SMEP - feel free to join! :)

[danielasummer]

Hi everyone, just making this thread as it seems a few of us will be trying SMEP to TTC! Adding these lovely ladies in from another thread but I hope everyone feels free to join! All welcome :)

@Devgirl31 @fayy123 @NCON @MrsKJW19

Some stats about me:

TTC #1
27 years old, DH is 28 years old
Missed miscarriage in October 2019 at 7+2 weeks
Still in that cycle (no AF yet)
Long and irregular cycles, some anovulatory
Suspected low progesterone/hypothyroidism (I think this based on symptoms, not diagnosed yet!)

Hope we can all provide support for each other in this crazy TTC journey.

Feel free to introduce yourselves :)

[TunnocksTcake]

@danielasummer sorry af got you. it is a weird mix of emotions isn't it but as you say it's good to know your body is working as it should and preparing fully for the next cycle when you can really go for it. Build up your strength for the next couple of weeksxxx

I got my temp rise today, and quite a big one too! I usually gradually go up but it's been the same since I got my peak and today shot up by 0.5. Relieved to see that. Have now done our 3 days on the trot so rest day today (yay!)
Xxx

[fayy123]

I feel like I’m out before I’ve even started :( we only BD cycle day 7&8 so far. Hubby is just not able to do it( I think it’s the pressure, even though I haven’t told him I feel like he knows) . and I know I’ll get my peak today at CD12 Which I got last month! Don’t know what to do! I really wanted it this month as well. Any advice? It’s date night tonight but I still feel like it won’t happen. I mean it happens but unable to ‘finish’ 😔😔😔😔😔 any advice guys?

[Diamond94]

@danielasummer hey.. well iv failed already 😂 should have BD yesterday but im a nurse and i had such a busy shift and was sleeping by 9.30.. so epic fail!
I hope you're doing ok.. just think its a fresh start xx

[LosingtheTTCplot]

SMEPping starts tonight for me!

Question - should I just use preseed on the 3 days straight bit or when the OPK starts to darken?

Opk is about a 0.1 at the moment so very negative! X

[TunnocksTcake]

@LosingtheTTCplot I would say its probably worth it on the days its starting to darken as you wont have your natural EWCM yet so it will help keep the early guys alive for as long as poss. Estimate approx 5 days before O and start using it then maybe as thats the longest they can survive in ideal conditions.

@fayy123 Oh that sounds so hard I'm sorry. Im afraid I don't have any useful advice or experience but its probably about calming down and taking the pressure off so hopefully a nice date night will distract him? Good luck!

[danielasummer]

@TunnocksTcake thank you. Yes, it is, but I'm trying to tell myself it just wasn't our month (although if it was, our due date would have been our first wedding anniversary - spooky!) That's great that you got a massive spike! Enjoy your rest day. So back on it tomorrow then a break? So excited for you - please keep us updated! Fingers crossed!! x

@fayy123 I'm sorry that's happening to you :( maybe withhold a little for a few nights then recommence, then your DH will be really 'ready'?! Remind me which CD you're on? x

@Diamond94 You haven't failed! Which CD are you on? Honestly I think timing's only crucial in your fertile window, so when you should be BD 3 days in a row. And thank you, thinking of today as a fresh start, you're right :) x

@LosingtheTTCplot As Tunnocks said, I would start using pre-seed when it starts to darken. That's my plan if I don't fall in the next few cycles anyway x

[fayy123]

I’m on CD12 today, and I know I’ll prob get my positive today. The last time we BD was on Sunday and Monday. We managed to do 2days in a row, he was really excited as he’s been waiting for more than a week! But for some reason all odds are against us now! 😒 maybe it’s just not meant to be.

[Diamond94]

@danielasummer im cycle day 11 today 🙈 only BD Tuesday and today so far.. my app says ill ovulate monday but this is my first month off the pill, though tmi but when i wiped earlier they're was the tiniest amount of pink staining.. strange 🤔

[ChampooPapi]

Started baby dancing thursday night, did friday afternoon, and going to dtd when the toddler is asleep today in a couple of hours. I will also do tomorrow as my partner is away until thursday each week so just going for every day he's here smep wise. I think loads of sex is hopefully just going to give us the best chance, he's certainly not complaining.

But then again he knows with our two other girls as soon as i'm pregnant there is zero sex for like 9 months so he knows go for it when the goings good

[ChampooPapi]

Oh i'm on CD 12, but god knows when i'll ovulate so sex sex sex

I find if we don't have sex when he's here every day i get paranoid during the week i've missed the chance, god this ttc is mental insanity sometimes

[fayy123]

Similar to me! I only BD on Sunday and Monday and last night. I’m on CD12! My app says I’ll ovulate tomorrow! I still haven’t got my positive OPK. Are you using OPKS? I feel ovulation cramps tho!

[fayy123]

what Are the chances of falling if you do it once right before you ovulate😂😂 this is so draining!

[danielasummer]

@fayy123 you only need to do it once for it to work! When I got pregnant in August that's how it happened for me. Have you tested again today? If not/it's negative then I'd wait until tomorrow to BD if you BD last night :)

@Diamond94 ooh do you have any egg white cervical mucus? That could also give you an indication of ovulation! As can cervix position but I've never tried that. What does your OPK say?

@ChampooPapi yes lots of sex sounds like a good plan! Keep a healthy supply at all times (what have I turned into haha?!) what do your OPKs say today?

I'm on CD2 and it's dragggingggggg but I know that next week we can begin which is exciting!

[fayy123]

Yes I tested today as well it’s negative. I tested twice actually. And I BD last night. My app says I will be ovulating tomorrow and other app says I’ll be ovulating today but still not had a positive OPK yet. Hubby is away today and will be back tommmorrw so I have to miss a day regardless lol. Did you BD all 3 consecutive days when you conceived in August? X

[Healthypositivity]

Hi can I join@danielasummer. Don't really know where I belong lol
I am not TTC nor am I preventing.
Hope all is well with everyone

[danielasummer]

@fayy123 BD tomorrow will be perfect then as it fits with the SMEP guidelines :) fingers crossed you get your positive OPK tomorrow! Did the line look like it was getting darker today?

No, we weren't TTC when I fell pregnant in August... so this new cycle will be my first proper TTC post-miscarriage and first time trying SMEP x

[danielasummer]

@Healthypositivity hi lovely, of course you can join! Good luck with whichever route you decide to go down :) x

[fayy123]

Not really no. I will test again tomorrow and see. But I haven’t really been following the SMEP guidelines. I’ve BD CD 7,8, 12 so far which is not great! So we’ll see X

[fayy123]

hope this is your month!! Have you been TTC every since the MC? Xx

[danielasummer]

@fayy123 only you know your cycles but with most people the likelihood of ovulating between CD 8-12 is low so honestly I think you'll be fine. Especially if you will be BD from tomorrow and plan to up until positive OPK! Keep us updated!

Thank you, hope its your month too well we TTC before AF arrived (so still in the same miscarriage cycle) but a scan showed I had loads of follicles on ovaries but none maturing.. so maybe all of that BD was a waste of time! Think my body just needed to get AF then can start afresh. Can't wait until CD10 when I can start testing to be honest x

[fayy123]

Last cycle I ovulated CD12. Might be a bit later this cycle! Should I just continue to keep BD every other day? Do you think people Ovulate outside of CD8-12? X

[Healthypositivity]

@danielasummer just to introduce myself properly.
Will be 37 in two weeks, mother of a 14 year old boy and a soon to be 3 year boy.
Came off the depo in June , due to side effects.
Haven't had a period since. Since Wednesday 4th Dec, been having some lil signs like AF might be coming.
Not really checking AF symptoms, because I've never used to get any major symptoms apart from probably slight weakness in my knees to my ankle.
One thing that is slightly bugging me is I've have 3 very small episode of brown and pink/light red CM AM of wed, similar happened wed evening and Thursday night with no pink/light red, (Nothing since) And a few other little nigglings.
Since then I seem to have a lot of saliva.

[danielasummer]

@fayy123 yes I would keep BD every other day. And yes definitely - sometimes I ovulate on CD25, sometimes CD 37, once was CD20 - mine are all over the place as I have irregular and long cycles. Also remember that stress can delay ovulation.

@Healthyposivity hi and welcome :) have you done a pregnancy test? If you've been having unprotected regular sex then AF may not come and you may be pg? If not then I would wait a few weeks and maybe go to the drs in the new year if you still haven't had a period?

[Healthypositivity]

@danielasummer no I haven't done a pregnancy test. Not really bothered about going doctors if AF haven't come. I'll just use some type of contraceptive pill to bring it on. Am not too fussed about AF right now. Will probably do a pregnancy test on Monday.
These little nigglings just seem like it's my body getting back to some form of normality.
Lol or its very possible I might be in denial.

[Diamond94]

@danielasummer my opks are still negative. I apparently ovulate on Monday according to my app.. iv never felt for my cervix 🙈.. my cervical mucus is definitely watery but im not sure if its egg white like yet 🤔 im driving myself insane 😂