TTC after MC - July 2020 (Part 5)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies 🥰🥰

So nice to have more names on the BFP list ❤️

@Hayleylou89
@1990EM
@Tink20058
@mumoftwobeauts
@DontStandSoClose
@peonyrose87
@MichT4
@Ejb86

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@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@NightDreaming
@Renna
@Jazper
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@chloedancer897
@Bellabubble
@Wishingfornumber2
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@busby85
@Northernsoul90
@Lollol86
@calimommy
@Quail15
@littletandme
@Rebecca1992
@Sophj19
@fafi
@Re6ecc4
@Rb486
@Girlmum83

If anyone else would like to join please do xx

@Lollol86 @VP91x @Northernsoul90 thank you all .
I'm prepared for anything, boobs aren't so sore today which I know can be normal, but I'm ready to pop open the OPKs in a few weeks if this doesn't work out well. Obviously I really hope it does, I'd feel so sad if it happened again, but I can't do anything about it, so I'm trying to keep an open mind.
Let's hope this is just a cruel trick and the bean is just burying waaaaay in so that there's no chance it'll dislodge 🤞🤞🤞

Can you ask at the hospital to be scanned? Are you going to the womens health unit or just the blood test dept? If you can, I'd ask while you're there. Say you're concerned and you want to be checked over.

Thank you @fafi
It is reassuring at the moment, but then the fact it hasn't stopped entirely plays on my mind. With my first MC, I'm sure it started like this - had it for about a week. It was every day and heavier I think, because I called 111, but then maybe if this was my first then I'd call for this too. Hard to remember now, even though it wasn't too long ago. xxx
Let's hope it is just spotting 🤞🤞. Wish my boobs hurt as much as they did yesterday

@MichT4 Hoping the brown spotting hasn't increased? I'm sure you are really anxious but please try and relax / distract yourself? Are you working today? That might keep you occupied

@HopeForRainbowbaby @fafi the TWW will be over before you know it, fingers crossed. @fafi I thought I was the only person keen on waiting till AF due date passes to test, not sure I could deal with the anxiety of testing earlier.
I'm also on my first cycle post MC, it's proving to be a long one but I think I ovulated and am now hopefully 8DPO - I'm planning to test in a week, do you think I should give it a bit longer?

@Renna if you have been DTD during FW and your cheapies are going lighter, then it may be worth stopping testing? If you are covered anyway and I think I remember you saying your cycles are fairly regular anyway?

@mrsssk I agree, testing early just stretches out the anxiety but also, if I keep doing it it'll end up costing my future children's pocket money haha! I'm glad that there are a few of us TTC straight after MC, I was a bit worried I was doing the wrong thing but I am so impatient and I'm pretty sure I ovulated too.

When is AF due?

@MichT4 how many weeks are you? Brown staining is old blood so you're not actively bleeding which is reassuring. do you have any cramping or pain?x

@mrsssk so it pretty much stopped yesterday, then was back when I went to bed. Woke up this morning and it was still there, only on wiping - not on the liner. It seems to have lessened again now, but after yesterday I don't know what to expect next.
I am working yes, and if I can switch off this I'll be pretty busy. At the moment I'm busy trying and failing not to google fluctuating symptoms. Urgh

Honestly, I will be sad if it isn't to be, but I'll be OK. Think I'd rather know now. Then we can just pretend it's a late AF and get on with it.

How are you today?

@chloedancer897 I think I'll be just over 4 weeks now. No pain at all at the moment, so that is positive I suppose. Just the last one started brown, so it's a painful reminder.
I'm probably being really stupid, but I can't work out why old blood would get through a closed cervix 🤔🤔

@MichT4 oh no, I remember feeling like this and googling everything under the sun - all it did was increase my worry. I hope it stays away and doesn't progress. I agree - it's the not knowing that doesn't help but it's hopefully not anything to worry about.

I am ok thank you for asking. I think I'm getting bad anxiety from my lack of AF though. I'm starting to feel like everyone else's bodies are going back to "normal" with the exception of mine. It probably just needs some time.
@fafi this week is 6 weeks since the start of my MC bleeding so I expected AF anytime over the last 2 weeks. But I think I ovulated late so I'm giving it till end of next week.
I'll test in a week and if it's a BFN (which I am expecting as no real symptoms) I'm going to the Gp

@mrsssk thanks hun yeah I'm normally really regular. Just the opks haven't changed at all these last 7 days didnt get darker at all at any point . Yeah I'm covered and have DTD plenty over the last like 10 days and probs will continue every other day or few days until AF comes . Just rubbish not seeing a peak just feels like a waster cycle if I didnt ovulate xxxx

Morning ladies. I've been quiet since I foolishly tested at 10dpo in the afternoon and got a bfn. Thank you for all those that reassured me it was not an accurate time to test. I didn't reply but I read your responses and really really appreciated them ❤️
I woke up at 11dpo (yesterday) and had an overwhelming urge to test and got my second bfn this cycle and crumbled. I know @VP91x put me down as testing today but I can't try again this month. Not unless (by some miracle) af is ridiculously late. I'm just waiting for her to arrive now and i do feel like she will soon - signature back, tummy, leg cramps, spotty skin... etc etc.
I mc 28th Feb and feel like I've been ttc forever now but am really trying to take comfort in the fact that I actually think I've only had two viable cycles post mc where I've had positive OPK's. I'm almost certain I didn't ovulate the first two cycles after my mc. And, in the grand scheme of things 'two months of trying' isn't long. It took us 4 months pre mc. I understand it may take longer for us also as there is a substantial age gap between my OH and myself (I was quite surprised it only took 4 months initially!)
Anyway, I just wanted to fill you all in on where I am at as you have been so supportive and I have felt guilty for not getting back to some of your messages but I just needed to distance myself from the thread for a couple of days and reset myself. I'm still quite teary today but trying to pick myself up.

@SmileyT things are looking really positive for you this cycle. I'm very hopeful for you 🤞🏼

@MichT4 I really hope your bleeding has not continued and you get some reassurance soon.

I haven't totally caught up on the thread so I hope everyone is well and feeling positive. Xx

@mrsssk oh wow! Sorry to hear that, sounds like a good plan. How far along were you when you MC?

@mrsssk yep! I'm retiring my google fingers for now. It's not helping me, won't change anything, and isn't helping me get work done.

Good idea to give it a bit more time. Could be a positive reason it hasn't arrived!
Don't worry about other bodies, I had a bleed 4 weeks after MC but I think that in no way reflected being back to normal. My GP told me she would run blood tests 6 months after the MC otherwise they might be skewed, so I think it annoyingly just can take a little longer.
I hope this isn't the case for you, and you have caught again xx

@VP91x what time of day would you do the cheapies?

@Jazper thank you lovely.

And I'm sorry to hear you got another BFN. 11DPO could still be early, but like you say, best to just wait and see now as it won't be long until you hopefully know either way. When is AF due?
4 months isn't long at all, even if they were all viable months, so don't panic. I'm sure it won't be far off and you'll be getting your BFP. It always feels longer than it is.
I totally understand you still feeling teary, but let them out and we are always here. Sending hugs xx

@SmileyT how are you feeling today? Have you tried coffee? Any vom trips?

@chloedancer897 oh that would be fabulous if I was fingers crossed, only one more sleep until I find out 😬

@MichT4 yeah this is true seen loads of charts where they have fluctuations, we'll see tomorrow if I've got lucky 🤞 sorry the spotting is back but it's good that it hasn't gone into a full flow, I'd definitely test on Friday to put your mind at rest ❤️ no coffee this morning and no vomming so back to zero symptoms x

@VP91x yeah strangely before I found out I was pregnant I had massive cravings for red meat which I barely eat but OH loves it. Well I'm going to stay firmly hopeful until I test ☺️and if it's negative tomorrow I'll deal with that then x

@HopeForRainbowbaby @fafi good luck in your TWWs Xx

@Renna I'd maybe keep up with the cheapies until my AF arrived but also if it's going to stress you out just stop them and have sex when you want then maybe test in a couple weeks x

@Jazper sorry that it's been a bit of a crappy time, definitely do what's best for your mental health and don't test again if it's going to make you feel bad. Still hoping there is hope this month for you x

Bloody hell @MichT4 , your reply made me cry 😂 what an emotional wreck. Thank you for your understanding ❤️
Femometer app has me due for the 10th and I'm not really sure why as that gives me a 14 day lp where last cycle it was 13 days. Ovia app seems more accurate and puts me at 9th for af (if my lp does not change at all). I had a 31 day cycle last month and that would put me at the 9th too.

Thank you @SmileyT , look forward to seeing results of your test tomorrow ☺️

@SmileyT are you tempted to have a coffee to see if it happens again? Haha - you can tell what this journey has done to me 😂😂

I am hopeful for you tomorrow, I have everything crossed for you 🤞🤞

Yeah I will test on Friday, although wondering if the HCG would have dropped enough, but let's see 🤞

@fafi I was almost 8 weeks when the bleeding started so relatively early still. I honestly wouldn't mind either a BFP or a visit from AF now!

I was in and out of EPU for about 1.5 weeks because of slow rising HCG and a suspected ectopic pregnancy but it ended up miscarrying naturally and the whole time was just the most stressful thing I've gone through which I suspect is still causing an issue now

@MichT4 yes I might just ask when I go, I need to ask a few things actually they didn’t tell me what my level was last week so I want to know that as well x

@mrsssk I’m with you on that one I just want my body to go back to normal, I feel like I don’t have a clue where I am with it. When did you get a negative test after your mc? I’m still getting positives almost 4.5 weeks later 😣

@Jazper 11dpo is still early but do what is right for you, I always used to wait until at least the first day of expected af I just found that early testing increased my anxiety. The process feels so long sometimes, I hope you are okay 💖 you are allowed to have down days sometimes. Fingers crossed this is still your month 🤞🏼

@Northernsoul90 maybe you should write a list. I always end up bamboozled when I go to any appointment, and come away thinking why I didn't ask more xx

@Northernsoul90 I would agree with @MichT4 and write a list. When I was going through the MC and every 48 hrs had to go to EPU for bloods, I just wrote it all down in my notes app on my phone as I didn't really process anything that was said, nor would've been able to remember what I was going through. Looking back, I'm glad I did because I've got a record that I can share with my GP when I eventually go along with my list of questions.

I got a negative on a FRER exactly 4 weeks later, I had weak positives before that on cheapies. How far along were you? Sorry if you've already mentioned, it's hard to keep track of everyone's position sometimes! Have you been testing with a sensitive test?

I just wanted to pop back and say thank you to everyone who welcomed me and their kind words. It means a lot!

I can't believe how much the thread moves on - it's so fast! So sorry if I'm not always keeping up.

I just wanted to ask, how long did it take to get a BFN after MC? I've stopped bleeding, and nurse said to wait two weeks before testing to see if BFN, but I'm itching to test now. I know it's probably a fool's errand though.

Thanks ladies @MichT4 @mrsssk I will do that, it’s hard to take things in at the appointments as you say so having a list is a good idea.

I was between 8 and 9 weeks when I had the mc, I was told last week that the sac was quite large so hormones could be taking longer to go down because of that. I’ve been using the sensitive one step ones they are 10miu/mg and are showing up faint positives at the minute. I will do another in the morning before I go in for my blood test. Last week I went for bloods and then they did an internal scan and couldn't see any retained tissue, she also told me she could see follicles and it looked like I would ovulate within a week but I’m not sure if I have as the pregnancy tests are still positive. Trying to do opks has been confusing as I’m not sure which hormone they are picking up so I’ve given up on them for now.

@CasperFlamingo hello, I had an mva procedure on the 8th June so 4 weeks yesterday and am still getting faint positive tests at the minute which I’m finding really frustrating. I think everyone is different and it depends how far along you were and how your body reacts as to how long it takes for the hormones to go down. There’s no harm in testing I don’t suppose? I bought a load of one step cheap ones off of amazon as I knew I would be testing quite a lot and didn’t want to spend a fortune.