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DS or DD after MC ~ unscientific study

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katendmom · 13/09/2007 21:02

Alright, ladies, I'm conducting an unscientific study. I just had a mmc... was talking to my best friend who was helping me to get through it emotionally... To make me feel better she said: "You know I had mmc, and now I have my beautiful DD." Then she gave me a couple more examples of other friends with the same experience... All of a sudden we realized - all of our friends who had mc - had DD with their next pg.

Now, of course I understand that both DD and DS are born after mc. But we decided to see what is the % of DD to DS .

So, if you don't mind - if you had a mc and were fortunate to have a baby after that - who did you have?

Thank you

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looneytune · 13/09/2007 21:04

Hi there. I had MC, tried again 3 months later and conceived DS

abbymeg · 13/09/2007 21:05

Weird! But in fact - yes! I had an early MC, followed by DD (she's 9 now).

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katendmom · 13/09/2007 21:11

Fascinating! 50/50 so far Ok, let's keep rolling

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3andnomore · 13/09/2007 21:19

well, had a mc and a couple of month later fell pg with es.
Had another mc after him and then went on to have to further ds's

However, with my mc's I had a feeling I was carrying girls...and I comforted myself that maybe for some reason I just can't carry girls, and that maybe it is for the best...

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katendmom · 13/09/2007 21:21

Talking about weird! We had a stillborn, DD. Then went on to have a DS - completely healthy and wonderful.

Found out that we were expecting a few weeks back, were totally sure that we would have a little DD... had a D&C this morning for a mmc.

Like you... I am starting to think that I am "boy's mum"

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bobsmum · 13/09/2007 21:25

DS after m/c

Wasn't there a piece of research a few years ago that said women who'd given birth to boys were more likely to miscarry than women who had had girls. Something about hormones?

bobsmum · 13/09/2007 21:26

I think "more likely" was a teeny percentage, but interesting anyway. MAde me paranoid during pg with dd though that I was going to lose her

Nemo2007 · 13/09/2007 21:28

Right
I had 2 early mcs then DS
MMC then dd1 and dd2.

My friend had a mmc and had her dd2 after.

lucykate · 13/09/2007 21:39

i had dd first, but was a bad pregnancy and i bled til 23 weeks with her, then has 2 m/c and then had my one and only problem free pregnancy with ds.

my mums theory is that i can't carry girls, she reckons the 2 i lost were both girls and that dd is my miracle baby as i managed to go all the way with her despite it being against the odds. i was in and out of hospital for the first 11 weeks, thought i'd lost her so many times so i suppose there is a chance my mum could be right.

lilymolly · 13/09/2007 21:44

Just to alter things slightly......

I have a few friends who have had mc's and have gone on to have same sex children, i,e 2 girls or 2 boys.
I therefore propose a theory that some women cannot carry different sex children.
For example they can not carry girls therefore they have 2 boys etc.
Does that make sense?

Thankfully I have never had the misfortune of having a mc, and offer sympathies to everyone who does have them.

But that is my inscientific theory.

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katendmom · 13/09/2007 21:55

lilymolly, that's an intersting twist to my original theory... Let's see if others come up with more ideas...

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katendmom · 13/09/2007 21:59

Oh, and we might be able to glean some additional information here that is rather scientific... I think I told you we had a stillborn DD... then we had a healthy DS

The doc who did my D&C this morning sent blood/ tissue of the baby that I just lost to the lab for analysis, mainly for genetic/ chromo analysis to see if there was anything wrong and/or if this baby might have had what our DD had, which was Down (even though I was only 27 at the time).

So... I am thinking that since they will do such an in-depth analysis, could they not also learn the gender of this baby that I just lost? If they can - I will ask - and I would bet it was another girl

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Berries · 13/09/2007 22:13

Mc followed by 2 dds, SIL had ds followed by mc follwed by ds, friend had ms followed by 2 ds. Only person I know who has had mc and different sex children had a problem to do wih RHneg which caused the mc.

BTW my mum had 1 mc and 4 girls, was convinced the mc was a boy.

tissy · 13/09/2007 22:17

girl for me

Dropdeadfred · 13/09/2007 22:20

i have 3 dds (and have had 6 mcs..)

kindersurprise · 13/09/2007 22:20

lillymolly,
sorry to rain on your parade, or rather spoil your percentages, I had 2 m/c then DD then DS.

Nightynight · 13/09/2007 22:28

dd

Nightynight · 13/09/2007 22:29

lillymolly, def not true for me, I had dd, ds, ds, mc, mc, dd.

SunnyJaamy · 14/09/2007 01:45

ANother one to disporve your theory, though I am fairly convinced that in many cases for whatever reason some women can't carry one or other sex:

My sister had DS, mc then DS
But My friend had DD, mc then DS
And a neighbour also had DD mc then DS

ghosty · 14/09/2007 05:22

I had DS then an MC then DD ...

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katendmom · 14/09/2007 14:18

well ladies... it seems that there is no theory since we're all over the board. That's great though - it means that most likely baby's gender/ gender of the born children, etc does not have anything to do with mc... Making mc yet once again just a bad luck in most of the cases... meaning that GOOD LUCK will strike again!

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NAB3 · 14/09/2007 14:22

Boy.

suss · 14/09/2007 19:36

boy seven years after mc

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katendmom · 14/09/2007 20:32

Very interesting many theories... many make sense. I just summed up our poll so far and we have 19 DDs and 16 DSs. I only counted DC after MC... I wonder if we can apply for the Nobel prize now? I think we're on to something LOL

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rachaelsara · 14/09/2007 20:53

I had 2 mc's then 4 dd's. My sister had 1 mc then 3 ds's. BF had 3 mc's then dd and ds. Who knows? Until docs get more interested in investigating early mc's we'll never know. I personally think I couldn't carry a boy and my sis couldn't carry a girl. I'd love to know if it's true and why..... I wonder if tiny just conceived babies don't even implant if they're the "wrong" gender for you????

Good luck!

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