4 yea it's just really strange that I didn't get a flashy before this static which I always have done. I'm just glad it's finally here. So my next question do I start the calc Fluor today or tomorrow?

@Lollol86 any time! You can take it throughout your cycle so might as well start today!

@MichT4 I'll start today then. Would you just stop them if you got a positive pregnancy test? Xx

@Pugprincess how far past ovulation are you? Xx

@Lollol86 I think you can keep taking them because they are generally good for you. I'm not entirely sure though if and when to stop. I'm sure someone will know here

@ive just done a Femometer and that's still not showing peak, it's showing high at 51%

@Mommybear05
I will be in to my 6th cycle if af arrives next week so I get how long the road is feeling for you. I have always conceived with ease, I was convinced I would be well in to another pregnancy by now. It took until my 5th cycle to actually get my ovulation to happen when it would have done pre mc so just waiting to see if and when af shows now. Good going on the 12+ months of feeding by the way (fellow extended bf'er here too 🙋🏽‍♀️) I too didn't ovulate until 12 months bf'ing either so I think my hormones just go mad, like yours.
How long many cycles did it take for you to fall pregnant after your af returned? X