To hell with being polite!

[Nuttypea]

Just absolutely pissed off with this ttc lark now. It's great that so many people are getting their BFP's but I've reached a point where my eyes roll and I have a selfish mini strop whenever I see or hear about it.

Preseed, conceive plus, vitamins and the SMEP method, which have miraculously worked for others on their 'first try' have failed me on many cycles!

I'm pissed off with hearing "once you stop trying... Or once you relax that's when it will happen" WELL THANK, FUCKING YOU KAREN. I'll just turn off my shitting mind shall I?!

"Go away on holiday, then it will happen for sure" WHAT FUCKER'S FUNDING THAT THEN CHERYL?

"You're still young, you've plenty of time" WELL THEN WHY AREN'T MY EGGS RIPE AND READY YA SILLY TWAT.

Fuck it all! But also, let me check my underwear real quick...

Hi everyone,

Hope it alright if I join. I actually haven't even thought about joining another TTC thread since we hit the year mark- but this one seems different and I think I need the ranting space!

So sorry to hear everyone's having such a shit time- but it's comforting in a sense that I'm not the only one who's body seems so incapable of doing its job 🙃😂

We've been trying now for 21 months (mmc in between) and it's been HELL. We finally got pregnant in January this year and then I lost baby at 11 weeks mmc- cannot explain how awful it was. Got very depressed for a while and just let TTC take over my life. Past few weeks I've had a diagnosis of PCOS. Another SHIT outcome but at least I know now and hopefully they can give me a wonder drug to give me a baby finally..

I'm on metformin now and hoping it helps me in some way... currently on CD62 with no period in sight but horrifically sore boobs and nausea (test negative- defo just ill🙄)

Anyway- i think this thread is brilliant, can't wait to vent to you all when DP turns around to me for the 1038273625th time and says "don't worry, we'll have a baby soon" 🙃🥴😂

Hi @susso god you've had a shit time, I'm so sorry it happened to you. I do feel selfish in the grand scheme of things, moaning about not conceiving. When there's lots of ladies like yourself, who have had such a shit time, going through miscarriages.

A blessing in disguise that they've given you a diagnosis and can now help you on your journey to supporting your body with what it needs to do. I really hope it won't be long. Have they offered you clomid to take alongside the metformin?
Aunt Flow is the biggest fucker of them all, but I really hope she shows up soon for you!

Everyone and anyone is welcome to rant! We are all in it together. Our poor DP and DH may be amazing, but there is just no understanding it like a woman in the same boat does.

@Nuttypea wow your post put a smile on my face and made me LOL!

I know the reality isn’t funny, I’m there myself we are on cycle 12 and it’s so hard and people who haven’t been through it will never understand! The ones who get pregnant first month of trying or by accident really fuck me off.

Had a guy in work a few months back having a breakdown as his wife had got accidentally pregnant and they didn’t know what to do, I actually told him to fuck off and count himself lucky and he never mentioned it again, some people just don’t realise what people go through!

I have told no one we are TTC as I couldn’t cope with the ‘oh still no luck’ and ‘oh relax and it will happen’ - fuck that - I’ll just bitch to all my friends on MN instead 😂

Hi @Nuttypea , yeah it's been absolutely so shit but honestly it was still shit before the mc! Just the whole TTC process is fucking awful! Don't underestimate what you're going through- it's hard 😘

Yes definitely a blessing in disguise. They started me on the metformin with the promise that clomid would be prescribed after DP's sperm analysis results come back. So that's something to look forward to anyway.

Honestly a thread like this is what's been missing for me lately! Being able to vent and see that I'm not the only one struggling is seriously so helpful xx

Haha @whatsthecraic91 we haven't told anyone for that reason either! Annoying SIL keeps asking when we're having a baby like it's just that easy. She seemed to get pregnant quickly with her 2 so must think you just snap your fingers and it happens 🙃 I just ignore the question now. My mam was digging a bit the other day, asking if I was still on the pill as my sister is now on it too so just lied again 🙃
Also loads of people since we got married 'ooh don't you be rushing into kids, enjoy your time just the two of you! Kids are so tying' Thank you for your valued input into my life, you should be a life coach

Oh girls. Come hit me round the head. Only 2dpo and the symptom spotting has begun.. . Due AF Xmas day, what a fuckwit 😒🙈

@Nuttypea we've all been there don't worry 😂 I think I did a test 2dpo once- that was a really nuts time 😂 hopefully you get your BFP and don't have to worry about AF! My fingers are crossed so tightly for you🤞🏼

AF hasn't even turned up for me yet so that's brilliant 😤 feeling really annoyed about it all today. My partners children are coming for the night tomorrow, I'm normally really excited as I enjoy spending time with them but feel so guilty this week as sometimes it hurts seeing that bond between DP and them- knowing that I don't have my own to have that with 😕

I'm just having a bit of a moan, I'll be fine and I'm sure once we make our Christmas cookies and have a movie marathon I'll be okay 🎄 xx

Love this thread I'm 30 Dh 33 no kids between. Ttc 18months multiple bloods for me and sperm test normal for hubby. 20 friend and family now have announced or had babies but another colleague in the week announced her 2nd baby that 2 for her in the time I've been trying!!

I went to the doctor last week because I was an emotional wreck, hated everyone and myself thought i was depressed and was expecting her to put me on meds for depression. Turns out I'm normal the thoughts and feelings I'm having, turns out I'm not a 'bad' person. I've now been referred and my infertility appt is 10th jan.

Love this thread I'm 30 Dh 33 no kids between. Ttc 18months multiple bloods for me and sperm test normal for hubby. 20 friend and family now have announced or had babies but another colleague in the week announced her 2nd baby that 2 for her in the time I've been trying!!

I went to the doctor last week because I was an emotional wreck, hated everyone and myself thought i was depressed and was expecting her to put me on meds for depression. Turns out I'm normal the thoughts and feelings I'm having, turns out I'm not a 'bad' person. I've now been referred and my infertility appt is 10th jan.

I feel your frustration!!!!! I'm due AF Xmas day too. If I don't have a BFP at least I can crack open the champagne... KEEP POSITIVE XXX

Also... I am still in stitches ...'what fuckers funding that then Cheryl' ahahahahahahahahahaha. Made my day. Totally understand where your coming from. After a miscarriage and a still birth I'm on that road again and that's the advice people keep giving me, go on holiday, don't think about. Harder than people think!

This is well creepy, I'm due AF on Christmas Day too 😳 I'm not testing then not to ruin my day, had enough of this nonsense. Planning to enjoy my Baileys, Bucks Fizz and my famous Christmas Day cheeseboard 👍

@MrsMGE Christmas Day crew haha! I was thinking do I test then or Boxing Day?! But I thought the same as you why should I ruin it! Xxx

@AlviesMam Yes, that's my thinking. I just know it will a be a BFN again and I will then go to the pub with DH and our friends in the afternoon which will cheer me up. I also have the 27th off so will have some time to feel better before coming back to work which isn't a bad thing. In fact, I am only testing because I'm already past ovulation this month and we DTD, but like I said, no hope left and I'm taking a step back from TTC from next month, it's ruined me as a woman. Xxx

Also really sorry @AlviesMam I get how hard it is for you after the loss. Life sometimes gives us blows that we don't deserve at all. Xxx

@MrsMGE

Pub sounds like a great idea, make sure you still have fun whatever the result! How long have you been TTC?
My losses were this year and I promised myself I'd be happy over Xmas as it's my favourite time of the year, so this is why I don't want to test on Xmas day...cannot believe it's fell on this day lol. I'll be 100% stuffing myself with all kinds of pate and cheese and washing it down with Prosecco if it's shit news. Life is so shit sometimes. Xx

I too lost my baby this year @AlviesMam, in June, and we'll be coming up to a year of TTC (March). I'm done with this tbh. Wishing you the very best of luck xx

@MrsMGE

Sorry to here this. Sending you strength xxx

Oh ladies, you've made me laugh, I feel like you've taken the words right out of my mouth!

Were on cycle 25? I think, I've completey lost count tbh. Coming up to 2 years of trying, feel like every fucker n their dog has been pragnant twice over since we've been trying.
I've had all my tests and husband has had his and all come back fine, so far there's no medical reason as to why it's not happening & there's nothing they can do to help me.

I've heard all the "it'll happen when you least expected it" off the MIL, feel like punching her sometimes haha.

Oh how I can to relate to this. I was on the pill (cerezette, evil shit) for 8 and a half years. Thought I was done with having kids and was never going to touch another Sperm toting guy ever again..........
Until I met my current OH🤦‍♂️ (he is absolutely lovely, we are getting married in March next year)
Anyway, OH was dropping hints about having a baby....... I'm nearly bloody 40 ffs, but yeah fuck it..... I dropped the pill quicker than I dropped my pants. Sadly we had a chemical pregnancy in the first month of trying and nothing but long arse cycles and repeated disappointing negative tests.
Currently on cycle day 42, ffs......
so fuck it to testing, I'm off to get pissed x

Ahhh ladies! Welcome, welcome, welcome. I'm not going to bother with early testing, will be the first month I don't. I agree @MrsMGE Brie, Stilton and whatever else galore! Luckily we're not lcoal to my parents so they will be expecting me to drive and not drink anyway. It is however, my works Xmas party this weekend, and I plan on getting absoloutley trollied! It's that point where I could start using early detection tests, but I'm not going to do it to myself!

@AlviesMam So sorry to hear of the crap you've been dealt with, your attitude is inspiring and I hope you get a healthy bfp soon!

Can we all reunite Christmas day. Best bunch I've found on mumsnet so far! We're in it together and fuck the know it all's with their ready and waiting eggs and super strong sperm 😂

I had a serious case of 'uterus pain' for a couple of days, of course this meant I was pregnant, other people on forums from 1974 agreed. Low and behold, 3 farts and a trip to the loo later and it went. 🤦‍♀️

Was my Xmas party on Saturday and for weeks before I was thinking omg how will I hide not drinking if I'm pregnant but at least I didn't have to worry about that and got horrifically pissed! For some reason I still did a test on Saturday morning even though its FAR too early, think I just wanted that extra reassurance that I can get shitfaced hahaha.
This is the most relaxed I've been about the whole TTC crap, think Christmas and alcohol are good distractions 😂

@bluebell94 When's your AF due? I really hope at least 1 of us on this post gets a bfp!

@Nuttypea,yeah, I've spotted all of the pregnancy symptoms in the world in the last 6 months, and obvs I was not pg. Whrn I actually was pg earlier this year, I didn't realise till I tested after my missed period so that tells you all you need to know about the usefulness of symptom spotting. To hell with it!

Well ladies it's my Christmas party on Thursday and I am getting plastered (also because me and my buddy got our promotions this month) and, here it goes, I DON'T CARE. I don't. I am going to enjoy myself because after the shit year I've had, I deserve this. So should you all, no regrets!

Good luck to all you ladies testing on Christmas day.
My AF is due 1st Jan, so I'm either having a really good new year or carrying on the shitness of this one.

P. S I also got drunk on my works Christmas do on Friday.