Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 2

[Annny27]

Hi ladies- setting up another thread so we can keep in touch :)

Morning girls :)

After some consideration we have basically decided to not try but not prevent this month. E.g. no opks, no temping, no routine sex just dtd as and when we want. So obliviously there is still a chance but I am not letting myself get worked up about it this month. Pretty excited for the break from the anxiousness tbh!

@scrumdiddly123 have they taken anymore bloods? Hcg can hang around for a while annoyingly:(

@ChampooPapi thanks for the reassurance 💗 you are right, there is no bad time. How are you doing?

@fizzl it's that little bit extra thinking for you in terms of your needs with your blood condition. Whatever you decide it will only be for a month and then you can reevaluate xx

@Peanutbuttermummy we will probably be cycle buddies as well but I won't know for sure when l ovulate this month. I have set an alarm on my phone for 1st May to test if my period doesn't arrive!

@SunnySideUp2020 dtd everyday would kill me haha! Good luck!!!

@Sparkl I am half in and half out of the ttc gang this month haha! Less pressure for me which I need atm!

p.s hi @FireflyGirl :) hope you are doing okay xx

No they haven’t and I’m trying to avoid going back to the hospital. I think if it still looks like this on Monday I’ll ring and ask them to check my HCG again. Fingers crossed it’s just coming down very slowly!
A stress free month sounds perfect 👌🏼 Hopefully this whole situation will start to improve soon, we don’t need the added worry of COVID-19!

@Whiffle77 @Leok83 i have heard quite a few ladies here who never got a full positive on these femometer but mine usually gets there eventually and it was during the night/ this morning not yesterday. I confirmed with a proper stick one this morning ... so ovulation tomorrow now :)

@anny27 honestly there are 3 days left and i am so tired already! Today we are waiting for tonight so we can both get a little more than 24hrs rest! Especially that i want to make sure i also orgasm everytime... so it takes a while snd dp is tired 😅😅 (we had that discussion back in jan i think in the thread)

I think it’s a good approach to not actively ttc but just try to take it easy but i know myself and i wouldn’t be able to!!! I’d be constantly checking cm and daily thinking i should dtd just in case 😶

@FireflyGirl are you going to have another reassurance scan before 12week?

@scrumdiddly123
sorry this is dragging lovely... i hope this can be over soon so you can move on 💐 i can’t imagine how you must be feeling. This is a lot in such a short amount of time :(

@Sparkl i have never done bbt but apparently it is even more accurate than opk if done correctly! So let’s hope you see come changed there soon x

this time of pandemic, confinement and inexistant social life can make people go either way... give all they got to ttc and dtd a lot and track etc.. or just take it easier to “reduce” the chances of getting pregnant out of understandable fear of the uncertainty / healthcare not being as available...
Or as i have read in some post. Get emergency contraceptive to make sure the ttc doesn’t end up in pregnancy and only start again when things get better 😟
I honestly don’t think there is a right or wrong though ! It depends on every person’s situation ✌🏼
Had i not had a mc in december i probably would have waited but since it happened i realised how hard the journey can be and i don’t want to risk wasting time and obviously want a baby even more now...

My hubby just came downstairs with the news that his friends are pregnant. They've been TTC for around a year. I just burst into tears

@Ejb86 😢 that’s so rough, I’m so sorry. Sending love and hope that it’s your turn soon lovey! ❤️

Ah @Ejb86 I'm really sorry to hear that, hopw you are ok. It's really hard to hear, even when other people have had troubles

@Ejb86 it's so hard to hear pregnancy announcements 😔 I think we've all said this before on here and it's ok to feel bitter, jealous, angry and sad. Ive certainly had some mini meltdowns over pregnancy announcements and births. I've found it's usually short lived and I am genuinely happy for them but it just stings and you can't help but feel 'that should have been me' ❤️

@Annny27 I think we've come to a similar decision. My head is saying 'don't do it' but my heart is telling me otherwise 😂. My husband is so laid back he's horizontal and has the attitude that everything will be fine and we will just have to deal with things as they happen and there's no point in putting everything on hold. He felt we'd have bigger regrets by wasting a month and if it doesn't happen, at least we know we tried.

The sensible side of me still has some reservations but we've decided to just see how things go this month, if we catch great and we'll cross that bridge if not then it gives more time for this situation to keep playing out.

I really hope I don't regret this as I know my anxiety will be through the roof 😩

Evening ladies, I got my blood results back today and they’ve all come back as normal with no further action required. Which is obviously good but doesn’t help to explain why I’ve had 3 losses in a row after 3 successful pregnancies 😒
So not sure how I feel about it and no one else really to tell who’ll understand!
Hope everyone is ok 🙂 x

@scrumdiddly123 glad your bloods have come back norm but so so sorry for each of your losses. I know the wait must be really tough but hopefully your Drs will refer you to try and get some answers.

Sending hugs xx

@scrumdiddly123. I hope your levels drop soon, that is so rubbish for you. Does your GP have any plans for further tests?

And @Ejb86. I've been there, it's so hard. After my first MC, before DS, I unexpectedly bumped into a friend at a party who was pregnant, and due shortly after I would have been. I literally ran away from her - I kept going and left the party I'm still embarrassed, but she said she understood.

@Fizzl @Annny27 as Sunny said, there's no right answer about whether now is a good time to get pregnant or not. I have everything crossed for sticky beans for all of you, but also I would wish for you to have a more enjoyable pregnancy than you could have while CV is around.

@SunnySideUp2020 I have been looking at getting one next week, but the scan centre 10 minutes away is closed until Monday at least, and the next closest is 40 minutes away, which is further than I want to travel at the moment.

@scrumdiddly123 I'm pleased that things seems to have resolved for you but I totally understand why you would want some answers. Speak to your GP about being referred for investigations now you've had 3 losses. They might not be able to refer right now with all this craziness going off but no harm in getting the ball rolling and hopefully getting some answers 💐

@FireflyGirl that is my worry that it will ruin the experience. I was already going to be an anxious mess anyway and this probably won't help. Just writing it down makes me think we're making a mistake 😩 but we also just want to move on so bad. It's so hard when you've made plans and although I know deep down now is probably not the best time and we are being a little selfish with this decision, I can't help but carry on because there is still so much uncertainty and I'm probably naively hoping that the CV will be under control within a few weeks and I would regret waiting. Such a strange situation and I feel so torn ☹️

I know others have got bigger things to worry about right now and which make my dilemma seem very insignificant and I'm thankful for that.

Morning! Cd11 today and pretty sure I will be ovulating soon as I have ewcm

@sunnysideup2020 it is soo hard not to be totally relaxed because I have noticed ewcm today on cd11 so I know I am ovulating soon haha! But I am not making dtd happen if I don't feel totally in the mood! We dtd yesterday when I had some cloudy ewcm and will probably dtd tomorrow if the mood arises haha

@fizzl totally i will be anxious but also this is set to go on for a long time and it will bring my that glimpse of joy and hope at this time if we do get our bfp :D

@scrumdiddly123 thats promising that the situation has settled itself but definitely give your gp a call. Sending love xx

@Ejb86 that's so hard with pregnancy announcements! I actually had a dream that my close friend announced her pregnancy and I was sad even in my dream

@annny27 🤞🏽 for some ewcm for you! And a mood for dtd :)

Had a bug scare yesterday after my ovulation pain turned into torture. Never been in so much pain in ovulation or period... we thought i was having appendicitis. But no. Today it’s almost all gone 😅

6th consecutive day of dtd today !! And it’s still good so hopefully we get a bfp after all these efforts 🥰

Thanks @FireflyGirl @Annny27 @Fizzl @ELM7
These were the bloods that the dr ordered after my second MC to check hormones etc
Don’t know if I made that clear sorry!
My pregnancy tests are still coming up as positive so not over yet unfortunately. I’ll speak to the GP but don’t think they’ll refer me with what’s going on. But will definitely ask what the next step is!

@SunnySideUp2020 I certainly hope you do, it's your turn! You've got a really good chance this month now this amount of cycles have passed, your body is strong and you are ready 💪💜

Plus it's just your bloody turn universe 😉

Also sorry I'm being crap and basically useless at the moment, the queesyness horizontal life has befallen me and I am a feeble puddle on the floor basically.

@Annny27 exciting! I’m the same, even if I’m trying to be relaxed about trying I know as soon as I see EWCM and then can’t think of anything else 🙈

Bless you @ChampooPapi, how far are you now? Good that you’re feeling crappy (in the nicest possible way 😜£
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@scrumdiddly123 7 weeks tomorrow by rough calculations, maybe a few days more. I felt like this last time though and the baby had stopped developing weeks and weeks before I had my 12 weeks scan. And I felt sick as a dog right up untill the scan so until I see that baby in 5 weeks time I won't fully believe it. The body is amazing but cruel, I will never trust this conception and pregnancy business again.

At the same time I'll never take it for granted. I don't want to come on to much anyway, not exactly easy when your trying to have a sickly pregnant woman popping her head up.

I'll check in again obviously because you guys are incredible and in a couple of weeks there will be tests and there will be big fat positives 💜

@Annny27 & @scrumdiddly123 can I ask about the ewcm? I’ve never really had it before but noticed it a bit this time after MC but can’t for the life of me remember when or whether we DTD. Is there a general rule as to how close to ovulating it makes an appearance?

Also, for a MC, when they say “AF will come 4/6 weeks after, when do they close MC as being?” Ive tried to call my EPU but no answer & constantly engaged. Is it 1st bleed day same as cycle or when it finishes? & if when it finishes is that last bleeding day 🙈

Hi all! New here.. been stalking these forums for what seems like forever but never posted.

I started spotting at what would’ve been the day before I was 7 weeks pregnant.
This was the 27th March, the bleeding stopped for 4 days and became heavy on the 1st April. Then on the 3rd of April I had an awful time and passed what I can only assume was the sac.
Today I’m only spotting lightly so I think it all has nearly finished and I’ve had my (hopefully) final
HCG blood test.. however I am desperate to feel like I am doing something to start our ttc journey again!
I know it can all be very different for each woman. But when would you count as CD1? The first day of spotting, the first day of heavy bleeding or the day I passed the sac?

Thanks in advance 😬

CD8 today....it seems such a long time until around CD18 or 19 which is when I've ovulated the past few months. Hoping that the 23 day cycle I had last cycle was a bit of a reset and I start ovulating sooner.

Hi @ttcin2020, I was told by the other ladies on here to class CD1 as first proper day of bleeding