TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

@Mommybear05 yesterday morning but knowing my luck there won't be I'm so disappointed I'll just have to look to next month DP doesn't understand why I'm so upset about it he thinks I'm taking it out on him I've said I'm not but he doesn't understand how I'm feeling even though I've told him xx

@Mommybear05 CD13 and another blank circle on CB this morning, I'm driving myself a bit mad with it now, trying to stay super positive but it is definitely taking a lot of effort. I know you aren't tracking everything but you must be in your TWW now? Have you found this cycle much less stressful? xx

@Dipsy77 ahh I feel for you, it's so frustrating when things don't line up isn't it. Just try and remember it only takes one so you are definitely not out for the month. I can definitely understand how men can feel under pressure sometimes x

@Dipsy77 I understand your frustration. What terrible timing! But you bd recently so I’d say you’re covered. Is he feeling any
Better today? Xx

@Mommybear05 no he's worse today than yesterday I feel guilty as I just had a major meltdown in front of him just hoping he is better tomorrow I've given him a hot water bottle, heat pad and painkillers so fingers crossed xx

@SmileyT aw keep testing I’m sure you will see some movement soon. With a 31 day cycle last time it may be a little early. Cd 18 today. I did have a cheeky check of cm yesterday and today and it’s gone sticky so I’m assuming I’m now in the luteal phase. Over the last two days hubby and I haven’t dtd. I think we’re getting cabin fever with this lockdown business and with the rain we haven’t been for our walk. I’ll go out today even if it’s raining I think. But apart from the last two days we dtd a lot so I’m hoping we got it covered.
I’m feeling positive since stopping bf. Before I knew I could give myself a better chance but now I’m doing what I can so I’m truly at peace if af comes this month. I know it sounds strange but I had my heart set on a 2020 baby for some reason (don’t know why!) and now that’s passed I feel a little more relaxed.
Try to keep calm and positive I’ve got good feelings for you. I’m sure u will be seeing that change soon. Do you have any other observations in your body that ovulation could be coming? Xx

@Dipsy77 aw sending big hugs for your meltdown!! ❤️❤️ We’ve all been there it can be so soul destroying at times all this ttc business. This time will pass and I’m sure one day you will look back and say ‘remember that time I got so upset? Remember how much I wanted it?’ And you will have a baby. You will get through this. I’m sure you have swimmers in there already too. You shouldn’t feel bad about getting upset it’s an emotional time and with everything else going on in the world it’s natural to feel stressed and disheartened. There will be light at the end of the tunnel for you I’m sure. Xxx

@Mommybear05 thanks for your kind words sending baby dust to you for this month too xx

So day 39 today and still no sign of af 😣 will be 6 weeks since mmc on Tuesday. Does anyone have an experience or advice on when I should see a doctor? If I call next week will they just say give it a few more weeks? Tests are negative so I know nothing going on there... At my wits end!!

@mommybear05 I'm using OPKs and just tracking like that, trying not to get bogged down by it all!

Hi ladies can I join please! I had a MMC at the end of last year and have been TTC again since January...I've bought pre seed and clearblue connected as I'm desperate to conceive again asap. I've had flashing smiley faces on the clearblue for 3 days now, can I ask how many of these you had before getting your peak?

Welcome @JoandLily sorry it's my first time using CB and still on blank circle but on the instructions it says like 66% have 4 or less flashing smily faces and another 25% have between 5 and 9 I think.

@francis05 that is so frustrating I would definitely call doctor or EPU and see what they say, my surgeon said to wait 6 weeks then contact them but mine was pretty regular before.

@Mommybear05 like you said about BF I know I'm doing everything I can so I guess we cant ask ourselves for more than that. I have just been to the toilet and found some EWCM and it had just been lotiony before so hopefully this is a good sign 🙌🏾. I keep whinging about me and DP having to work but it is helping avoid cabin fever during lockdown. Definitely get out today and get some fresh air, sure you'll feel better for it ❤️

@JoandLily I’ve used the clear blue sticks for a while now and the number of days of flashing smilies varies month to month. The least I’ve had before a peak is 1 and the most was this month, which was 6 days!

Try not to worry about it, you’ll get your peak 🥰 Just remember to test again later in the day on your flashing smiley days, I’ve always picked up my peak that way. I’ve never had one with FMU.

Many thanks for your replies, I'm just waiting now so I can test at 2pm, got to hold my wee in another 1.5 hours 😩

@JoandLily That’s the WORST isn’t it!! Cos I had so many days of it this month, it was torture holding in a wee for 4 hours every day!

@TerribleImagination it's the worst isn't it! Trying to keep myself occupied so I don't have to think about it 😂 I'm desperate now...literally counting down the minutes!

@JoandLily Hey lovely... i started using clearblue connected last month but started testong earlier than it said and had tones of flashing faces before the peak however if i had listened to the app id have only had about 7 flashing ones before my peak... are you using any cheapies to compare ? X

@Renna sorry to hear about ur random bleed tbh i had a 6 day period which was rather annoying kept stopping and starting too! Guess r bodies are trying to adjust back... im feeling a bit low today think because its a new month and i should have been having my baby in a few weeks...plus im still ages away from my fertile week 😞 x

@Hayleylou89 hi hun xx I've not let it get to me tbh, at the time I was like ugh wtf.. but was literally just that one bit ... tbh as I had ERPC surgery and I lost 600ml of blood when the usual is 50ml and I passed a lump of tissue last AF I think they may have like wounded me a bit on my uterus lining or something. Obvs not like fully perforated or anything as that would be a bad injury but maybe they like injured/cut me inside and why I lost so much blood in surgery and now when I have AF it's a bit odd and maybe like opening up old wounds kinda thing like any other cut you have on your body I guess.. what I'm telling myself any way! But yeah i guess it was within the time of like how long AF would normally last and the exercise/ DTD probably brought it on.
Sorry you're having a down day babe . It's so expected to be up and down . My god my mood this time last week was BAD I kept crying and felt so low. I've managed to pick myself up again this week and try focus on other things too as I was just going crazy. But also trying to tell myself its okay to have days where I'm down and let myself be upset rather than getting annoyed with myself. This will undoubtedly be a hard month for you no matter what . I just hope it goes quick for you and is a positive one xxxxx
Has your ava bracelet arrived ? If so how is it ? Xxx

@JoandLily hi 👋 I started the clear blue ovulation this month after miscarriage early April and had 9 flashey faces and finally got a solid on day 10 I did buy some cheaper tests to use in the afternoon too I was obsessed with it in the end hope you get your solid soon xx

Hi, I had a mc April too and also used clear blue. Could not believe the first day I tested I got the non flashing face!

I am now 4 + 2 but so anxious about another loss. Had two previous. I have zero symptoms

@Hayleylou89 no I haven't got any cheapies, never used them maybe I should get some. I always think they look complicated and hard to understand 🙈

@TerribleImagination thanks for saying about testing in the afternoon with CB, I got home from work and did my normal cheap opk which was a clear peak and did my CB and it was static face after 5 mornings of blank circles - how did you get on in the afternoon @JoandLily ?

@Tink20058 thanks so much! Hoping I get the solid smiley over the weekend so I can get cracking 🤞

@Terribleimagination I got the flashing high fertility again...keeping my fingers crossed it's peak tomorrow morning 🤞