TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

Aww thanks everyone! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ You absolute loves!

@Ejb86 Thank you cycle buddy! 😘 You’d best be next! 🤞🏻I’ve got everything crossed for it!

@TerribleImagination this is so strange... after seeing your heart rate and you just generally seemed quite chill in this TWW I had the best feeling for you this month (probs sounds strange from a stranger) but I'm so happy for you ❤️ did you do anything different this month? Or just DTD and crossed your fingers? Xx

@SmileyT My friend said the same thing this month, that she just had a gut feeling! Thank you lovely ❤️

I went full on and threw everything at it this month haha! Managed SMEP perfectly for the first time (although managed all but that 3rd night in a row every other month we’ve tried), ended up DTD nine times in 14 days!! Crazy... I used pre-seed too, but I’ve used that for a few months now, but made sure to use it every single time. I was already taking seven seas trying for a baby and omega 3, but this month added 100mg of vitamin b6 too and vitamin c after ovulation. I’ve also been eaten chicken and veggies for lunch every day (apparently protein is good for TTC). Also had DP on Wellman conception vitamins and omega 3 and made sure he took them every single day! Lockdown has been helpful for that haha.

Could have just been that my body was ready by month 5 and none of that meant anything, but I guess I’ll never know!

@TerribleImagination Congrats!! Fab news!
How is everyone? Haven’t posted on this thread yet as OH has had a bit of a wobble with everything going on at the minute! Fab to see some BFPs though!!!

Just a quick one for all you CM experts! Currently
1 dpo and pretty sure my tracker is correct, got a sky high peak 24 hours ish before/had some streaks of blood in CM. How many days before your peak do you find you get EWCM? Found I had a day of EWCM 4 days before ovulation and then started to get quite sticky until ovulation, now has completely dried up! X

@TerribleImagination Yes I'm coming round to the opinion that our bodies are actually helping us out a lot of the time and they know when the time is right. I know it will be nerve wracking but please take some time to really enjoy this moment, try not to do tests everyday and drive yourself mad with line progression or go mental on google. I have faith that you'll be bringing in 2021 just waiting for your 🌈 to arrive xx

@Quail15 I had 5 mornings of blank circle on CB and then last night jumped to a static smile so you never know it may be just around the corner for you 🤞

@Hayleylou89 yeah I'm kinda wishing I hadn't drillled OH so much before I got the peak yesterday 🤣 oh well he'll just have to pull his socks up and get to work. I also totally know what you mean about having a drink and letting it happen, I've basically cut out alcohol and caffeine if I'm still trying in a few months I'll probably have to rethink it 🍻 The 8th May will come around quick and then hopefully you get one of your 32 day cycles so ovulation comes quick x

Thanks @dinosaur17 ❤️

Yep you’re so right @SmileyT. I’m deffo enjoying this moment, whilst being cautious ❤️ I’m gonna take another test in a week, just to get a better positive on a non FRER, but other than that I’m leaving the tests alone! I’ve seen that line, I know I’m pregnant 🥰

@TerribleImagination HUGE congratulations!! Hoping that will be me in 2 weeks time 🤞 x

@SmileyT I'm still feeling pretty rubbish tbh, had such a horrible sleep was freezing but my body felt warm hoping it doesn't come to anything. Where are you in your cycle? Xx
@Jaylou7 and @TerribleImagination congratulations on your bfps amazing news 😀. Xx

Thanks lovelies!! And crossing everything you get yours in two weeks @JoandLily 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Jaylou7 & @TerribleImagination congratulations! Nice to see some BFP’s. @Jaylou7 I know it’s easy to say but try not to worry. Good to hear you have an early scan. X

@SmileyT thank you. I did another CB ovulation test this evening and still no smiley. I have my fingers crossed for tomorrow.
I'm glad you finally got your smiley.

Hi ladies, is it ok to join you please? I’ve just caught up and this thread seems good and really supportive huge congrats to the BFPs, lovely news 🌈

My story, came off the pill just before Christmas last year. Tried to be chilled about it for a couple of months then March cycle threw a lot at it- vitamins, SMEP and ClearBlue OPK. 28 day cycle normally like clockwork but AF didn’t appear, tested day it was due and BFN so settled into waiting for it to arrive. A week later still no sign so did a test on 3rd April which was a very faint positive, did another on the 5th which was darker. Enjoyed the little bubble but also had a feeling that things weren’t quite right as I knew roughly when I ovulated so it meant implantation had taken too long which is a higher risk of miscarriage apparently. Sure enough for some reason I felt the need to do a test on Friday 10th, it was pretty much negative. Started bleeding heavily on the Saturday, that continued and I called my GP on Monday and as my LMP put me at 6w 3d and my bleeding was quite heavy they agreed to scan me that day. Very impressed with the care I received. Full internal scan showed nothing, had some bloods to rule out ectopic which came back negative so it must have all passed over the weekend. We started TTC again a week after bleeding finished, I think I ovulated last week so I’m in the TWW but not 100% sure. Kept forgetting to do the OPKs think I need the routine of the Clearblue with FMU.

Based on previous 28 day cycle if I go on the date bleeding started then AF should arrive 9th May, I have no sore boobs though which I normally get around this time in my cycle but we’ll see they might appear tomorrow

Anyway sorry that was long! Look forward to getting to know you all

@Jaylou7 and @TerribleImagination congratsssss!!! I’ve been away from Mumsnet the last week as I’ve been busy with Ramadan! First AF post-MMC finished on Thursday and I’m now CD9. Ive had an ⭕️ on my clearblue OPK for the last 2 day - been testing as although my app says I’ll ovulate CD12, in January we DTD on CD9 and I fell pregnant so will keep testing for the next few days.

How y’all doing? All the sex talk KILLED me 😂

@yoomoo nice to meet you. Sorry for what you have been through, it sounds very stressful. I hope you get your bfp soon. I had a MMC at 7 weeks. I went for a scan as I had some spotting but the scan showed the pregnancy had stopped progressing at around 5 weeks. It took my 18 months to get that bfp so I have everything 🤞 that my next bfp doesn't take so long. X

@Niisa I hope you managed to have a lovely Ramadan despite the lock down x

Hi @yoomoo sorry that you have had experienced this. Hopefully your cycles are back on track so that you know where you are and can start TTC when you are ready.

@Niisa hope Ramadan has been going well for you. I am sure you will start getting you flashing abd static smileys soon! I am just waiting for AF to finish so can start testing.

Hope everyone else is OK too! Xx

@HE88 ahh sorry you were feeling crap, how are you feeling today? I'm CD15 on the first day of my TWW 😬

@Quail15 ahh hope you get that static today, it's so annoying waiting but at least you know you're in your fertile window so can keep busy 😉

Welcome @yoomoo and so sorry for your loss, still so recent and raw, I know there will be the desire to try again quickly but also be kind to yourself. My normal cycles are around 28 days but my first period after MC arrived on day 32 so it may be that it arrives slightly different to normal. Did you get a negative hpt after your loss?

@Niisa hope you are enjoying Ramadan, bet it's a strange one at the moment with lockdown on, but also a great time to really look around and be grateful for what we do have - your static face will come soon I hope.

@VP91x hope you are doing well, not long until Ovulation for you aswell xx

@SmileyT CD16 and first day of my TWW although I'm not holding out much hope this month but you never know I always go crazy on the symptom spotting it's so hard to take your mind off things xx

Thank you all for the lovely welcome to the thread

Fingers crossed for you @Quail15 my scan didn’t show anything at all, apart from a hermorraghic corpus leutem (spelling probably terrible!) so I did think I must’ve imagined it all but I definitely had positive tests and lots of symptoms for a week!

Thanks @VP91x it’s not nice but I kinda knew there was something wrong as my AF was so late and then it was quite faint, just wasn’t meant to be for me this time.

@SmileyT thank you for sharing about your cycle that’s good to know I guess I’ll just have to wait and see when I next bleed, the lady at EPU said 4-6 weeks after it stops from the miscarriage. Hopefully after that I’ll go back to a pretty normal length, always bang on 28 days which I was surprised at having been on contraception for 15 years!
I had negative bloods and a negative HPT so it’s just a waiting game now.

I’ll try and catch up and remember what stage everyone is at so I can join in the chat!

Forgot to add I’m 33 and this is my first although I have an 8 year old stepdaughter who is so lovely. Can’t wait to give her a baby brother or sister! I really wanted a 2020 baby and now that’s not going to happen I’m not fussed anymore when it arrives! It’s funny the ideas we have when we set out TTC isn’t it?! I’ll be 34 next February so maybe I can sneak in around my birthday

@SmileyT I'm feeling better today thankfully, also got my static smiley today woo hoo so 3 days of dtd here. Oh fingers crossed for your tww hope it ends in positive news 🤞. Xx

@yoomoo welcome to the thread and sorry for your loss. I can't really comment on cycle lengths as mine were a but up and down before my mmc. However that last cycle there was 28 days which is something I've not had in a very long time so who knows. Just make sure you be kind to yourself 😊. Xx

@SmileyT thanks, I am doing well. Looking forward to fertile week! How are you feeling now you are in TWW? Xx

Back to DTD and temping and using ovulation sticks. Still can’t believe I’m back here. Hoping for a BFP this month.

@Dipsy77 we are in this together then, will you test early? I read an article somebody else posted about surviving tww and found it interesting ingefleur.com/ttc/surviving-and-thriving-in-your-two-week-wait/

@yoomoo it's interesting about the pill as some people take years to get normal periods but some it kinda bounces back. Good that you had blood tests to confirm everything, fresh slate for you to start again, but don't be disheartened if you are a couple days early or late, you body has been through a lot x

@HE88 all I know is I've done everything I could this month, the rest is down to fate.

@VP91x yes best part, AF finishes and looking forward to fertile week. I'm actually feeling good, I'm going to try and keep busy and not obsess but I'm only 1 day in so we'll see how that goes 😂

@SmileyT thanks I'll give that a read, I got my BFP last time at 9DPO so depends if I have any symptoms how about you ?xx