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[babyG123]

Not sure how often OP goes on!!! Eeeek so thought I'd start a new one as running out of space. Hope that's ok....

@polly2020

This is exactly what happened to me last month! I don't know why. It was very upsetting but nothing ever came of it. I think I just had an irregular month. Sending lots of love your way 🥰

@MrsEmilyB 100% with you- I'm convinced this month's a write off. Made even worse by having just found out that my neighbours have just succeeded (we started trying at the same time). There are babies EVERYWHERE except for my uterus 😢😑😢😩😑😢

@GingerBaby89 it's hard when people in "real life" announce pregnancy... Like I am genuinely so thrilled for all the lovely ladies on the threads and it fill me with hope that we will get there and excitement in anticipation of seeing my own BFP but in "real life" I get such different emotions.

Friends of ours just announced their pregnancy having been married 2 months (she was obviously unknowingly pregnant at the wedding because she was drinking alot lol) and I am happy for them but also have this huge pang of envy & just felt a bit sad this it wasn't our announcement...

It's so wierd to feel so many emotions and then I also feel like a terrible human for my feelings 😏

Don't feel bad for your feelings. Do they know you're trying too?

We had this with friends but we were the lucky ones with DS1. I didn't know how or when to tell them. Felt so guilty! A few months later they announced too and our babies are 12 weeks apart and so close!

@mrsemilyb totally understand what you are saying. I have written off this month already at 3dpo. Just so negative about it. Already planning what I will do next month. No reason why we managed to dtd 6 times in my fertile period and I think I caught my peak but have such gloom about it all

@popcorndiva - I’m the exact same at 1dpo lol! 😱 I’ve ordered the clearblue digital ovulation kit and loads of ovulation tests for next month and I’ve all the vitamins in my amazon basket for dh and I to take next month . Wtf is wrong with me like xx

@GingerBaby89 this will be my 3rd however my kids are 16 and 13 both not expected. This is my first month it's just upsetting as my husband is due to go back to work and will be gone for up to 6 weeks x

@popcorndiva @Mrsirvine I'm glad it's not just me, I'm 3dpo and just have a feeling it's not my month even though we did everything right. I actually don't feel negative about it I just feel like it's one of those things 🙈 hopefully we are all wrong 🤞

@babyg123 No they don't know. We've kept it to ourselves.

Don't get my wrong I am happy for them, it's really lovely news and they will make great parents... Its just mixed. I'll get over it.

A fair few of our friends are expecting so it feel like there are babies and pregnanct all around. I just want to be part of the club hahaha
I'm sure we've all felt it form time to time, I'm glad this a safe space to share these feelings xx

@SmileyT I hope we’re all wrong too!

On another note - have any of you read about tour resting heart rate? So it’s supposed to spike before ov and then drop. Originally my ov day was due to be Friday remember? I just looked At my Fitbit (unfortunately only had this one a week or so!) and check this out! My rhr peak was Friday and it’s dropped every day since! Strange! Anyone else wear a heart rate monitor around fw? Xx

Well, we did fuck all this month, or rather we didn't... Once on either ovulation day or the day before, I think, I don't track, so heart is saying still a chance, head is rolling eyes at me, if it works, new method: not caring, tongue in cheek of course.

Yay huge congrats @myhappystreak! Cycle 1 SMEP for me so hoping the positive bus vibes come my way when I test next week.

@vintagemoo tell me about it, I've been shattered the past two days. Had an early night last night and had to drag myself out of bed. Have you had any other symptoms?

On the topic of other pregnancies, I completwly sympathize. Huge planner here and was desperate for a 2020 baby to join all the others I know expecting this year..about 15 in total who have either given birth or are still pregnant. I will be smitten regardless and a BFP this month means January baby to share my birthday month. I also just found out my step sister is expecting (still in T1 but dad told me) without me knowing she was trying. Happy for her but just want to join the club.

I am learning a lot about myself through this process and know I just need to trust that it'll happen when it's the right time to.

AF due today, fingers crossed she doesn't show her face 🙏

@Mrsirvine my RHR starts dropping around when my period starts then continues to drop until ovulation and then starts to creep back up before dropping before my next period. The month I got pregnant my first indicator was high RHR actually so we'll see. This is my chart for the last 30days the 72bpm was just before my period started and the 54bpm was the day before my opk peak, it's all very interesting.

@Pika93 will you test today if AF doesn't arrive? Fingers crossed she stays away

@Franklydear it only takes once so you're definitely not out

@Sausage1990 @eljoy I totally understand the mixed feelings, one of my best friends is due in July and I would love to have an overlap with hers so we can share the experience. She is in full lockdown and I put together a newborn survival pack with loads of bits for her like gentle bath oils, nipple cream, wine etc and loads of bits for baby and it was such mixed feelings wishing that I'd have been pregnant aswell sharing the experience. It'll happen for us but it's totally okay to be a bit jealous right now. We also did 1st time SMEP this month @eljoy so at least I know I've done everything I can 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Sausage1990 oh totally we are all human!

I was sooo jealous when my sister announced last year and my ds1 was only 8 months at the time and we weren't even trying yet 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Sausage1990 I actually don’t have anyone close to me pregnant at the moment which is nice, but my close friend and her DH have a 2 year old and had their 2nd just before lockdown. When we talk to them they say stuff to us like “oh we’re ok, but it’s so hard with the kids”. When you ask about the baby they say “we’ve remembered that we just really don’t like this age” and “you don’t get anything back”. I know it’s difficult being in lockdown but they’ve always referred to having kids as soon as possible (they’re only 30 and 32 now!) to get it “out the way” so they can get their life back sooner.

I love my friends but can’t understand the way think about having children. I kind of wince when they say something like that and can’t help but think they don’t realise how lucky they are that they have had all this time together as a family when normally they wouldn’t.

@OrangeJ I work in childcare, was a nanny for years. This happens soooo much. To some people they get kids out the way or it's just the next stage of life rather than actually wanting them!

Makes me love and appreciate the ones who actually want them!

@GingerBaby89 @Sausage1990 - I get so jealous with real life people too. Then I feel awful! DH's cousin has just announced she's pregnant with twins - her DD has just turned 1! And I'm so happy for her, but so jealous.

@popcorndiva @Mrsirvine @SmileyT - let's hope it's a cruel joke and this is our month! I read a stat yesterday that the average time is 4-6 months 😩

@babyG123 - we haven't told a soul! Aside from you lovely ladies.

@Franklydear - one good one is all you need!!

@eljoy @Pika93 - fingers crossed for you both.

On a more positive note, when I went to the loo this morning there was a big blob of EWCM (sorry TMI) and I have very low, light cramps. So despite My LH still being ZILCH I am hoping today is O day as predicted by NC. We DTD last night (with upsuck!) and although DH has an incredibly long day today I'll try and be persuasive later tonight too.

Morning girls, how are you all?
@myhappystreak Congratulations 🥳🥳
@vintagemoo how are you feeling? I think we are the same DPO!
@OrangeJ and @BabyG123 this makes me so sad to read, my BIL and his wife are like this, constantly complaining about their kids. So much to the point that when I was due DD I was so anxious that it would be awful, I wouldn’t cope and I would have no life as that is what I had been told. It couldn’t be further from the truth and honestly I have never been more content in my life. It makes me so sad for those families because they don’t enjoy their time together.
@Mrsirvine and @SmileyT this is so interesting re Fitbit, I don’t wear mine 24/7 but I must start today!
@MrsEmilyB that’s exactly how I feel this morning yet I have a secret little hope that I am mistaken 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@Mrsirvine this is my current rhr chart. It was at its lowest at AF then rose a couple of days after ovulation, now been stable for 2 days. If there is implantation should drop around the weekend

Sorry forgot to attach

@MrsEmilyB this is the only place that knows too! Was so hard FaceTiming my mum the other day and feeling sick having to hide it just Incase 🤦🏻‍♀️ 3 kids under 2! Lordy thats going to be fun!

@CoronaBaby I know right! I've always wanted to take the kids home with me and give them the love they deserve! They do complete you, as cheesy as it is!

@SmileyT @popcorndiva thanks for sharing ! I’m gonna wear mine permanently now to see if there’s a pattern, I missed it a couple of days at the weekend as I had a heat rash and now am gutted, lol will keep wearing it even in bed and see.

Girls it’s not bad to be envious of someone else’s situation and @eljoy it’s lovely that you’re still genuinely happy for you stepsister, that’s how I feel, I am jealous but happy for people but wanna he in the club (again - I already have two kids) .

On another note I say on a regular basis they’re overrated and not all they’re cracked up to be 🤣 (joking obvs - I wouldn’t be without them) 💕

It’ll come girls , and when it does, it’ll be all the more special; your appreciation for the times ahead will just add to the joy I believe.

Baby dust to everyone.

How many dpo or what cd are people? Who’s next to test? Xxx

@mrsirvine did you drink on Thurs perhaps? Bear in mind alcohol will make your rhr really spike so that could be a reason. Otherwise if you only just started wearing it then it's worth noting the RHR is mainly based on your sleeping HR so if that was your first day wearing it it may be skewed by only taking day time HR into account.

@orangej one of my close friends has two kids, boy and girl and they seem amazing but all she does is complain about them and continuously tell us how lucky we are not to have kids or "don't have kids". One of our friends actually got quite angry about it as we all want them but haven't been able to have them yet so she finds this friend ungrateful and insensitive - and I agree! Also makes me sad to see her husband seemingly trying to be with the kids as little as possible and he even told my husband how he's happy he didn't have to take any paternity leave cause he'd hate it...

Meanwhile OH has asked for as much pat leave as possible - I'm thinking 2-3 months towards the end of the year of leave?

@juno321 good point , I don’t really drink v often and I haven’t had a drink in weeks or a month or so so not that. I will wear it for next month to see if there’s a pattern , supposed it could take a couple of months really to see if I have a pattern xx