Unsure- irregular cycle help

[Gingerandjasmine]

Hello!

I have been having cramps, nausea and fatigue for 3 days, feeling threatened by AF but having no blood or discharge and had a BFN this morning. DTD cycle day 8 and 26, no clue when ovulated.

My cycle can run between either 24 to 32 days. I am currently on day 28, so I am currently in limbo thinking either I am or I ain’t and I’m making myself stressed because I just want to know 😂 happy either way just want some clarity.

Anyone else in limbo or have any advice ?

No answers for you unfortunately, but if you're having a bad PMS spell it could be a few things. The first thing that springs to mind is low progesterone or high estrogen, stress, or even something like dehydration. Some cycles the body just goes a bit wonky and PMS decides to be a pain. Unfortunately without knowing if/when you ovulated it's hard to tell if you're "late" yet. Fingers crossed for an answer soon though! Are you currently TTC?

Thanks for your reply, you bring up some very good points I have been stressed and not drinking too much water recently (just gallons of tea!)

Just one of those things I have to wait for but feeling very impatient!

My clue app suggests I am due AF tomorrow and Guesses I ovulated cycle day 15, although I logged in cramping cycle day 13. Usually I know when I ovulate because of the discharge but I couldn’t tell this month.

Not TTC but both in agreement that what happens happens

feel heavy cramping and back ache but still no sign of AF

BFN this morning, still got this cramping tugging/ bloated feeling and some CM, feels like AF but no bleeding or any spotting. Cycle day 29, will test again on 33.... just feeling very uncomfortable whilst trying to work from home wish I knew what was going on

Similar here!

My thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3961988-Period-late-weird-symptoms-but-negative-test-could-it-be-false

Can I suggest temping? I find it useful even just for knowing what's going on with my cycles even if I wasn't TTC. Knowing when ovulation happens gives you a two week notice of AF and helps you identify if you are actually late or if symptoms are something else. Once we've had success in TTC I don't think I'll be going back to hormonal contraception!

I have a stack of cheapie internet tests in for when I think I'm too early to POAS but I also desperately want to POAS (I'm not wasting a FRER on what will be a no haha). It might help calm your concern a bit or give you some good news? The other guaranteed way to get your period to start is wear your nicest, whitest underwear. AF can never resist that one

@CC81 will follow your thread!

@PlanBea Thats a good idea, I will defo do this in the future! I think i will get some internet cheapies and a FRER just to make sure :)
As for white underwear, great shout!

What i have read online is that the cramping is periodic, mine has been continual for three days straight....

@Gingerandjasmine - Thank you - no one has responded yet, so I'm feeling a little stranded :(

I'm worried that my period is late for health reasons, which is a concern because I'm 38 and my fertility probably isn't the best. I have one child already (conceived age 35, first time we tried!).

But we have been TTC and I got a positive OPK this month, which means it's possible to be pregnant. But the test said no!

Could it simply be too early for a positive test? I'm on day 30.

@CC81

Dont worry im with you! I think periods are considered late after 30 days so maybe test in three days time? Just basing it on what clearblue website says. When did you last test?
I think im going to wait for AF but if no show on Cycle day 33 i will test again.

I have also seen online that some women say they test negative for weeks after period due! How annoying!

@Gingerandjasmine - Thank you. I last tested on Monday (day 28), with a cheap strip test... but as there was no sign of a second line, even faint, I have assumed it's just a late period.

I'm kind-of scared to test again as I don't want the disappointment confirmed! Think I'll wait a few more days and then try again.

Maybe I'm too quick to assume! But my gut feeling is that this month wasn't quite right... I had barely any fertile CM and I've been really stressed for other reasons.

@Gingerandjasmine - PS - I know what you mean about that feeling of a period being about to start. It's so annoying!

I had it the last two months, but early, followed by spotting before my period actually started. So it was really confusing. This month is therefore different... but no less confusing!

@CC81

Oh literally the same then! Tested today at cycle 29. I have also felt very stressed and I am on a diet so i have lost weight.. but in the last few months, I haven't felt this sick and crampy! I'm in a strange in-between of wanting to eat everything and nothing at the same time haha
Same for me with little CM

Hopefully, we can keep each other company until we know either way for certain, might do a Saturday morning test if no AF till then!

@Gingerandjasmine - Yes, I'm thinking exactly the same :) It really helps to talk with someone having a similar experience.

I find the uncertainty very difficult, in all respects - especially wondering if my body is working the way it's supposed to (or not).

@CC81

Exactly! Feels like i am not going insane haha

Uncertainty is never easy, hopefully time will give us it back!

-Still no AF

@CC81

Still no sign of AF, still got bad cramping

How are you doing?

Im resisting the urge to test!

@Gingerandjasmine - Haha, curiosity got the better of me! Used another cheap strip test this morning - still negative.

No sign of AF, except feeling a bit generally crappy. Wish my body would make its bloody mind up and stop messing me about!

@CC81

Yes me too! Just want to know haha
I have been reading too much online and it is making me more curious and confused. Seems like every site has their own idea of what women should feel and when to test, but there is no straight answer. Wish there was better signs of pregnancy that isnt exactly that same as PMS

@CC81

Still got these tugging cramps, been like 4/5 days of it... getting concerned if this is normal

Sorry to jump in. I could really do with some advice. I have pcos. Ttc 20 months. On day 3 of what I thought is my period but it's completely different to anything I've experienced! Hardly any blood, dark brown in colour. I've tested negative but could that be because hcg levels aren't high enough on day 3? I'm concerned because I was supposed to take my clomid tablet yesterday but don't want to risk it if this is a pregnancy. What do you think? Am I imagining things?

@EasterBunny7
Dont be sorry its what we are all here for! :)

How long is your usual cycle?

I can feel your support already, thank you .

It can be anywhere from 28 days to 41 days. I even had an odd one of 62 days .

The cycle gone was 'supposedly' 35 days. I say supposedly because of the weird, low flow period I'm having...

@EasterBunny7
Any time! :)

Wow that is a long gap in between, do you know when you may of ovulated? Ive been putting in all the cycle lengths i get into the calculators online for when you should take a pregnancy test which is based on the date of your last period and cycle length (like the Clearblue site)
maybe that can help you figure out when are good times to test? :)

Can you call your GP and ask about taking your medication whilst you have the possibility of being pregnant?

Got some brown spotting last night and this morning. Very watery looking and it’s brown with a hint of red. I think it’s AF making her appearance but will still do a test later today just in case

@Gingerandjasmine

fingers crossed for your test today

I tried out the calculators you mentioned - thanks! Not all of them work unfortunately, as they only go up to say 40 days but it gave me a ballpark idea.

@EasterBunny7
Aw thanks, unfortunately AF slammed open the door today, pretty rude if you ask me!
Going to through myself a pity party with watching a film and eating chocolate

Fingers crossed for you please keep me updated!