All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

[katendmom]

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

justjules I am fine- thanks for asking. How are you doing?

As I mentioned before I have given myself a kick up the backside and trying to look at the positives. I am going to try and be proactive about ttc. DH is on so many sperm maximising vits and minerals he rattles!! I am also going to sort my diet so it's extra heathly (she says as she finishes off a packet of crisps and a kitkat).

Hello to everyone else- hope you are doing ok.

lmao at my sausage stall!!!

i will test every thurs until i get bfp or af

Hello everyone
Had a really low day yesterday, just felt really heavy (OK, that's prob due to all the comfort food I too am consuming!) and sad. DD was having a bit of a stroppy day, and I really struggled staying patient and calm, cos just wanted to go back to bed, pull my duvet up and sleep. Instead took dd out to feed the ducks - much better for me I'm sure.

The sun is shining today and am feeling happier - guess it's all about ups and downs.

Justjules - 3 mc must be so tough, especially when you have no idea of the cause. I guess there are just so many physical changes and processes that are required to maintain and develop the pregnancy that sometimes something just doesn't happen right... Lots of books say that most people go on to have a successful pregnancy even after several mc, so I really hope that's true for you.

Aquababe, it is lovely that you were able to say a proper goodbye to your baby.

Kate - glad you finally got rid of the pg hormones - hope you get good news from the counsellor and can resume bding with an extra purpose!

Sorry for not mentioning anyone else - my memory is so shocking (maybe it's the chocolate cakes & pizza...maybe I need omega 3s like unruly children!) I think I need to have a notebook handy so I can take notes of all the posts. But thinking of everyone

GF3 How are you? How are you feeling? I?m a bit worried that we didn?t hear from you more yesterday? Hope everything is back to normal. Blowing tons of baby dust on you Ronshar how are you? No AF is GOOD? anything new today?
ILTS you said you?d be testing every Thur. Today is Thur ? have anything to report?
Splish you?re doing so GREAT! I love how you take your sour mood and turn it into something fun to do with your DD. You?re so creative! She is so lucky to have you .

BIG HELLO to everybody else! Where the heck are you pg ladies? They swore that they won?t leave this thread and look at them now!

Gotta tell you ~ after all great days of DH?s support, last night was a bit of a pickle. I think the events of the last few weeks have started to catch up with him and he?s been resorting to a bit of a selfish zone. So am I . So in a nutshell, last night?s conversation was about ? ?if test results come back normal, we?ll be trying until the end of times, regardless of how many mc?s we?ll have. If test results come back bad ? we?re done.? Now, is it me or is he kidding himself? I?ve been trying to explain that the results are not a guarantee! If they?re bad ? we can still have a health baby. If they?re good ? we can still have another (or more) mc?s! So this mental game of his ? I don?t get it? and that what made him so upset. He said that he felt like I wasn?t telling him everything, that I was holding back, that I didn?t want to do the test? But all I was trying to say is that these results won?t give us a 100% guarantee for everything! So what I don?t understand is why he?s willing to risk time and time again if results are fine but won?t even give it a chance if they?re not? Is it me only and it does make sense to everybody else?

Hey I'm here! Still keeping up to date with everyone but don't want to keep coming on here being happy and pregnant cos I just wanted to kill all the PG ladies after my MC .

Wishing everyone good vibes....

Kateandmom, don't know your DH but it sounds like he is being a typical man, just wanting everything to be in black and white. He is probably worried about you too and would rather know either you will have a baby or you won't. Unfortunately it doesn't work like that as you well know!

Ronshar, thinking of you - EDD is a complete shitter, mine was last week. Whp else was testing at the end of this week?

Splish Hope you're having a better day today. You're right, it is all about ups and downs. It's a grieving process, some days are good, others less so, some downright awful. But we'll get there!
Kate I think nh101 has it in a nutshell about your DH. He seems to want a guarantee and there are none in this game. Keep talking to one another and perhaps you'll get through to him. He's been fantastic so far from what you've told us - perhaps he was just having a bad day yesterday. Also, men don't have MN to vent their feelings and seek advice! I say they're missing out
G43 Hope you're OK. Do let us know how you're getting on.
Hello to everybody else!
By the way, has anybody seen Lcy? She hasn't posted on here for ages. I've looked on other threads but no sign of her. Lcy - hope you're OK.

nh101 there you're, preggy mama! Oh you so nailed it - "black and white"... too bad that life comes in color! I prefer to see it in "pink" and "blue" but that's just me! LOL

hi all well AF finally caught up with me I say finally as usual bang on time giving me my usual 27 day cycle, I knew she was coming was so emotional I think I blubbed every time I read this thread anyway back to CD1 today and October not a good month for us as DP starts new job and is in training for a marathon maybe his swimmers are too stressed, he's away a few days as well. Think I may have to get him some vitamins. Serves me right for being so smug about getting pregnant first month of ttc the last twice.

jules - you have a great attitude you MUST never give up, I would go through 10mcs for one of my DDs if that makes sense, I'm not trivialising mc at all each one sends you to hell and back again. I do believe you will be a Mum soon though

nh101 - hello hope the pregnancy is going well never apologise for coming back in here you give us all hope x

kate - sorry to hear about your DH men have such deep feelings don't they, my DP says he doesn't think about the mc anymore and that I should be pregnant that it's made him appreciate the DDs more and that he didn't feel the loss I felt men eh? It's such a difficult time for you both just keep talking to each other.

spilsh - I had a horrid day yesterday too maybe it was a full moon, hope today is better for you x

ladylush - July babies all round

ronshar - BFPs are rubbish it's not too much to ask you WILL get that baby, come and have a July one with the rest of us

sorry to anyone else I have missed xxx

Spooky, you're so right Men! Sounds familiar... I was advised to "choose what I think about and don't think about what's upsetting me." It's a good thing I love that man to pieces! . He's actually a great guy and it was true everything that I told you about him... I just really think that men get through tough times with their heads rather than hearts? Even though... I have to say... he is still hurting so much over the loss of our DD1... that I think it has changed his world and his perspective on some things forever...

Hey, when would one need to get pg for a July baby? In Oct? I don't think I'll have time to do that with you guys... I bet ya that blood results won't be in until like the end of Oct (hmm... we still have to TAKE the test)... so if all goes well - I guess I will only be able to go back to TTC in Nov... is that an Aug baby then?

Listen to me - the queen of arrogance, thinking she'll get pg when she wants! LOL

Just popped in to check out the battered sausage stall.... MMmmmm shall I have a small, medium or whopper?? Whopper battered sausage with chips & mushy peas?? How much to you charge ilts?
xx

Hi Kat and everyone,

all the preggie ladies havent gone, still reading and hoping all of you get your BFP.
Had a terrible day yesterday, was just gong out of the house to go to the opticians for an eye test and I started vomiting which lasted for about an hour so I felt miserable and sorry for myself all day.
That seems so insignifcant considering all you are going through.
I know how it feels to get a negative test when all you want is a bfp. After 6 mths of ttc after my mc I just stopped doing tests as I was making myself sick every month, will AF start or not? will I get a bfp?

On a positive note, after 18 mths of trying and finally deciding to stop ttc we found out that I was pregnant. I only did a test as I was falling asleep in work and was sooo tired and there it was a BFP.
12 +2 today and have my booking in appt and scan tomorrow morning.

So all I can say is there is always hope

sending you all good vibes and positive thoughts XXXXXXX

i wouldn't charge the best people in the world here u go xx

LOL - it was delicious!! And its gone straight on my already ample hips!! All that fat!!
I need cake now for pudding!!

Thanks everyone for thinking of me. I do read this thread but have decided not to post so much as I nkow that this is a nce sanctuary away from pregnant women.
I got a referal letter from the gp but can't get through to the epu to book an appointment. They told me to call after getting the gp's letter to book an appointment for wednesday, I will go and do it in operson if I can't get through in the morning. No more fresh blood but I did have sme orangey stuff which I assume is old blood from yesterday and as it's cm can only assume it's comming from my cervix so I really want it to be looked at as I'm sure it was damaged during my mc. Anyway enough of me moaning!

GF3 - Moan away - thats what we are here for. EPUs are renowned for being hard to get through to. Keep trying & let us know how you get on...

GF3 where do you ladies get this idea that this thread is only for non-preggies? This place was established as a virtual lounge for all who likes those on this thread to come and hang out. If you glance through the thread (which is getting quite long) ? we talk about all different things~ kittens, husbands, children, battered sausages (ILTS I nearly drowned in saliva when I saw your ?offering? and I am at work with NOTHING good to munch on!). So please ALWAYS feel free to post/ chat/ update us!

Good luck with the appointment. Tell us how you make out with getting time on Wed.

g43 - its nice that you come back - i love the positive stories, gives me hope.

i just can't seem to move on right now. so up and down. fine at work all day, then even on the cycle home, i start thinking about how hollow and pointless everything seems right now.

i know its all a matter of perspectives but i feel so envious of those of you with kids. i don't know how i reached this point because i was never very broody but once i got pg, a shift occurred and i was really ready to go into this new phase of my life. now i'm not pg anymore, nothing in my life seems meaningful. i can't get excited about anything and i have even lost my focus on all my baby preparation (exercising, eating well, working on my masters thesis in the evenings). i am just slobbing . . .

ok -sorry, whinge over - just need to let off some steam for a sec. i am chief moaner right now!

i would like to officially state that i am grateful for my lovely dp, quality mates, parents, nice flat, fun job and health. and I solemnly vow to wear my shoe collection while i still can.

what i really fancy is a nice battered sausage - really feel like a serving of tasty (mechanically-recovered) meat! with vinegar and a pickled onion.

Oh T Juice - I Lurve pickled onion from the chip shop... lurve pickled egg more but they give me heartburn!

pudding

LOL You are Mad mad mad Ilts where are you getting these pictures from....???
I am going to try to find one for you.

go to google select images from above the search box and type what you want, when you see the image you like click see larger image, copy and paste