All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

ladies, your opinions please??

Kensgirl and Cricri, sorry to hear of your news. Hugs to you both.

Kensgirl - fantastic news .... send us some baby dust please

Kensgirl and Cricri, my thoughts are with you and I wish you the best of luck. You know what they say - life is somewhat zebra-like. If you came upon a dark stripe, a white (happy and BFP ~ these are my comments ) is about to come upon you~

ILTC I just checked your other thread. Good God! I don't have cats but we have 2 dogs and I can't imagine what I would have done if somebody had taken them from me! Mind you - mine are "boys" so they didn't have puppies to care for! I think you should first try to calm down (remember, you have just been through a lot and you're just a sniff away from getting pg). So, calm down but then I think you should talk to the woman and warn her that if she tries to take your property (and clearly your pets are your property, at least from the legal stand point), you will report her to the police! Good luck and I am glad that your family is reunited and kittens are being cared for by their mommies

Wow so much has happened I don't know where to start...

GoingFor3 - CONGRATULATIONS thats amazing... am 36 & been trying for No.2 for too long... would have 5 if I could so don't worry about 3...

Kensgirl - sorry its not to be this month... will happen soon I'm sure. sending you hugs.

Cricri - thanks for the advice - good luck with the scan & I hope it passes smoothly for you.

ILTS - I read your post... the woman needs a talking too... who the f does she think she is??

Well I phoned my local Early Pregnancy Unit as have had no more loss. The next available slot for an erpc is next Tues & . Its f*ing my head up now... so now I have to wait another week and then have the procedure I don't want... oh lifes just great...

Still my baby starts school full time tomorrow - I am going SHOPPING!!

Rose
xxx

Rose that is just messed up! Do they understand what you're going through?! Ok, maybe this will sound very immature but do you think you can just go over and pretend you're in excruciating pain and need for them to get on the case right away? Hey, in my book at this point - everything goes!

My doc didn't want to schedule me for D&C, saying that I was "progressing fine." Fine? Now how would HE know if I was fine? So, I asked what the process was for getting scheduled for a D&C. He said that their practice manager does it. I marched right into her office and was like: "Look, I have a 19 months old at home (well, I didn't tell them he is in daycare but he comes home at night!) and I can't be a walking time bomb waiting to collapse at any given moment. So I need to go in during the scheduled time WHILE my boy is in care and be home when he comes back." Maybe because she is a woman or maybe because I sounded so mad and upset - she got me in for 8 am next morning... So don't let the system take advantage of you! Good luck.

Kensgirl - so sorry its CD1 for you. I know its sooo hard. Try and stay strong.

Ladylush - Good luck with the school - they grow up so fast don't they.

ROsybelle - grr at your behalf - hope your ds/d's first day at school goes well.

Cricri - good luck with the scan.

oh rosybelle thats horrible! i would kick up a fuss if i were you!!

Take a leaf out of katendmoms book

Katendmom will you have a word with the lady that stole my cats please? i think she would shit herself hehehe

ILTS do you even have to ask?! What's her number? I'll give her a "warm and fuzz" buzz and give her a piece of my mind! I don't imagine she is a MNer?!

lets hope not, shes been every bastard under the sun on the AIBU thread haha

Rosybelle - Hang in there. If you can you might phone back the EPU and get on a waiting list. There's a few ladies on this board who were scheduled for some kind of procedure and were unable to attend their appointments due to natural progression of their MC. Those slots become available for the next person to come along.
I went with the medical evac (pill) because I could not get an appointment for D&C right away. It was suggested that I wait, but I phoned up crying after waiting 21 days for something to happen naturally. I was going mad waiting so I know it's just awful. (((hugs)))

cricri - You are dead right about that mind taking longer than the body to heal thing but you do get there. It's good that we have a place to talk about it. I'm glad you had a good time in Holland.

ILTS - I have 3 cats and that would drive me mad, poor you, your cats sound lovely though and the kittens I would take one in a shot.

cricri - glad you enjoyed Holland shame about the mc but at least you can get it over and doen with, once the physical side is over you can concentrate on the emotional side.

kensgirl - so sorry about AF take it easy

Rosy - that is s* about the D&C I don't think they truly realise the effect of knowing you have a dead baby (sorry don't know how else to put it) inside you does for you, one minute your pregnant the next your whole world is turned upside down and you just have to wait am so for you, hope you get in quicker

mcchesers - I think the persona is used for contraception but you can use it for predicting ovulation, you get a green light if it's ok to BD and a red light if it's not, there will be other threads on it on here so have a look, if you still want it email me at slrobertson002 at hotmail dot com x

triggles - I agree temping must be a pain I an hardly remember to wee on my stick in the morning, keeping everything crossed for you though

sweetkitty, theres a lovely silver tabby and hes all fluffy and has the cutest chubbiest little face ever ive gotta try and get some pics. The 3 week oldlitter are all boys so you can imagine what fun it is hehe

Hi everyone, wondering if it's ok for me to join you? I wasn't sure which group on Mumsnet suited me best. I think it is this one! Hope it's not too late to join in?
I had a m/c earlier this year, I would have been due in a few weeks (oct). I thought I was fine about it but now I'm getting close to my what would of been due date it is on my mind all the time! My DH and myself decided we were not going to have anymore, we already have a little girl who is nearly 3. However the closer we get to October the more we are changing our minds. It's too late to start trying this month, but I think next month will be the month for us to TTC. Well that's a little bit about myself. Good luck to all of you who are TTC, congratulations to all of you who are pregnant again and I'm sorry to anyone who is MC'ing or who has MC'ed.

lottie7 I'm really sorry to hear you mc'd. Good luck for next month.

It is never to late to join - welcome Lottie

Right i am off to work with wet hair because i slept in - still had time to mums net [grin}

Morning,

Just had to bugger about with the broadband connection (again) - the thought of a whole day without MN !

Kensgirl - no worries, it's [email protected]. I asked my sister and she said she could fit you in on a Tuesday as she does sessions (£35 per treatment) at the Quaker House (nr Beluga in town) if you could get down there. If you can't, then I;ll ask her if she knows anyone else a bit more local to you. Sorry about AF arriving .

Lottie7 - sorry about your loss. Hope that we can help you through the edd time. I think I change my mind about ttc at least 10 times a day.

Cricri - so glad you enjoyed Holland. Hope that you are ok today & that the scan goes well.

Rosy - that is awful. I would ring/see them and tell them that you cannot wait that long.

Went to lunch with friends/old workmates yesterday. One of them said "oooh, you're looking really well. When are you due again?" Cue awkward silence, then I said "erm, I'm not". She'd been on holiday and no-one had told her about the m/c. Bless her, I think she was just as thrown off balance as me. Apart from that, had a lovely time & was very happy not to be at work anymore as they told me all the gossip/horror tales of the latest stupid management crackdowns.

Better go and get ds ready - he's got a strange rash on his leg so we're off to the GP.

Have a good day all of you - hope that the sunshine stays a bit longer .

Hello girls

Sorry for not reading all the messages. Stuck in a grim Travelodge, having not slept all night after finding out my younger sis is pregnant with her third baby. It's my EDD from my march miscarriage soon, and I'm really churned up about it all. While I'm happy for her, I guess, I can't help feeling bitter the way it seems so easy for some people - planning their babies for certain times, two years apart, etc etc, and for me it's four mcs in two years and no children at all. It's not FAIR.

herbaceous. Nothing I can say to cheer you up but I understand what you mean about people who plan their babies and actually pull it off. It seemed to work for me the first time but failed three times since. I had a much more hedonistic lifestyle when ds was conceived too - so bloody unfair. I seem to deny myself a new pleasure every time I try again - alcohol, caffeine, less wheat more wholegrains etc etc. I'm bloody pissed off with it tbh. BUT I do know I am very lucky to have ds (sometimes it doesn't feel lucky when he has us up 3 times a night 2 nights running - he's not a baby either, he's 3)and I hope very much that you conceive (and keep) yours soon

Kensgirl sorry about the evil witch arriving hun Here's a virtual large glass of wine.

Hey Herby, I know how you feel with other people getting Pg when it is all you desperately want. Any news from the experts on your situation? Did you ever get your homocysteine checked?

Sorry for AFs Kensgirl and Cricri - my due date from my MC is next Tuesday and I am hoping for BFP this weekend. If I don't get it I am going to be so down. At least you have people here who understand.

Goingfor3 - I have had a dip in my temp this morning! (9DPO) I have gone from 36.9 to 36.79. Fingers crossed that means implantation. I am going to be so gutted if it is not!

Am trying to hold out till Sat to test.

morning girls

thnks for all your support... I tried to be strong Kat - I demanded she check the other 2 hospitals in my area but she came back & said they had an even longer waiting list! I am going in tomorrow for pre-assessment and will ask again if I can have a cancellation...

so here I am still waiting! Don't worry sweetkitty - thats how I view it... I don't know how they view a dead baby lying in my uterus - obviously not high priority!!

Have a good day everyone
R
xx

herbaceous You poor thing, you must be really down. It's not easy when someone so close to you gets pregnant with ease. However I'm sure your sister worried about breaking the news to you that she was pregnant. It is coming up to my (what would have been) edd and there seems to be pregnant women whereever I look! I keep telling myself that it will just make it even more magical when it finally happens.

Morning all.
Thanks for your kind thoughts and sorry to hear some of you are feeling down today. It isn't easy seeing pg women and babies everywhere and thinking of what might have been
My scan went OK and the doctor took the view that there was no need for the ERPC so I was very relieved! I was able to go home after a quick spell in the day surgery unit whilst waiting for an assessment. Rosybelle - I hope you can get a slot where somebody has cancelled. It must happen all the time - they were chasing me this morning to find out what was going on so that they could fit somebody else in if I didn't need the op.
I'm now going to take the rest of the day off (I work from home and am self-employed) as I was really busy with work last week, then we had our weekend in Holland, so I've not really had any time to sit down, relax and come to terms with what has happened.
Hope everybody else is OK and having a good day. xx

cricri - It's good to hear that you don't have to have an ERCP. I hope you have a relaxing day.

I feel really down when I see pregnant women. One of the mums at school posted on facebook that she was pregnant with her third child and that really upset me, I don't know how I would feel if it was someone close to me. I told one of my friends yesterday that I am pregnant as we hboth strted trying in January and both had an m/c, she said congratulations but I could also see that she was hurt adn I know that I would feel the same way too if she had made the announcement to me. I'm really hoping she gets pregnant soon.

waiting for dc to come out of school yesterday dp was making a joke and said jesus shes fat! and nodded towards.....you guessed it a pregnant woman, as soon as he realised what he said he shut up. Lol