TTC after MC - July 2020 (Thread 7)

[VP91x]

Hey ladies,
I'm missing loads of testing days, so just let me know your updated days if you have one and I'll make a note xx

BFP list❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@Ejb86
@Girlmum83
@Dipsy77
@DBTJ
@SmileyT
@ManchNic
@Niisa

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@fafi- 17th July
@2020wish- 17th July
@fafi- 18th July
@HE88- 19th July
@Rainbowhope11- 20th July
@GraceG26- 20th July
@HopeForRainbowbaby- 21st July
@Renna- 22nd July (?)
@Diorissimo1985- 26th July
@VP91x- 26th July
@Rb486- 30th July
@Wishingfornumber2- August?
@Northernsoul90- not testing
@Sallyjo27
@bxiiboo
@Pugprincess
@Jazper
@elliew818
@AC2020
@Eli2020
@littletandme
@MichT4
@Banbi
@busby85
@Re6ecc4
@Bellabubble
@Chickoletta
@Lollol86
@Firevie
@Sjk89
@Emsnewmum
@stayinghopeful92x
@chloedancer897
@Lollol86
@MrsK21
@Rebecca1992

Update from me CD20, 3DPO (I think) 🥰.. Nothing going on at the moment, will wait impatiently for the next week xx

@Mommybear05
Made me smile I am wrapping Christmas presents as we speak the things to fill time thanks crazy hormones and corona!!!! 😳

@VP91x heard anything yet? How's the spotting?

I am fine thanks, I am in the office today and I feel really anxious. I think it's because I am meeting my mum soon, and I'm telling her about the second MC - she doesn't know anything. I don't know whether to not tell her, but I think she'd want to know. I'll feel fine once it's done. xx

@VP91x There's only a corner shop within walking distance and they definitely won't have the Pom juice... may have to settle for mr tumble and in the night garden 🥴. Let us know what they say 😊

@MrsK21 Thank you! 🥰 I'm sure they will keep you busy! I'm trying to think of ways to entertain a toddler with the pouring rain outside xx

@MichT4 hope it goes ok telling your mum ❤️

I have stabby and slightly crampy pains this morn, had like one cramp yesterday too. Wondering if it’s things shrinking back down to size? Did any of you have this?

@MichT4 oh flip how lovely would twins be lol

@DBTJ no too afraid to ring at present. Promised myself I’d ring when I’m about 5/5.5 weeks. Have u? I know they are going to monitor my early but know they won’t start until I’m 6 weeks

@Pugprincess thank you. I don't know why I'm worried. I miss my OH today, and I think it's just because it's been me and him really, the only ones that know (and you lot). My sister and bro in law know but that's just been the norm, and now telling someone is like a step out of the comfort blanket of my OH. I want him to cuddle me - sounds ridiculous!

I haven't experienced the crampy pains after, could be gearing up for ovulation or something?

@2020wish you never know. But either way, a lovely reminder of a healthy, progressing pregnancy

xx

@2020wish I wasn't sure if I should approach them directly or through gp. I'm on edge everytime I go toilet

@MichT4 I hope so for the ovulation 🤞🏻 I quite like the pains cause it makes me think well least it’s doing something down there!!! Hopefully the positive preg tests will completely vanish soon. Defo stabby pains in my right side. Opk was neg last night tho.

I know what you mean I’m dreading going back school cause altho most people I told now know I just dread that first time seeing them and I should have been going back with a bump and now I’m flat x

@MichT4. hope u are ok, I would tell her so you have a bigger support network. Also when you do get ur rainbow baby she will know how much it means to you and can be extra happy and excited like u. I haven’t told anyone either other than my partner and my mum and sister .

My best friend and her sister who is a really close friend (she’s the one who has the same due date as me and is not 5 months where I should have been) I haven’t seen them since lock down. But they rang me there asking how I was and had I plans for my birthday this sat and could they call with their jammies on and order Chinese and have a girly night and few drinks (not the pregnant friend of course) I declined the drinks by making an extra for being on medication after the crash which they have seemed to have bought but dunno if u should confide in them and tell them I’m pregnant again when they call.

@DBTJ where I am it’s just a straight online referral you do urself and then ring epu to request and early scan due ur history. I know how U feel. I’m checking every couple of mins like literally cause I feel so wet down there and not many symptoms like I had before. Second mc I was totally oblivious and woke up to red blood and barely any pain so I just feel like I get no warning signs to mentally prepare myself if something starts to go wrong.. I’ve crossed one milestone with 2 losses already and now just to get to 7 weeks and I think I might feel better

@DBTJ how are you?

I would call them direct. When I did, they told me I had to be referred as they were only taking referrals, but it made the conversation easier with the GP as I told them EPU asked me to be referred - so they couldn't argue.
Yours might be different and you can self refer anyway. If you have the number, always go direct I think

@Pugprincess I thought the same with work. I hadn't told anyone, but the thought of walking back in after lockdown with a bump would have been such an amazing way to tell them all. Instead I just had my lockdown belly

xx

*now 5 months

@MichT4 Hope all goes well telling your mum, just think you will feel so much better afterwards. You dont sound ridiculous I have got like this with DH over lockdown like he's my comfort blanket or something 😂

@Pugprincess I don't think I had that no but hopefully it is your body readjusting and getting ready for ovulation 🤞🏼 will you ring EPU today about the positives?

Wow! Been away from this for a few days and on thread 7 and 35 pages in already! I have missed loads!

So pleased to hear about the newest BFPs and so sad and sending love and best wishes to all those who have had MCs.

I'm now in that weird area of waiting for AF to arrive after MC. Tomorrow marks AF day if my body has kicked back into "normal" cycle following MC (counting from first day of MC). So waiting with tenterhooks to see if it appears, but also know it might not arrive for another 2/3 weeks!

OH and I have DTD three/four times since MC - I haven't tracked anything since MC, so didn't use any OPK because I just couldn't bring myself to do it at the time, so no idea if I've ovulated or not. Don't know whether that was a silly or smart move, as I've got a teeny tiny hope that I might get lucky, and know that arrival of AF will bring a renewed sadness.

Also have trepidation about its arrival full stop - first one post MC and no idea what to expect should it appear!

Basically a bundle of ?%!# at the moment!

@2020wish glad I'm not the only one checking

@MichT4 I'm ok just on edge the first time I went a & e the second time I went tru gp. I might just ring them and see what they say.

@2020wish @DBTJ it makes me sad reading that - how much previous losses really do creep in and cause so much anxiety. But I know exactly what you mean. Last time I was worried to wipe, but wanted to wipe in the hope it had gone. It's such a shame that this exciting time is clouded. I really hope you can both find a way to set aside your anxiety a little so you can enjoy these moments. Reassurance from EPU will help I hope.

@2020wish, if you have an excuse not to drink, I would maybe just keep it to yourself. Although, as you say, it's all support for you and might help take your mind off the anxiety to have people to talk to. I think it might make it all feel more real and you can get excited. I haven't helped there in the slightest.
I think I would tell people, but maybe after I was feeling more confident (lord knows when that would be). Lovely idea for your birthday though!

Yes definitely probably best to just have small circle ⭕️ I think if I’m lucky enough to get a next time I would just tell my husband, you ladies obvs and mum and two best friends. I can’t trust my mother in law unfortunately because she can’t really keep things to herself. This last time she was off telling people that we know! We had msgs of congratulations and we hadn’t even done a 12 week announcement and I was already spotting so that really stressed me out and caused me to lose it with her. We’re ok now but I couldn’t trust her again.

So they said either a&e or through GP, GP it is then cause I'm not going to sit for hours on end in a & e.

I’d speak to my headteacher too especially if covids still going strong

@CasperFlamingo hi!!! Sorry about the mc but I have everything crossed that u have caught again!!!

@DBTJ it’s so frustrating... I forgot how anxious pregnancy is never mind after what we have dealt with

@MichT4 I know it’s so unfair how all excitement is taken away. Afraid to even look at anything pregnancy related.x but I am feeling a bit more positive that my hcg seems stronger than before. I’m in limbo to tell them or not.. it’s the whole fear of having to tell them I’ve lost again... but then I’m trying to be positive and maybe telling them will help me no feel like I’m sitting there hiding something... and anxious over that. I’ll see how I feel on the day I suppose

Thanks @Northernsoul90. 😂 the comfort blanket thing made me laugh...and I am exactly the same. What have we become!? 😂

@CasperFlamingo the wait for AF is bad enough on a normal month, but when you have no idea when to expect it, it's all the worse. Do you normally get signs of ovulation, and have you felt anything this month?

I hope AF doesn't keep you waiting too long, and if it does I hope it's for good reason!

@Pugprincess that's annoying about MIL. We didn't tell OH's parents because by the time we had a chance, we had the MC confirmed. I feel bad they don't know but it seemed unnecessary to tell them such sad news. My family is very close, particularly since my Dad passed we are even more so. So I told them last time, and glad I did - especially then when my sister got PG - she totally understood how I would feel. So I need to do this, just feel sick at the thought!

xx

@Mommybear05 oh I love your thinking, I'm definitely stealing your idea if I fall this month too xx

@2020wish thank you - fingers crossed!

@MichT4 I don't usually get signs of ovulation (or any that I have any awareness of!), and AF is usually bang on schedule. I tend to get a bit bloated before with faint, dull lower backache when it arrives - but those were also the symptoms I got prior to last BFP, so who knows!

I've already said that should AF arrive, I'm going to get back onto tracking and OPKs, etc. so I get a sense of normality and understanding over my body again!

Ah ladies well, it was AF just had load of red fresh blood, and getting all the cramping now. So thats a 24 day cycle!? I'm fucking devastated - what is going on!? 😭😭

@CasperFlamingo I’ve been saying this to my DH all along, pmt, preg and even some miscarriage symptoms are all so closely related it’s so hard to decipher

@MichT4 I can understand how nervous you must be about telling your mum, I haven't told her about my MC back in December I almost feel a bit of guilt but, I know how upset she would be so I just didn't say anything. I hope it goes okay and your OH will be home to give you a massive cuddle when you get in. ❤️❤️