TTC after MC - July 2020 (Part 5)

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Hey lovelies 🥰🥰

So nice to have more names on the BFP list ❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@MichT4
@Ejb86

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@SmileyT
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@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@NightDreaming
@Renna
@Jazper
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@chloedancer897
@Bellabubble
@Wishingfornumber2
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@busby85
@Northernsoul90
@Lollol86
@calimommy
@Quail15
@littletandme
@Rebecca1992
@Sophj19
@fafi
@Re6ecc4
@Rb486
@Girlmum83

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@IWM20 my heart is breaking for you both, I am so sorry to hear this :( You're stronger than you know and you will get through this.
Please be kind to yourself and take all the time you need for healing. This whole process is so hard and it sucks that you're going through this again. I hope the next few days are as easy as can be for you in the circumstances xxx

Hey everyone, I had a mmc on April 15th, 1 day before my 12 week scan. I went to epu on the 14th with horrible cramping and bleeding at 5am and saw a nurse who checked my cervix and said I was probably miscarrying and I should come back later in the day as it was cruel to make me wait until my scan date. Went back in at 11am had my internal and found that the baby died at 8 weeks 4days. About 4 hours later everything came out and I had light bleeding after which lasted a few days. It took 2 weeks for a negative test then I had my 1st af exactly 4 weeks after my mmc, then I was put on antibiotics for a possible kidney infection a few weeks later but I think it was my body still righting itself. Been ttc ever since. I'm taking pregnacare original but think I'm getting too much iron so thinking about trying just folic and vitamin d. Wasn't taking anything the 1st time and got pregnant right away then went on it after I saw my gp. I kept taking it throughout the mmc upto now and it's taking ages to conceive.

@IWM20 I am so so sorry lovely. I hope you’re ok (as can be expected). It’s so horrible to be going through it again and I’m sending lots of love to you. I agree with @MrsK21, look after yourself and take it easy for a few days, or however long you need. We are always here for you xx

@VP91x yeah I probably will to be honest. Although I keep allowing my mind to wander to a dark place where I don’t get to that point. Silly really, need to be positive.

How has your day been? xx

@Lynz2020 welcome to the group and sorry you’ve found yourself here.
Give yourself time, it isn’t that long since your mmc, so don’t worry about it taking ages. Your body will take the time it needs to reset and I’m sure it won’t be long for you

@IWM20 I’ve been thinking of you all day and really hoping this wasn’t the update you would be giving. I’m so sorry you have to go through this again. Life can be very cruel at times. Look after yourself and we are all here for you xx

MichT4
Thank you, I think it's just frustrating and I'm a few months away from 36 so know it will be harder, my friend got pregnant a few months before too with her 1st aswell and she's due next month and she's mid 20s. Makes you wonder what's wrong with you.

@IWM20

So sorry you are having to go through this again, please take care of yourself xxxxx

@IWM20 I am truly so sorry for your loss . It is heartbreaking and cruel but you will get through this. Take time to look after yourself and recover and grieve properly. I hope you are okay (as okay as you can be) xxx

@Lynz2020 Hello, welcome to the group. I’m really sorry for your miscarriage. The whole process feels really long and drawn out but don’t worry about the time since your mc, it will feel a lot longer to you than it actually is. Wishing you luck in ttc and I hope you are doing okay xx

@IWM20 I'm so so sorry ❤

@MichT4 yeah I reckon I will give myself mini goals... first goal is to test at the weekend and work the rest out after. Glad the spotting has stopped now ☺️ x

@Northernsoul90 sorry it isn't a low as you'd hope but definitely going in the right direction and I'd imagine you won't have positives on tests soon x

@VP91x unfortunately some selfish girl at work broke her ankle at the weekend so picking up all her work and had to actually get stuff done 😂, but I'm off tomorrow for the hairdressers 💁🏾‍♀️ and having nandos for dinner instead. How was your day? Get much decorating done? x

@IWM20 I'm so sorry that this has happened again, sending you so much love xx

@Lynz2020 I'm so sorry for your loss, we conceived when we were actively trying to prevent in Jan and lost in March. I know it's hard but sometimes after a MC our bodies just take a while to go back to how they were and it can take up to a year for even a healthy couple so please don't lose hope xx

I'd already had a couple of days to come to terms with it so I was 95% sure that I knew what she was going to say. Life is just so cruel. I honestly never thought TTC would be like this and I really thought the first MC would be my last. I think I'm going to wait until I've had a period this time, last time I was so so lucky to catch straight away but I'm wondering if that was maybe a bad idea and also don't think i can emotionally do through all this again so soon. Thank you so much for all of your support, its so nice to have people that genuinely understand how youre feeling xxx

@Lynz2020 sorry you are going through this too, this is a really lovely group where you will get lots of support x

@SmileyT mini goals sounds so achievable. I like the thought of that rather than thinking in trimester chunks. I'll definitely use this idea when my time comes xx

@Northernsoul90 after feeling really sorry for myself earlier, I've decided I will be more firm with my GP when I speak to them after this 2 weeks wait for my period. If it doesn't come by then, I'm asking for a blood test at least to check my HCG levels have dropped to non pregnant levels as a starting point x

@IWM20 I'm so sorry you are going through this again sending love xx

@IWM20 I’m so sorry :( life is so cruel :( giving iou a massive hand hold x

@SmileyT @VP91x how much Pom juice are you drinking a day?

@MichT4 wohooo I'm glad ☺️ cheers to your healthy 9 months ❤️ I'm on 2 dpo and I'm already thinking... well I could test in one week ..where is my strong will.. lost in action I guess 😂

@IWM20 im so sorry dear. My heart goes to you :( I wish for you that Mc goes smooth and quickly❤️

@Lynz2020 thank you for sharing you story❤️ I'm sorry that you had to go through Mc. I wish you bfp ASAP!! How are your cycles after Mc ?

Thank you for the support. @HopeForRainbowbaby my cycle has returned to normal which has always been 28-29 days, af is due in a couple of days unless I get lucky, then it will be onto cycle 3 to try again.

@IWM20 so incredibly sorry, can imagine you're feeling beyond devastated right now. Look after yourself and get lots of rest. Sending you lots of love xx

@MichT4 after Friday's test if all is okay then you can have that next step to look to, step by step, ❤️ day is okay felt nauseous all day! Just about to go for dinner. Went to pick up Bella from nursery first and she didn't recognise me 😂😂 I had full make up on and my hair down. I'm forever make up free and a messy bun. How about you? Xx

@SmileyT so selfish!🤣 At least the day probably went quickly for you. Ooh yum!! Get your comfies and enjoy 🥰 no didn't get much done at all felt nauseous/hungover all day although haven't drank in a while! Starving now.

@2020wish I drink a large glass! About 200-250ml I'd say xx

@MrsK21 Definitely, it can be hard sometimes being firm with your doctor but you want answers. Sorry I know you will have already said in previous threads but did you miscarry naturally? xxx

@SmileyT good idea!! I will do the same I think when I get a bfp 🤞🏼. It’s a good way to get through the first trimester xx

@VP91x yeah that’s a good idea. I like @SmileyT’s idea of the mini goals. At the moment I’m just so worried about step 1. I had another glimpse of a tint after another BM and now I’m a bit fearful of going. But you’re right, step by step 🤞🏼🤞🏼🌈
Today was fine. I didn’t have to go to the office, have to meet my boss tomorrow for brunch instead. I was uncomfy in my sports bra so that’s come off and now I’m hanging free and in my pjs, watching the new lion king 😂

😂😂😂 about Bella not recognising you looking all glam. Do you have to travel far for your lovely meal? I’m craving a night like that. Have a lovely time xx

@Northernsoul90 yes I did, though I was in and out of EPU, the mc itself was natural. I wasn't even offered surgery as an option! I preferred that at the time but it's now concerning me that perhaps some tissue has been left behind. I guess every option has pros and cons 🤷🏽‍♀️

Yes is definitely does. We make choices that are right for us at that time and can’t know what will come of it. I think maybe if you had retained tissue you would be getting positive tests so I wouldn’t worry about that too much. I would love to know someone who could give me a scan every week so I know what’s going on 😂. I hope af arrives for you soon. Like you say though if not I would definitely chase your GP up. I’m here if you ever need to talk about the frustration of waiting... I think it’s driving me slightly crazy 🤪 xx

Sorry forgot to tag you! @MrsK21

Can someone help me with my ovulation? It’s went up to 80% today but then back down to 24% 4 hours later (it’s confusing that on the app 80% it meant to be a peak) but it’s classed it as high for some reason.

Last night it says I took a test at 8pm roughly then shortly after one... I didn’t I took one in between at 10pm as I didn’t the loo had and it was in the 64% range also so I’m Worried my peak was around that time as I wasn’t going to the loo more regularly and not letting my urine get as concentrated as it needed to be to show a peak?

@IWM20 so sorry to read your update. Big hugs to you ❤️ X