TTC Thread #2

[Daffodil21]

Continuing the original thread:

First time TTC - help please!! Any one else TTC for their first time? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3914013-first-time-ttc-help-please-any-one-else-ttc-for-their-first-time

Tagging those in my tag list - sorry if I've left anyone out or tagged people who don't want to be tagged!

@AlisonLew15 @Bam27 @CEW19 @Dreaming101 @HJen22 @LennyAndToots @M4v3r1ck @Mrskcam @Rocky89 @SVC11
@TerryRose

And of course, our graduates:
@Peach1204 @Poppyismyfavourite @Summertime1992 I'm sure everyone here would love to hear how you're getting on!

Good luck @Tofu35 hope it's good news for you or at least you get some good info! @Daffodil21 yay come on static!

Hi @Bam27 sorry you're feeling like this. Am I right in saying it's been 8 months or so for you? (Sorry if I'm mis-remembering!) if it has then I really would recommend reading 'it starts with the egg'. It's really helping me to not see it month to month, but to look to improving my eggs now for in 4 months time. As a result I'm not pinning all my hopes on this month as I know the things I am now doing to improve egg quality won't take affect until 3-4 months time. It might also be a good read for you if you do decide to take a little break, as there's plenty of things you can do now to improve the egg quality later.

Hope your results go ok @Tofu35 - let us know how they go!

@SVC11 how are you getting on??

I said I wouldn't do afternoon OKPs this month, and yet I here I am counting down the last hour of the 4 hour hold. Only on the first day of flashing too 🙈 I've got a feeling it may happen quicker because of how my reflexology went yesterday, but that's probably just me being foolishly hopeful as usual!!

@acaciabluebell yes it is hard, much worse than I thought it would be!
Sorry your not feeling well, hope you feel better soon 💐
@Tofu35 Thanks, good luck with your blood test results 🌹
@Daffodil21 this will be the 10th month of no contraception and 8th of actually "trying". Thanks for the advice, I will look into that! Literally just ordered some stuff on amazon before I saw this 🙄🤣 sorry for complaining I know it's been much longer for you! Hopefully not much longer for both of us!

@Bam27 oooh what did you order from amazon?

Never apologise for complaining! Its shit for all of us ❤️

@Daffodil21 nothing too exciting just presents for my nephew, it's his birthday soon😊 so I've been ordering dinosaurs 😂.. Yeah I know I just feel bad sometimes because I know others try for much longer.

Test results all fine, ovulated this month so they aren't worried about that. They say I should go back again in 6 weeks as one of my levels is slightly elevated ('but still ok, just a little high'). Apart from that, I don't know what's next. DH has his semen analysis soon, and then if that's okay- maybe use the money saved on going on zero holidays to book a private consultation with a gyno for more checks?

Relieved!

@Tofu35 that’s amazing news! One step closer to a BFP!
@Daffodil21 and yaaay flashing smiley! Fingers crossed so tight for a static. The afternoon OPKS were hard but I felt really good for doing them as when I got my static I knew it must’ve been recent!

Just started in my office today so been busy which has helped me take my mind off things. Hope this ends up being a good month for us all in one way or another!

Quick question, when do I start counting DPO? I had my static smiley weds morning. Does it start from then or today?

@Tofu35 was is prolactin that was high by any chance? So I've now had all the tests, and I've been referred to a fertility clinic so I'm assuming I'm receiving the same care and checks as someone who's paying at that clinic, except I can't fast track any treatment and have to wait. I would say it's probably not worth going private if you've had all the blood tests, but it might be worth paying for an internal scan, which is the next thing they would have sent you for if any of your bloods were concerning. (My bloods were clear but I had it as part of the recurrent MC checks). They can check for number of follicles and egg reserve, shape of the womb etc, and see if you have PCOS. Other than that I don't think there are any other tests available. I've got to have my progesterone re-done this month and after that nothing, we just wait (and dtd!)

@Dogscanlookup yeah I'm already planning an afternoon test again 😳
You ovulate 12-48 hours after the static smiley

@Daffodil21 so today would be 1DPO as I guess you do it’s from the latest you could have possibly ovulated?

@Dogscanlookup I think the latest you could possibly have ovulated would be this morning? So you'd either be 0DPO or 1DPO I think. Oh the dreaded TWW for you!

Getting darker @Daffodil21 I said I would wait until Saturday but failed... 11 dpo... Some slight cramping in my belly and sensitive nipples. Think il do a digital in a few days time and then start getting excited...when I'm like 15/16dpo. Its a bit hard when so many things can go wrong this early!

@SVC11 ahh that's soo exciting!!!!!! I'll hold my congrats until your digital but so so pleased for you!!

Totes forgot everyone see me working from bed too ha!

@SVC11 haha I did notice that 😂 why not, you should be taking it easy!!

I love that pic @SVC11 I'm also working from bed! 😂

I think around 8/9DPO today, if I even ovulated at all. Don't have any sensitive tests which is helping me avoid testing. I'm not very hopeful....don't have any symptoms except the sides of my boobs hurt.

Ah looks like some good news this month for some of you!! Fingers crossed girls!
I wish I could work from bed still, I have to actually brush my hair and put a bra on now 🤦🏼‍♀️ But yet, @Daffodil21 the TWW begins 😭 hopefully the office will keep me busy enough, I won’t test until 18th! I think I’m due 17th. I refuse. Going to be sooo hard though!

I've ordered some FRERs which will arrive on Sunday. So nervous! I have very little hope. Last month I had so many symptoms and AF arrived early. This month I have no symptoms. It's weird. I also really doubt that I ovulated this month.

@Dogscanlookup glad the office is keeping your mind occupied! I'm still wfh and no idea when I'll be going back. I should just enjoy while I can though! I reeeally hoped I would get pregnant during lockdown so I could spend the early days at home, but no such luck.

I'm going to try not to test early too - the amount of threads I see on here that just lead to anxiety is enough to put me off (easier said than done!). But we've got the in laws visiting towards the of the tww, when I could test, so that will put me off!

Still on a flashy smiley for me. Got another reflexology appointment tomorrow morning though. Ohh and all my supplements arrived this morning. Trying a plan from the book I was telling you about which is specifically for people with recurrent MC. I dread to think how much £££ I've spent in the last 2 years over this!!

@acaciabluebell fingers crossed for you!

Think I can feel some cramps and got a BFN on an IC this morning. Sighhh. I shouldn't have tested, its already ruined my day

@Daffodil21 how many days flashing smileys have you had? And don’t worry about how much money as it’s all money worth spent as this is important to you 😊 what supplements are these? WFH is definitely the one, as you said enjoy it while you can, it’s makes things a little easier with regard to TTC!

@acaciabluebell I’m so sorry to hear about your BFN 🙁 maybe test again tomorrow and see?

Also, I had my first static smiley on Weds so DTD weds and thurs (and had done Tues eve too), yesterday we didn’t. Today I woke up to what look like EWCM?? I’m so confused, I haven’t hadn’t anything like it since coming off the pill two and a bit months ago. Could this suggest I ovulated later than OPK suggested? DTD as soon as I saw to cover all bases but we’re a bit baffled...

One thing I've learnt only recently (from reading it starts with the egg) is that when we release an egg it has to reject chromosomes it already has, if it doesn't reject and ends up with duplicates, then that egg stands very little chance of being fertilised, and if it is fertilised it probably won't be successful. Therefore it doesn't matter how well we time everything, if the egg isn't good enough then we're not going to get pregnant. Although frustrating, I found that useful to take the pressure off this month. If/when AF arrives I will think more of it as 'well the egg wasn't good enough' rather than 'oh ffs, we must have somehow missed the timing'.

@Dogscanlookup I will be taking COQ10, a much higher dosage of vitamin D than I was already on, and N-Acetyl. I'm also going to be taking methylfolate, which is folic acid in its natural form, as some people can't process folic acid well enough to benefit from it. Day 3 of flashing smiley for me, so I'm not going to get too concerned just yet. Can't shed any light on the EWCM I'm afraid.

So sorry about your bfn @acaciabluebell

@Daffodil21 Thats really reassuring actually, what you wrote about the egg quality. I've heard good things about CoQ10 as well, but gosh, I already take high strength vitamin D, vit C, magnesium, zinc and folic acid! I recently started taking a multivitamin too because I was worried I was missing out on iron, vitamin Bs etc. Now I wonder if I might be taking too much vitamins.... The multivitamin has very small amounts of each vitamin. I looked online and apparently excess vitamins are released into urine so I thought it might be okay 🤔

Got AF like cramps. Urghhhhhh flipping great

@acaciabluebell yeah it's hard to know what we should and shouldn't be taking! I ordered them from Nature's Best and there's a section in the leaflet that came with it about fertility. The list is endless for important vitamins! I did work out a meal plan so I can get most vitamins from food. I definitely don't plan on taking anything else - I had to make a note on my phone so I remember to take which ones when! Oh actually next month I'm good to try Agnes cactus up until ovulation just because I've read lots about it, and I already bought it before my Nature's Best order.

Has AF showed yet...?

I got another flashing smiley so on day 4 of those now, and I've been testing every afternoon since the flashing too. I've got another reflexology appointment in an hour so who know, maybe that will help stimulate a static 🤷‍♀️

I also found the chromosome thing helpful, it's actually taken the pressure off a little because now I understand why sometimes it just doesn't work