TTC after MC - June 2020 (Part 2)

[VP91x]

Hey lovelies ❤️

Just doing the new thread as the other is full will tag you all here - anyone else who wpuld like to join please do!

Little bit of background -
Cycle #3 TTC after MC in December
This month doing SMEP, tracking BBT and OV (CB advanced and Femometer strips), also drowning myself in grapefruit juice 😂 and will take Calc Fluor in TWW.

Sending everyone lots of luck 🤞

@SmileyT
@Rainbowhope11
@Hayleylou89
@Dipsy77
@HopeForRainbowbaby
@elliew818
@MissyBate
@MichT4
@NightDreaming
@NadJade
@Renna
@Re6ecc4

@Ejb86 hope you see your peak soon relax and enjoy DTD :) xx
I'm okay. CD8 trying so hard not to symptom spot as have convinced myself I must be pg based on symptoms before to not be .... x must carry on being occupied:) xx

@VP91x hahaha love that you say femometer is being a bellend as I'm feeling the same this cycle ... haha I normally swear by it and every month it is so spot on but this cycle ... its peeing me off. Buuut it could also be my fault due to bad temping with the puppy .. but I did the 7 day free trial for the analysis stuff too. I've cancelled that now to make sure they dont charge me as its annoyed me this month hah . Despite the fact it does have like 7 to 8 months of my data it moved my ovulation date way way out this cycle because of my fluctuating temps so I ended up having to confirm it manually with my opks.

The analysis thing delightfully told me this morning that as my temps haven't hugely increased from prior to ovualtion to after ovualtion that I have luteal deficiency... of course I'm googling this this morning at 5am and it means low progesterone in luteal phase... can cause MC as it means thin lining and can hinder implantation. So I'm laying here thinking I have it and considering ordering a progesterone test for next cycle.... but then I'm like I need to be rational... my temps are bad because my sleep is bad right now and I think when they say the deficiency is linked to MC I think it's more likely the natural kind of MC where you bleed .. I had a MMC (no bleeding) which I would imagine has more to do with chromosomes than my lining .. and plus I dont have any of the symptoms of the deficiency which is spotting between periods, mood swings , irregular periods etc .... but of course here I am still now worried that I have an issue .... 🤷‍♀️😓🙄 xxxx

@SmileyT it thinks I'm 2DPO because I had two days of EWCM even though I haven't recorded any positive OPKs and my temps are still below 36.0 🤔

Ooh, I upgraded FF last month too! It was like £25 for the whole year. I really like all the chart comparing and the little bits of info you get. It's useful. Femometer just likes you tell you off or that you're broken I feel 😂

But, positives my chart is alot more consistent so far this month and yeah, hindsight is a wonderful thing because last month as you probably remember I was stressing over not ovulating, but now I'm like okay I know it will come.

I know what you mean about the romance thing, but whatever works for you both and you are comfortable with! The manoeuvring to get the stuff in must be quite a skill 😂😂

Although had sex last night and it was such a quickie, he might aswell have done it in a cup, so unromantic haha. Xx

@SmileyT aw bless him . I think it does with DH too but he doesnt really say and I try not to tell him too much about the days I'm planning DTD hah just start trying it on but he kinda knows it's my fertile week so must kinda feel the pressure. I've wanted to use the lubes too and when we got going I'd stop go in bedside drawer whip out the CP mini tube and put it in me ... and think it made him think oh I ddffo have to perform .. so now when I think we will be DTD I go bathroom first and insert it there so doesnt even know . I used the pre seed more this cycle that CP as the tube and the little applicator things are in my bathroom cabinet.
Buuut I still feel like he feels pressure when he knows he needs to perform as DTD lasts longer than our usual really ..its bloody exhausting. This cycle each time was deffo like an hour sesh. When it's got to be done every other day then like 3 days in a row I'm like wishing for a 5 min quickly haha . The hour sessions are our workouts for the day combined too I guess lol .... xxx
Let us know how you get on with researching it :) it could deffo work and deffo be less pressure. You could just do a bit of both xx

@Renna ah, so I upgraded last month because it was like £15 for 3 months for the extra stuff. Something like that. Its always telling me off!!

It thinks I'm 2DPO based on nothing at all basically. Then it tells me off saying I have too many fluctuations yet, fertility friend is happy with my temps and they are actually quite consistent.

Honestly, don't pay attention to it. If you're not sleeping well and temping is erratic then it isn't reliable. Don't stress yourself out. You haven't had it other months where you've temped fine. Femometer is just a bit of a headfuck - who makes it!?, 😂 xx

@VP91x look look! Just went back to my strip! Glad we dtd last night! Looks like the EWCM doesn't lie! Just wish I'd dtd a bit more now! This is so early for me!

I'll add the pic this time

@Ejb86 ooh, attach the pic it's not there xx

*@Ejb86 I mean I'm 8dpo no CD8 x

@Ejb86 oh I saw it! Yayyy!! You'll have a shorter cycle this time then? Keep DTD 💦💦 xx

@VP91x hubby can only manage every other day, so we'll go again tomorrow. Maybe being back at work and not thinking about it all day long has really made a difference!?

@Ejb86 definitely think something has changed, which is fab not so long for you to wait!! Excited for you xx

@VP91x I'm jealous of your quickies haha hour sessions can often loose the romance too ... lol
I've never used FF app I may give it a go. Does it allow you to put in previous data ? I thought ava may let me do that but I'm actually finding that pretty rubbish too .. the app doesnt let you do much and just shows you data but then I kinda dont know what I'm looking for... do my breaths per minute tell me when I've ovulated or something ..!? Who knows haha . .
Yeah I feel like femometer keeps telling me off for not inputting stuff but I dont bother doing CP /CM and inputting stuff like that as I dont even see a pattern with that myself .but yeah itll also be my bad temping at the mo not helping . Looked back at the last cycle I did temping and it gave me a cover line and the temps after ovulation were generally higher but I wouldnt say massively so it did concern me but also think I'm looking into it too much and dont wanna stress as that doesnt help !! Xx

Aw amazing @Ejb86 xx that'll deffo take the pressure off with thinking you need to DTD every other day for the next week too ... sometimes seeing that peak is almost as exciting as seeing a BFP Lol.. I'm like wooop... just makes you feel reassured I guess xxx fingers crossed for you this is a good sign for this month ....

@Renna an hour, god I'm tired just thinking about that. Definitely not doing an hour, haha.

Yeah you can put in as much data as you want. It's quite old fashioned looking, but I find it really accurate and useful actually! Give it a go. If you fancy upgrading it then there's that option too.

It's a shame that the Ava isn't very useful considering how expensive it is! Haha, sometimes I think they just give you data for the sake of it. Honestly, I wouldn't worry about your temps this time around xx

@VP9x I know right ... the days where youd want the long sessions are gone ... I want a 5 minute job aha. I think hes always wanted to make sure I'm satisfied first and always done that .. whereas for the fertile week I just wanna say dont focus on that .... haha but also dont wanna kill the mood lol where it's like I'm just thinking of a transaction lol x x
Yeah thanks hun I'll try not think into all that at all 🙄 xx

Morning everyone ☺️ How are we all?

@Bellabubble yes we are still finding stuff. We have some pretty big cracks down the stairs but they said to leave it for a few months before they fix it because they could move more. We just put it all in an email to them and before lockdown, they were pretty good at fixing it. Might need reminding. I don’t mean to be negative but I think they are just really lazy. It’s not their problem and they aren’t getting paid per job so as you say, they won’t get pulled up on it. We’ve had a few things where the site manager can’t believe they’ve done something, though to be fair he should have snagged it too.
Anyway, positive is it gets done, and although it’s hassle you have someone there to come and fix things for a while which is a bonus.

@VP91x @Renna I think you know my thoughts on Femometer this month 😂. Because my temp went up about a week ago (then straight back down) it moved ovulation back about 10 days from its original prediction, and all previous months, and hasn’t moved even though it picked up a peak OPK 🙄. The app that I’ve found most accurate (based on only AF arriving) is Glow. I haven’t tried FF. another one to add to my growing list of fertility apps 😂

Oh and I might be imagining it, but last night when I went to bed I thought I had an ache by my hip. No idea if it was anything but we’ll find out in a couple of days, I hope 🤞🏼

@MichT4 haha yeah its annoyed me and I've just downloaded fertility friend and put in temps /data for this month and it says I ovulated CD20 when I got a positive opk at CD 14 which I've also input ... it is largely my fault too though with my bad temping .. dunno why I'm bothering this cycle but I'm still doing it .. 🙄😂 xx are you testing in a few days? Xx

@MichT4 Ooh, how are your OPKs this morning? Just had my POM juice - very sweet but nice!

@Renna FF only uses temps to confirm ovulation unless you change the setting on it which is why it will ignore your OPK for now 😊 xx

@VP91x ah makes sense thank you xx I think it's a cycle where I just have to carry on tracking just for sake of collecting data but ignore what its saying and just know I got my peak I DTD and just wait for AF ! Rather than trying to analyse it all too much xx

@Renna yeah absolutely especially when you know there's so many variables skewing your data this month 😊 when will AF be due? Xx

@VP91x apps all saying different now but based on previous cycles I'd say thursday /Friday next week xx

@Renna ahhh not too long to wait then! I have my fingers crossed for you xx

@Renna no not testing yet. I don’t think I’ve ovulated yet so still got to get into the TWW. Can’t wait for it now, just want to feel like I’m in the countdown.

@VP91x it was high again. I’ve met a friend for coffee so I’ll have to do a hold for later and see. Both my RHR and breathing rate is ramping up, which is meant to happen in the days pre ovu so I’m hoping it’s a good sign. Still worrying I won’t ovulate 😭 xxx

@VP91x I go on and off of apps, femometer is annoying that whenever you have EWCM it thinks it's ovulation day 🙄 lets see how I get on with FF premium think I had it to start with but we'll see

@Renna me and DP just had a convo about it, he is so involved in my cycle he always knows when it's peak week but we've decided we're going to try alternate days sex and the AI he says it's nothing to do with pressure but because he wants to try something else but it seems to have calmed him so that's good. I've read that the odds are slightly less than normal sex but as with everything it only takes once I guess. I'm going to try and make sure I remember preseed this month aswell 🙌🏾 also I am definitely not into hour sessions, some days we only have 2hrs in the house together if he is working nights, so perfected the quickie 😂 and exciting you are so close, will you test next Saturday? Xx

@MichT4 I currently use 8 apps but don't have glow, don't tempt me 🙊 also interesting that rhr is up, mine is lowest at ovulation, no idea what that means x