TTC one year and counting

[Rhubarbe]

This month makes a year of TTC. We’ve had a missed miscarriage in that time, so I suppose I should feel grateful that we can conceive at all, but it’s all feeling very hard today. Friends who started trying after us have had their babies and I’m so happy for them but so sad for us.
Anybody got any words of advice on how not to wallow or ways to stay positive?

I’m only on cycle 5 and feel like this, I don’t know how I’ll cope if I go 12 cycles with nothing:( my friend has recently announced she is trying to conceive also, she has 3 already (this is my 1st) I’m so excited for her and hope she catches as soon as possible but I don’t know how I’ll take it if I’ve still not caught by then.. I feel like it’s a race and it’s not a situation I wanted to be in because I want to support her fully but feel like I’m falling apart. I find the best way is to just try and focus on yourself and Don’t forget how hard it is for a lot of us, people make it look so easy but it is not always the case.. I’ve had a previous pregnancy so I know I can conceive also (I had a chemical pregnancy in feb as well I think) which was a little comfort for me to know it should happen again.. but it makes me question why It’s not happened for us yet. I wish you all the luck in the world 💓

@Rhubarbe I am so sorry to hear that. I am in a similar position. This is our 11th month and I have been feeling really wobbly today.

I just set up a chat called '11 months ttc' and got some lovely responses from people. Lots of stories of people conceiving naturally after 11 months.

Sending you love. x

@Rhubarbe this is our 11th month (will be a year at the end of May!) And we have also had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks at that time. I have moments of feeling hopeful and then moments of feeling sad!

Sending hugs to you all. Never felt so actually insane as when trying to TTC. About 9 years total!!!

Thanks all. I’m sorry that you’re going through this too.
@Poppy9090 I kNow how you feel but try not to think of it as a race. Somebody else conceiving doesn’t reduce your chances - it helps me to remember that there isn’t a finite pool of babies.