Just want AF to arrive so new cycle can begin...

[CaribouCarafe]

AF due in 3 days.

Am sure I'm out this month - negative FRER today and I have the usual PMS acne.

Just want my period to come already so that I can get this useless cycle over with and have a commiseration beer.

Just frustrating as have been taking pre-conception vitamins for months, cut out caffeine, no alcohol during TWW, have DTD every other day, tracked ovulation and with no success.

Anyone else fancy a moan whilst waiting for AF to show up?

That's not daft at all @Ughmaybenot! How long has your cycle been now?

I got obsessed with the tv series "I didn't know I was pregnant" recently and now and again will wonder whether I'm one of those people with the 'regular periods' who will end up birthing in a toilet thinking I'm just really constipated.... one can dream .

My mum didn't know she was pregnant with me until she was halfway in and I still don't fully understand how you could NOT know you're pregnant! I'm such a symptom spotter...

@LS2020 yes - tis the season of booze, deli meats and unpasteurised cheeses! Also, my family would really be suspicious if they saw me avoiding these things so am basically backed into a corner of not TTC .

I'm hoping now that I'll get a BFP in Jan or Feb 2021 then it means next Xmas will be 'normal' too! (Silver linings)

Oh seriously @LS2020?! What a pain!!

Day 31 right now @CaribouCarafe so in theory, and judging on when I think I ovulated, AF is due Wednesday. I guess I’ll wait as long as I can and test, but I’m trying so hard not to be too optimistic!

I’m already dreading Christmas, my family all know how I love the booze 😂

@Ughmaybenot maybe you can start decanting non-alcoholic drinks into old bottles haha. Like a reverse 'prohibition era' strategy.

If you're into beer, Brewdog have some really nice alcohol free alternatives. I've also come across some alcohol-free gins and wines recently too.

The only downside is that you'd have to hover over your "alcohol" like Gollum and aggressively tell everyone else that they're not allowed to share .

@CaribouCarafe I literally laughed out loud at this, acting like Gollum 😂

Glad to see you back @CaribouCarafe 💕 thanks for the kind words.

I'm still waiting to find out wtf is going on but I'm not bleeding so I finally caved this weekend and we DTD Saturday and Sunday - sooooooo needed! Was really missing the closeness with hubby 🥰

Would be fab to get an Xmas BFP but I don't know what my chances are...I'm gonna be taking a much more relaxed approach for a few months.

Caved and POAS this morning... BFN don’t even know why I’m surprised. I don’t think it would be quite so bad but this next cycle could be another 100 day one and I hate that uncertainty. Fuck sakeeeeeee.

@mrswilso you managed to DTD more in one weekend than I managed in a whole month!

@Ughmaybenot tbh I'm impressed you held out for so long. I'd feel worse being in "limbo" but I know everyone is different. Take the opportunity to have a lovely glass of wine and treat yourself. I'm always so pissed off by the blank pregnancy tests that I always then use an opk later so at least I get to see something with two lines on it and have a few seconds imagining what that feeling would be like to have a BFP - luckily my DH doesnt know what a mentalist he's married to...yet

@CaribouCarafe ha, I don’t even get two lines on them sometimes 😂
I don’t know whether I was just happy to play pretend for a bit longer. Like I knew it was going to be negative but I hadn’t had it confirmed so could pretend the possibly of a positive was there! Just feeling really crappy. Husband is being fantastic as ever, and I think I’ll do a vat of macaroni cheese for tea, that’ll cheer me up 😂

Haha a vat of mac and cheese sounds fantastic. Especially if you sprinkle some bread crumbs on top and bake till the top bit is crispy (am salivating just thinking about it).

Yesssssss @CaribouCarafe So excited for my tea now 😂 might just get me through this afternoon 😂

Sooo a bit of a long one but wondering if anyone has any advice!?

I have been using the clear blue digital ovulation tests this month we did the deeds on the day I got a and two days later I had pinky discharge on & off for 2 days....

End of the week I had yellow tinted discharge (sorry for the Info)

1/2 weeks later feeling sick couldn’t be sick but sort of that’s sick feeling in my chest really felt like I was pregnant, sore boobs & white creamy discharge.

Today 2 weeks after it said I was ovulating I did a test and it’s negative I’m due my period in 2 days...but surely if I was ovulating 2 weeks ago I would be able to get a positive result?

Has anyone experienced anything similar?

Thank you x

Haven’t a clue I’m afraid @SMAI94 my cycle is a disaster generally, but hope someone else will be able to help you!

One of my friends called earlier to say his girlfriend is pregnant. Oops moment apparently. Wonderful. They don’t know we’re trying but that did sting. Wine by the bottle tonight 🍷

@SMAI94 it's possible that you just haven't built up enough HCG for a positive test yet. If AF doesn't arrive as planned then test again and see. Fingers crossed though!

@Ughmaybenot ooft that's so irritating - had one of my friends complain to me about accidentally getting pregnant. She doesn't know I'm trying, but it was really quite rage-inducing! How's the hangover? .

@CaribouCarafe yea, it’s just so unfair, at risk of sounding like a child 😂 okay actually, Altho I haven’t moved yet 😂 going riding in a bit, that’ll sort me right out.
To add insult to injury, my period started last night.. I don’t know whether I’m relieved it’s a normal cycle tho.

@Ughmaybenot I think AF arriving is a celebration of sorts? Maybe your cycle is getting more regular now?

I can't imagine horse riding with a hangover, the thought of it is giving me a headache!

@CaribouCarafe yea I guess it probably is really. I don’t know about more regular but I live in eternal hope something might go right at some point! I’m still losing weight, Altho not as quickly as I initially was, and I’m hoping that helps.
Haha I think most of my late teenage weekends were spent hungover riding... or still-drunk riding 😂 nothing like it to clear the head.
What are your plans for the day?

@Ughmaybenot Sunday is a work day for me (not that much is getting done!). I then get to celebrate the end of the day by trying to sell my cooker... why did any of us want to grow up and be adults?

AF is now 3 days late for me so will probably do a test when I get home tonight. But from my calculations I don't think we DTD in the right window...

@CaribouCarafe goodness knows, I wonder that myself sometimes! The most exciting thing on my Christmas wish list is a new vacuum cleaner 😂

Well fingers crossed anyway, wouldn’t it be lovely to have some good news?

@Ughmaybenot my dad once got my mum a vacuum cleaner for christmas. It did not go down well!!!

I’d be chuffed @CaribouCarafe 😂

Just rang gynae... again, they’ll be sick to death of me 😂 and they’ve said there’s not many ahead of me now, and that I should expect to have my appointment within the next month, and to call to chase again if I’ve heard nothing in two weeks... which is a lot better than being told last time it’ll be late January at the earliest 🤔

Hi all, sorry been away while I had AF and a bit of a break. How are you all?

@Ughmaybenot I finally got my call from fertility today! Been sent for day 3 bloods (those same ones the GP sent me home from as I didn’t need 😡) and for a scan and hycosy. We got referred end of august if that helps x

@Ughmaybenot and @LS2020 great to hear that you'll both be getting some (more) answers soon!

Got a BFN last night - don't know why I even bothered with the test!

Oh I’m sorry @CaribouCarafe that’s disappointing. Next time 🤞🏻 I so want good news for you all.

Oh amazing @LS2020 hope you get some serious answers and progress made ASAP. That does help, thanks 😘

Feeling a bit hopeless this weekend. My husband, normally fairly stoic, had a bit of a wobble last night. His best friends baby was one yesterday, another of his close friends just announced they’re expecting and other two had babies in the last month. He’s really struggling 😔 but I am glad he talked to me about it. Even if I can’t really help.

I think just being their and being able to empathise is a help in itself, @Ughmaybenot. In a way, I can imagine it would be nice to see your partner 'get it' in a way that you may have been feeling for longer?

We had a small housewarming party on Friday (we don't live in the UK - no lockdown here!) and one of our close friends came with his adorable 8 month old baby. It stung a bit when he described parenting his son as "Easy to make, hard to bring up" - him and his DW managed to get pregnant immediately (they didn't want to try before marriage and she conceived a month after the wedding). I was standing there thinking, "It's not that easy to make!"

I think the silver lining for me is that if I'd managed to get pregnant earlier this year, then my parents and family wouldn't have been around for any of the key moments and it would probably have been a very lonely experience. Now a vaccine for COVID is round the corner, pregnancy and the newborn stage will (presumably) be more 'normal' and easier...

Any updates @LS2020 and @mrswilso ?