TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 3)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies,

New thread - currently CD17 (cycle #3) still waiting for peak OPK.

I hopefully have tagged everyone -

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4
WellHurrahAndHuzzah
@ManchNic
@Jazper
@Dizzy201
@peonyrose87
@HE88
@mrsssk
@1990EM
@Chickoletta
@Tink20058
@sunflower96
@Meomeomeo
@chloedancer897
@Niisa
@Bellabubble
@Sallyjo27
@Ejb86
@Wishingfornumber2
@anaconda76
@AR52
@DontStandSoClose
@Donnat89
@Banbi
@Diorissimo1985
@DBTJ
@2020wish
@Eli2020
@NightDreaming
@Saim86

If anyone else would like to join please do❤️

@VP91x it’s been a long month 😂 I can’t believe I’m not even in the damn TWW after so long. Oh well, is what it is, this will all make sense soon I’m sure.

Will be interesting to see your next OPK. And I guess like @2020wish says, your temps.

Any entertaining strops in your house this morning?

Yes @2020wish, any clarity on that delivery. Still planning to hold off? How do you feel?

How is everyone this morning?

@chloedancer897 sorry do you mean whether I can get the bloods or scan first done privately or on the nhs? Currently thinking going privately could and paying myself is not an option as if only a zoom call with a consultant is £250 and this does not include any tests I'm petrified to think how much would that be. When I had my MC in March my EPU actually thoughts it's ectopic so I was able to use my private insurance to confirm that and then the bloods were £300 and the scan £600 (which i didn't pay as was covered) so that £900 will be on top on the consultant fee and then the £300 for the semen analysis and £500 for the female one. Just breaks my heart this is so expensive making it inaccessible to so many people and then we have no choice but to wait for who knows how long on the nhs 🙁 I just can't wait another 8,9 months (if they are counting my MC as the start of a year to get pregnant) to even get on a waiting list for investigations 🙁 makes me feel so helpless

@MichT4 this morning, I gave her cereal instead of porridge (how dare I) and the wrong cup for her drink 😂 we are watching Finding Dory now, so I can 'rest my eyes' whilst on the sofa.

Yeah it'll make sense in a couple of days! Xx

@vp91x they are out for delivery between 8 and 10 this morning. I’ve already when to the loo lol so I’m holding off until Sunday when I will be 13dpo

@MichT4 didn’t you get a 114 peak opk the other day? Was that not your peak? Sorry if I missed something. Head like a siv x

Morning ladies xx hoping to see some bfp this wknd!

What times ur scan @Renna ? Xx

Hope ur opks / temps end up progressing well for u both 🤞🏻 @VP91x @SmileyT

Did ur tests arrive @2020wish ? Xx

How r u @Diorissimo1985 ?? Xx

@Hayleylou89 no they haven’t arrived yet x

@2020wish yes I got my peak OPK. But my temperatures have been a little all over the place so I’m hoping to see a peak in that now so it confirms I actually ovulated. A few days ago I thought I wasn’t ovulating as I’d had a ‘peak’ on Femometer a week or so ago, not as dark as this one though so hoping this is the real deal.

@VP91x outrageous giving her cereal. I tell you what though, your morning snoozing to finding dory sounds amazing!

@Hayleylou89 how are you feeling now? Still sick? When’s your next appointment?

@VP91x I’m sure CB are out to confuse us this month! I haven’t been doing temps so that’s good you are because at least you have something else to go by. Ha ha I can so relate to giving the wrong food or the wrong cup etc 🤦‍♀️ X

Complete limbo on what to do ladies. I’m due back to work on Tuesday. I was off on shielding due to covid and pregnancy (my area of work was and still is a covid red zone ) . Shielding was then changed to miscarriage/stress 4 weeks ago. But now I don’t know what to do about either getting it extended or going back. Me and my Dh both agreed when I found out I was pregnant again I would take the first two months off to help make sure we do everything possible for a sticky bean. The idea of being in a red zone/exposed and basically boiling in full airborne PPE that I’ve to stay in for 2 hours at a time minimum- plus 13 hour shifts all day on feet and no proper breaks will just have my anxiety through the roof and added stress on me esp after 3 losses in a row. Obvs if I am not pregnant this month I will go back to work. But I dunno if I’m pregnant again yet. I don’t want to go back on Tuesday then have to take off again and it being counted at two periods of sick rather than 1 continuous. Any advice?

@Wishingfornumber2 haha its so annoying when they get mad over the wrong colour thing. It makes no sense, hey toddlers.

@MichT4 micronapping is my parenting tip 👌 haha

@Hayleylou89 thanks hun, hope you're doing well with little bean xx

Hey @MichT4, Still the same with the sickness, its not good atall but just got to ride it out, why on earth they call it morning sickness i dnt know because its on and off all day sickness for me, feeling permanently hungover from the min i wake then i have a cuppa (dacaff) and i feel ok for a bit then the next wave appears 🤢...got my booking in appt on tuesday (8weeks) and then a scan the following monday when ill be one day off 9 weeks! Tbh the nausea is the only symptom iv been getting iv had literally no pains / cramping or anything so just hoping everything is ok in there 🙏🌈💖💙 How r u getting l on, r u waiting for temps to confirm ovulation at the mo?? Xx

@2020wish what a pain that is..but ur patient waiting another 2 days to test but as u say maybe its a sign although it would show now most probs too if u are, when is af due? Xx

@2020wish about work... let ur frer help make that decision, hopefully ur pg again and u can be off sheilding and there is ur mind made up.

If your not then it wont do u no harm in taking extended stress leave because lets face it 4 weeks isnt that long for them to expect u to spring bk to work and its not like ur jobs a stress free job either so im Sure they will understand u need more time x x

@Hayleylou89 I’m 11dpo today. AF due either Monday or Tuesday. I need to ring my GP today to ask for it to be extented so I have it into work on time. They aren’t allowing me to pick them up at the surgery.. just post and the post is taking ages lol I’ve no frer atm and based on my nightmare of a supposed delivery yesterday I’ve no idea when my tests will arrive

@Hayleylou89 I can’t imagine what it feels like. I get quite a bit of nausea in general, especially motion, so I can’t imagine much worse than that. Weirdly, I’d like to though!

Yeah I think my body had its second attempt possibly at ovulation but this time it was a definite peak. The OPK before said peak on the app but I wasn’t overly convinced with the line colour. Had a temp dip last night so really hoping I get the temp rise over the next few nights. Will just be nice to know I’ve actually ovulated 🤞🏼 Feels like a long wait and I’m not patient, but if I can understand my body a little more I might have more luck. Makes me wonder if previous months when I just used apps, I might have missed ovulation. Who knows!

Lots of appointments to keep you reassured! That’s lovely. So exciting xx

@VP91 All good i think 🤔 who knows, the sickness is a good sign but nasty at the same but im not really feeling anything else so obv just worrying about that but staying positive as i can until the next scan, ill be 9 weeks then .. time seems to be going so slow but hopefully once i get past 12 weeks ill relax a bit... "she says" but iv got in my head i need to get past my 23 week mark really, honestly this time im In a whole diff frame of mind to last time, i was so relaxed last time and time flew by, been told im going to be working from home until early next year so looks
Like i wont be back for 2 years in total once the babys here which is bonkers, really missing my work colleagues i must admit. Xx 😢

@MichT4 fingers crossed this is the real deal. What cycle day are you now?

@Hayleylou89 sorry to hear ur so sick. Hopefully it lifts for you soon. But I’m glad your not in pain they way you were last time

@MichT4 yeah totally feels like motion sickness, is suffer with that when im not the driver its the same as that too.
I think ull get ur temp rise now then, wouldn't u start using the clear blue sticks my app predicted i was going to ovulate a week later than i did and only for the cb stick that showed a peak (static smiley) i knew it was happening a week earlier, i know they are more expensive but one pack will last a couple of months if u have an idea of when u should be ovulating and start using them about a week before just incase xx hopefully uv caught this cycle though and dnt need them but id def recommend them alongside the cheapies so u can compare what peak on the cheapies looks lime compared to peak on cb xx

@2020wish I know those pains where horrific so im glad this time is different, and i def think it was to do with my bowls last time, as this time iv not had and constipation or trouble going the loo (sorry tmi) but wow who Would have thought constipation could cause agony like that! Xx

Im going to get the covid antibody test today its £35 in the local chemist as im convinced i had it over xmas and new year and thats why i went into premature labour, i just need to know for my own peace of mind as the drs dnt seem to have any answer as to what happened, will let u know what the result is and im hoping if was that then i can relax knowing it wasnt anything i did or the fact i cant carry to term or anything to do with my cervix x x

@2020wish CD27! Last month was 38 days and this one looks like it’ll be 40. I totally expect there to be some time to come back down, and a long cycle is ok if it doesn’t mean something isn’t happening, but it just makes the wait so long!

Re your job, I’d say the same and do what you feel comfy with. If you’re anxious about going back, then get it extended. Then hopefully you get your BFP and it’ll be the right decision anyway. If you don’t, then you can always reevaluate how you feel and tell the docs you are ready to go back. For the sake of a couple of days, I’d just extend it. I’m sure the doc will understand why you want it, and then you can decide in your own time depending what Sunday says.

@Hayleylou89 I thought about buying them this month, but it was my first month of OPKs/temping with Ava and I already think I was overwhelmed. I thought I was less stressed with it but when the temps weren’t rising and OPKs weren’t peaking, I think it was stressing me more than I thought. Potentially delayed ovulation (another unknown) so I didn’t want to add another.
Maybe in a month or two if we aren’t lucky before then. So that means I’ll be getting one next month because as if I’d wait two 🙄! Xx

@2020wish could you call your GP today and ask for 2 weeks extended and then that gives you time to find out if your PG or see how you feel in general/need more time etc?

@Hayleylou89 I think just the nausea is a good sign that everything is fine. I hope all goes well with the scans etc. That will be crazy that you won't be back in the office for so long however, it is changing so much now that alot of people will do more WFH/split time in the office in general so won't be too weird.

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@Hayleylou89 I think that would be a good idea to see if you did indeed have it. If you did u would be concerning as that have said your safe in the second trimester if you are exposed. Will you be letting your doctor and consultant know the outcome? My work is offering all of us it. Not sure what to do

You are all right about work. I think I will ring today and get the line extented as I feel I need another week tops anyway if I’m not pregnant to get over the upset at that and just prepare myself to go back with all the questions everyone is going to ask me. If I end up pregnant (fingers crossed) that it saves hassle trying to get a new one

@Mich2020 yeah i totally get u but in a way its less stress with cb once u get used to them ur not then trying to guess if ur peak has happened or not by the lines getting darker etc bit i totally get u dnt want to over do it too xx

@Hayleylou89 Oh I probably will end up getting it. Although I'm hoping I'll understand it a bit more now. I was desperate to see a peak, so when Femom said it was one, I went with it. I think I knew hand on heart the line was a bit lighter than control. Now I've seen a peak test, that was detected by Glow as well, I feel like I know what to look for. Just wasn't expecting a longer cycle so I was stressing about seeing the signs around my app date.

Interesting about the antibody test, I didn't know you could get one. I'd love to know if I had it, I think I might have. Wonder if the chemists here are doing them. Definitely let us know your result.

Hi girls,

Sorry to barge in but just need some advice. I was never told to take a pregnancy test after my D&C. After reading on here I thought it might be best. I had the D&C 4 nearly 5 weeks ago on Monday. We became sexually active without contraception about 2 weeks ago. I've just taken a test and it says pregnant 1-2 weeks. Is this just the left over hormone in me, I just dont feel like I'm pregnant like I was last time, and surely I wouldn't have a positive result after just two weeks of trying would I? I guess the only way to tell is to wait another week but I think I'll be racking my brains out waiting that long!

@Bexta101 it’s possible either way. You could of ovulated 2 weeks ago (two weeks after the D&C) and are now pregnant again. All you can do it either ring the gp or epu and see if they will do a hcg beta test or wait another week and see if it progresses til 2-3 weeks x