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PMS or Pregnancy

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Emae26 · 08/04/2020 16:23

Hey, my fiancé and I have not be actively trying and we use either condoms or withdrawal method as contraception (we both agree that although we're not trying, a baby would be a blessing so we don't mind the risk that withdrawal brings). We've had sex 3 times this cycle using withdrawal successfully. I believe a couple of times was around my fertile window (I track my cycle because it's a bit irregular). I am currently on cycle day 30 and AF has not come yet but on average she show up between day 28 and 32 so that's not too unusual. Since friday the 3rd (cycle day 25) I have been feel nauseated every day pretty much all day long. My boob have also been SO much more sore than they have ever been as a PMS symptom and my nipples are so sensitive and more perky than usual. I don't think my areolas look darker but putting my bra on this morning felt like tiny needles were stabbing me in the nipples... I've also been bloated and gassy and had on and off headaches, cramps and back ache... if AF doesn't show by Friday I think I will test.
I feel like I really could be pregnant and tbh I'm really wishing I am but I feel like I might be setting myself up for disappointment because although I've got all these symptoms, they could be PMS and although there is a chance with the withdrawal method, that chance is slim.
I made this tread so that I can talk to some people who may have some insight and to just generally be able to talk to someone about everything. I know no one can tell me if I am pregnant or not but I'd like to know what other people have experienced and weather I'm being stupidly optimistic thinking I could be pregnant...

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Chickoletta · 08/04/2020 16:28

Sounds likely to me. Are you weeing more? Does your wee smell strange? (Sorry - I’m pregnant for the third time and that was the deciding factor for me this time!). If you both think a baby would be a blessing, why not actually try for one?

Emae26 · 08/04/2020 16:33

@Chickoletta I think I might be peeing more often but I'm not sure if I'm drinking more, probably because of being in all the time. I've not noticed a change in smell but will see if I do. We ideally would like to get married first and are planning the wedding for next June but we would both be over the moon if I was pregnant

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Emae26 · 08/04/2020 16:35

We're only in the very early stages of planning the wedding (only penciled in with a venue until we view it again) so it would be easy to postpone if we needed too

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Whyhaveidonethis · 08/04/2020 21:09

Omg. I could have posted your symptoms exactly. I had a mmc last cycle and am on cd28 today so a day late. For the first time in 2 years I've not actively tracked ovulation because I felt so low about the mmc. I used a FRER today and there was such a faint like I'm not even sure it was there. I will try to hold off and check again on Friday.

Emae26 · 08/04/2020 21:23

@Whyhaveidonethis the fact we have the same symptoms and you've got a faint line makes me more hopeful. Sorry to hear about your MMC. Fingers crossed for you ❤

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Emae26 · 08/04/2020 21:28

Just went for a wee and when I wiped I had a dot of pink and I just feel like I'm not going to get the result I'm hoping for 😭

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Whyhaveidonethis · 08/04/2020 22:22

Oh no. Hugs. Maybe it's implantation? Good luck.

Emae26 · 09/04/2020 05:06

I haven't had a very good night sleep and have had more pink when I wipe which is heavier than before and have got a couple of dots of red on my pad... guess my body was just giving me all the wrong signals 😭

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Whyhaveidonethis · 09/04/2020 06:00

Oh no. I'm so sorry xxx

Emae26 · 09/04/2020 06:13

@Whyhaveidonethis Thank you for your support xxx Do you think its normal I still have all the symptoms I said about eventhough it looks like AF is on her way? How is everything going for you?

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Whyhaveidonethis · 09/04/2020 06:29

I think it is possible. It could just be a coincidence that it has all happened now, or it can be psychosomatic. I'm not sure. I've had a barely there line again this morning and am thinking that maybe it is just an evap. I suppose I'll just have to wait and see. After 3 chemicals and a mmc in under a year I'm getting worn out by it.

Emae26 · 09/04/2020 06:31

@Whyhaveidonethis I've got all my fingers crossed for you and I am sending lots of love your way ❤

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Whyhaveidonethis · 09/04/2020 07:37

Thank you. Let me know how you get on

Emae26 · 09/04/2020 07:51

@Whyhaveidonethis will do, let me know how you get on too

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JungleGiraffe · 09/04/2020 08:04

Sorry it didn't go the way you want. For future reference, the symptoms before the day your period is due are not reliable for most people - PMS and pregnancy symptoms are usually the same because they are both caused by the same thing - rising progesterone levels. The difference happens when your period is due - if you're pregnant the progesterone levels continue to rise and the symptoms usually intensify.

Emae26 · 09/04/2020 15:40

@JungleGiraffe oh okay. It is just quite unusual for me to get any symptoms at all as early as I did and majority of these symptoms i never get as PMS. Thanks for your help though

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Emae26 · 09/04/2020 15:44

I was almost sure that AF was going to start this morning when I had more pinky discharge ect but no sign yet. I've been to the loo a few time today and only thing I've had is another bit of pinky discharge once... no idea what's going on. I keep thinking I've started bleeding because everything feels a bit wet (sorry bit TMI) but when I look absolutely nothing... still feeling sick, sore boobs ect too

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Whyhaveidonethis · 09/04/2020 16:21

@Emae26 I've been pregnant 7 times (have 3 children) and have had symptoms before my AF was due everytime.

l0v3ro · 09/04/2020 16:44

@Emae26 We have been trying for our second, my stomach has been really wishy washy today, and then went for a wee and I also have pink discharge! I'm also feeling really down!

Emae26 · 09/04/2020 17:35

@Whyhaveidonethis really? That give me a bit more hope. Everything just has not felt the way it usually does. I'm going to pop out to get a test and if the little bit of spotting I've had doesn't turn into AF then I'm going to test tomorrow because a week of these symptoms is just not like me...

@l0v3ro let's hope our spotting doesn't turn to AF. Just got to stay positive and see what happens I guess! Let me know how you get on ❤

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Emae26 · 09/04/2020 17:38

This afternoon my nausea has continued like it's been for the last week but I have also found that I'm really hungry and want to keep eating. Such a weird feeling to have mixed with nausea!

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Emae26 · 09/04/2020 18:04

My fiancé just popped out and has returned with a clear blue digital test and he would quite like me to take the test tonight. Would that be okay to do at day 31 when I average 28-32 day cycles? I've also seen different threads on here talking about first thing in the morning being the best time to test so would it be okay to take one in the evening? So anxious and excited right now but also worried I'm setting myself up for disappointment. Just not sure what to do...

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l0v3ro · 09/04/2020 18:34

@Emae26 ideally morning is better due to the amount of HCG in urine! But if you want to do it tonight then do it! I hate the anxiety before a pregnancy test!

Emae26 · 09/04/2020 18:39

@l0v3ro okay. I would really like to do it tonight but I'll try to be sensible and hold off until the morning... it really isn't a great feeling is it, you want to do it but don't all at the same time!

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Whyhaveidonethis · 09/04/2020 18:43

A clear blue digital might not show if you are early. They require 8x the amount of hcg as FRER