TTC in 40s

[Vintagemum74]

Hi there. Just wondering if others out there are ttc naturally in their 40s? There are some older threads, but just hoping to connect with others who are trying now I have just turned 45 and gave been ttc all year with no luck. I have two sons aged 18 and 16, so not sure if it will happen but haven't given up hope just yet!

I'm 40, oh is 39, been together 4 years ttc our first. I'm 7dpo on our 2nd full cycle

@Vintagemum74 @claireb707 hi ladies, I'm 43 first cycle trying after MMC and D&C on 8 October. Already have 3 older children (18,12 and 11) from previous relationship. Been with current partner (26) for 15 months really hoping it happens again for us and this time I won't miscarry. Trying not to obsess to much think I'm around 3/4 dpo planning on testing next Friday 1/11 af due on the 6/11 although tbh with D&C so recently I'm not holding out much hope this month. Really happy to meet older mums on here, great to hear from you both!

I'm 40 in December and will be trying to conceive after a mc last week at 20 weeks. Just need some recovery time first b
We have a 19 year old and an 18 month old.

Good luck to all of us

@avocadoincident so sorry to hear about your recent loss, can't imagine how hard that must be for you and your oh. Sending love and hugs, great to have you here with us. Hope we can all be a support for each other on this stressful journey whatever stage we are at x

Thanks I'm looking for a positive thread to inspire me. X

I'm so sorry to hear what you've just been through avocadoincident. I hope you're ok. Big hugs x And to you too Mystie. It's amazing what women do! Hi Claireb too. Nice to have you guys to chat with along the way.
I'm 14 dpo today and have had approx 3 days of really really light spotting (if you could even call it that). I guess it is a slow starting period but there's always the agoinising- could it be implantation..? Right before it started I felt really nauseous too.. Good to keep our spirits up girls xx

@Vintagemum74 fingers crossed it is implantation bleeding and you get a BFP soon, are you going to do a test or wait it out? I'm exhausted of the whole process already and I haven't even done one cycle. I don't know how people do this for years it must be so difficult! Hope you all have a lovely Sunday. I'm going to a christening which will be nice, at least I can have a glass of wine! X

Hi ladies hope you're all had a nice weekend. I got some cramping last night and started bleeding lightly today. Was hopeful that it could be IB as am only 18 days post d&c and didn't think af would appear this early but it's definitely to heavy to be IB. Feel so deflated. After reading so many positive stories about women falling before their first cycle I really thought it might happen for us. Having the pain and seeing blood again has really brought all the pain back. Feeling very sorry for myself 😢

@Mystie How disappointing but with the start of a period comes the start of new hope and also a clear dating point.

@avocadoincident thanks lovely, feeling better today. Ordered the Ava bracelet which I'm looking forward to using, the reviews have been encouraging and won't miss peeing on a stick all month!!

That's sounds interesting. What is it?

@avocadoincident digital bracelet that you wear at night and it tracks your temp and other things to give you an accurate ovulation prediction on the app which is synced to the bracelet. It costs £249 so isn't cheap but then neither are OPKS!

avawomen.com

Wow it sounds amazing, let us know how you get on with it

@avocadoincident of course! Fingers crossed it works and I won't need it for long 🤞🏼I do love a gadget and an app, will be interesting to see how it works

I used a fertility app for my last two pregnancies just to monitor dates and within three cycles I was pregnant both times. There was some weeing on sticks though the second time

Hi girls. Sorry to hear about af arriving Mystie. It's such a rollercoaster this process but cool you've got the gadget! I haven't used anything other than opk's (but not every month as got sick of them!). Nos (after 9 months I'm thinking I should have made more effort...) Still awaiting af though and am 15 dpo.. fingers crossed Hey just out of interest do you guys drink caffeine? I do - as found it too hard to cut out completely! Feeling paranoid about it due to my age and just wondered how staunch others are being?

I'm drinking caffeine and alcohol

@avocadoincident hope you are doing as well as can be expected at this time. Sending you love. When you feel strong enough to try again I'd be fairly confident you will be ok. So so sorry again for what you've been through xx

I'm nearly 44. I had a mmc at 39 and then a successful pregnancy at 40 (I have older child conceived in my 20s and 30s). In the last yr I've had another mmc and 2 mc's. The last one being 9 weeks ago at 8.5 weeks. Getting pregnant doesn't seem to be my problem - but clearly something is not right from there.

@lumpy76 you must be an incredibly strong woman to keep going through all of this. What an inspiration you are!

Whats your secret?

Hi ladies, you may find the following long-running thread useful:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3644917-Over-40-TTC-lots-of-baby-dust-for-us-4?pg=37&order=

I joined about 18 months ago following a miscarriage and a TFMR and conceived DD2 at 40 (currently up feeding her). It's a lovely, supportive group. Best of luck with your ttc journeys.

Thank you @shinyblackdog. Will check it out. So lovely hearing your up feeding DD2 x

Thanks @Mystie. I'm still waiting it out.. I've done a lot of testing too soon over the year, so trying to be patient

@lumpy76 what a journey you have been on, and a reminder to me to be patient and accepting!