50 shades of TTC (June bus part 2)

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Let's all intro ourselves again...so people can use the top of the thread as a quick reference to where we are at and maybe find some cycle buddies - everyone welcome to join the madhouse of the June 2020 bus x

I am sooo over lockdown too 🙃 definitely wouldn't want to go shopping right now but I haven't seen my dad in nearly 11 weeks (he can't work technology so not even by video call 😂) so will be nice to have v.small gatherings again. My friend is coming round for a social distanced cup of tea in the garden tonight which will be nice. First time I have seen anyone in person other than my OH and my mum (who I work with, albeit socially distanced too).

going for a walk now in a minute now - @lucyrp cant sound any more welsh! 😘

@watermelonwizard I feel the same re sex, partner is so keen. Giving a bit of oral gets me in the mood though 😆

Supplement wise- I just started taking well women multi vitamins last week. I have linseed on my porridge in the morning, trying to eat oranges, and a lot of dairy because I love milk. I also eat a fair amount of red meat but I have low iron. Then lots of veg.

I hope we can start seeing family again soon. I'm sick of seeing my colleagues more than I see my family, much as I love my work fam 😂

@Minster2012 okay thank you! It’s something I’ve thought about for a while how to juggle a toddler alongside being preg! X

@notyetamumbuttrying I’m getting fatter by the day too! Hopefully soon we will all have a good reason to be getting fatter!! X

@lucyrp first symptom spot? X

I miss my family so much! Live 90 miles away, but hoping I can this weekend!

Hoping and praying @Cocoblue22 and I'm not even religious lol!

@blodyn91 defo!😂😂

@Cocoblue22 something along those lines 😂

@Ltay2 Definitely makes us appreciate the small things we took for granted before 🙌🏼

@DontGoJasonWaterfalls Oh I'm the same (although not at work) everyone in my street is now my best pals now though 😂

@blodyn91 Ah that's so sad, I hope u can too 🤞🏻 my family all stay close so still been able to see them (at a distance) but I sometimes think that's harder tbh

Gah I'm a bit emotional today and feeling silly! OH walked into the bathroom this morning when I had just tested an OPK and was horrified that I had wee in my little femometer cup and it just tipped me over the edge lol. At the time I told him he's being a big child about it but been in a foul mood ever since!

Come to realise now that it's because I'm annoyed at the audacity of it all (it's not the first time he's commented on opk strips being disgusting) - the only reason I have to take them is because we don't have nearly enough DTD throughout the month to get pregnant! And that's because of him always being tired or not in the mood. So here I am, bending over backwards taking five supplements a day whilst he takes none, tracking CM, ovulation, cycle days and whatever whilst all he has to do is DTD during FW and there's zero appreciation for the hoops I need to jump through.

Icing on the cake is that I'm meant to ovulate tomorrow and we haven't DTD since Sunday! Yesterday he blamed it on being tired and promised me we'd do it this morning but then he was too tired for that too. So he only needs to do one thing and he can't even do that!

@Juno231 I felt so sad reading your story 😪 it definitely takes two so he needs to get on board for it to work, maybe try having a talk with him about it all. It's not nice or fair on u that your doing all the right things & all the effort & now your feeling a bit crappy 🙁 especially over a bloody OPK! I think if my OH done that I'd pour the cup of wee over his head 🙄 men can sometimes be so shitty & not think! He definitely needs to be supporting & a team alongside u. Sending u big hugs ❤

@Juno231 men can be so stupid and clueless at times!! When we started TTC I had to sit down with my OH and explain everything from opks to implantation! He might just need a little push and maybe having a chat and explaining to him that it’s pointless you doing everything you can unless he pulls his dick out and uses it! I hope you feel better soon though, you don’t deserve to feel crappy!x

@Juno231 sending you big hugs, my OH had no idea how complicated getting pregnant was until o explained it to him so might be worth a chat to see if that helps 💜

@Juno231 big hugs, maybe he's feeling nervous about it? Or under pressure to perform? Think it's worth just a chat to explain why you're doing it and how it just increases your chances of having a baby.
I think some men just have no clue and that everytime you do it you get pregnant...my husband basically avoided having sex with me the last 9 months whilst I was off the pill... now that 2 of his best friends announced pg last month he finally decided he was ready tontry!

@Juno231 all the lovely girls above have said it perfectly. You have every right to feel pissed off, it's an exhausting and emotional process and you need love and support from OH through it. Big virtual hugs to you 💗

Thanks ladies, and @krk05 it's nice to have my feelings validated!
Yeah the problem is that he seems utterly oblivious to how important each FW is to me. I think he'd be happy for it to take ages to conceive as he thinks it's just normal - so he just doesn't see the urgency in it. Like so what if we don't DTD this week, we can try again next month. Then again he also guessed we're on cycle 3 instead of 5 so this has clearly gone really fast for him and we're still in the early stages of trying as far as he's concerned!

It's been two AF's in a row now where I had to explain to him why I would be sad when AF shows up. I do sometimes wonder if he's got mild aspergers or something similar as he does seem to struggle with understanding other people's emotions...

Thanks ladies for letting me vent and for your kind words!

@Juno231 do you think maybe he is deliberately stalling? Definitely have a chat and see what's going on with him. That's very insensitive behaviour either way. An opk is hardly that disgusting! Ugh men have it soooo easy! Its all on us, the least they may do is show some awe and respect for the goddesses we are!

@lucyrp yeah if you're having a lot of sex cervical position probably won't be that accurate as it moves up after sex 😝

@watermelonwizard glad it's not just me with that blank ⭕️ I just want a flashing circle now.

@notyetamumbuttrying will you test on the 12th?

@Noble89 i've been on the Grapefruit juice and it's done wonders for EWCM 👌🏾

@Minster2012 I know I kinda thought it might be sexy pulling fertile mucus around when I said it but in retrospect it was repulsive 😂

@Skip86 I've had Gin and grapefruit juice 🥂

@juno231 omg I've had the worst day at work as me and OH had an argument this morning, we didn't have sex last night (mainly because of me) and was hyped to get it done this morning and he just couldn't be arsed. I ended up being late for work and I thought the exact same thing, all he has to do is deposit the goods I do all the rest and 8am he is too knackered even though he isn't working so could've gone straight back to bed. I know that he would do anything to make me happy but it's just so bloody frustrating when we only have about a week when we're fertile.

Hope everyone else is having a good day, trying desperately to get through my to do list when my head isn't on work at all.

@Juno231 as above, you have every right to be annoyed. & def worry they chat...Unfortunately most men don’t actually realise there are genuinely only like 4 days or something you can get pregnant on & most couples it takes about a year or something ridiculous if you don’t work out when these days are, so whilst you appreciate his sex drive is lower than yours, & don’t mind that (in normal circumstances) unless by fortunate magic you have Sex on those days it ain’t gonna happen, & reiterate that it needs to be those multiple days covered.

If he feels pressured then maybe not tell him next time & try our other feminine ways to get him in the mood.

Or you could leave the chat for now & set up a date night for tonight to ensure it happens to cover yourself & THEN explain for next time

@Minster2012 I tested with CB again this morning but with two different readers (I’d been using the same reader from the previous box up to now) and the old reader still had a flashing smiley but the new reader showed the blank circle, and the IC only had the control line 🤯 I don’t even know what I’m doing any more 😩

CD24, Flo has changed from predicted ovulation today to in 5 days time, Fermometer thinks tomorrow. If I’m back to a 40 day cycle then I’m still in with a chance 😂🤞🏻

I’m in such a low mood today, slightly more bloated than usual and not in the mood at all to DTD. Hopefully sunbathing and reading my book might sort me out.

@juno321 I am so sorry your OH isn't more understanding and supportive of the situation- I do sometimes feel like women get the short end of the stick but yeh maybe it's worth a chat (a chat helped in getting my DH to take multivitamins as he genuinely had no idea how it's not easy to get pregnant) and now he's all for anything we can do to maximise our chances

@minister2012 date night sounds like a great idea, so I would probs try that for this month that way @juno321 you know you're in for a good chance 😬

@Juno231 I’m sorry the OH isn’t being the most helpful right now. I’m only on month 2 of trying and I did need to explain how it all worked last month to my OH because he thought as long as I’m not on my period I’m able to get pregnant. I talked him through cycles and windows and hormones etc and he has a better understanding about it now. He’s still VERY laid back about the whole thing but he’s more understanding of trying to figure out when our fertile week is and is taking more of an interest in what the OPKs say. Maybe he needs it literally spelling out to him and shown step by step how it all works? Wishing you luck 🤞🏻

Oh @Juno231 you need to read the 6 months ttc thread on here. A lady on there was going through the exact same thing last night and we both had a moan as mine was being a prick too, complaining of a bad belly. I do feel for them only marginally, but they have no idea what we go through really. It's on our minds all day everyday and all they need to do is get laid ffs and they can't even manage that! Have you been able to talk to him yet or u still fuming?
Hey @SmileyT 12th is AF due date so I'll prob test on 11th tbh so you have my testing date correct! It's my dads bday on the 11th too. Would be a great bday present for him!

@Bear127 it’s my understanding that a new holder will always have at least one blank circle anyway even if you are flashing smile on the other as some ppl could have more hormones naturally in their system than others so it needs to work out what yours is to pick up a surge that’s why they say to start testing a few days before most expected surges in cycles. I have given up testing as I got a slight infection, so I needed to drink more to flush that which was more important & no way I could hold wee & every single test has shown nothing since the weekend 🤷‍♀️CM just white so maybe last week was it. It’s getting me down now seeing 0 & smiles so I’m stepping away & jus’ keep on banging!

@Minster2012 Ahhh that makes sense. I’ll stick to the old holder and use the new one for next cycle as it’ll reset itself by then. Sorry to hear about the infection, how frustrating! I suppose we’ll never know for this cycle so like you said, just keep banging!