TTC after MC - June 2020

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I'm 31 TTC #1 after a MC in March this year, AF has just finished and I'm on CD6 and all ready to go for my 2nd full cycle.

This month I will be tracking with opks, CB connected, BBT and following SMEP plan.

@Tink20058 that's so good to hear that you managed to get a BFP so soon. We will defo be trying again ASAP.
The last pregnancy was so wanted and even though it was so recent, I think the urge to try again will make things harder if we're not able to.

@Wishingfornumber2
Thank you. I actually didn't do bad with the cb for my first month trying, I just got impatient with the flashies. I think I ended up having 5 days of 'em before my static and I wanted it to throw it out of the window near the end 😂
But yes, definitely reuse your holder! I'm going to this month as, like @VP91x said, I've read it keeps a track of your levels which helps it to better detect an increase.

@WellHurrahAndHuzzah
Glad to hear you're ok. You seem quite chilled in your tww which is good for you. I intend to be more relaxed next month, but, don't we all? 🤷🏽‍♀️😂 Will he thinking of you. Keep us posted.

@Dipsy77
Thank you. Hope you are feeling ok about af. I was in bits last week seeing my negative test so I definitely don't intend to test early next time 🙈 I'm ok now though. I have come to terms with it.
Definitely cycle buddies. It's nice to know someone on the thread is around the same as me. I had a 31 day cycle just gone. Which isn't far off my regular 29 day cycle pre mc. I ov'd on day 17 so I expect (hope!) it to be similar.
How about you?

@Hayleylou89 ahh how amazing ☺️ so glad everything is looking good although hubby had to stay in the car I'm sure it was still a magical day for you both xx

@VP91x yeah I'm actually not feeling negative but have some weird feeling I'll have an April or May baby but still working all angles to have it happen as soon as possible. Oh yeah OH asked me if I needed all the stuff he's ordered and subscribed to the other day 😂 I'm confident you will beat CB this month xx

Welcome @Dizzy201 and so sorry for your loss, hope you get your rainbow soon x

@elliew818 I'm so sorry that your parents reacted that way, I understand being shocked but bloody hell could've just said sorry 😐 I haven't told my parents I was pregnant or miscarried and I don't think I will because they wouldn't know how to react... sending you virtual hugs x

Welcome @mrsssk sorry for your loss but a good sign you caught first month trying, personally I didn't wait until first period to start but think it's a personal decision about what's right for you ❤️

@Wishingfornumber2 yeah I read it keeps your baseline and you can use it until the battery runs out on it - not sure when that is!

Welcome @mrsssk sorry you have had a loss recently, but pleased you're not having any more bleeding. Like the other girls have said I think general advicr is you can try after bleeding has stopped or negative test. Wishing you all the luck xx

@SmileyT haha yeah, completely forgot to unsubscribe after my rage towards it. Yeah, I feel confident I will get that elusive static smiley.

Definitely stay positive! I'm a May baby it is a nice month to have a birthday actually xx

Thanks @SmileyT @VP91x @1990EM my parents are kind of 'bull in a china shop' and I think it's a combination of a generation thing and never having experienced it either.
Just had a long reply to everyone individually and then DS came and swiped the screen...
Sorry to hear what you're going through @mrsssk we waited one cycle and midwives prefer you to wait for dating new pregnancies but there isn't any reason medically not to start trying (someone tell me if I'm wrong!) if you're both feeling ready emotionally.
Sorry about AF @Jazper and try to look after yourself, it doesn't get really get easier each month does it, how many month are you TTC? Sorry if you've already said, hard to keep track sometimes.
@Chickoletta all sound like good signs but I'm with you, I hate getting my hopes up.
@Hayleylou89 this TWW has felt soooo long, I'm 6 DPO and AF due 16th but first full cycle since MC so won't test until 19th - unless she rears her ugly head before then.
@2020wish yep I hear you! We're afternoon delighters when DS is napping, don't know how we'll keep it up when we both stop working from home!

@Jazper my cycles are usually 27 days this time it was 26 and I ov usually CD14 so the SMEP isn't too bad with it been a short cycle AF due 4th July if I have another 26 day cycle xx

I’m officially a data geek 🤓

OPKs arrived and I tested this afternoon, it tells me it’s high, I was so excited and it’s not even a peak result. It’s going to be a crazy few days in this house if I get so excited about POAS. Here’s my result, so shall I just do twice a day until it’s darker?

@Jazper & @Dipsy77 sorry AF got you! But at least now you can start again armed with allllllll the little things the girls have shared that they're doing.

@Hayleylou89 that is such a beautiful pic! Definitely does look like you've swallowed a ring 😂 soooo happy for you! You really do deserve this 💕 praying it's a smoooooooth & successful pregnancy & delivery!

@SmileyT I know it's crazy! My FW has moved up so much that it literally starts straight after AF, last cycle the app suggested the last day of AF was the first day of my FW! But yeah any symptom is very much welcomed right now - still nauseous & heartburn is still there

@VP91x thats great hun! Hopefully this is your month too! A lot of sideways dancing awaits you 😜😂

@VP91x hi lovely! I'm good thank you, how are you feeling? I've been dtd every day since my opk went dark, getting lots of ewcm and this morning my temp dropped. Hopefully it shoots back up over the next few days so I know that I ovulated. But maybe I'll get a period instead😂 who knows😂 Im quite clueless as to what my body is up to post mc.

@elliew818 ahh, well I hope you're feeling okay!?

@MichT4 looks like you're definitely on the way to your peak. I would test every 4hrs or so, or like 3 times a day because it will peak quickly. Exciting times!!

@Niisa 😂😂 makes me giggle

@Rainbowhope11 glad you are well! Yeah doing okay over here, just waiting (im)patiently, haha. Did your OPK go back to light? You'll definitely be covered with all that DTD 💦💦 xx

Hi to all the new ladies so sorry about your losses I hope you find this group very supportive 😊. Xx

Sorry to those that af came. Xx

@2020wish yay for your peak happy dtd. Xx

@Hayleylou89 so happy to hear that everything went well at your scan today 😁. Xx

Thanks for all ur lovely comments, iv had a day of vomitting to celebrate my healthy scan 😂

Welcome to all the newbies iv stuck around in here as i would love to see some more bfps this month as so many people have supported me to get where im at now and stay sain xx

Cnt wait until a few of you are testing is anyone really soon to test? X 🌈💙💖

@elliew818 thank you. I am three months ttc post mc now. Which, I know isn't a long time in comparison to other lovely ladies on other threads, but you're right, it really doesn't get any easier. In fact, I think it's getting harder?! It took 4 months pre mc but having experienced the loss of our baby, the need, the want, to be pregnant again and feel that little life inside of me once again is all consuming. Even more so than before 😔

Sorry to hear of the insensitive things your parents said to you. It is bitter sweet however that you can relate it to being more generational and lack of understanding than callousness. I think sometimes people don't know what to say... I mc in Feb, and a little while later, a friend said to me, 'you know, I've been thinking, it's probably a blessing you lost it what with coronavirus going on...'. I wanted to tell her that nothing of what I went through could ever, will ever, be classed as a blessing. But you ladies understand that, I know... xx

Thank you @Niisa, much appreciated.

@Dipsy77 SMEP was pretty hard going last month, we managed it until the day of ov, and then it trailed off. In fairness, we are generally a very highly sexed couple, but so much of it in lockdown with three children around that are passed napping age, and a 4 year old who doesn't believe bedtime should exist, was really bloody hard. It was anything but romantic for sure! 😂😂
But yes, I can imagine a shorter cycle may be a little more manageable.
Well I am due on 9th July IF my cycle is the same again but I really do hope it goes back to pre mc regularity. But cycle buddies for sure, we're not too far off one another ☺️

@Jazper My GP said the same thing to me when I rang for a sicknote. Apparently all the Covid stuff would put my loss in to perspective. I’m still waiting!!!!

People say the worst things...often without realising. It really does make you think how, if only one good thing can come out of losing a baby, it is that we’ll know exactly what not to say to someone. My friend said she couldn’t believe we ‘had to have a funeral’. 😔

My period isn’t due until Sunday but I’ve got the worst period pains today. Maybe it’s my body’s way of being kind and saying ‘don’t get your hopes up!’

@MissyBate
That is an awful thing for your GP to have said. Sadly though, I am not surprised. Your friend however.... that is absolutely unbelievable! Begs belief!
On the period pain thing. It could be that, or it could be stretching to accommodate a beautifully nestled little baba. Try not to symptom spot though. I absolutely convinced myself this cycle that I was pregnant. I was sure of it. I was awake at 3am this morning with heart burn. Yet here I am today with my period.
I am going to try my absolute hardest next cycle to not read in to anything. The disappointment is unbearable.
Sending you so much baby dust. Hopefully they are positive pains that you are feeling xx

@MissyBate wow, I can't believe your GP said that but also agree with @Jazper it is horrendous what your friend said! I'm sorry you were unsupported in that way.

Sometimes it is best that people don't say anything isn't it xx

@Jazper I understand as I'm sure many ladies here do. For me I just feel physically and emotionally empty sometimes. After my first MC I got pregnant with DS after 5 months and you're right that's not very long compared to others but it felt like a lifetime to me. Also I think I maybe would have wanted to punch your friend for ever saying a MC could be a blessing! Here's hoping your cycle gets back on track this month 🤞
@MissyBate that's awful somebody said that to you! And hope AF doesn't come, will you test this week?

And @Jazper you're totally right, symptom spotting really is a fool's errand, yet it sucks me in every time...currently trying to tell myself that I haven't had a full cycle since January so any symptom is my body's way of resuming a normal cycle.

I just think my friend just didn’t see my baby as a real person which is why she couldn’t understand the funeral. So many people were shocked I had to give birth too. I suppose it’s just peoples lack of understanding and experiences. Still feels shit though.

@elliew818 I’m going to test on Friday which will be 12 dpo. AF is due on Sunday. Do you think that’s a bit soon to test?

@MissyBate I hope you also have friends who understand and support you. I have had a few "at least I know I can get pregnant" comments which felt awful. None of us would be here if we hadn't been able to get pregnant 🙄

@VP91x it still looks dark to me. I will see what happens with my temps in the morning. But still keen to dtd 😂 we had a week and a bit off after we thought I had ovulated a few weeks ago, so we are refreshed and recharged 😂😂 Are you waiting for FW?

@Hayleylou89 beautiful photo!! 💕 so thrilled for you! Hope you are doing okay minus the vomiting! 😊