Ultrasound can’t find ovaries bc I’m overweight

[BananaHammock23]

Hi all. I’m currently in bed crying and have been here most of the day! My partner and I were due to start IUI today but when we went in for our baseline scan the nurse said she had to have a difficult conversation with us... she went on to say that because of my BMI, she was unable to see the ovary in the scan and therefore unable to proceed with treatment this month.

I’m devastated. Not only because we’ve had treatment put on hold but also because I’m struggling to find any info online that points to this being an issue. Has anyone else had a similar experience?

We’re at a private clinic (same sex couple, no help on NHS) so BMI isn’t necessarily an issue for IUI, but now I just feel like a fat mess who’s not got any control.

Thanks loads @Oddgirlout @Addler

@BananaHammock23 great news that the ovaries are visible! Although IUI has lower success rate it's so less invasive than IVF. I would give it a go but it's your choice. It's really sad that the first nurse was so quick to jump onto the BMI conclusion. I'd be furious too! Trying to conceive and pregnancy are times when women are most vulnerable and it's so unprofessional of her to give such a conclusion after one try of ultrasound. She's not even a doctor is she! I would write this in a survey if you get one. Anyway, put this unfortunate event behind. You are doing an amazing job at getting healthier. Good luck!

Hello! Just thought I'd check in to say that we had our baseline scan again yesterday and the ovaries were clearly visible, very quickly. So now we've started our cycle of IUI.

It was the same nurse again and she apologised for last time and said it was a busy day and she didn't have as much time as she'd have liked.

I will also add that I've lost 1.5 stone since the first scan so perhaps it's something to do with that and she was right all along?

Thanks for all your replies! They really helped me in my darkest hour.

Massive congratulation of the weight loss! Also for starting the treatment, hope it all goes smoothly now