TTC after MC - July/August 2020 (Thread 8)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,

Sorry if I still don't have your testing/AF date on here xx

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa
@2020wish
@Rebecca1992

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@fafi -
@HE88- 19th July
@Rainbowhope11- 20th July
@HopeForRainbowbaby- 21st July
@Renna
@Diorissimo1985- 26th July
@Rb486- 30th July
@Wishingfornumber2
@Northernsoul90
@Sallyjo27
@bxiiboo
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Banbi
@busby85
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@Sjk89
@Emsnewmum
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@MrsK21
@Hayley19835

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I told myself I wasn’t going to lose the plot during this tww and I think I have well and truely exceeded myself 🤦🏼‍♀️

@VP91x aw thanks for asking, I'm doing ok, struggling with nausea most days but i know it's a good sign so trying not to complain too much. Just counting down till my scan.. There is a backlog in my trust so apparently the 12 week scans are mostly getting done at 14weeks at the minute. I had a big wobble around 9weeks which is when i miscarried last time but im doing ok now. Desperate to see more BFPs on this group , we are definitely due some more now!
@VP91x how have you been feeling about everything recently?

@Pugprincess You haven't! We are all the same it's just such a desperate longing and waiting for 2 weeks is tough! Hang on in there in another few days you will hopefully get your bfp 🤞🏼🤞🏼 and if not we are all here with you to go into the next cycle with pma! We can do this xxx

@1990EM thank you! He's lovely isn't he!? I've been in bed this morning googling puppy classes. I'm really excited, especially after talking to OH at dinner last night about it all.

And thank you all for your messages after I was worrying yesterday. I think it's just me to do that - I did it the first time I got PG as well, thinking about the ifs buts and maybes, but quickly realised it was so exciting and just what we wanted. I think it's just how I process things 😂. It will be as adjustment but I think the joys will outweigh any wobbles. Hoping to go and see him on Friday ☺️

How are you @1990EM?

@Northernsoul90 yeah I am fine thanks. Had a lovely day and night last night at our little staycation, OH is still asleep so I'm just enjoying the peace and sounds of horses passing the pub - glorious. My temps suggest I have ovulated now, so I think I'll stop OPKs unless I have another dip, which wouldn't be a surprise given the way this month has been! FF thinks I am 4DPO but I wonder if it could be 2. Either way I'm hoping I am some DPO!

How are you? xx

@Northernsoul90 yes had a peak once then they dropped to high and now a peak again so really confused. Just had a look on google and apparently you can get multiple surges before ovulating so maybe that's what happens to me? I did t drink for at least 2 labours before testing yesterday like suggested so couldn't have been diluted? Xx

@1990EM just seen your message on how you are so don't feel the need to tell me again 😂. When is your scan? Are you showing now? So exciting!

@Pugprincess please don't think you've lost the plot. It's a really anxious time, especially when you've had a mc, and it's not a surprise you want to know ASAP. Just try and think that the later you find out, the less of the early anxious days you have to endure. The next few days will fly by and you'll know your answer then hopefully. We are here with you like @Northernsoul90 says xx

@Pugprincess we are all the same don't worry! I was testing way to early and didn't even tell my OH because i felt so silly! Totally understand and really hope those faint lines start getting stronger this week. Keep us updated!
Anyone else testing soon?

@MichT4 That sounds lovely! I'm glad your temps have stayed up, hopefully that's it now for this month 😂 our bodies just enjoy teasing us I'm sure of it. It sounds like you are definitely past ovulation now. I'm good thanks I should be 9dpo today, I'm just going to take it as I ovulated when I got cb peak as I did get twinges and I'm not temping at the minute so I have to kind of have to go with what I know. I keep day dreaming about getting a bfp but trying to be realistic at the same time xx

@MichT4 @Northernsoul90 thank you ❤️

Hey @Blondecomment0703 welcome to the group and so sorry to hear about your losses. I know how you feel as I've just had my second consecutive MC but I am trying to remain hopeful that third time is the charm.
I know it's not what we want but the positive (if there can ever be one) is if god forbid, we are unlucky a third time, at least they start to try and figure out why.
As the ladies said, there is no reason to think there's a higher chance to mc again so hopefully it's just our bodies waiting for the perfect embryo.

Stay positive and talk to us whenever you want to. It's very raw at the moment for you, so take all the time you need to get yourself mentally and physically ready to try again. Fingers crossed it happens nice a quickly for you when you decide you are ready xx

@Northernsoul90 definitely take 9dpo! Any little signs or feelings yet?

@Lollol86 last cycle I had peaks for about 3 days after my first. My temp rose though and stayed there and I read that you can get a few days of peak. How big was your temp rise? I'd be tempted to stop OPKs if you have a sustained rise in temps xx

@Lollol86 Yes it possibly was diluted when you just got the high rather than peak. On the cb digitals the peak stays on for 2 days so maybe there can be some fluctuation but really once you peak that's pretty much it for 2 days if that makes sense? Isn't it all so confusing 🥴

I got a cb peak 10 days ago but wasn't doing cheapys and also wasn't temping to confirm. I got ovu pains for 2 days though so took it as I had ovulated. I then got pains again a week later so hope I haven't missed it thinking I ovulated when I didn't as we hadn't dtd as much since peak cb. Just got to go with it now though and pray that the second pains I got were implantation related 🙏🏼

@MichT4 I don't temp spots can't answer that. I'm on way to the beach so can't rest again until later. I will test later when I'm home and we will dtd the again tonight just to be safe. This is all so confusing isn't it xx

@MichT4 Not that I'm aware of no, I am extremely bloated but I have been consistently really since mc (and ive eaten too much over lockdown). I'm trying not to symptom spot and overthink things... I just hope that if it's not a bfp then af arrives because otherwise I'm going to have to contact my GP as I still won't have had a period since mc which was coming up to 8 weeks ago now. Fingers crossed there will be no need for that though 🙏🏼🙏🏼

@MichT4 no idea why is says spots should just be so 😂😂

@Northernsoul90 yes so I had a static smiley yesterday but was also doing cheapies alongside. This is my first time using cheapies and finding them really confusing. Hopefully this will be my month and won't have to worry about them again 😂😂 fingers crossed this is also your month aswell. Have you set a day you will test? Xx

@MichT4 thank you! I have been able to feel the top of my womb (fundus- is that what its called?!) The last few days in the morning when i have a full bladder so that's really exciting and somewhat reassuring. I'm definitely fatter but it's mostly bloat from all the ginger ale I'm drinking to keep nausea away 😂
I phoned last week because I still didn't have a scan date and found out they hadn't put my dates in right and have me on the system as over a week behind where I think I'm at.. so annoying.. so now I'm waiting for them to send me out a scan appointment hopefully for before mid August. but they didn't make any promises because of the backlog they're experiencing. It's a bit rubbish to get your 12 week scan at 14 weeks if I'm honest!! But seems silly to get a private scan now that it's so close. Wish I had done it weeks ago!
How are things with you this weekend? Do you reckon you're in the 2ww now? Xx

Girls can I have relationship advice lol I dunno if I have the right to be annoyed or its hormones.

So basically my partner works near enough 5/6 days a week on a zero hour contract cause he lost his real job due to covid. So I know he’s stressed and exhausted. And by god he is just one of those people that likes to help everyone!! I mean everyone so I understand he thinks he’s being nice but ugh

So he comes home every night at around midnight. So with me being pregnant and completely exhausted now Im usually asleep by time he leaves for work, and then I’m always in bed by time he comes home (I will see him some nights for like 10 mins when he comes up to room
To see if I’m awake and let me know he’s In and then he will go back downstairs while I sleep). So last time I properly seen him and spent some time was him was last Monday on his day off. I sit all day on my own cause all my friends are drinking and I’m trying to hid this pregnancy atm and they aren’t interested in drink free activities. I messaged him Yesterday hormonal and upset saying I was feeling down with anxiety and very lonely not seeing him Or anyone else and he replied that he was off today and we would do something nice. Ok so today arrives. And our friend has just opened a pizza parlour this weekend and asked would my partner come and help out between 4-9 delivering pizzas as he’s stuck.. my partner agrees and I’m fine with it as we can do something that day. Then no lie at 9am his other friend rings him upset that his car has been vandalised with spray paint and of course my partner OFFERS to come over straight away and help him out. So he’s rushed out the door in literally ten mins flat. So basically this morning he’s helping one friend out, then this after noon another; and by 9pm when he’s home I’ll probs be exhausted and back in bed again. I’m so annoyed that now he’s not off again til Thursday and feel that maybe our relationship and spending the day together should of been priority over rushing to his friends aids all day? I get hes doing a good thing as they have helped us move in the past but yea circumstances are different and we literally don’t see each other at all... I dunno.. am I over reacting being annoyed?

@2020wish I totally get why you are annoyed and I would be the same. I can guarantee your dp won't realise what he's done as he sees it as he is just helping out some friends. I would sit down and explain how you are feeling and you are really upset he's left you on your own again and you need to be his priority at the moment. Sending massive hugs xx

Oh @Lollol86 sorry I thought you said your temp had gone up? Am I imagining that? 😂

@Northernsoul90 I really hope this is your month, or that at least you get a nice reset after so long. Obviously we want the former though! We need BFPs

@1990EM oh my gosh that's so exciting you can feel stuff. I hope they sort your scan out quickly. I'd keep chasing them, tell them you are anxious maybe.
Yes I think I'm in my TWW but I've been here once before this month so hopefully this is it xx

@2020wish yes definitely sounds like you want to be the priority just for once and you are feeling isolated at the moment so even though you may have normally coped with it better it’s even more heightened. I agree with @Lollol86 and talk to him xx

@MichT4 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@2020wish I agree with @Lollol86 and @Pugprincess and I would totally feel the same as you. Definitely have a chat with him. Hope you are okay xxx

@MichT4 Thank you 😘 xx

@Lollol86 Normally my luteal phase is 12/13 days so af should be due on Wednesday/Thursday ish if she doesn't show I will test on Saturday/Sunday which will be 15 or 16dpo. I don't like testing early it just makes me really anxious so I try to hold out as long as possible xx

@Northernsoul90 you have some willpower, every time I say I won't test early but that never happens 😂😂. I'd list to get at least the time af is due before testing but I won't hold my breath xx

NEW THREAD

Ladies, just posting the new thread on here, will catch up on posts in a little while ❤️

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3984527-TTC-after-MC-August-2020-Thread-9?watched=1

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