Feb Bus Pt 2

[Hatepickinganame]

Not sure if someone made a second thread, i couldnt seem to find one. Went to post on the old one and it had been closed! Will tag who i can remember off the top of my head, please tag the others or add me to the new one if there's a thread i missed 😊

@MrsTwentySeven @paintfairy @Anon87 @notetaker

@paintfairy A performing monkey, does he not know what he's silently signed up for? 😂

I've no idea what it can possibly mean so just going along with it. Last time my peak dropped quickly too. It still won't let me post pics on here 😡

15th feb 6pm LH13
16th feb 11am LH52. 2pm LH100. 3.30pm (explaining bits to OH) LH190. 7pm LH108
17th feb 9.30am LH112

I think it's depending on the lighting as well really lol but since I've physically shown him this "tracking" as an insight/learning he's took much more notice of it and timings. I'll just make sure not to mention OTT sly testing after a TWW 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

Mine hasn't really signed up. I think he's just going along with it for my benefit. So ideally don't want to annoy him this early on!

Dtd on command I do struggle with to be honest. It doesn't feel the same.

I think I must be quite lucky in some ways. I've become a right horn dog and my hubby at the moment seems quite happy with our DTDs lol!

It's still fairly early days for us, I'm very open with the app and explain very briefly that there are better times to 'do it I don't think he had any idea lol!

I just wish my cycles were alittle more clear 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Elmlee i was shocked when i said to my oh about actively trying and he knew i meant about dtd when im ovulating, i didnt think he would be all that clued up on it since before November i was absolutely clueless about it all myself haha

My DP has fallen out with me a few times this past year over scheduled DTD, he says he has to perform when I click my fingers and then if he wants it and I say no he's like oh you mustn't be in your fertile week then! It makes me feel so bad but honestly after DTD all week on my fertile week I am glad of the break!

Then I was saying this morning I have maybe ovulated late and we didn't DTD on the right days and he was like it's your own fault then as I wanted it that day and you didn't!!

I really should just take my doctors advice and do it 3 times a week every week right through the cycle - that is definitely the plan for next month if I'm not pregnant - it should keep DP happy too and no one will run out of steam!

Since having mirena out my sex drive has gone up so OH is quite pleased he's not getting as many no's but he did complain to his boss that his hips and thighs were hurting so requested lighter duties 😂😂

I had zero sex drive on the pill. Thought that was life as I was on it so long. My DH is much happier now! (Or was until TTC and being forced).

@paintfairy I think forced is a bit of a harsh word to use... For yourself....

Just because you've got a control on the scientific side of things, if he's wanting a child too then he needs to step up his game.

Men 🙄

It's only recently we've started having fun again. We wasn't even TTC but sex just became a bit of a chore and I do think it was me. I put no effort into myself so there was none for anyone else.
I think we all need a pamper hour. Shave your legs, treat yourself (that's mine anyway 😆) xx

Oh and just got 200 on an LH test. There's gotta be something messed up here, I'm thinking picture or app result registering..... 🤔

@anon87 I'm not sure DH is that bothered in all honesty. Less than me anyhow. So iit makes it harder. He's gone along with it but I think if it becomes not fun, he'll get fed up. As do I though.
I don't put any effort in at times. Its got samey. We need to mix it up!

How are you reading the tests? I use femometer and I'll usually delete and do it a few times to see if it gives the same answer each time. I also find it doesn't pick it up correctly, unless its dried a bit. So 5 minutes or so? I can also see by sight though what's strong and what's not. Again, don't look after a minute. Leave it a few.

@paintfairy I pretty much do the same. Leave it to the side for a bit - the other day I forgot, did the dishes, nipped back up for a wee and spotted it haha - try to take the pic in the same place for the same quality but sometimes it's giving me readings of low when I can clearly see 2 lines that are high so you have to re jig.

Wish I could post pics on here already. The last one was definitely a positive, line was much darker than the control, but did I leave it too long? Was the lighting brighter than the others?

Now it's got me reading up about multiple follicular stimulation 😂😂

I'm just gonna do as I preach, pamper myself the rest of the afternoon and throw on a pretty set tonight that I bought ages ago but felt silly wearing 🤷🏻‍♀️

@whatsthecraic91 @paintfairy sorry your OHs are feeling the same way as mine! Apparently I "forced" sex this morning and when I texted him after I got to work asking if he was okay as he was clearly very off with me, he said he felt I'd basically just milked him 🙄 even though he knows why I initiated it...

I definitely have a higher sex drive when not on hormonal contraception, just because in the past 2 years I've barely initiated sex doesn't mean I'm only doing it now to get pregnant 🤷🏻‍♀️

@littletandme we always just assume a man will take sex anytime but it's not always the case!! I do need to try and initiate some spontaneous DTD but after the FW I just CBA - which is the wrong attitude 😂

And yes to being more up for pill free, I always assumed it was just the way I was as I was on it from 16-27 years old!

@littletandme @whatsthecraic91 YES! YES! AND YES!

Bless them, they don't and won't have the understanding of our non extra hormonal body. For the majority of us it's been years if not into decades (13 years for me) we've been "shut down" and we're finding ourselves too.

I'm sorry but the "being milked" made me giggle, there's definitely a breastfeeding quip in there 🤔😄

Ah I felt quite periody today a couple of times - like down below so I really do think I am 12DPO today and not 4DPO 🤔 someone tell me not to test in the morning and to wait to at least Wednesday when AF is meant to show up or not meant to - I don't know anymore 🤷🏼‍♀️🙄

Is there like a weird moon or something this month fucking everyone's cycles up??

@whatsthecraic91 there absolutely is! And dont test in the morning, you can do this!

🤣🤣 milked!

I've been off the pill 18 months now. Omg, at first it sent me insane. I literally wanted to be DTD all the time. My luteal week was actually the worst. It's settled a bit now but I still have a high sex drive during fertile week. I'm now 5dpo I think and it's still here on and off. I was on the pill from 15 until 35 so I thought it was just the way I was too. The dr (at pill appointments) used to always go over side effects and be like- can decrease libido. I always said no it's fine (it was non existent) but I knew no difference! Now I'm like- god, I feel like I've been robbed of part of my life!

@paintfairy the first month I was off the pill I literally couldn't sit still some days I was that horny 🤣 it's settled now but it doesn't take much to get me going 😂😂 same here robbed of 10 years ffs

@Hatepickinganame I'm gonna try and wait to Wednesday when my AF was supposedly due 🤭

@whatsthecraic91 same. I couldn't think about anything else! DH said you learn to switch off from it. I was like- how?! It drove me bonkers! I have got used to it now. And I don't think it's as bad as it was. But I was terrible for months!

I asked OH about my drive tonight, if he'd seen a difference. The thing was only took out 3rd January this year..... Anyway, I got straight out "100%. It's tiring being the one to initiate every time when you don't know if you're just gonna get a knock back" Poor thing and now he can barely keep up 😂

Woke up absolutely sweating this morning and my temperature is up!! But I still don't know if I'm 13DPO or 5DPO - don't know when to test 😓

My temp is now up finally. We ended up DTD last night anyway! Even though I'm past my window! He's fine about often if it's wanted. Its more the forced issue of feeling you have to that I think he doesn't like. He's always had a high sex drive luckily.

@whatsthecraic91 Ah same as me on my BFP morning! Eeeek! Are you going to test?