TTC 35+ Thread 3 Cougar And Silver Fox Club

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New thread for us all and the list....
Lynnsong, 45, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 2
Dipsy77, 43, TTC (trying to conceive)#4, cycle 3 after MMC (missed miscarriage)
Sunbird24, 42, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, ivfsolo, attempt#1
Wavesandsmilesagain, 41, TTC (trying to conceive)#5,
Anna41, 41, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 5
Claireb707, 41, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 11
Tiletiletile1, 40, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 18?
Lucieloos, 40, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 3
Lastditchattempt20, 40, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 2
Posy1, 40, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 7
Justonemore39, 39, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 1
Musiceverywhere, 39, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 2
Selina37, 39, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 19
FridayKfangirl, 38, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 1
LT103, 38, TTC (trying to conceive) #1, cycle 3
Loladoodle, 38, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 2
Bearhug9, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 8
Happyhappy37, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 2
Sleeeeeepy, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 1
Elm7, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 8 (after MMC (missed miscarriage))
ChicaXS, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 3 (after tfmr)
Moominmiss, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#4, cycle 10
Farfromperfect82, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 5
Angelchops30, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 3
M4v3r1ck, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 2
Matilda19, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#4, cycle 2
Muda, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 7
Semele5609, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 2 after MMC (missed miscarriage)
Bellabubble, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, cycle 4 after MMC (missed miscarriage)
Eviesma, 35, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 1
Chlo2701, 35, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 3
Pirateweasel, 35, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, cycle 3
Emeraldlily18, 35, TTC (trying to conceive) #1, cycle 13
Kwastell, 35, TTC (trying to conceive)#1, 2+ years (3mmc)

BFP (big fat positive)’s....
Mrstobe, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 6 (1 MMC (missed miscarriage)), BFP (big fat positive)!
PinkTulipz, 37, TTC (trying to conceive)#3, cycle 1, BFP (big fat positive)
Sunshine1984, 36, TTC (trying to conceive)#2, BFP (big fat positive)

So I’m now 13dpo and still spotting (day 6 now🤦🏻‍♀️). Not testing again unless af is late. Just spoken to my doctor tho and if af arrives I’ve to call back and book in for day 21 bloods and he rhymed off a load of different Tests he wants done so at least that’s something

@Baddestblunder welcome. It's been a long journey for you. Good luck with the opk. That should help you understand when best to DTD. 🤞🏾 Good luck

Af def here now. Started early last night so I’m now technically cd2. 4th cycle. Here’s hoping it’s a lucky one!!

Ah sorry @LT103 good to have positivity for next cycle though!

Good morning all
@LT103 ah sorry. Hopefully next cycle will bring a positive outcome.🙏🏽🤞🏾

@LT103

Af def here now. Started early last night so I’m now technically cd2. 4th cycle. Here’s hoping it’s a lucky one!!

😢 hugs lovely

@LT103 I'm cd2 now also. Everything crossed this months is the one!

I'm out for the month, BFN and I've got that PMS 'I'm going to cry at nothing' feeling which means AF will be along soon. Onward into August, it's my birthday month so maybe that will be lucky!

Oh no @Sleeeeeepy she really is the witch!!!

Thanks @claireb707 @Loll35

Hoping we all have a lucky July/August!!! I’m booked in on 29th for 21day progesterone and think I’m just going to relax a bit this month and not be quite as ott about it all.

Please help girls. New to this tracking.
So im on day 9 of my cycle. Not had periods for years so not a clue of my cycke but I seem to remember that I ovulate late in my cycle but that was likec12 years ago.
Anyway I've been using clearnlue digital. As I said im in day 9 of cycle. Yesterday and this morning I got a flashing face. I was just going thd loo and thought I'd test again. I got a static smiley. So does that mean im ovulating now? Am I to late?
Im really shocked I got on this early into my cycle. Could it be wrong xx

@Hayleywoody82 My understanding it that when it flashes it has detected a rise in your oestrogen levels, which occurs in the days before ovulation (these are your high fertility days). When it's static smiley, it has detected your LH surge, which means ovulation is either happening right now or due to happen within 24 hrs (this is your peak fertility). If you DTD in the days leading up to ovulation (ie when you get flashing smiley), you have a chance of pregnancy since sperm can survive for up to 5 days and therefore will potentially be hanging around when you ovulate a few days later. If you DTD when you get static smiley, this needs to be within 24 hrs of getting this result since the egg can only survive for 24 hrs max. So in answer to your question you still have a chance if you DTD in the next 24 hrs!

@louj85 thankyou. We haven't DTD in a week. We've been moving bedrooms and decorating so both exausted .
Tonight definitely xx

I just thought it was way to early in my cycle tbh. But my cycle a bit messed up after the pill xx

Feeling utterly washed out - came home a bit early from work and fell asleep which is entirely unlike me. No way it could be a symptom of anything at 2dpo. Also have annoying niggly R sided pain similar to ovulation pain.
Only managed to have sex once during fertile window as partner was working late a lot this week (crap timing!) so not hugely optimistic for this cycle.
Good luck to everyone entering the next one

13dpo and have spent the entire day totally nauseous but am certain that I'm out now. I'm worried that this will be a 25 day cycle. Still totally paranoid about being peri menopausal.

I think next cycle I'm going to do OPKs but maybe try not to test? Pregnancy tests end up making me totally crazy. I can't concentrate on anything and it really does ruin my mood.

Feeling surrounded by pregnant people today. Met up with my best friend for a socially distanced walk this morning - she lives quite far away so we don’t get to see each other often anymore. She told me she’s pregnant and is so excited - asking for advice etc. She doesn’t know I’ve been trying as I haven’t actually told anyone in real life. I was really happy and excited for her, but feel crap myself.

I told DH how glum I feel and he has no sympathy - he just said “why can’t you be excited for tour friend? It’s not about you.” Of course it’s not about me, and of course I’m excited for her, but .... Urgh I hate this feeling.

Anyway then DH and I had a big fight as I told him he was unsympathetic and unsupportive.

@Tiletiletile1 I can totally empathise with you. I'd have felt the same and your DP's response left a lot to be desired! Sending hugs

So sorry @Tiletiletile1. I would feel the same as you.
It’s quite lonely on this journey, I haven’t told any friends that we are trying either. So glad there are threads like this for support

Your OH doesn’t get it does he @Tiletiletile1? It’s perfectly possible to feel happy and excited for someone (especially your best friend!) being pregnant but also be sad and a little envious that it’s not happened for you yet. You sound like a lovely friend and I’m sure your BF would want to know you were trying so that she could support you and be aware of why there may be points in her pregnancy that you could find difficult.
When you’ve both recovered a bit, could you have a conversation with DH and let him know that if you tell him how you’re feeling, you aren’t asking for him to tell you whether he thinks you’re right or wrong for feeling that way, you really just need a hug (or whatever response it is you would like)?

Thank you! Yes that’s exactly it - it’s quite lonely. And a hug would have been the right response from DH!

I think DH doesn’t get it because it’s not a rational, this want for a baby, it’s like a pull that I can’t really control.

But thank you, sunbird, maybe I should tell her. She’s a great friend, she would be supportive.

I’m very grateful for this thread!

To follow on from my post yesterday after the shock static smiley at cd10. I then went the toilet and had the egg white mucus (sorry dont know all the abbreviations uou use yet) so 100% ovulation. DTD twice last night and once this morning.
Just kicking myself becausevits my first proper cycle and first times using cb opks I thought id get a smashing smiley for at least a week so didn't DTD.
Hopefully we got there on time 🤞🤞

I'm sorry @Tiletiletile1. You have to be allowed to feel sad yourself to be able to be happy for other people. Otherwise you're burying your feelings and that never leads to anything good.

I had to have a big chat with my husband to explain it so he understood. He's a lot better now. He is still like a robot with emotional stuff sometimes!

Good luck @Hayleywoody82 (got the right Hayley this time!) Sounds like you got there just in time.

@kwastell haha . Thankyou. I really hope so. Xx

@kwastell I'm exactly the same! I literally had to sit and down and explain to him (sometimes more than once but he's getting better now), that I don't want him to start "problem solving" whenever I talk about something that's upset me, and that the best response is "that sounds really shit, what can I do for you, would you like a hug/bath" etc.... He is better now but he used to drive me insane with "why don't you do x or maybe y will help". Sometimes empathy and validation (and a hug!) is ALL we need as women