CD1 - here we go again! Buddies welcome.

[Newbie0818]

Hi, thought I’d start a fresh CD1 thread as af has turned up today. I’m starting to feel a bit lonely in the other group I’m in as there have been loads of BFPs and I’m quite behind now because of longer cycles!

I’m 27 in 12 days, dh is 28.
Came off the pill in August, cycles messed up ever since, getting longer.
Technically cycle 5 of ttc.
Never had a positive pg test ever, so I’m eagerly awaiting that day!

Hoping this group is a support system for anyone starting out a new cycle 💜

Hi, my husband and I are 29, trying for first baby since coming off the Mirena coil. Tried the fertility sticks, got nowhere so gave up! Period late this month, still hasn't come so got our hopes up but tests still say negative. Rang Drs, said still could be pregnant and to test again in 2 weeks. Getting quite downhearted about it all, I dread to think what we'll be like if we still aren't successful this time next year! 🙁 We both assumed it'd be so easy, now I'm sick to the back teeth of pregnancy tests that are always negative! Need a safe space to release and vent! Just so fed up with it all. It's literally consuming my mind, I just wish AF would turn up so we can start trying again but no such luck so far 😭

Hi both 👋🏻 I’m CD5 today, currently counting down the days until I ovulate so we can try again! I am 27, my DH is 34. This is cycle 2 for us so early days.

What are you both doing to help? I am on Seven Seas tablets and bought some pre seed lube to use this month as I’ve read normal lube isn’t good for swimmers 😂 dread to think what people would think if they saw my internet history lol.

Welcome both!
@EmmaA91 i feel your pain! I’ve only ever seen a negative pg test and it’s so awful isn’t it. So over it. But our time will come soon hopefully. How many cycles have you been trying for? Are your cycles usually regular 28 days? My last cycle was 56 days long and was just such a shit show as I thought I’d ovulated, then when I thought I might be pregnant turns out it was just delayed ovulation, and here I am again. I’m getting bloods done in a few weeks as cycles are getting longer.

@slimshadyscousin hi! I’m the same with my internet history 😂 last month we took the relaxed approach for a change, turned out to be a horrendous cycle (see above), so now I’m back to tracking obsessively. This month I’m charting my bbt for the first time, I’ve got opk sticks, got pre-seed, on Pregnacare for him and her, tracking my cervical position and cm, and DTD every other day once af is truly gone. Also eating lots of plant based food and lots of old wives tales just for good measure 🤣🤣 roll on crazy me! 🤘🏼🤘🏼

Hi guys, I’m 32 currently have a 3 and 3/4 year old daughter and desperate for number 2 before she gets too big or too use to being an only child!

I’m currently in the 4th month of trying and I’m cycle day 30, but my cycles are 36 days at the moment. I know I could take a test but too worried about yet another BFN so have decided to hold off until a week Monday after AF should have arrived.

Hi again @NemoBear7 we seem to cross on a lot of threads ☺️ I think I would hold off until the day af is due, just because I know that feeling of disappointment! You’ll get a stronger line then too if it does turn out to be a BFP :) any symptoms?

Hi everyone, I'm coming over from the May bus. So much good luck there but it has missed me this month. AF arrived last night and I got really upset with many tears but I am pulling myself together this morning (I'm in NZ). DH was supportive but he is so relaxed about it all I had to take myself off to bed.

I am 32, ttc #1 cycle 5 (upcoming). Came off the pill in January and cycles are about 25-27 days. I have been on iodine and folate supplements since December, tried SMEP last month and had my first positive OPK which got my hopes up. This is going to be a marathon and not a sprint!

@EmmaA91 I hope you get news either way. The not knowing part is the worst.

Hi everyone! New here...

@eljoy same here, spotting started yesterday and I had my first cry since starting to try. Every month I do the same thing where I kid myself into thinking it's implantation bleeding as I spot lightly at the start of my period so trying not to do that this month. TTC number 1 and now onto cycle 8.

This period and my last one came on the exact days that two of my good friends gave birth! Which feels like a joke...you can only laugh.

Ah another May bus member, hi @eljoy 👋🏼 I totally get that crummy feeling you had, my hubby is also really relaxed, and when I started about trying to match my seed cycles with the moon he officially thought I’d gone insane 🤣 they don’t get it as it’s not their body. It’s good you got a positive opk! We’re on the same cycle (5). Keep your chin up, fresh cycle, fresh hope 💜

@eatspaghetti sorry about the tears :( spotting is a cruel hope isn’t it. And what timing for your friends! It’s so bittersweet. But we’ll get there! Someone on the May bus recommended Bettina Rae yoga videos on YouTube and I had a watch of one of them, and she says to use the mantra “my baby will come when it’s ready” which I found really lovely. It’ll be your time soon ✨💜

@eljoy lots of chocolate and a duvet day is required! I haven’t been TTC for long but the disappointment is usually made better by having something nice to look forward to if AF shows up. Whether it’s a large G&T, big bar of chocolate or even some new PJs to wear round the house. I bought myself a pair and saved them for when AF came 💕 silly I know

@Newbie0818 I’m not even sure how much my DH pays attention to my TTC ramblings anymore 😂 I tried to explain my poas stick obsession but he just didn’t get it. 🤦🏼‍♀️

@slimshadyscousin they just don’t 😂 I give him his well man vitamin and a Brazil nut everyday and he huffs. We’re getting a puppy on a few weeks time so that should keep us distracted though!

How exciting! What breed are you getting?

Yes, we’ve waiting a long time for our pup and he’ll finally be ready to come home in 3 weeks! He’s a miniature Yorkshire terrier 😍

Awwww so cute! Such a great distraction too, the only thing stopping me thinking about TTC is work 😂

@slimshadyscousin at least that’s something haha. The weather is beautiful too so it’s been nice finding secluded places in the forest to go for walks 🌲☀️

@Newbie0818 I wish I could go out, my hay fever has gone into overdrive the last couple of days so I can’t even have my back door open. So frustrating when the weather is so lovely!

I caved and tested early and it was of course a BFN. I’m only 7 DPO so don’t even know why I did it other than because I am a loon. 😂

@slimshadyscousin I totally get the temptation though! Don’t forget you can implant up until 12dpo so definitely don’t give up hope x

Hi, thought I would jump on here and join if that's ok. I'm 29 and partner (of 13 years) is 30, I came off the pill in October.

Similar to you @emmaA91 I'm actually 9 days late, so kind of stuck in limbo! Ever since coming off the pill I've had regular 28 day cycles and so when I was late I was overjoyed... but 4 tests later and now I'm just confused!!

Desperately trying not to test!!

Thank you @Newbie0818 trying not to get my hopes up but be positive at the same time it’s a delicate balance lol

Welcome @dogmam ! Is it possible your cycle is late because you’re stressed? Mine have done that to me in the past. Bastards

Thanks @slimshadyscousin I really don't feel stressed at all, well other than the fact I'm late, but actually I'm super chilled when it comes to everything else. Blazing sunshine working from home in the garden - happy days!

Hi @dogmam a lot of people’s cycles seem to be on a rollercoaster since lockdown for some reason. If still no af in a week I’d test again. Hopefully it’s a bfp!

@slimshadyscousin totally get that.

@newbie0818 waiting a week to test is easier said than done haha but I will, unless AF appears in the meantime. Bet you can't wait to get your puppy! We got a rescue dog last year and he is like the child I don't have, I actually worry that when a real baby comes along how I will give my dog the same attention as he gets now!

Hi ladies! Tested again today as I am 9DPO and was feeling some really strong twinges yesterday but still a BFN for me! How are you all getting on?

Has AF showed up for you @dogmam ?

@Newbie0818 you must be in your FW now?

@slimshadyscousin yeah, finally today, 10 days late! To be honest I'm pleased I can just start again as the four bfn kind of confirmed things anyway.
Still early days for you, maybe wait a couple of days before you retest. How long have you been trying for?

At least it answers your question @dogmam and like you say you can move on. AF is almost a relief at the end of the TWW as it stops the guessing and I do relax and have a drink! 🍸

I’m going to try but I think because it’s getting close I will probably test every day now until AF comes, I just can’t stop myself 😳 we are on cycle 2 of ‘properly’ TTC after previous half arsed attempts. I tried to do the whole ‘if it happens it happens’ relaxed TTC but it is not in my nature at all 😂

What about you, have you been trying since you came off the pill in October?