TTC after MC - July/August 2020 (Thread 8)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,

Sorry if I still don't have your testing/AF date on here xx

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa
@2020wish
@Rebecca1992

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@fafi -
@HE88- 19th July
@Rainbowhope11- 20th July
@HopeForRainbowbaby- 21st July
@Renna
@Diorissimo1985- 26th July
@Rb486- 30th July
@Wishingfornumber2
@Northernsoul90
@Sallyjo27
@bxiiboo
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Banbi
@busby85
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@Sjk89
@Emsnewmum
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@MrsK21
@Hayley19835

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Just about to catch up on the thread since this morning but thank you @Renna, @Northernsoul90 & @MichT4 for your guidance on calc Fluor. X

@Lollol86 oh no hope you managed to work a bit more after the slime incident! X

@Wishingfornumber2 I managed to get a little walk done, gave up after a while it was just one of those days today. We met some friends this afternoon and went on a lovely walk. I hope your day has been ok xx

@MrsK21 @MichT4 @SmileyT @Lollol86 @Mommybear05 Glad I'm not the only one feeling like this ladies! I'm determined to start the day tomorrow with some kind of exercise and healthy breakfast to try and deter me from eating biscuits 🥴 fingers crossed

@Mommybear05 Don't apologise for letting your feelings out - it's a safe space for you to do so and why we are all here ❤️. What day would you be expecting af to appear? Maybe wait until af is due see what happens in terms of testing and then if no bfp contact your GP to let them know about the mid cycle spotting? Ttc really grinds you down sometimes it's very consuming and we all have days like this so please don't feel alone.

The weight comments are so insensitive aren't they, I'm already worrying about when I go back to work after the summer hols I know people will be thinking I've gained weight as I've not been into work since my mc. I'm dreading going back and dealing with seeing people I haven't seen since it happened. I'm just going to try and make some cut backs and do light exercise I think, nothing too crazy but I'm not sure how successful I'll be as I'm a bit all or nothing. If I'm not on a strict diet it doesn't usually work xxx

Ahh that sounds nice @Lollol86. I don’t work Mondays so met up with a friend for lunch with my 4 year old and then took him to a park where we got soaked in the rain! But was nice to be out. Back to working from home tomorrow so hoping he entertains himself while I work! X

@Stayinghopeful92x You're doing well hanging on in there! Sorry you will have said but do you think you ovulated this time? How many cycles since mc is this for you? Xx

@chloedancer897 I love your commitment 🤣 you will have to dtd stealth mode 😂😂 I can't imagine poas whilst camping but needs must! Xx

@Wishingfornumber2 that should say a little work done 😂

@Wishingfornumber2 you are right it is so nice to be out and I've really appreciated that recently after being stuck at home so much. Fingers crossed he entertains himself xx

@Lollol86
I wasn't sure if child minders were up an running in the holidays due to Covid so that's great that you are able to get a little child free time to get your head together and crack on with some 'actual' work from home!
The Polar Express is amazing by the way! Really worth the money. Re-watch the film before you go so it's fresh in your children(s) minds. So magical 😍

@VP91x
They do play nicely together, they are the best of friends actually. Don't get me wrong, they squabble but where they are so close in age they are still at the same play level. I've been so grateful they have had one another during lockdown.

Yey to being cycle buddies @Northernsoul90 😁 we can encourage one another to hold out from testing too soon. Unless you aren't a prolific early tester, then it will just be you encouraging me 😂
Also, I totally feel you on the lethargy post mc! I was a real gym freak when I fell pregnant, was running 10k+ fast and with ease and then the mc and lockdown happened and I just can't get back to it. I've put weight on and I'm unhappy with my body but it's like my lust for life diminished with the loss of my baby 😢 it's really comforting to know others are feeling the same as numerous have commented, so thank you for sharing xx

@VP91x so glad u left your appointment with a positive outlook and hoping u get your bfp before u go back 🤞.

@Pugprincess takeaway was delightful the other night. Just scrolled back to far there and caught the post with ur wee garden its beautiful x

@Northernsoul90 cycle 1 million 😂 nah its cycle 6 but feels like forever I had 2 miscarriages with previous partner in 2014 and 2016. And 2 with oh one in April last year then Jan/ Feb this year. X

@Northernsoul90 thanks ❤️ I know what you mean about seeing people. I found when you do see them it’s not as bad as you imagined xx yes the weight comments are insensitive I’ve had a few. Just discussed with hubby and we’ve said exactly what you just said. See what happens this month and if I’m not pg reach out to doctor. My app says to test in five days at cd 27. I ovulated cd 15 so expect a 29 day cycle this time. I know what you mean about the biscuit breakfasts- ditto! We keep eating them with a cup of tea each morning and it starts the day wrong. Have you ever had overnight oats? They’re amazing and I try to have them when I want to avoid the biscuits xxx

Evening everyone. We managed to dtd this aft so I’m guessing my peak will be about done now? Tested peak last night. Probably worth one more tomorrow. Think il be joining some of you in this infamous tww then. Praying we have done it as I know I’m going to be really disheartened and depressed if AF comes.

Healthy eating wise I was terrible before mc but this awful event spurred me on to make some positive changes. I guess in my mind it can only help things. But if you was doing all the right things before and it still goes wrong I can see why you would lose motivation too. I’ve personally not restricted calories I’ve just made healthy swaps and I still let myself have the odd bag of crisps or usually a pudding after dinner if I’ve had my 5 a day lol. Fitbit and being in competition with myself and friends is encouraging me to walk more. You can get apps on your phones that count steps or distances if that motivates you? Just some ideas ❤️

@MrsK21 🤞🏻 For your scan tomorrow

@Stayinghopeful92x thank you, it’s my distraction from all this mc and ttc. I love trying to improve the garden and home, my hobby xx

Just counted I’m cycle day 19 today! Usually my longest cycle is 31 days. So if I’m adding on 14 to 19 then 33 days this time? Unless I have to add them on from tomorrow incase I’m still in the peak. X

Haha @chloedancer897 you're a trooper for POAS and TTC whilst camping. Haven't been camping in so long. Are you having a nice time?

@Jazper yeah it must be nice to have them super close together. It must have been hard in the early days!!

@Stayinghopeful92x thank you lovely, how are you feeling? So sorry you're still waiting for AF 😩. Have you had any signs at all she might be turning up? Xx

@Pugprincess do you know if your luteal phase always 14 days?x

@MrsK21 good luck today, thinking of you 🥰

Oooh @MichT4 how was your temp? 👀 Xx

@Jazper yes they are open thankfully. Oh you have been? The film is definitely one of my favourites so I can imagine it's just a magical experience xx

@VP91x disappointing! It went up by 0.13 and that is in no way a spike.
Last month it increased over 2 days so I'll be patient. I'll also try an OPK today and if it's dark I'm going to throw things.
I really expected more 😂 and annoyingly I had a dream it had peaked more so when I woke up I thought I'd already done it, but no. Anticlimax or what!?

How are you today?

@chloedancer897 that set up looks so much fun, but I can imagine the difficulty of POAS and DTD in that environment! 😂 have a lovely time though

xx

@MichT4 also maybe skin temps wouldn't rise as much as internal temps right? Or be more susceptible to external factors? If you're last spike was over two days then that is still a rise 🤞

Yeah all okay, glad it is sunny today instead of the rain that was forecast last week. Xx

@VP91x yeah I'm not worried yet. I also might not do an OPK because really there shouldn't be any point, but I feel like I might if the opportunity arises.
It's weird because I woke up in the night feeling really sweaty, but never mind. All to be taken with a pinch of salt until a trend can be seen.

Yes it's nice to not have rain. I'm wfh again today so I got a tiny lie in, still feel exhausted though, fighting the urge to go back to sleep

Much planned today?

@MrsK21 good luck today xx

@VP91x yes pretty sure my luteal phase is 14 days xx

@Lollol86
We went in 2015 on the Wensleydale one. My girls were a bit young to watch the film and 'get it' but I'd love to do it again now that they are older. You've got me thinking now. Get what you are saying about Covid putting you off though. It's a worry.
We had tickets for Frozen on the West End for our 'Christmas thing' this year and it's been moved to April 😫😫😫

@VP91x
It was hard. I did it alone too 💪🏼 it was bloody tough but they are my proudest achievement.

@MichT4
Gah, your temps 😫 be interesting to see what your OPK does today if you take one.
Hooray to wfh though! I have to go in the office today and I'm really struggling to even get ready 😖

@Jazper I know 😭😭 I really wanted to see something more definitive today. This could just be a normal slow rise, maybe I'll ovulate today? Or maybe it's just first month post MC madness?

As @SmileyT says, it can only be really looked at after the month is out, or at least after enough days are logged, so for now it is what it is and I'll keep plodding on. Just don't know how much to keep DTD until I see ovulation confirmed. Think I'll go with when we want to rather than forcing it too much. We don't mind DTD a lot but it's much nicer when it happens rather than me telling OH we have to do it today.

So, I was thinking yesterday that I might chat with OH and decide on a lovely holiday destination for early next year. If it hasn't happened then we will just go somewhere amazing. It will give me an alternative to look forward to rather than thinking getting PG is the only option. I had a sudden land of guilt yesterday that what if he thought this was all I wanted otherwise I'm not happy. I know he wants it too, so we are both keen for it, but I'm aware of my emotional rollercoaster making it look like nothing else matters sometimes, and I think I need to change that.

Little random rant there 😂 but it just makes me really want to keep doing what we have and booking other things in. If we end up going with a bump then great, but there really are so many things to be happy and grateful for xx

@Jazper oh wow frozen at the west end sounds amazing, both my girls would love that. We got the girls tickets for Disney on ice at the o2 for Christmas last year, that was really good. Think I've been to Disney on ice about 5 times now 🙈 xx

@MichT4 I couldn't agree with you more. It's so important to have something to look forward too. This will also help you relax and not constantly think about getting pregnant all the time, and that will more than likely help you fall pregnant. I feel it's such a vicious circle xx

@Lollol86 exactly. I can't believe it's nearly August, and I just think with time going so fast, it will very soon be 2021 and I'm not sure I'd be satisfied with the memories made with OH and others if I look back and just think of a stressful TTC journey. I just know I have to shift my mindset. This month definitely feels better, I'm taking each day as it comes, but I know at some point I'll let it get me down and so I need to refocus my mind.

I might book Lapland for me 😂